Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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being in a relationship is an excellent thing. but it can be very bad or should i say it will be very bad if u are with a woman who isn't 100% for you. and by "for you" i mean a woman who holds u as the most important man in her life, besides those in her family of course.

a woman who's 100% doesn't have guy friends that she hangs with or talks about enough to make u jealous. a woman who's for u will wanna be right up under your ass wherever u go. it's a wonderful feeling to have a woman like this. it makes u excel at ur job and almost everything u lay ur hands on. no man is meant to be alone. we're all meant to partner up so our journey in life can be as productive as it was meant to be.

i can make a very long post out of this but really what it boils down to is simple:

1. if you're going to get in a relationship with a woman, make sure shes more into u than u are into her. when u are into a woman more than she's into u, 9 out of 10 times, u will get fuccked.
2. make sure she is of moral character. i've dated girls who thought it was ok to room mate with men, or to have male friends who they hang out with. this isn't a behavior of a good woman with home training.
3. make sure she takes care of you. i've dated girls who told me we eat out too much (even though im the one paying). they wanted / preferred to cook me food instead. I had a woman fly across country with me for a job interview. the company paid for my travels, but she came out of pocket to pay for her flight.
4. in other words, dont be the one doing all the giving. a woman doesn't have to spend money on u (if she doesn't have it). she can cook, she can clean. she can do all sorts of things to show she's really about u. she can choose to do boring things with u than to go partying it up with her wild friends.
5. if ur dating a girl and she does anything that makes u uncomfortable or question her loyalty, take it serious. ur gut instinct is there to protect u. listen to it

:damn: PREACH!! Some of these heauxs really think that their presence is good enough. I had a chick tell me I should take her out so that I could have good company :dahell:
 

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do women respect a faithful guy who's faithful because no one else wants him? no.
do women respect a faithful guy who's faithful because he chooses to be? maybe. on the face of it, most do. but subconsciously, they may not.

if i were u, i would keep my self in top condition so she sees the attention im getting from other women. your woman will value u more or feel prouder of u when she sees the way other women thirst over u. if ur a faithful guy, i say stay faithful, especially if u got a good woman. but for ur own future sanity, i strongly recommend, again, keep ur self in top condition so u can find another woman fast should ur girl act up. the way u describe ur girl, sounds unlikely u'll have to worry about this. but if she's attractive, there's no telling what she will do.

when a woman knows she can be easily replaced, when yall fight, the fights wont last past a day or two. because she knows if it goes longer, she'll be allowing a gap for other women to come through.

what i just said applies even more if ur woman is someone attractive. u can bet she's being hit on regularly. and when u have so many dating options, its in human nature to want to give at least one a try.

keep in mind, attractive women are more prone to self-sabotaging of their relationships because they know they can find someone else immediately...unless of course the man they're dating has something that isn't easy to come by...MONEY. u can find men who live in the gym, u can find men who look really good, they're everywhere. good luck finding a man who's pushing a rolls or bentley or a s600.

what would I do in your situation?

given the fact that i know how heartbreak feels and the amount of time it has taken me in the past to get offer a breakup, i would keep women on deck that i can just use as rebound should my main girl act up. for me personally, dating an even hotter girl after a breakup has been proven to help heal a broken heart the fastest. that's just me. others in this thread suggest doing other things. but for me, knowing ive got options helps me keep a level head when dealing with the erratic nature of women.

this is a really good post. especially the bolded. the last chick that trashed me, i'm starting to think that the issue she was ragging on me about wasn't really as serious as she was making it out to be and she just basically wasn't attracted to me and was trying to rationalize it somehow.

if a chick sees you as a prize, or she is using you for something then she will be surprisingly easy to get along with. won't be dealing with the usual hesitancy / resistance. looking back i can see it as a definite pattern.
 

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usually when a chic takes long to answer texts do yall just do the same back?

lately ive been doing this onlu because I dont want to come off as waiting on your text and on your beck and call. I know it sounds kinda corny and wack but before when I would answer a text at a regular rate i've still been unsuccessful.
 
