Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Atlrocafella]

I wouldn't neccassarily call them leeches maybe they were shy or like you wanted to see how interested you are in even though you'd paid/offered dates initially. It's best to communicate your concerns and if she's still not reciprocating than move on. Just because a person seems confident doesn't mean it's how they actually feel. I actually missed out on some relationships by not showing interest more often, even though I really I mean really liked the guys, being afraid of rejection was one of my biggest road blocks to finding a healthy relationship. Thankfully I've gotten a heck of a lot better with showing interest and am now with the man I'll probably marry. Communication is key.

I understand your perspective, but I'm with the belief that if someone is interested in you, you shouldn't have to tell them anything, it should be a want/natural for them to want to show their appreciation or interest

If I have to tell you to show some interest, now I'm going to feel like you're doing it because I shamed you into doing it as opposed to it being something you authentically wanted to do. At the same time, guys shouldn't wait around and see if she'll ever get the hint.

The guys that you felt like you missed out on probably felt the same way I do, like "damn, this girl is cool, but she's not letting me know if she feels me like the way I feel her, am I wasting my money and time by continuing to take this girl out when she's not showing that she's really interested in me? What separates her from any other girl that I could be talking to or taking out right now?"

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Not nearly true, you sound paranoid on the real. I'm past 28 and wouldn't purposely try using a man. Not in me because I wouldn't want the karma. Obviously there are women out there looking to run game and will play dumb but you should know this, it comes with asking questions and getting to know her such as phone conversations hanging out etc etc. if you even get a hint of her being selfish, run run as fast as you can because it's one the worst traits a woman can have. I have brothers and sisters so I see both sides of the coin.

With the way the game is played, it is tough distinguishing between girls with really sophisticated ulterior motives and the ones who really have no clue. It's unfortunate that you lost a few men you really liked because you didn't know how to show your appreciation of them but I find it difficult to take pity in your plight knowing how easy it is for chicks to bounce back. It is asymmetrical. I believe what @TRUEST said that women have more experience (average to attractive ones anyway) since it is they who have to bat away guys trying to get with them. The moment I smell something funny I'll be outta there because chances are that the chick is merely being a user rather than her having poor social skills or whatever. It just simply doesn't make sense to 'stick around' to ensure that the chick is solid - that's how dudes always get burned - by not listening to your instincts and exiting early enough.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

I understand your perspective, but I'm with the belief that if someone is interested in you, you shouldn't have to tell them anything, it should be a want/natural for them to want to show their appreciation or interest

Agree with this 100%

If you don't adhere to this simple rule then you are asking for trouble.

 

[Brandsdale]

Not nearly true, you sound paranoid on the real. I'm past 28 and wouldn't purposely try using a man. Not in me because I wouldn't want the karma. Obviously there are women out there looking to run game and will play dumb but you should know this, it comes with asking questions and getting to know her such as phone conversations hanging out etc etc. if you even get a hint of her being selfish, run run as fast as you can because it's one the worst traits a woman can have. I have brothers and sisters so I see both sides of the coin.

its more-so the context of the person as well. I was telling my friend the other day, the female the runs around running game, plays dumb, and goes thru all the games they usually are put in a category that you can easily identify. Sometimes you gotta judge people based on their character.

 

[Brandsdale]

With the way the game is played, it is tough distinguishing between girls with really sophisticated ulterior motives and the ones who really have no clue. It's unfortunate that you lost a few men you really liked because you didn't know how to show your appreciation of them but I find it difficult to take pity in your plight knowing how easy it is for chicks to bounce back. It is asymmetrical. I believe what @TRUEST said that women have more experience (average to attractive ones anyway) since it is they who have to bat away guys trying to get with them. The moment I smell something funny I'll be outta there because chances are that the chick is merely being a user rather than her having poor social skills or whatever. It just simply doesn't make sense to 'stick around' to ensure that the chick is solid - that's how dudes always get burned - by not listening to your instincts and exiting early enough.

my gut has never been wrong, even with small everyday decisions, never wrong.

last chic I tried to get with my gut told me somethings up and this chic doesn't fukk with me like that and now till this day she wont even bother saying hello to me at the gym



April aint never lie

 

[TRUEST]

With the way the game is played, it is tough distinguishing between girls with really sophisticated ulterior motives and the ones who really have no clue. It's unfortunate that you lost a few men you really liked because you didn't know how to show your appreciation of them but I find it difficult to take pity in your plight knowing how easy it is for chicks to bounce back. It is asymmetrical. I believe what @TRUEST said that women have more experience (average to attractive ones anyway) since it is they who have to bat away guys trying to get with them. The moment I smell something funny I'll be outta there because chances are that the chick is merely being a user rather than her having poor social skills or whatever. It just simply doesn't make sense to 'stick around' to ensure that the chick is solid - that's how dudes always get burned - by not listening to your instincts and exiting early enough.

i try not to respond to stuff in this thread unless i have first hand experience with the topic being discussed. trust, these women will use u if u're not sharp or privy to their ways. and they'd feel no remorse for it either.
i'm a kind person at heart so its very difficult for me to do anyone dirty (who hasn't done me wrong first) without my conscience whooping my ass for it. but, there are people out there who will feel no qualms about taking advantage of the unaware.

when it comes to women, i've had women deliberately fight over the check. some women reach for their purse on some "let me offer to pay and hope he'll say no" type sh1t. but there are women who will snatch the check the second it gets to the table and insist, "nah, i'm getting this one....you always pay!".

