Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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You're right there is layers to this. The depths can be so deep that I think alot of men simply lie to themselves. They don't want to confront that dark place and look themselves in the mirror. I don't blame woman because at the end of the day a woman is only going to do to you what you allow. These guys that get taken for money/hustled most of the time either miss warning signs or ignore them. On the other end, you have guys who's ego's are so fragile they're scared to be turned down.

If you want to take it back to Adam and Eve it was the serpent that seduced Eve. In other words it was the side of "evil" that led Eve to to disobey God. Whether you believe in the bible or not, this story just goes to show that the "collective unconscious" has been fighting with these issues since the beginning of time. There is a reason the tree that Eve ate from was called the tree of wisdom. Sticking with Jung's collective unconscious idea is that we must descend into "evil" to really understand God itself. I put "evil" in quotes because Good/Bad is more of a matter of opinion than anything. Many men today have been moralized to death on how to interact with woman so they don't function as their true selves. Females can pick up on energy much faster than the average guy. If a man doesn't come across as secure, you give it away within the first 30 seconds of a conversation.

It's a lonely road to self improvement for males. Truth be told, most males don't want to help you out either. They're your competition. I helped some friends recently who where complaining about chicks flaking on them constantly and how to avoid it. Basically I told them to stop wasting time going out on 3 dates or multiple dates before you tell them what you want. When you're upfront you will either get a yes or no. If it's no you can move on and save wasted time. Anyway, one of the guys is doing much better now but he's become arrogant. I told him he would still be chasing his tail if I hadn't helped him and he acts like I never told him anything. As a man when you do help somebody, don't ever expect anything in return. That's just going to be the way it is. Also, no one owes you a damn thing in life. It might be a harsh reality, but the sooner you get that through your head the better off you will be. That's why it's important to work on improving yourself consistently. You can control if you go to the gym, practice an instrument, hiking, etc. You will eventually get better at whatever you put your time into. What the world throws at you, you don't have much say over. However, you do have say on how you let it impact your life.

I had to to do the same; thing is now my mental state is slowly improving. However, I'm still not exactly privy to getting back in the chase still (haven't had a date/sex in damn near 4 years), but that's gonna have to change soon. I'm literally beginning to feel physical pain throughout my body when thinking of females/sex. That can't be healthy, because it damn sure ain't normal.

And yes, males will cockblock your ass even when you're asking for help. I have a friend who told me all kinds of females were feeling me at our old job years ago....thing is back then he never said shyt to me. I'm like ":stopitslime::what:the fukk you didn't tell me that back then? Thanks for the help jerk-off...." Nowadays I try to avoid even telling nikkaz about intentions with females period. I HATE being cock-blocked....
 

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Went to church this morning with my new bad joint, I check my phone and I see that I got a text from this chick who curved me and wanted me to give her a second chance. The text said "i see you, she's pretty"..in my head im like ":jawalrus:yeah, way prettier than you".

Just knowing that jealousy was probably in her soul throughout the service had me like :banderas:
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I had to to do the same; thing is now my mental state is slowly improving. However, I'm still not exactly privy to getting back in the chase still (haven't had a date/sex in damn near 4 years), but that's gonna have to change soon. I'm literally beginning to feel physical pain throughout my body when thinking of females/sex. That can't be healthy, because it damn sure ain't normal.

And yes, males will cockblock your ass even when you're asking for help. I have a friend who told me all kinds of females were feeling me at our old job years ago....thing is back then he never said shyt to me. I'm like ":stopitslime::what:the fukk you didn't tell me that back then? Thanks for the help jerk-off...." Nowadays I try to avoid even telling nikkaz about intentions with females period. I HATE being cock-blocked....

This reminds me of how there was this really fine chick at a meetup class I was attending, who I was plotting on. I was friends with one of the dude's in the class, I even knew his gf and we were all cool. Thing is though this guy stayed cock blocking :patrice:

In my head I'm like :ohhh: you already got a hot chick :dahell:

We don't talk anymore these days
 
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Why a lot of these women act the way they do? Nobody ever tells them anything, and when they are criticized, some simp soldier steps in with his shield and blocks the criticism. You got to let out of pocket broads receive their due criticism and if a woman is messing up, tell her something.

breh i like your posts but could you elaborate...there's like conflicting advice...some say to not say anything to the girl cause that in itself is a sign of weakness.
 
