Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Mister_DoItNice]

Good stuff. There's way too much content out there to not become the highest version of yourself.

Most definitely. After I broke up with my shorty and started going hard in the gym I realized I needed to elevate my mind at the same time I was elevating my body. I read the rational male, no more Mr Nice Guy, the 48 laws of power, and the art of seduction in the span of a couple months. Right now I'm reading a book called hardwiring happiness. I want to improve my outlook on things and be a more positive person overall.

Also, you hit the nail on the head earlier when you were talking about needing to dig deep and uncover the source of sexual shortcomings. I was in the same boat. I wasn't lasting as long with women in the bedroom as I felt I should've been and I had to sit down and really analyze what I was doing and how it was affecting me mentally. I decided I needed to completely ditch pornography because I had warped my mind to the point that it was always looking for the quick climax. So I've been off porn, lifting, and reading a bunch and man it feels so good. I honestly feel like a completely different man now and I have so much more potential to tap into.

I'm gonna jump into the Sex God method after I finish what I'm currently reading. Good looks for the link. I'm telling you this thread is truly amazing and I'm glad it has continued to progress the way it has.

 

[True Blue Moon]

Most definitely. After I broke up with my shorty and started going hard in the gym I realized I needed to elevate my mind at the same time I was elevating my body. I read the rational male, no more Mr Nice Guy, the 48 laws of power, and the art of seduction in the span of a couple months. Right now I'm reading a book called hardwiring happiness. I want to improve my outlook on things and be a more positive person overall.

Also, you hit the nail on the head earlier when you were talking about needing to dig deep and uncover the source of sexual shortcomings. I was in the same boat. I wasn't lasting as long with women in the bedroom as I felt I should've been and I had to sit down and really analyze what I was doing and how it was affecting me mentally. I decided I needed to completely ditch pornography because I had warped my mind to the point that it was always looking for the quick climax. So I've been off porn, lifting, and reading a bunch and man it feels so good. I honestly feel like a completely different man now and I have so much more potential to tap into.

I'm gonna jump into the Sex God method after I finish what I'm currently reading. Good looks for the link. I'm telling you this thread is truly amazing and I'm glad it has continued to progress the way it has.

Fellow warrior on the path

Pushing your mind and body is so crucial because they're one and the same. The body leads the mind and vice versa. When you have good info and a strong body, you'll have the confidence and will to both remember and put the knowledge you learned into action with a clear mind.

Trusting the intelligence in your body (i.e. your feelings and gut instincts) is definitely the way to become the total package as a man. Aligning those energies to serve you makes you feel like you can do anything.

Off the top of my head, when I'm doing the following, I feel like the world is mine and I can do anything:

• Reading and listening to quality self-development content
• Eating clean -- lean meats, smoothies with kale/spinach, avocado, bananas and other good nutrients
• Regular meditation
• Jiu-jitsu, yoga and pushups (haven't gotten back to the weights yet, but I'm going to)
• Cold showers multiple times per day
• Journaling to organize my thoughts, dump the brain clutter and review the things that are important for me to remember
• Cutting porn out completely
• Deep breathing exercises

There's so much we're not taught about our minds, bodies, testosterone and sexuality. When your life becomes about being the highest version of yourself in all of these ways, you'll feel like a king no matter what path you're taking

I invite you and everyone else to keep dropping literature that you're reading or that has helped you.

You're right about this thread being powerful. We need time apart from women to sharpen each other up as men with no ego involved.

You see, @Dmitri , you might have felt alone in what you're going through, but because you had a safe place to put your ego aside and share with your brothers, you can quickly see that it's not just you. Me, @Mister_DoItNice and probably a hundred other dudes in this thread have similar experiences.

We can only be so vulnerable around our women, so I don't take these kinds of conversations lightly, because we can become better men instead of suffering by ourselves.

 

[brebabyyy]

Can you break down how you like getting dominated and why and what feels so good about the sex that you like? I find that most dudes either pound it too hard no matter what to make themselves feel like a man, or are too gentle because we're socialized to believe that women only like to "make love" and not fukk.

