Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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We're closer than two boogers in a nose. We're very transparent with each other, but at this point I don't think me and the secretary are so close that I should discuss it with her before anything happens. I'm trying to think ahead and be proactive and figure this out myself.
You share that wife
 

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Me and the secretary at my job have a huge amount of chemistry. She's witty, got a very sharp tongue, cute face, and just my type of body. We talk shyt to each other all day, and it's veering into the realm of sexual innuendos getting thrown around quite often. I'm happily married though, and while I'm ok being strong at this point, long term, it's looking like this is going to be a very tough fight. On a side note, my wife is great, we're a solid team, but she's not exactly a giver when it comes to intimacy. She was a cheater in all her previous relationships and she's told me that she wouldn't hold it against me if i ever stepped out, as she just wants me to be happy. I'm sure in reality this probably wouldn't hold true, and plus it's just some p*ssy and I'd like to look back when I'm old and be able to tell our daughter that neither of us had ever stepped out on one or the other. Any brehs ever been in this situation and have some pointers? I don't think simply ignoring her will be a viable option, I've been great at changing the subject when it goes to far, but i can't lie, i really want to smash. She also has a bf, btw.

Nah, she's straight and there's no denying that my daughter is mine lol


Breh cheated in all her relationships and doesn't blame u getting p*ssy on the side breh

:ufdup: ain't no way in hell u can tell me with a straight face that u trust her then again u did marry her
I ain't trying to be an a$$hole u know what I'm gonna call it like I see it
U got a serious problem with her and yourself

History of cheating and letting u smash on side is not a healthy relationship at all
And breh was right don't matter what u say or think or cuz u say ur close WOMEN ARE BETTER CHEATERS AND LIARS THAN MEN
Get a dna test if ur so sure then ain't nothing to worry about is there
But u owe it yourself to know for sure it's yours with her history

U can't come in her preach well she diff with me if u decide to go that route when she said i don't blame u getting p*ssy on side
That's a cop out of epic proportions for her to do her thing

As far as ur co worker goes it's normal to flirt and talk shyt and of course wanna smash something else
But if u can't get ur shyt under control and even if ur wife wasn't the way u said she was u be better off leaving her cuz means u rather smash new ass then ur own wife if u can't control urself

Like I said it's normal see a female be like I smash that or flirt with a co worker but if u have no self control y bother be in any relationship imo

Brehs.

Cold Approaching or Wait for women to choose up on you?

U could do both
But I never let a woman choose me and wait for it too happen if she wanna get at me she better bring her ass over here and holler at me
Now at same time if she gives me sign and i know I will go over and holler at her
Even females I had eye contact with i do cold approach
It helps build up confidence and talk game to where u can get so good at it it's 2nd nature and females will respond very positively often when u do it
Worse she gonna say is no
 

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Breh cheated in all her relationships and doesn't blame u getting p*ssy on the side breh

:ufdup: ain't no way in hell u can tell me with a straight face that u trust her then again u did marry her
I ain't trying to be an a$$hole u know what I'm gonna call it like I see it
U got a serious problem with her and yourself

History of cheating and letting u smash on side is not a healthy relationship at all
And breh was right don't matter what u say or think or cuz u say ur close WOMEN ARE BETTER CHEATERS AND LIARS THAN MEN
Get a dna test if ur so sure then ain't nothing to worry about is there
But u owe it yourself to know for sure it's yours with her history

U can't come in her preach well she diff with me if u decide to go that route when she said i don't blame u getting p*ssy on side
That's a cop out of epic proportions for her to do her thing

As far as ur co worker goes it's normal to flirt and talk shyt and of course wanna smash something else
But if u can't get ur shyt under control and even if ur wife wasn't the way u said she was u be better off leaving her cuz means u rather smash new ass then ur own wife if u can't control urself

Like I said it's normal see a female be like I smash that or flirt with a co worker but if u have no self control y bother be in any relationship imo

My daughter is obviously mixed with Chinese and my wife has only been with black dudes in the past. I also know that she hasn't cheated since we've been together, but i know that as always, it could always happen in the future. We're always in communication and both honest to a fault people. I have plenty of self control, but in the long term if i end up being at this job for a number of years, I'm just looking for ways to keep the flirting contained to friendly banter, so that it doesn't gradually escalate into something more. She doesn't encourage me to cheat either, it would definitely become a burden on our relationship. She's just realistic about the possibility since she's been there before.
 