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breh i like your posts but could you elaborate...there's like conflicting advice...some say to not say anything to the girl cause that in itself is a sign of weakness.

If you've read this thread a long time you learn to take advice here with a grain of salt. I've seen posters post their issues, have the "coli hivemind" tell them to do one thing, once they do it and it blows up in their face, all of a sudden everybody's lambasting the person for doing it.

that being said @kevm3 is one of the better posters so i'd definitely listen to him.
 

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breh i like your posts but could you elaborate...there's like conflicting advice...some say to not say anything to the girl cause that in itself is a sign of weakness.

If a woman is messing up, you got to tell her something. You might have some guys tell you to let her bad behavior slide, but that's because they elevate sex over behavior. In the short term, they may get whatever they are looking for, but over the long-term, that woman is going to disrespect this dude because he never spoke up. They think they are going to keep this woman around or keep this woman pleased by letting her get away with anything or doing anything. Once a woman establishes in her mind that she can do something slick on you, she's going to continually escalate until the relationship is utterly disrespectful, and by that time, she's going to have such a disdainful view of you that she will peel off anyways.

When you are dealing with a woman, if she doesn't respect you, you have NOTHING. She's going to make your life a nightmare. To the contrary of what you might think, when you let a woman know what you expect of a woman and you stand behind it, if she really likes you, she will respect and like you even more. Women really want to deal with a SOLID man, not one they can punk and play around with.

Say for example, you take this woman out to a dinner and she's all on her phone texting other people. The average dude will sit back and not say anything because they are afraid of losing her. In that situation, she just punked you. The real dude is going to tell her to put that phone away. If that broad can't respect that, especially if you're paying for the dinner, the sooner she peels off the better.

Something that a lot of men are missing in this day and age is the notion that they are an AUTHORITY figure. God made you the head of the household. Your word should have meaning. Unfortunately, feminism, tv, and simps having opinions have spread contrary notions, and so many men are confused as to what they should actually be doing. The reality is that a woman wants to get down for a real dude, but she can't know what you like or what she's doing wrong if you never tell her. Any woman that really likes you will heed your requests. A broad that doesn't will peel off, and that's a benefit for you, because you don't want no woman that ain't about you taking up space and time.

At the end of the day, these women will do what you let them do to you, and if you let them punk you, it's gonna be an awful experience, so step up to the plate and let her know what you are all about and what you accept and what you don't.
 

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So I believe I have a chance to fukk my first milf but her babydaddy never leaves the house :lupe:

You'd be better off avoiding this broad. Baby daddy still in the picture and living there... that's you lighting a stick of dynamite and laying it under your pillow.
 

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If you've read this thread a long time you learn to take advice here with a grain of salt. I've seen posters post their issues, have the "coli hivemind" tell them to do one thing, once they do it and it blows up in their face, all of a sudden everybody's lambasting the person for doing it.

that being said @kevm3 is one of the better posters so i'd definitely listen to him.
Truth. @kevm3 been dropping knowledge since way back.

There are a few posters in here that have good info ( shout to @Spin, @TRUEST, @Youseenmywork, missing a few btw )

I treat it like barbershop talk as opposed to a class.
 

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If you've read this thread a long time you learn to take advice here with a grain of salt. I've seen posters post their issues, have the "coli hivemind" tell them to do one thing, once they do it and it blows up in their face, all of a sudden everybody's lambasting the person for doing it.

that being said @kevm3 is one of the better posters so i'd definitely listen to him.
Truth. @kevm3 been dropping knowledge since way back.

There are a few posters in here that have good info ( shout to @Spin, @TRUEST, @Youseenmywork, missing a few btw )

I treat it like barbershop talk as opposed to a class.
 

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Went to church this morning with my new bad joint, I check my phone and I see that I got a text from this chick who curved me and wanted me to give her a second chance. The text said "i see you, she's pretty"..in my head im like ":jawalrus:yeah, way prettier than you".

Just knowing that jealousy was probably in her soul throughout the service had me like :banderas:

Thats a true victory.

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