Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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So this past weekend I went to a wedding to support one of my good friends who was getting hitched. The wedding was set outside and he way the sun was hitting, I decide to shyt in the shade which was all the way into the back. The venue was not that big, could accomodate around 100 people. So, I get there and I sit back. Well this fine pawg makes her way and sits in the same row as I, but she was like 3 seats away from me. She wore an all black dress with matching jewlery - certified dime. So I sneaked my peaks at her when i could. :banderas:

There was a photographer was going around snapping pics, so he comes to our row and I was trying to play the natural look, you know - not looking into the camera. But he wanted me to look towards so I did. She did so as well. Well after a he snapped a few pics, i was working up the courage to say something. I noticed she didn't have a ring on her finger and then I was waiting to see if she was with a man, so i may have paused for like another 3 minutes. No one showed.

So I tapped the back rest of the chair that was next to her to get her attention...

Me: excuse me ma'am, you look absolutely stunning this fine afternoon. I love your outfit (which I really did - and i did my best to sound confident).

Her: Oh, uh, thank you very much (she has a huge smile now)

...I think i got this... ...I need to keep the conversation going...

Me: your hair and make up is on point too, and your eyes are to die for :noah:

Her: Oh you don't look bad yourself either :obama:

from then on, we talked about everything. after the wedding we both went inside to find our seating arrangements. So we get to the table that has our names so she is in table 11 and i am all the way over at table 2 :martin: literally our tables at the opposite ends of the dining reception room. So I walk her to her spot and said good bye and I went to my location. so where i was, i can her sitting by herself, she gets on her phone to do whatever.

blaxcian you need to get your head out your fukking ass and do this.... ...before someone else scoops in.....

So I walk over there

Me: Trisha (her name), do you mind if i sit and eat with you?

Her: please do

Breh's from that night on, we were inseparable. a lot of my folks and even the groom (who is one of my closest friend), said that we actually look perfect for one another. another person said that we actually look like a couple just by our body language. I get her number and we talk and we danced.

So, the only down side is she lives in Kentucky :skip: and I live in Georgia. We are going to make an attempt to see one another, but I'm not sure how it's gonna work out, but I would most definitely like to try. We are suppose to meet in Tennessee either next week or after that to go to Jack Daniels distillery as our first date.

But moral of the story gentlemen, is take your shot. What's the worst that she can say?

On a side note, at the end of the night, she said that she was thinking that should just show up to the wedding, eat and then leave. I'm glad I changed that outcome. I'm also glad that I threw that shot up, normally, for a woman on that caliber of beauty, I wouldn't even attempt it. I think I just got sick of short changing myself. I am a good looking dude (no low-key brag here), but I do from time to time settle for less than what I would want - but it is time for that to change.
 

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So this past weekend I went to a wedding to support one of my good friends who was getting hitched. The wedding was set outside and he way the sun was hitting, I decide to shyt in the shade which was all the way into the back. The venue was not that big, could accomodate around 100 people. So, I get there and I sit back. Well this fine pawg makes her way and sits in the same row as I, but she was like 3 seats away from me. She wore an all black dress with matching jewlery - certified dime. So I sneaked my peaks at her when i could. :banderas:

There was a photographer was going around snapping pics, so he comes to our row and I was trying to play the natural look, you know - not looking into the camera. But he wanted me to look towards so I did. She did so as well. Well after a he snapped a few pics, i was working up the courage to say something. I noticed she didn't have a ring on her finger and then I was waiting to see if she was with a man, so i may have paused for like another 3 minutes. No one showed.

So I tapped the back rest of the chair that was next to her to get her attention...

Me: excuse me ma'am, you look absolutely stunning this fine afternoon. I love your outfit (which I really did - and i did my best to sound confident).

Her: Oh, uh, thank you very much (she has a huge smile now)

...I think i got this... ...I need to keep the conversation going...

Me: your hair and make up is on point too, and your eyes are to die for :noah:

Her: Oh you don't look bad yourself either :obama:

from then on, we talked about everything. after the wedding we both went inside to find our seating arrangements. So we get to the table that has our names so she is in table 11 and i am all the way over at table 2 :martin: literally our tables at the opposite ends of the dining reception room. So I walk her to her spot and said good bye and I went to my location. so where i was, i can her sitting by herself, she gets on her phone to do whatever.

blaxcian you need to get your head out your fukking ass and do this.... ...before someone else scoops in.....

So I walk over there

Me: Trisha (her name), do you mind if i sit and eat with you?

Her: please do

Breh's from that night on, we were inseparable. a lot of my folks and even the groom (who is one of my closest friend), said that we actually look perfect for one another. another person said that we actually look like a couple just by our body language. I get her number and we talk and we danced.

So, the only down side is she lives in Kentucky :skip: and I live in Georgia. We are going to make an attempt to see one another, but I'm not sure how it's gonna work out, but I would most definitely like to try. We are suppose to meet in Tennessee either next week or after that to go to Jack Daniels distillery as our first date.

But moral of the story gentlemen, is take your shot. What's the worst that she can say?

On a side note, at the end of the night, she said that she was thinking that should just show up to the wedding, eat and then leave. I'm glad I changed that outcome. I'm also glad that I threw that shot up, normally, for a woman on that caliber of beauty, I wouldn't even attempt it. I think I just got sick of short changing myself. I am a good looking dude (no low-key brag here), but I do from time to time settle for less than what I would want - but it is time for that to change.
:smile: very proud of u my dude. One thing I'll say, don't wait too long to see this chick again. Make sure she's as enthusiastic to see u as u are to see her. U don't want to travel all the way to another state and have her acting funny. Make sure ur not the only one sending the first text all the time.