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I haven't really been contacting my ex but she has been contacting me.

I did contact her during my father's death since she knew my family well and she was very sweet and supportive for the most part. After that event was over she made some residual remarks about her being my "emotional punching bag" for the past few years and how I'm going to be a "better man for someone else".

She contacted me recently asking how are things and she told me that she's better than she's been in a long time. I applauded her for that. She leaves breadcrumb texts though to get to talk to me.

She knows I recently lost my job, therefore job hunting, and lost my father. She asks me how the job thing is but I slightly question the sincerity. At times she tells me how smart I am, but I know she's pissed about our relationship and she still tries to frame things as though I was the "bad" one in the relationship when reality we were both immature and didn't do things right. She is the QUEEN Of Emotional Blackmail :francis:

I truthfully do care for her so I'm not going to retort to anything toxic now. I dunno why the fcck I'm typing this out either LOL. I've been consistently been meeting better looking and more compatible women the past few months since she's been out of my life, but she knows how to pull my emotional strings.
 

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I haven't really been contacting my ex but she has been contacting me.

I did contact her during my father's death since she knew my family well and she was very sweet and supportive for the most part. After that event was over she made some residual remarks about her being my "emotional punching bag" for the past few years and how I'm going to be a "better man for someone else".

She contacted me recently asking how are things and she told me that she's better than she's been in a long time. I applauded her for that. She leaves breadcrumb texts though to get to talk to me.

She knows I recently lost my job, therefore job hunting, and lost my father. She asks me how the job thing is but I slightly question the sincerity. At times she tells me how smart I am, but I know she's pissed about our relationship and she still tries to frame things as though I was the "bad" one in the relationship when reality we were both immature and didn't do things right. She is the QUEEN Of Emotional Blackmail :francis:

I truthfully do care for her so I'm not going to retort to anything toxic now. I dunno why the fcck I'm typing this out either LOL. I've been consistently been meeting better looking and more compatible women the past few months since she's been out of my life, but she knows how to pull my emotional strings.

Hard to heal when you're still regularly talking to your ex breh. Especially when you're going through one of the most difficult emotional times in your life.

You might be driving yourself toward more pain.
 

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Hard to heal when you're still regularly talking to your ex breh. Especially when you're going through one of the most difficult emotional times in your life.

You might be driving yourself toward more pain.

You're right. Funny enough she was the one that took everything harsh during our break up. We were even on and off for a while but there were small things that made her angry and of course she pointed it out.

Her being a bit indifferent towards me hurts me to be honest. I don't know why. Emotions are weird. The girl I'm seeing said I should take it slow anyway.
 

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My daughter is obviously mixed with Chinese and my wife has only been with black dudes in the past. I also know that she hasn't cheated since we've been together, but i know that as always, it could always happen in the future. We're always in communication and both honest to a fault people. I have plenty of self control, but in the long term if i end up being at this job for a number of years, I'm just looking for ways to keep the flirting contained to friendly banter, so that it doesn't gradually escalate into something more. She doesn't encourage me to cheat either, it would definitely become a burden on our relationship. She's just realistic about the possibility since she's been there before.
:mjlol:
 

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Is it worth it dating a younger women. Im talking three years younger :jbhmm: seen this freshman in campus about to be led astray by this asian degenrate but she was giving me the eye. Might have to swoop in and save her before its too late:mjlol:
 
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Is it worth it dating a young women. Im talking three years younger :jbhmm: seen this freshman in campus about to be led astray by this asian degenrate but she was giving me the eye. Might have to swoop in and save her before its too late:mjlol:
3 years isn't much of an age gap, I don't see the problem.
Our relationship is great, my wife really is a good woman, it's just kind of fukked up when the secretary at my job has resorted to calling me "meatstick" and saying that she'd like to collard my greens :yeshrug::russ:
Does the secretary know you're married? A lot of women will purposely flirt with married men just to see if they'll jump for it. A lot of them get off on the idea of taking another women's man just like a lot of men do in reverse.

But anyways, if you're trying to cheat then, there's nothing more to really to say. You're wife gave you a subtle "ok", there's a chick right there at work seemingly throwing it at you... just connect the dots.

But, if you're trying to stay loyal, just ignore her. Secretary will just find a new guy at work to flirt with and you'll still have a wife to come home to... win/ win in either situation... I guess :patrice:
 

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