Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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women love taken menand I know post nut I'll feel like shyt so I ain't going there, i felt the booty snapped out of it and ran away
I got a good girl man I refuse to lose
Youseenmywork
KING
Never forget this is a game. I constantly have to remind myself of that. It help keep my emotions in check when come to deal with these women out here.
DarkHorse23
Banned
Well you're right because the bytch I was initially talking to is fukking crazy. So today I'm at work and before she leaves she tells me she wants to talk to me. So anyway she says " I don't know if you're sick or desperate but you need to stop talking to my friends on the second floor, they don't like that." I respond with
" get out of my face I'll talk to who I want. I don't need your permission or consent to talk to someone". She continues running her mouth. I continue saying what I'm want telling her she needs to grow up and calling her names( I was very pissed off so I didn't give a fukk). She then gets on the intercom in the back and yells on it " I'm desperate and some other shyt". After she did that shyt she left for the day on some coward shyt. I shortly reported her to my manger after that shyt. This bytch seriously is fukking crazy/ jealous whatever you wanna call her. She also on the way leaving sees this girl I'm friends with outside and approaches her while she's on the phone saying " tell your friend he's very desperate and needs to stop talking to my friends and I'm only telling you this because y'all are close". 
This girl has seriously fukking issues. She has an issue with any girl I talk too. bytch why do you care, we were just friends you stupid immature built like a teenage boy bytch. Moral of this experience is your right trying to talk to females at your job is a bad idea, and 
if I'm going to go through this dumb shyt atleast let her physically worth it. I'm getting all this hell from a girl who is a 5 or 6 at best. Should have followed my gut and not talked to this Nigerian chick and instead talked to the light skin black girl only.
Youseenmywork
KING
Well you're right because the bytch I was initially talking to is fukking crazy. So today I'm at work and before she leaves she tells me she wants to talk to me. So anyway she says " I don't know if you're sick or desperate but you need to stop talking to my friends on the second floor, they don't like that." I respond with
DON'T TALK TO WOMEN ON ANY JOB. This has been said multiple times in this thread. Why do you guys attempt this? ...I will never know.
Well you're right because the bytch I was initially talking to is fukking crazy. So today I'm at work and before she leaves she tells me she wants to talk to me. So anyway she says " I don't know if you're sick or desperate but you need to stop talking to my friends on the second floor, they don't like that." I respond with
wow. dude. what i just bolded is very very very bad for you.
it means u now have a bad reputation. if u have at least fukked one of the women, it'd be a different story. but the fact that this girl used the word "desperate" to describe u is very bad. she might have her issues, or have her own problems, but i can tell u overstepped ur boundaries too, trying to mack it to every girl u see.
first rule of the game is, if ur gonna talk to girls, dont be trying to talk to women who hang out in groups or know each other well. that's bad. if these women were the ones reaching out to u to fucck, then thats a different story. but it appears ur the one doing the pursuing.
u really should consider learning how to "test the waters" first to see how much a girl likes u before u take the plunge and cause situations to be awkward, especially at work.
if a girl likes u, and u work with her, u test the waters by flirting with her. dont outright ask her for a number. just keep flirting. if she likes u, she'll flirt. sounds to me like u went from 0 to 60 in like .0001 milliseconds. stop that. and stop fighting with women. the situation u just described here sounds extremely emasculating. the picture i have in my head of u arguing with that chick is akin to how these idiots look on real housewives when they fight. its a feminine. dont ever in ur life do that again!
DarkHorse23
Banned
Well for me i'm 26, i'm no longer in college, and i'm in a city i don't really have a lot of friends or know many people. So how am i going to meet women? Most guys meet women through their social circle and people they see on a consistent basis. I figure this was better option, then me going out here and cold approaching random women. I'm too old for that.
root_eruditorium_org
All Star
Well you're right because the bytch I was initially talking to is fukking crazy. So today I'm at work and before she leaves she tells me she wants to talk to me. So anyway she says " I don't know if you're sick or desperate but you need to stop talking to my friends on the second floor, they don't like that." I respond with
Looks like it turned into a nightmare,
might be time to completely remove yourself from your situation 
Those average women (5/6) are typically the worst when it comes to creating lots of drama. What can I say breh ... just stop talking to hoes and try to not get fired as you navigate this crisis.
