Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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African Peasant said:
I'm 29 and I want to settle down and even if I love her, I don't think she's the one. We have a lot of differences, from racial background to the way we see marriage. Even though we're enjoying ourselves right now, things will go south at some point. Knowing that, I started feeling guilty because she's 30 and she needs to be with someone who will marry her. So I let her go. She's hurt and I'm hurt. But i wanted to do it now rather than in a year. I can't waste her time. I feel guilty because I knew this before entering in the relationship with her. But that thing was so sudden. We used t hang out a lot and one day we caught feelings.
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As cheesy as it sounds "true love" conquers all of what your stressing over. However it doesn't mean that it would be a healthy or happy relationship. You probably made the best choice, the best advice I can give you is give yourself some time and its going to take time...probably a lot of it. Don't rush into anything else.


I also fine that people that break up with people they are happy with tend to usually have other reasons in the back of there heads that push them to do it. (Age difference, they feel they can do better, bored, or just want space)
 
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How long were you together?

Hate to break it to you, there is no such thing as the one. Everything you listed is just excuses, because there is no perfect relationship out there and you can date someone who shares your marriage views and is the same racial backgrounds but have so many other issues.


Anyways all I can say is cease all contact the worst thing you can do is stay in contact with her and give her any semblance of hope.




African Peasant said:
I'm 29 and I want to settle down and even if I love her, I don't think she's the one. We have a lot of differences, from racial background to the way we see marriage. Even though we're enjoying ourselves right now, things will go south at some point. Knowing that, I started feeling guilty because she's 30 and she needs to be with someone who will marry her. So I decided to let her go. She's hurt and I'm hurt. But I wanted to do it now rather than in a year. I can't waste her time. I feel guilty because I knew this before entering in the relationship with her and she's been hurt in her previous relationships. But that thing was so sudden. We used to hang out a lot and one day we caught feelings.
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Supreme Leader Reinscarf said:
How long were you together?

Hate to break it to you, there is no such thing as the one. Everything you listed is just excuses, because there is no perfect relationship out there and you can date someone who shares your marriage views and is the same racial backgrounds but have so many other issues.


Anyways all I can say is cease all contact the worst thing you can do is stay in contact with her and give her any semblance of hope.
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We've been together a few months.

I'm not looking for the "one", but the things I listed are not excuses, they are the reasons I'm breaking up. I'm honest with myself. Some people ara able to go beyond those things, I can't. I don't want to resent her in the future.

I really lover her. But I asked myself if I was ready to marry her : the answer was no. Marrying her will lead to me a life I don't want to have; that's the problem with marriage: its implications goes beyond the two lovers. For instance, I don't think I will be able to go back living in my country if i stay with her.

But thanks for the advice. I'll try to cease all contact with her.
 
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Oh ah a few months she'll get over it thought it was years or something

And my bad breh should have worded it better.

The best thing I can say again is cease all contact, try and go out wallowing inside will just eat you up, put away photos etc. Remove her from social media.


Don't check on how she's doing don't fish for ant information.

You mentioned you were friends before so maybe one day you can again.

Just chalk it up as a experience and at least now you know exactly what you want.

Again I apologize for my poor choice of words



African Peasant said:
We've been together a few months.

I'm not looking for the "one", but the things I listed are not excuses, they are the reasons I'm breaking up. I'm honest with myself. Some people ara able to go beyond those things, I can't. I don't want to resent her in the future.

I really lover her. But I asked myself if I was ready to marry her : the answer was no. Marrying her will lead to me a life I don't want to have; that's the problem with marriage: its implications goes beyond the two lovers. For instance, I don't think I will be able to go back living in my country if i stay with her.

But thanks for the advice. I'll try to cease all contact with her.
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Supreme Leader Reinscarf said:
Oh ah a few months she'll get over it thought it was years or something

And my bad breh should have worded it better.

The best thing I can say again is cease all contact, try and go out wallowing inside will just eat you up, put away photos etc. Remove her from social media.


Don't check on how she's doing don't fish for ant information.

You mentioned you were friends before so maybe one day you can again.

Just chalk it up as a experience and at least now you know exactly what you want.

Again I apologize for my poor choice of words
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Nah, fam.

I'm really hurting right now, so I 'm not rally diplomatic sometimes. My bad.
 
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It'll fade, I had a broken engagement just two months ago and I'm fine, yeah it hurts early on but just gotta push forward don't look back stay busy and every day gets much easier then you'll reach a point when your fine again

African Peasant said:
Nah, fam.

I'm really hurting right now, so I 'm not rally diplomatic sometimes. My bad.
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Supreme Leader Reinscarf said:
breh its wonderful, the people are so friendly, its so safe, people have literally nothing and are so happy. Come back to the west and people complain over the most worthless crap

cuba is wonderful
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im trying to go to Cuba this january but i read that you cant go just as a tourist , how were you able to get in? on the traveling website, it says you have to fall under one of 12 groups.
 
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