Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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some dude on my facebooks status

"It needs to be said that lately i have not been myself. i've taken what should have been a small hiccup in my relationship and blown it way out of proportion. i over reacted and was extremely immature about the way i handled it. because of that I lost my best friend and the girl that i love. but i was too blinded by my own stupidity and stubbornness to realize what i was losing. and so i lost the only girl who makes me feel the way that i do. the only girl who has/would have done anything for me without hesitation and vice versa. i could go on for days about this and how bad i feel but the point is i'm so sorry lauren. i told u i'd do anything to get u back and i meant it. so im starting here, im truly sorry. you mean the world to me"

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sometimes we brainwash ourselves into overvaluing women by telling ourselves things like this. i've fallen in love with women that once removed from the situation i don't even understand what i ever saw in them in the first place with that type of brainwashing. i understand at some point if you hang around a person enough you get used to them being there but really if they go away you lived before them and you'll live after them. publicly surrendering a bit of your dignity to keep things going is silly.
 
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the sad thing is with that dude humbling himself like that, he's only going to get pushed away further and disrespected. if he never brought it up and let the issue slide, she'd have come back to him. Being some overly apologetic, 'girl i messed up, you mean the world to me,' type of dude will have you looking real crazy out here.
 
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you can never really fix a broken relationship. the best you can do is accept the current state as the new normal. if you drop a plate and it breaks and the pieces are big enough you can glue them back together but that plate will never again look the way it originally did. sure its still a plate but it was forever changed by the damage. if you can't accept the damaged plate in its current form you trash it and replace it with a new one and if you can accept it you keep it.

a lot of people like to romanticize about going back to the way things were but if that's the goal then its just a waste of time.
 
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kevm3 said:
the sad thing is with that dude humbling himself like that, he's only going to get pushed away further and disrespected. if he never brought it up and let the issue slide, she'd have come back to him. Being some overly apologetic, 'girl i messed up, you mean the world to me,' type of dude will have you looking real crazy out here.
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True. Apologize and move on.
 
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It's crazy how when you're not looking or particularly trying to meet women is when they really just can sense that attitude on you and start giving you all the signs that they are digging you. Something about nonchalance and apathy really attracts a woman. When you show no signs of thirstiness or pursuit, they can just sense it and it makes something click in them to where they want to deal with you... you're that nut she wants to crack. Sitting back, just really enjoying life, handling your business and not being a thirst hound will magnetically bring these women to you.
 
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winb83 said:
There is no friend zone. A vulture circling overhead waiting for a chance to strike is not a friend. Friendship is not a undesirable zone its a mutually desired and beneficial relationship between two willing participants. What you're calling the friend zone is just an awkward phase that happens post-rejection when a man continues to persist dealing with a female that rejected them. The truth is because this concept was created most men don't even recognize they've been rejected because they don't see this supposed friend zone for what it truly is.

so no the friend zone is not real its a false imaginary prison people who can't accept the truth place themselves in. The moment they accept the truth the imagined prison vanishes and they can either really become true friends or stop dealing with her and move on.
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The friend zone is REAL my friend however; it should only be known as a state in which a man is trapped. Being in the friend zone is a point at which you have between two choices, get out and let her know you aint bout that life , or slowly stop talking to her and she'll get the message, and the other choice is to let it keep going and keep a friendship with the female if you truly like her as a female and enjoy the friendship (which is highly unlikely). Friend zone is real but it only exists to remind a man that they fukked up and need to move on unless without being friend zoned a female would most likely just lead him on and lead the man to self destruction. In the end mistakes and failures are VERY beneficial for nikkas to move further and progress in life.:smugdraper:
 
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The friend zone is REAL my friend however; it should only be known as a state in which a man is trapped. Being in the friend zone is a point at which you have between two choices, get out and let her know you aint bout that life , or slowly stop talking to her and she'll get the message, and the other choice is to let it keep going and keep a friendship with the female if you truly like her as a female and enjoy the friendship (which is highly unlikely). Friend zone is real but it only exists to remind a man that they fukked up and need to move on unless without being friend zoned a female would most likely just lead him on and lead the man to self destruction. In the end mistakes and failures are VERY beneficial for nikkas to move further and progress in life.:smugdraper:
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You do know you said basically the same thing as the person you quoted but in different words? lol
 
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