Well you're right because the bytch I was initially talking to is fukking crazy. So today I'm at work and before she leaves she tells me she wants to talk to me. So anyway she says " I don't know if you're sick or desperate but you need to stop talking to my friends on the second floor, they don't like that." I respond with
You let her get to you... that's not the wave breh
This is how we let women use our own egos against us
They are jedi masters of manipulation... it would serve you better
to deflect, act totally stupid and carry on doing whatever you want
"What are you talking about ? What friends ? I've never even been upstairs"
"The new guy put you up to this ? You always playing games"
"Talk to me after I finish (insert menial task) okay ? Good."
then avoid that girl at all costs....
Another way to handle this is to make her invisible...
no eye contact, no talking, nothing...starve her off any attention
after she insults you...just go numb ....and zombie like
Don't give her an inch...or she'll take a galaxy
Once a woman offends you..You lost already...
DarkHorse23
Banned
Let me address a few things you said, especially the bolded part.
(1) I have fukked one of these women, i fukked the one the one i was arguing with today. So that's that.
(2) Define "desperate", because my definition of desperate is and might be different than yours or hers. I see nothing "desperate" about me getting to know other women. Once again i was NEVER dating this girl, i don't owe her ANYTHING or anyone for that matter. If i want to ask other woman out to lunch, i see nothing wrong with that.
(3) I didn't really know how close she was with ANY of these girls, and once again i could understand where you're coming from if i was talking to this girl in a romantic sense, and after things went sour, i choose to talk to her friends, but the fact is we weren't dating. Why that's so hard to comprehend i don't get. We were FWB, that's it. Nothing exclusive or monogamous.
(4) Read my last post, i didn't just go up to her on some cold approach shyt. I've only saw her friend two times in the almost 2 months i've been working here. The first time when i went up there with the girl(the one who i was arguing with) to go look at something(she wanted to show me a dress
) and the second time on tuesday, she was in my department and saw me and said "hi". I didn't even think she remembered me, so for her to acknowledge me when i've never even had a conversation with her, i felt like trying my luck, but even when i asked her out to lunch i didn't go off the deep end. I asked her out on tuesday, was going to take her out friday. Saw friday she was trying to play games or that she wasn't really interested(because she invited another dude with us). So i simply excused myself from the lunch and left her alone(and this random dude she invited) and went home.(5) I think the picture you have in your head is very different from the scenario that happen today. And no i don't fight with women. I try to stay professional at work, and stay to myself. She was the one who acted unprofessional bringing up some personal shyt in the workplace and then broadcasting on the intercom for everyone to hear. And me standing up for myself, is me being feminine??? Sorry i don't agree, i'm not going allow ANYONE to defame my character. I had a woman do that to me in college, and it destroyed my reputation, and i'll be DAMNED if i let that happen to me again. That's why i reported her to my manager and when she speaks to this crazy bytch i wanna be there present, and i will be.
root_eruditorium_org
All Star
Not sure how I would take this advice if I was the OP. Here's the problem, first of all, asking for a number falls under the banner of "flirting" IMO. Just cuz you got a chick's number doesn't mean that you are pursuing her necessarily, it is part of the 'negotiation'. Of course if the chick is not feeling you you will find out quickly and stop talking to her - which it seems @DarkHorse23 did. It sounds like she is the one who keeps on coming back to him. Might be that even though she was not going to easily give up the draws she liked the attention and is now jealous. I don't know the specifics of the situation but from how he describes her she sounds a bit nutty. Remember that it's her who is claiming that @DarkHorse23 is "desperate" - what does this even mean? A lot of vagueness but I'm willing to give my dude here the benefit of the doubt.
