Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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It's weird how women always know when you know longer care and are moving on that's when they pop back up

Man I'm having a similar epiphany now.

Was dating the best looking girl in the world earlier this year.

It fizzled out and I was down about it for the past few months.

I was contemplating making my way back into her life but then I met another (much much much less attractive) girl but she has depth and we vibe on a whole different level.

It was actually weird cause I was out with the new chick on Sunday and out of nowhere the old chick called me while we were at dinner. This was after having no contact for the last 5 months. And for the longest time I've been going over scenarios in my head of what I would say / how I would act etc... if I ever crossed paths with the old chick again. But when she called, I just sent it to voicemail. Kinda surprised how apathetic I felt to it, tbh because I was damn near obsessed with this chick for a couple years.

Not saying I wouldn't have liked to have ended up with her, but as you said, I'm just glad that it doesn't hurt anymore.
 

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The convos are cool when we get together, the problem is actually getting together. The last time we went out was back in June. Ever since than, I've tried a few times to try and set something up, but she's always either been busy or something comes up where we have to reschedule. In between all of that, she never really hits me up, I'm the one always reaching out.

Let's me feel like she ain't all that interested, so it's no point in pursuing and wasting anymore time. I'm sure she won't hit me before Thursday, so Ima cancel her entirely on that day.
Have you even smashed yet?
 
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Brehs girl I'm seeing stalked the type of pics I liked on Instagram and it was naked girls and porn stars

Now she won't talk to me and said she's done with me.

I fukked up. What do i do ?
 

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Should I dead this or still try and f*ck..??



This female at work.. I've been working on it for about a month...


I took her out on a first date maybe 3 weeks ago & it went really good (didn't crack or anything but it was cool)



So this is where shyt got goofy....



We had a date setup for last Friday after work (she lives 40 mins away so she was just gonna bring a second pair of clothes) we were just gonna kick it n do whatever ..



She tells me she forgot her change of clothes & would rather do it Saturday ....


Now I had a first time tinder date setup but figured date two with this chick would be better so I cancelled on my Saturday and made the co worker date for that date...



So Saturday rolls around and I text her


  • Me-what time you free tonight
  • Her- Later
  • Me- okay later when
  • Her- after 9
  • couple text about what we might do

Then I text her around 7pm


  • Me- are you free at 9 or after 9..?




I didn't get a whole reply until Sunday at 9:30pm



Now tell me if I handled it right or wrong



HER- Hey


Me- yeah


Her- nvm have a good night


Me- right you were the one on bs the other night but you got the attitude


Her- okay


Me- okay, lose my f*ckin number then


Her- okay


Me
 
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Should I dead this or still try and f*ck..??



This female at work.. I've been working on it for about a month...


I took her out on a first date maybe 3 weeks ago & it went really good (didn't crack or anything but it was cool)



So this is where shyt got goofy....



We had a date setup for last Friday after work (she lives 40 mins away so she was just gonna bring a second pair of clothes) we were just gonna kick it n do whatever ..



She tells me she forgot her change of clothes & would rather do it Saturday ....


Now I had a first time tinder date setup but figured date two with this chick would be better so I cancelled on my Saturday and made the co worker date for that date...



So Saturday rolls around and I text her


  • Me-what time you free tonight
  • Her- Later
  • Me- okay later when
  • Her- after 9
  • couple text about what we might do
Then I text her around 7pm


  • Me- are you free at 9 or after 9..?




I didn't get a whole reply until Sunday at 9:30pm



Now tell me if I handled it right or wrong



HER- Hey


Me- yeah


Her- nvm have a good night


Me- right you were the one on bs the other night but you got the attitude


Her- okay


Me- okay, lose my f*ckin number then


Her- okay


Me

She's not interested. Move on and she gave you the "Ok treatment
 

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Had a shorty text me some long message this morning, telling me that I'm weak. She's mad that I cut her off because of her bad attitude and said that I go to the gym every day but I'm too weak to handle real life problems :russ: Yo the mental gymnastics some of these women engage in when you leave them alone is astounding. I might post it in here later for you fellas but right now... I'm headed to the gym :jawalrus: Stay up gentlemen.
Seriously.

:mjlol:
 

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True... females don't flake on men they're interested in...