She just could have been happy to have anyone sit with her at the wedding as she didn't want to look stupid being alone.

So make sure she shows the same level of interest as she did at the wedding before u go see her.
 

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Whenever you're in the dating game, money and time is going to be spent. Whether the money and time is going to be spent on you or her, is completely up to you. There are levels to this

Level 5/Boss mack- you are spending all your time and your money on yourself, and she spending all her time and money on you when y'all are together.

Level 4/Gigolo - you are spending all your time and money on yourself, and she is spending her money on you.

Level 3/mack - you are spending all your money and time for yourself, and she is spending time with you.

Level 2/simp - you are spending a combination of money and time on her, and none on yourself. Furthermore, you are only seen her spare time.

Level 1/trick - although less time, you are spending all of your money on her
 

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:smile: very proud of u my dude. One thing I'll say, don't wait too long to see this chick again. Make sure she's as enthusiastic to see u as u are to see her. U don't want to travel all the way to another state and have her acting funny. Make sure ur not the only one sending the first text all the time.

She just could have been happy to have anyone sit with her at the wedding as she didn't want to look stupid being alone.

So make sure she shows the same level of interest as she did at the wedding before u go see her.

I appreciate that. We are going to the jack daniel distillery next week. So that's a 3.5 hour drive for her; 5 for me. So if she shows up, then I would believe she is definitely interested in me. If she don't show up :mjlol: :mjcry:
 

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Y'all these chicks pose for pics with no ass, no t*ts, no curves yet theyre oozing with confidences :russ: I'm not gon front it's thirsty simps enabling them but if they think some likes are a subtitute for personality than they missing some screws up there
 
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As a man when you do help somebody, don't ever expect anything in return. That's just going to be the way it is.

I realized this after a while.

But the important take-away from this is "don't ever expect anything in return", not "don't help somebody". I take pleasure in helping people because that's the kind of person I am. I don't necessarily expect to get something from you in return but it's nice if others have the same kind of general attitude (helping others, giving to charity) - makes life worthwhile and lessens the negativity and cynicism you see in people these days.

Also the best kind of mentorship/help you can provide is when you give enough tips for somebody to figure it out by themselves. You shouldn't micro-manage the entire process. So if you look at it from that perspective, arrogance from your mentee is almost inevitable.
 
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Bros have high standards. Seriously shoot for the fukking moon. These women out here are so entitled, and some of the things they say :mjlol: How you going be 5'5 and say 6'0 is "short" and that you need a man 6'3 and taller. Amazing :deadrose:

Not news. Most chicks are delusional. For guys our circumstances force us to determine our actual "market value" despite what we may want to believe about ourselves.

For chicks this number is completely inflated due to how the game is played. Average chicks are more divorced from reality than any other group of chicks due to the sheer number of dudes approaching them.
 

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You're right there is layers to this. The depths can be so deep that I think alot of men simply lie to themselves. They don't want to confront that dark place and look themselves in the mirror. I don't blame woman because at the end of the day a woman is only going to do to you what you allow. These guys that get taken for money/hustled most of the time either miss warning signs or ignore them. On the other end, you have guys who's ego's are so fragile they're scared to be turned down.

If you want to take it back to Adam and Eve it was the serpent that seduced Eve. In other words it was the side of "evil" that led Eve to to disobey God. Whether you believe in the bible or not, this story just goes to show that the "collective unconscious" has been fighting with these issues since the beginning of time. There is a reason the tree that Eve ate from was called the tree of wisdom. Sticking with Jung's collective unconscious idea is that we must descend into "evil" to really understand God itself. I put "evil" in quotes because Good/Bad is more of a matter of opinion than anything. Many men today have been moralized to death on how to interact with woman so they don't function as their true selves. Females can pick up on energy much faster than the average guy. If a man doesn't come across as secure, you give it away within the first 30 seconds of a conversation.

It's a lonely road to self improvement for males. Truth be told, most males don't want to help you out either. They're your competition. I helped some friends recently who where complaining about chicks flaking on them constantly and how to avoid it. Basically I told them to stop wasting time going out on 3 dates or multiple dates before you tell them what you want. When you're upfront you will either get a yes or no. If it's no you can move on and save wasted time. Anyway, one of the guys is doing much better now but he's become arrogant. I told him he would still be chasing his tail if I hadn't helped him and he acts like I never told him anything. As a man when you do help somebody, don't ever expect anything in return. That's just going to be the way it is. Also, no one owes you a damn thing in life. It might be a harsh reality, but the sooner you get that through your head the better off you will be. That's why it's important to work on improving yourself consistently. You can control if you go to the gym, practice an instrument, hiking, etc. You will eventually get better at whatever you put your time into. What the world throws at you, you don't have much say over. However, you do have say on how you let it impact your life.

Yeah, it's a real.big deal to practice self-discipline. The world is feminine in general.
 
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Are any of you guys bolder when you are in a group? I find it alot easier approaching women on the street when I'm with a group of friends, but when I'm alone, there's too much dilly dallying. I suppose I do this subconsciously because I've noticed that chicks tend to be waay more receptive to random advances when they see that a dude is in a pack and has some sort of status within it whereas if you are riding solo chances are she will label you a creep depending on her mood at the time.

Anybody have any thoughts or comments on this?
 

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Why a lot of these women act the way they do? Nobody ever tells them anything, and when they are criticized, some simp soldier steps in with his shield and blocks the criticism. You got to let out of pocket broads receive their due criticism and if a woman is messing up, tell her something.
 
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