 

[DarkHorse23]

Have you ever felt "invisible" towards the opposite sex and how did you while in the process of trying to change deal with any emotions(I.e. Depression, bitterness ect) you might have been experiencing and manage to keep your head up. This is obviously aimed not at my "naturals" but at my brothers who had to put in the time and work and make significant changes to get quality women.

 

[Cynic]

So about a week ago I went on here telling y'all how I went sexual with two girls through snapchat and basically got them to agree to pipe.

One said that if she finds time from school and work she will hit me up. The other told me that it wasn't the right time yet so I told her to let me know.

The thing is I know innately girls at their core don't want to look like a hoe or to feel like they're "easy".

So I have a gut feeling that neither of them will actually go through with it and hit me up to pipe....

I feel like it's up to me to initiate it.

At the same time doh I don't wanna look thirsty hitting them up again asking "when can I hit it?"

What should I do?...

Keep playing it cool (I haven't messaged either of them much since the sexual talk) or hit them up?

Gimme a strategy lmao. Your boy trying to get some play.

You said strategy not tactics.... strategies are tactics lined up towards an objective

Reverse it... work on yourself... get famous/your money up and then you'll be the one

getting sent messages like "when can I come see you Emainstreet"

You've already given these girls attention for free... stop doing that.

 

[delta]

Have you ever felt "invisible" towards the opposite sex and how did you while in the process of trying to change deal with any emotions(I.e. Depression, bitterness ect) you might have been experiencing and manage to keep your head up. This is obviously aimed not at my "naturals" but at my brothers who had to put in the time and work and make significant changes to get quality women.

Like I told another dude earlier in this thread, you need to push past those problems first. And make those changes for the benefit of yourself. Females should be secondary, you will get them along the way of your journey toward self improvement

 

[O.iatlhawksfan]

Females think they're immune to looking lame. Every day I see chicks doing things a guy would be labeled lame for doing.

 

[Easy-E]

New city, no available women.

I know I'm only checking women at work out, but, its crazy I got sit next to a woman I was digging til she told me about her 3 kids and husband.

#vent

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Have you ever felt "invisible" towards the opposite sex and how did you while in the process of trying to change deal with any emotions(I.e. Depression, bitterness ect) you might have been experiencing and manage to keep your head up. This is obviously aimed not at my "naturals" but at my brothers who had to put in the time and work and make significant changes to get quality women.

Dude I'm invisible as hell and likely have got less action in the recent past than you have yet it doesn't bother me that much ... most times. Find some hobby you enjoy and I hate to say it but you should probably post less on the coli. I can't count the number of times I was in a good mood but came to the coli and started reading some stuff y'all be posting, whether its about a chick being grimy, or running game and it made me heated and depressed. life is a lot more than getting laid man, stop latching on to it so viciously. like right now i'm going to the gym (sporadically and not very seriously), getting my money up and reading a lot (i love reading!!) and it suits me fine. the only time i really get worked up over the girl problem is again like i said, when I come to the coli or i hang around my homies who seem to not have any issues getting hot girls (these nikkas make it look so easy!!). But when I'm not constantly reminded that my bodycount is pitifully low or how much harder it is for me to get bytches ... i'm groovy mane.

 

[DarkHorse23]

Dude I'm invisible as hell and likely have got less action in the recent past than you have yet it doesn't bother me that much ... most times. Find some hobby you enjoy and I hate to say it but you should probably post less on the coli. I can't count the number of times I was in a good mood but came to the coli and started reading some stuff y'all be posting, whether its about a chick being grimy, or running game and it made me heated and depressed. life is a lot more than getting laid man, stop latching on to it so viciously. like right now i'm going to the gym (sporadically and not very seriously), getting my money up and reading a lot (i love reading!!) and it suits me fine. the only time i really get worked up over the girl problem is again like i said, when I come to the coli or i hang around my homies who seem to not have any issues getting hot girls (these nikkas make it look so easy!!). But when I'm not constantly reminded that my bodycount is pitifully low or how much harder it is for me to get bytches ... i'm groovy mane.

I hear you. I'll be leaving the coli at the end of March.

 

[DarkHorse23]

Like I told another dude earlier in this thread, you need to push past those problems first. And make those changes for the benefit of yourself. Females should be secondary, you will get them along the way of your journey toward self improvement

But how can you move past problems primary because of your lack of success with women?

 

[MalikX]

With the way the game is played, it is tough distinguishing between girls with really sophisticated ulterior motives and the ones who really have no clue. It's unfortunate that you lost a few men you really liked because you didn't know how to show your appreciation of them but I find it difficult to take pity in your plight knowing how easy it is for chicks to bounce back. It is asymmetrical. I believe what @TRUEST said that women have more experience (average to attractive ones anyway) since it is they who have to bat away guys trying to get with them. The moment I smell something funny I'll be outta there because chances are that the chick is merely being a user rather than her having poor social skills or whatever. It just simply doesn't make sense to 'stick around' to ensure that the chick is solid - that's how dudes always get burned - by not listening to your instincts and exiting early enough.

I don't even bother. I just assume they're running game. These chicks out here are scandalous. Maybe, I might miss out on the girls who really don't have ulterior motives but, most of these chicks do and they will play your silly ass in a heartbeat.