It's just weird she'd leave lil notes on my car

Be trying to FaceTime me all the time...

Didn't really add up

But I feel you

it's funny, but a lot of times it might work like this: you want them = they're iffy and playing games. you don't want them = they want you. the easiest thing is not to overthink it, or wonder too hard. she probably will never tell you the reason she was being like that anyways. just go by the rules, your rules. if she doesn't show, then you don't sweat it and you move on. don't dwell on the past so much as you are preparing for the future and the next one to come along. this game is all about winning or learning how to deal with your losses. so learn and don't get stuck on the details or wondering.

you're not gonna win a prize knowing anyways.
 

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Should I dead this or still try and f*ck..??



This female at work.. I've been working on it for about a month...


I took her out on a first date maybe 3 weeks ago & it went really good (didn't crack or anything but it was cool)



So this is where shyt got goofy....



We had a date setup for last Friday after work (she lives 40 mins away so she was just gonna bring a second pair of clothes) we were just gonna kick it n do whatever ..



She tells me she forgot her change of clothes & would rather do it Saturday ....


Now I had a first time tinder date setup but figured date two with this chick would be better so I cancelled on my Saturday and made the co worker date for that date...



So Saturday rolls around and I text her


  • Me-what time you free tonight
  • Her- Later
  • Me- okay later when
  • Her- after 9
  • couple text about what we might do
Then I text her around 7pm


  • Me- are you free at 9 or after 9..?




I didn't get a whole reply until Sunday at 9:30pm



Now tell me if I handled it right or wrong



HER- Hey


Me- yeah


Her- nvm have a good night


Me- right you were the one on bs the other night but you got the attitude


Her- okay


Me- okay, lose my f*ckin number then


Her- okay


Me


Next time dont curse her out on text, just be indifferent. You dont wanna show her that you are angry, pisses off. Dont give her that pleasure. Send an ok, k etc & keep it moving.

Remember these females screenshot text messages & send them out to many people to clown you.

If you have to curse a female out do it on platforms she cant really keep receipts, snapchat/ phone calls......etc
 

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Next time dont curse her out on text, just be indifferent. You dont wanna show her that you are angry, pisses off. Dont give her that pleasure. Send an ok, k etc & keep it moving.

Remember these females screenshot text messages & send them out to many people to clown you.

If you have to curse a female out do it on platforms she cant really keep receipts, snapchat/ phone calls......etc
Yess.always keep it simple on a text.women are petty & messy.
 

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HER- Hey
Me- yeah
Her- nvm have a good night
Me- right you were the one on bs the other night but you got the attitude
Her- okay
Me- okay, lose my f*ckin number then
Her- okay
Me

u handled it extremely bad. lol. dude, many chicks will do this to you, in favor of someone else who they think is better than u. when that person fuccks them over or does something that turns them off, they'll come back to you, as long as u handle things with no emotions attached. be the mountain that never gets moved by any of mother nature's temper tantrums...i.e. hurricanes, floods, tornadoes etc.

your text should have gone something like this:

her: hey
you: yo! (theres no emotion here, if anything, it shows ur excited to hear from her on some u forgot she exists type sh1t and wasnt even thinking about her till right now)
her: how u doing? (she gon try to act like she didnt just blow u off the day before)
you: im relaxed :smile: just getting back in the house. how u doing sweetness? (again, shes probably thinking u forgot about her blowing u off - which is a relief for her, but lil does she know....)
her: im good. blah blah what did u do?
you: i was just out and about. bout to hit up netflix and see whats good. will probably pass out
her: oh ok
you: *you say nothing* shut the fucck up. dont say a word.

days may go by but surely, she'll hit u up. again on some

her: hey
you: yo yo! whats good babe
her: im ok.
you: what u doing?
her: blah blah at work, at a friend, blah blah
you: yoo, when u get done with all that, grab a bottle of wine and come over, let's have dinner at my place.
her: *anything she says besides a yes , should be ignored! only respond back if she says something along the lines of "what time", and "what type of wine".

showing anger or frustration to chicks u havent fuccked yet is a great way to chase them away.

what i just typed here may be considered game, or some may tell u to dead things asap. think of it as practice. this teaches you how to control your emotions, while you implement a strategy.
 
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