My life changed forever when I learned just how raw and powerful female sexuality can be.

Okay so I'm going to try to answer it the best I can. When I said I liked to be dominated, I don't like being in control, 100% submissive. I like being tied up, handcuffed, blind folded basically any type of activity where I basically can't "run". I guess you can say BDSM? I like rough sex, pulling hair, being choked, biting, denying me orgasms (teased), I don't believe in making love and yes, I have been in relationships with men and I still feel as when we had sex there was a connection. I like being "pounded" and I know it can be tiring for some men. That's what I like, and I had a ex that told me that sex with me was draining him mentally because of everything I was into. I hope I explained it well enough for you to get an idea.

 

[True Blue Moon]

Okay so I'm going to try to answer it the best I can. When I said I liked to be dominated, I don't like being in control, 100% submissive. I like being tied up, handcuffed, blind folded basically any type of activity where I basically can't "run". I guess you can say BDSM? I like rough sex, pulling hair, being choked, biting, denying me orgasms (teased), I don't believe in making love and yes, I have been in relationships with men and I still feel as when we had sex there was a connection. I like being "pounded" and I know it can be tiring for some men. That's what I like, and I had a ex that told me that sex with me was draining him mentally because of everything I was into. I hope I explained it well enough for you to get an idea.

I definitely get what you're saying. Thanks for sharing.

Does it make you feel more feminine, or overtaken by masculine power by being that submissive? I find that 90% of women want some form of that, but when you have to tell the guy it ruins the thrill of it.

My natural inclination is to be dominant, but we get mixed messages in society, so it's still easy to slip into nice guy mode. You can still show a woman you love her or can form a connection just as much by pounding her and owning her. The act of a woman giving herself to you like that is to the point that it's almost disrespectful to her gift of submitting to you to hold back and be timid about it.

 

[reserved_one]

Did you talk about your sexual wants, needs, desires, etc beforehand?

Not really...Me being me i was being confident saying how good it was going to be to her and it came back to haunt me

 

[brebabyyy]

I definitely get what you're saying. Thanks for sharing.

Does it make you feel more feminine, or overtaken by masculine power by being that submissive? I find that 90% of women want some form of that, but when you have to tell the guy it ruins the thrill of it.

My natural inclination is to be dominant, but we get mixed messages in society, so it's still easy to slip into nice guy mode. You can still show a woman you love her or can form a connection just as much by pounding her and owning her. The act of a woman giving herself to you like that is to the point that it's almost disrespectful to her gift of submitting to you to hold back and be timid about it.

Yes, I can agree to say it makes me feel more feminine. I think just letting him being in control and knowing I'm okay with basically anything. I honestly haven't came across too many men that's into BDSM and not really open to it. Many men want to get their nut and go to sleep lol or don't want to put that much work in. It feels good when you actually find someone that's on the same level with you sexually. I guess as I get older sex has became more mental than physical, if that makes sense.

 

[True Blue Moon]

Yes, I can agree to say it makes me feel more feminine. I think just letting him being in control and knowing I'm okay with basically anything. I honestly haven't came across too many men that's into BDSM and not really open to it. Many men want to get their nut and go to sleep lol or don't want to put that much work in. It feels good when you actually find someone that's on the same level with you sexually. I guess as I get older sex has became more mental than physical, if that makes sense.

Makes perfect sense. I've definitely been diving deeper into the mental aspect and feel like there's a lot missed out on focusing only on sticking it in and getting a nut.

 

[reserved_one]

Bro, bless you for being real with yourself. I say that because what you described is a problem I've had to work on overcoming and that 90% of dudes deal with in some form or fashion.

We're problem solvers and women are all about the experience. So we get caught up in how far to the left the last stroke was, how many to administer before changing positions and completing the mission until she orgasms. That's counterproductive to the way women's sexuality works, because while we're in our head, they're in their body and in the moment.

