i damn near fell out my chair when i read that other dude Mr210's post about talking on the phone for 2.5 hours. like wtf??? Attraction 101....stay the fucck away from the phone. U shouldn't be talking for no more than 15 minutes. hell, that's too long. When you talk on the phone for more than that, what the hell do u have to talk about when u see each other? there's no anticipation. she already knows whats going on in ur life. then these dudes wonder why these women disappear on them. u let the candle burn out too fast. that's why.
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i damn near fell out my chair when i read that other dude Mr210's post about talking on the phone for 2.5 hours. like wtf??? Attraction 101....stay the fucck away from the phone. U shouldn't be talking for no more than 15 minutes. hell, that's too long. When you talk on the phone for more than that, what the hell do u have to talk about when u see each other? there's no anticipation. she already knows whats going on in ur life. then these dudes wonder why these women disappear on them. u let the candle burn out too fast. that's why.
humm. thats not what we're talking about. calling a chick to set up dates is exactly what we're saying u ought to be doing. not chatting on the phone for hours like a high school teenage girl.
Another thing is not moving fast enough. I think my slowness made me miss out on something like the chick I've been talking about. First few days very few texts were exchanged and the phone call was brief with this being mostly setting up a meet up on Friday. Friday comes around and shorty was ready to be picked up as soon as I told her to come through.
The only part I fukked up on was that when she got here, she came upstairs to my bedroom and we was in there but nothing happened. I just threw on a movie, she sat on the bed while just watched alongside her occasionally commenting or saying something. She was a little quiet but basically I didn't touch her or anything.
Right after that night it felt like i had to be the one contacting her most of the time. Recently she came over again but this time she was in the presence of her cousin and my cousin so she was much more talkative and open but again nothing went down.
Sometimes I feel like kicking myself because I talk or act myself out of some ass. I didn't even Holla at this chick and now I feel like I was the first one interested.
Another thing is not moving fast enough. I think my slowness made me miss out on something like the chick I've been talking about. First few days very few texts were exchanged and the phone call was brief with this being mostly setting up a meet up on Friday. Friday comes around and shorty was ready to be picked up as soon as I told her to come through.
The only part I fukked up on was that when she got here, she came upstairs to my bedroom and we was in there but nothing happened. I just threw on a movie, she sat on the bed while just watched alongside her occasionally commenting or saying something. She was a little quiet but basically I didn't touch her or anything.
Right after that night it felt like i had to be the one contacting her most of the time. Recently she came over again but this time she was in the presence of her cousin and my cousin so she was much more talkative and open but again nothing went down.
Sometimes I feel like kicking myself because I talk or act myself out of some ass. I didn't even Holla at this chick and now I feel like I was the first one interested.
sounds to me like you're scared or somewhat shy. but i think the issue here could also be that the girl is too rigid. i recently had to stop talking ot a chick because she was just too stiff, it made all interactions with her too much work. she's the type to send u a text after a date on some "u really look good tonight" type sh1t. and i'd be like wtf. why didnt u show that when u were in front of me. but i digress.
to loosen these chicks up, sometimes u goto serve them alcohol. give her a lil wine, and tease her. that usually frees them up a bit. if that dont work, i usually just stop hitting them up. im really impatient so dropping chicks that aint mathematically computing in my head is easy.
I'd say it's a mix of us two being a little shy. She said she was but I def was a little hesitant to try and get her opened up to get something going.
She wasn't the second time though. She was much more talkative and shyt the second time but I say that's because this time she was with her cousin and my cousin downstairs so we all in the room. I was grabbing her hand to look at her tat, touching her hair and she was posing from behind taking dumb pictures of us.
She doesn't drink so she basically that's out. Either way she already didn't call me even though she said she would since the day before yesterday and whatnot. Her cousin asked her to come to the movies with her Friday and she then asked me ifi want to go but I didn't really say yeah.. Im not hitting her up anymore but I don't want to look mad if she comes over and I'm just distant by being in my room while she is downstairs.
Man if you think that's badi had a chick I was messing with a long time ago literally sitting on me facing me and I didn't do anything.... AND this was a girl i made out with already! I just had went through a lil gap in time since seeing her but man it was stupid.
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Well if you have something planned with a chic sure its coo. Breh if I'm calling a chick at my age 32 at 1pm I'm loosing she would already be at the crib prior to or it has to have been something that has been in the works . I'm not calling chicks at 1pm I don't have women like that cause I just got out of a relationship. I set shyt up earlier in the week ...it gives me time to plan for flakes and shyt. When I'm so called hunting
My happiness is the utmost important especially after the type of relationship I just got out of. There is no calling chicks up for ice cream on my dime. I don't have female friends either so...if don't make me happy I'm not doing it(especially with women). In all honesty I've always be a bottom line guy thoe. I work on the weekends so that why I set things up earlier when I'm in my hunting mode.
This is going to be different for each guy thoe.