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usually when a chic takes long to answer texts do yall just do the same back?

lately ive been doing this onlu because I dont want to come off as waiting on your text and on your beck and call. I know it sounds kinda corny and wack but before when I would answer a text at a regular rate i've still been unsuccessful.

There's an even easier way of dealing with this. Stop talking to her. There's a 97% chance you taking your time to answer texts won't tilt the odds in your favor.

I respond whenever I see a text. The whole "waiting" thing is just silly to me, and with the amount of conversations I have with people, if I ignore a text now I will likely not get back to it ever.
 

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usually when a chic takes long to answer texts do yall just do the same back?

lately ive been doing this onlu because I dont want to come off as waiting on your text and on your beck and call. I know it sounds kinda corny and wack but before when I would answer a text at a regular rate i've still been unsuccessful.
It depends because sometimes hoes like playing games. It's your call weither you gonna play along or throw them to the bushes.

I was trying to get at this 1 girl for bout a week and she was taking a long ass time to respond. and then didn't respond at all.

I ignored her ass for an entire week after that, Acted like she didn't even exist when i saw her in class.
So just yesterday she run up to me after class talking about she's hungry and her boyfriend don't have a job,

After a little bit of mackin she in the whip giving me dome. :wow:
 

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There's an even easier way of dealing with this. Stop talking to her. There's a 97% chance you taking your time to answer texts won't tilt the odds in your favor.

I respond whenever I see a text. The whole "waiting" thing is just silly to me, and with the amount of conversations I have with people, if I ignore a text now I will likely not get back to it ever.
usually I apologize for not getting back if its someone I fukk with or someone im trying to get in touch with about something

i unno its confusing because to me if I respond at the time chics send a text you'd think they would respond then because they sent you a text and thusly by their phone but on the other hand i feel like if i answer after she responded to a previous text from hours ago it makes me look like im waitinf on her or some shyt.

its whatever tho im at a point where i dont even wanna have text convos but only to make very quick small talk and then set something up swiftly only to maintain facetime with a chic and remain relevant instead of becoming a pen pal and if shes not tryna see you more times shes probably stringing you along or she's bored at the time.

i guess all im trying to say is:
- If the texting is good and fluid, cool proceed
-if its trash and she takes long to respond, dont even bother or try and set something up to see her and make her so comfortable in person she urns to see you again
 

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It depends because sometimes hoes like playing games. It's your call weither you gonna play along or throw them to the bushes.

I was trying to get at this 1 girl for bout a week and she was taking a long ass time to respond. and then didn't respond at all.

I ignored her ass for an entire week after that, Acted like she didn't even exist when i saw her in class.
So just yesterday she run up to me after class talking about she's hungry and her boyfriend don't have a job,

After a little bit of mackin she in the whip giving me dome. :wow:
:salute: as it should be done

throwing her to the bushes can either pan out because she urns for you based off envy that you're ignoring her and wants your attention, or she doesnt come back and at that point you saved your time and effort which could go towards another potential candidate
 

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The reason is sometimes we like a girl so much that we unfortunately respect em. That respect causes us to not prey the way we're supposed to. Instead we become cautious, accommodative and shyt so as to not ruffle any feathers and fukk what we believe could be a good potential relationship up.

It's happened to me as well. I'll meet a girl, the vibe is amazing, conversations are great and I think to myself this girls feeling me, i'm feeling her ...I will get the p*ssy when the time is right. Before we know it, the girl starts taking long to respond to messages, gives us some bullshyt about being busy, or straight ghosts and we're left wondering what happened. Sometimes theres nothing you can do though. You could play the situation perfectly and have the same thing happen. Just speaking from experience. Girls are very fickle...thats all it comes down to.
You can still respect a girl and let your intentions be known :shaq:

if i were u, i would keep my self in top condition so she sees the attention im getting from other women. your woman will value u more or feel prouder of u when she sees the way other women thirst over u.
if ur a faithful guy, i say stay faithful, especially if u got a good woman. but for ur own future sanity, i strongly recommend, again, keep ur self in top condition so u can find another woman fast should ur girl act up. the way u describe ur girl, sounds unlikely u'll have to worry about this. but if she's attractive, there's no telling what she will do.

when a woman knows she can be easily replaced, when yall fight, the fights wont last past a day or two. because she knows if it goes longer, she'll be allowing a gap for other women to come through.
100% truth. Women want men who are wanted by other women.

