Like I said earlier, I'm not trying to fukk again, I'm just trying to find a way to keep my distance without being an a$$hole. As to the reason we stopped seeing each other:
We hadn't been seeing each other that long, maybe a month. So we go out to this concert one night, and we are on our way to grab a couple drinks afterwards, and we bump into her ex. So they chat for a minute or two, and she asks if it's cool if he comes for a drink. I'm not really feeling the situation for obvious reasons, but I figure fukk it - what harm can one drink do? Well, one drink turns into two drinks, which turns into three, and I start getting heated. So eventually I say "fukk this, I'm gonna let you two enjoy your evening" and bounce. We talked the next day, argued about it & shyt, the usual. Eventually we patched things up, but it hasn't really been on the romantic tip since.
I know, but how would it look just driving past her on my way home and not even offering her a ride, when I had been doing so since before we were even seeing each other? It would look like I'm salty about things, which I'm not. And I don't really care about what her friends at work think, I'm not trying to get at them anyway. Like I said, all I want to do is find a way to maintain some distance so I can get my head straight without hurting her feelings.
I know, it's pretty much a hopeless situation
damn dude. damn, damn damn. this is where it pays to be selfish and a azzhole. u had every right in the world, every gadamn right in the world, to have cut that conversation short when her and her ex started talking at the concert. that is humiliation to the nth degree. and she had the nerve to ask u if he can come for drinks??? oh hell no.
after telling this story, u now have a right to BE an azzhole and refuse to give her a ride. her ex can pick her up now. yes dude, get ur dignity and BE the azzhole!!!
and also, how am i able to speak on this? i had a similar situation. girl i was dating a few years ago. i liked her a lot. but she was batsh1t crazy and was the type to sh1t test a man all the time. theres this gay dude at her job who, at first, i didnt have a problem with, but he always seems to be an issue, wanting to spend time with her, and subsequently taking time away from us. i let a lot of sh1t slide here.
one time, on a friday night, me and this girl had plans to go to the movies. but on my way from work to pick her up, she texts me her and this gay dude are going to a bar. his boyfriend is going to meet us there. lets meet at the bar. now, im furious. but im like fucck it. i go to the bar. she meets me outside, happy. we kiss. and we go inside. and we sit. the whole time, i felt like a third wheel while her and this dude chatted. the boyfriend never showed up. it was embarrassing. it was one of those situations where, when other people are talking together and ur left out of the conversation, and u feel stupid, so u start to play with ur phone. yeah, it was that type of embarrassment. but lucky for me, there was this chick sitting next to me, alone. so i turned to her and just started talking to her.
the girl im dating sees this and i can see shes getting angry. but i ignore her and kept talking to the girl. soon, the gay dude goes to the restroom, so its just my girl to my far left and the other girl to my immediate right. so now, my girl finds herself in the embarrassing situation i was in. now shes playing with her phone cause i sure as hell aint talking to her now. im chatting up the girl. long story short, the night ended very bad. i told her to get in my car and lets go back to her place so i can get my sh1t and bounce. on the drive to her place, she tried to have a conversation explaining herself but i was too furious and was just screaming at her the whole time. i go in her house, grab my sh1t and bounced. i never intended to call her again.
but 2 days later, she calls me up, curses me out and one thing led to another and we dated again for several months after that. months that were pure misery.
i say all this to tell u n1ggas out there, whenever a chick does anything, and when i say anything, i mean absolutely ANYTHING that does not sit right with YOU, u have every right in the world to go bat sh1t crazy on her. either dump her right then and there, or give her a massively stern talking to that will instill the fear of god in her so she never sh1t tests u again. if u reprimand a girl in the most commanding tone u can muster, she'll either fall in line or will fall outta line and will never speak to you again (which is ultimately a good thing, trust me). there's no middle ground.
in ur case, take this as a lesson. and never, EVER, allow a chick to disrespect u like that again. how can u feel comfortable as a man letting another man who use to fucck ur girl, keep talking to her in front of u. nah, nah HELL FUCCKING NO!
you givin her too much energy
so just be honest