They want to feel like you're devouring them like a juicy ass piece of fruit with juice dripping everywhere and like you just can't get enough, while we get caught up in making sure that we're slicing the fruit up neatly and in even pieces.

If you couple that with pressure to live up to expectations, it's going to be work and not fun. The thing we have to overcome is to get to the point that it's an open ended experience of enjoying feelings and sensations and not a performance you're putting on for her.

When women say they don't feel it, it's not always or only some dikk size stuff. If you go into autopilot, their pussies will literally get numb. There has to be a good mixture of teasing and not hitting the spot she likes, pounding it relentlessly, taking it away to build up anticipation, etc.

But it's all in the mind.

If you're interested

Spoiler

Find a PDF of "Sex God Method" by Daniel Rose. Great book but he's charging like $100 or something stupid for it on Amazon. Most people just find a download. I can send you a copy if you need it.

Also check out "Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida. You can buy it, find a PDF and/or find the teaching sessions/audiobook on YouTube.

There's a lot to discuss and take in with those books, so if you end up checking them out, definitely put some stuff out on the discussion table in this thread. Because while you feel fukked up about it now, TRUST ME, nearly every dude is going through their version of this in this day and age. We've all kind of been left to fend for ourselves when it comes to sexuality so either we learn or get stuck in destructive loops.

Yeah breh send me some books...I would highly appreciate it.

 

[reserved_one]

@Silkk @Dmitri

Life changing literature

Spoiler

Sex God Method

Download Daniel Rose Sex God Method pdf

Way of the Superior Man

https://www.pdf-archive.com/2015/08/20/the-way-of-the-superior-man/the-way-of-the-superior-man.pdf

Audio teachings:

I invite anyone in this thread to take in this info with an open mind. Let's sharpen each other up and have a dialogue about the content.

Props

 

[Shadow King]

So a chick pulled up on me and gave me her number at the gas station...I didn't really find her attractive but I feel like that boldness may procure some relatively easy box

 

[International Playa]

So a chick pulled up on me and gave me her number at the gas station...I didn't really find her attractive but I feel like that boldness may procure some relatively easy box

What was unattractive about her? Call that female & get things popping.

 

[Shadow King]

What was unattractive about her? Call that female & get things popping.

Face wasn't all that (not the worst)...body wasn't all that, average size but not much curvature to it...a little hood

I'm going on a trip tomorrow and can't do shyt right now anyway so I got time to decide

 

[Silkk]

So a chick pulled up on me and gave me her number at the gas station...I didn't really find her attractive but I feel like that boldness may procure some relatively easy box

What was unattractive about her? Call that female & get things popping.

Gotta think about all possible outcomes here brehs. Everybody ain't clean & living right out here.

 

[TRUEST]

to the brehs out there dealing with unsatisfied partners. while its important to make sure ur woman gets her nut, u must understand that some women are simply insatiable. I've known women who want to go 3 rounds in a row. others can't stop getting wet by just the mere touch of a man who lifts wait. like y'all coulda just fuccked 2ice in a row and within half hour, she's playing with ur d1ck trying to get it hard again. while that kinda attention can make u start feeling urself, my advise to you, don't lose ur mind trying to please these women.

porn has ruined sex for not just men, but women too. they watch that sh1t too. and also, given the desperate nature of men, a lot of these women have engaged in nasty activities with no-good hood n1ggas that done ate their ass, allowed them to piss on them, and all types of crazy sh1t. so they've come to expect these ridiculous things from other n1ggas they do date.

i'll put it like this. I've had to just let go a couple of women in the last few months who just made me hate sex. i don't like to feel sex as a chore. no matter how much i like a woman. and it got to that point. so much mental tug of war that when time came to fucck, these women would be hella heated i couldn't stay hard for them. thats when i realized it aint worth it and said to hell with it.

just avoid porn, take ur vitamins and look for a compatible partner.

 

[全能の神]

Well....

You can convince yourself of a lot, then you feel it and it all goes away. Lets see how this next month goes