I quite disagree with the bolded. Really dude? Doesn't that describe a large majority of the women in our lives? If I directly followed this rule I wouldn't have gotten a lot of kills. I do follow this rule in "spirit" though, as in there are just certain situations you know not to walk into. But a lot of the times you have to develop the instinct for this - and this usually comes from experience. OP is still building his experience, and I'm sure if he encounters a similar situation he will be more confident in what to do. In certain cases it's okay to talk to girls who hang out in a group (they might not be as close as you think - very competitive), in other situations it doesnt, it is like you are walking into a minefield.
The advice you are giving is good but it seems to me it should only be given to a certain type of guy. OP doesn't look like he has a lot of chances to talk to broads, so macking it to every girl is a good way to build experience. Sure it all went to shyt but he will be better for it in the long run. Let's just hope he doesn't lose his job ....
root_eruditorium_org
All Star
Let me address a few things you said, especially the bolded part.
(1) I have fukked one of these women, i fukked the one the one i was arguing with today. So that's that.
(2) Define "desperate", because my definition of desperate is and might be different than yours or hers. I see nothing "desperate" about me getting to know other women. Once again i was NEVER dating this girl, i don't owe her ANYTHING or anyone for that matter. If i want to ask other woman out to lunch, i see nothing wrong with that.
(3) I didn't really know how close she was with ANY of these girls, and once again i could understand where you're coming from if i was talking to this girl in a romantic sense, and after things went sour, i choose to talk to her friends, but the fact is we weren't dating. Why that's so hard to comprehend i don't get. We were FWB, that's it. Nothing exclusive or monogamous.
(4) Read my last post, i didn't just go up to her on some cold approach shyt. I've only saw her friend two times in the almost 2 months i've been working here. The first time when i went up there with the girl(the one who i was arguing with) to go look at something(she wanted to show me a dress
(5) I think the picture you have in your head is very different from the scenario that happen today. And no i don't fight with women. I try to stay professional at work, and stay to myself. She was the one who acted unprofessional bringing up some personal shyt in the workplace and then broadcasting on the intercom for everyone to hear. And me standing up for myself, is me being feminine??? Sorry i don't agree, i'm not going allow ANYONE to defame my character. I had a woman do that to me in college, and it destroyed my reputation, and i'll be DAMNED if i let that happen to me again. That's why i reported her to my manager and when she speaks to this crazy bytch i wanna be there present, and i will be.
Dawg, I don't know how to rep but if I could do it, I would have repped this post. Good shyt my dude. I agree with everything you said. I think @TRUEST is jumping into this conversation (which has been ongoing for a while) with a lot of assumptions.
But yo tell us how it goes with your job. Hope it's not in dire straits. I would feel responsible if you lost that mahfukka cuz i gave you some advice here which I didn't think was stale given the situation
DarkHorse23
Banned
Looks like it turned into a nightmare,
Those average women (5/6) are typically the worst when it comes to creating lots of drama. What can I say breh ... just stop talking to hoes and try to not get fired as you navigate this crisis.
I don't see how i can get fired for what i do in my personal time. I'm not harassing anyone, but i'm done talking to anyone up here. The immaturity up here too much for me, and i need my money, so it's not worth it. Maybe start back up in april doing LIMITED cold approaches depending on how i feel
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Youseenmywork
KING
Im 31 I'm finna go back to.cold approaching. I work on a military base and I don't want nothing to do with any of those women. I haven't really haven't been inspired to deal with women at all in the last 2 years. I can feel the rust as well from a more ....personal stand point. I don't mess with women on the job cause I never want any BS getting back to higher ups it's that simple. I'm a gentleman but I have an mean streak. I care how I carry myself and deal with these women on job anit the move trust me.