I was out on a 4th date with this girl this past week-end and we were at a red light, waiting to cross to reach this sushi spot.

At the red light there was this bad asian chick in a Honda Civic, practically undressing me with her eyes as me and my date held hands at the crosswalk. Literally staring at me for a solid 10 seconds until the light eventually turned green.

I turned to my date and said, "Damn you better let her know what's up:youngsabo:"

Then immediately after that, my date starts talking about how she gets hit on by guys all the time.....:mjlol: I knew exactly what she was trying to do.

Definitely got an assist that night from that asian chick, because it raised my value..... showed my date that I'm coveted by other women. Might've played a role in why I got laid that night :myman:
 
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usually I apologize for not getting back if its someone I fukk with or someone im trying to get in touch with about something

i unno its confusing because to me if I respond at the time chics send a text you'd think they would respond then because they sent you a text and thusly by their phone but on the other hand i feel like if i answer after she responded to a previous text from hours ago it makes me look like im waitinf on her or some shyt.

its whatever tho im at a point where i dont even wanna have text convos but only to make very quick small talk and then set something up swiftly only to maintain facetime with a chic and remain relevant instead of becoming a pen pal and if shes not tryna see you more times shes probably stringing you along or she's bored at the time.

i guess all im trying to say is:
- If the texting is good and fluid, cool proceed
-if its trash and she takes long to respond, dont even bother or try and set something up to see her and make her so comfortable in person she urns to see you again

pretty much spot on. if i'm interested in a chick i keep the texting to a minimum precisely due to the reasons you have stated. only text her to set up a time to meet up - if she doesn't seem open to this, you already know what time it is so no point in making any further effort.
 

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usually when a chic takes long to answer texts do yall just do the same back?

lately ive been doing this onlu because I dont want to come off as waiting on your text and on your beck and call. I know it sounds kinda corny and wack but before when I would answer a text at a regular rate i've still been unsuccessful.

It depends because sometimes hoes like playing games. It's your call weither you gonna play along or throw them to the bushes.

I was trying to get at this 1 girl for bout a week and she was taking a long ass time to respond. and then didn't respond at all.

I ignored her ass for an entire week after that, Acted like she didn't even exist when i saw her in class.
So just yesterday she run up to me after class talking about she's hungry and her boyfriend don't have a job,

After a little bit of mackin she in the whip giving me dome. :wow:

I don't play games if ur wasting my time bushes u shall go quickly:camby:
A female feeling u a lot will make a point to keep hitting up up

This one bad ass jap girl in Japan I met I hollered at in club exchange digits but she was on that bs when communication so I stopped but then every so.often I see her at Club and she see me talking and dancing with other girls and get jealous and pull me to the side talking bout why don't u call or text me.
Told her Cuz u don't reply why waste my time so I walked away and she said I'll show u I can
Later that nite she hits me up
This shyt took her 1 month to do this and she got to the point of tired of seeing me in Club talking to other girls and finally made a move
So things go smooth for a week
I get damn Pink eye on my b day so im homesick
And she calls me saying she will come see me I'm like yea right but give her address and does
I open door and she comes in I'm like why u in a robe. She takes it off in lingerie I'm like :shaq: :banderas: Cuz I knew she was bad but lord her body :lawd:
Told me she was my b day gift come get it
Breh shyt was so wack :snoop:
I even lied and said I bust she was like let me see so I can taste I was like :dahell: but at same time like :wow:
Cuz I was on my side she couldn't see it i put lotion on my shyt and she tasted it talking bout wow u taste so flavory :laff:
Next day I blocked her lol
For the simple fact of playing games and taking a month to wanna take me serious to get to know me
The sex was just a bonus as far as I was concerned
 
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