Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[TRUEST]

I'm the same way....I'm very vindictive when it comes to females....


Same with me. The times I got rejected most of the time I thought it was some sort of indictment against me and my character or some shyt....It got to a point where I didn't even like talking to females, because I always had it in my head they'll be on some negative, funny-style shyt....


Kind of why it's probably better to maintain a cold attitude towards women...they ain't giving a damn about you or your feelings at all.....they do bullshyt and shrug it off like they dropped a gum wrapper on the sidewalk....


Been doing a lot thinking, I believe that my main issue is that I just never really interacted with females as much as others throughout life. Females left a bad taste in my mouth when I was young, and it didn't improve much moving on. it was sort of like with everyone encounter/situation, my motivation would grow thinner and thinner....

Fast forward to today, while most men couldn't possibly keep count how many women they've actually APPROACHED, I can probably count on both my fingers (and maybe toes) how many I have. I don't know who all may believe in the zodiac and that kind of shyt, but I'm a Scorpio, so my libido is very high; I just have never really been able to do much about it. Thing is, due to being without the touch of a female so long, my soul has been through constant strain. I think it's starting to come to a head, so I need to get off this Debbie Downer shyt and do something....It has gone from an ego think to a mental health thing now....

Unfortunately this is a hell of a pickle....I'm about to be 34, with minimal experience in every area when it comes to women....talk about playing "catch-up"....

Try being friends with females first. Train yourself not to expect sex from the friendship. Before u know it ull have a lot of female friends.

How do u keep these female friends. Invite them out to bars, ur treat. Don’t be bitter or stingy here. If a chick u have taken out for drinks a few times never offers to treat u once, stop inviting her.

Try to go to the same few bars on different days with different women.

Remember. Someone is always watching you.

A few women will take interest in u and the rapport u have with the females ur seen with. Sooner or later most of these women will find a way to be around u to make it clear they wanna be spoken to.

Hopefully, u can speak properly. As long as ur not super short and super ugly, your life will change if u folllow this advice. Good luck. And I hope ladyluck smiles at you.

 

[International Playa]

I'm the same way....I'm very vindictive when it comes to females....


Same with me. The times I got rejected most of the time I thought it was some sort of indictment against me and my character or some shyt....It got to a point where I didn't even like talking to females, because I always had it in my head they'll be on some negative, funny-style shyt....


Kind of why it's probably better to maintain a cold attitude towards women...they ain't giving a damn about you or your feelings at all.....they do bullshyt and shrug it off like they dropped a gum wrapper on the sidewalk....


Been doing a lot thinking, I believe that my main issue is that I just never really interacted with females as much as others throughout life. Females left a bad taste in my mouth when I was young, and it didn't improve much moving on. it was sort of like with everyone encounter/situation, my motivation would grow thinner and thinner....

Fast forward to today, while most men couldn't possibly keep count how many women they've actually APPROACHED, I can probably count on both my fingers (and maybe toes) how many I have. I don't know who all may believe in the zodiac and that kind of shyt, but I'm a Scorpio, so my libido is very high; I just have never really been able to do much about it. Thing is, due to being without the touch of a female so long, my soul has been through constant strain. I think it's starting to come to a head, so I need to get off this Debbie Downer shyt and do something....It has gone from an ego think to a mental health thing now....

Unfortunately this is a hell of a pickle....I'm about to be 34, with minimal experience in every area when it comes to women....talk about playing "catch-up"....

Breh I was like you before, I understand where you coming from.

I became friends with dudes who were good with women. It helped me out because I would see them approach females everyday in front of my eyes & I would learn

Try lowering your standards too, start off with women you dont find attractive, you will find it easier to talk to them. Practice your conversation/sex game on them, once you get better it will be easier getting with women you really like.

Remember to dress well, best haircut, facial hair & make sure you are in shape. Looking on point gives you confidence as well. You can never have enough confidence.

Just like @TRUEST said have female friends, they will set you up with other females. My homegirl set me up with my current FWB,

 

[Data-Hawk]

How do you guys not hold grudges in dating?

I'm still annoyed that I wasted over two months with one girl that wasn't into me. She wasted my time and in hindsight annoying to be around.

There's other women that I'm more into I can find. At 34 I can still pull younger women.

But my ego is still annoyed with this last chick..help me find inner peace brehs

Just have to learn how to bush them quicker lol.. I’m talking to an Asian female now and last night she told me how her ex husband used to abuse her, she’s now in court fighting for custody of her son, she works 2 low end jobs( not that I hold that against ppl )... Blah blah.. absolutely nothing good could come from this...She’s going to do nothing but bring me down w/ her stress. She’s nice , but it’s just not worth it. Lol

 

[J.E.T.S]

Dont hit up a chick that only talks to or text you when you intiate it. Smh

 

[Dwight Howard]

I think that only works if I supplied her with any of it which is indeed taking advantage of. If she did it herself then the law will not reward her for regretting sex cause then she needs to regret doing drugs/getting drunk.

Show me a case where a chick got messed up on her own and then met a random person who she had a one night stand with who then got in trouble for rape. Famous people don't count because they are always attacked for obvious reasons.

 

[CookisaCac]

Dont hit up a chick that only talks to or text you when you intiate it. Smh

Why even have her number?

 

[CookisaCac]

So im able to approach women in public and strike a conversation , most of the time we exchange numbers.
The problem im having tho is that they never respond to my text messages. I dont think its because they
find me ugly since they would have shot me down during the conversation

Some girls are too nice to turn dudes down in person. If they liked you they would respond.

 

[Ohene]

To all my dudes 30 years old and below I think we have to adjust our expectations when dealing with women of the same kind. I've come to learn and accept that most women nowadays are just not interested in building with somebody from the ground up or dating traditionally. Maybe its just in Toronto, but you'll be hard pressed to find a woman with the qualities that any man of respect would want in his woman. If you have graduated from university/college and havent built some sort of solid relationship with a girl good luck. Even the ones that you think do/might have the qualities you look for in a woman are often so jaded or delusional when it comes to men and their expectations that it is just too hard get anywhere with them. Getting your foot in the door is one thing...hell...even fukking them is one thing (its easy as hell). But to build a steady, fruitful, long lasting relationship...the kind that takes effort and patience? It is damn near impossible. And it doesnt matter how good of a catch you think you are either. It dont matter how educated, good looking/fit, funny, gentlemanly you are. It don't matter what job you got. It dont matter what you drive. It dont matter how much bread you got. It dont matter where you live. Between the jadedness, delusion and overall mentality that the average girl has nowadays its just very difficult.


But hey...maybe its me

 

[Ohene]

Some girls are too nice to turn dudes down in person. If they liked you they would respond.

too nice? too cowardly is the right word

the nice thing to do would be to save the dudes time and let him down easy...perhaps even lie and say you have a man to save his ego. but all giving the number does is get an [inexperienced] dude's hopes up lol. and the let down afterwards hurts more than a straight up rejection would

 

[Pazzy]

 

[Ohene]

You gotta call them...and even then it's a toss up..but texting not the answer...

Word. These shorties have a million dudes texting them. We gotta stand out.

Case and point: Last night, I was chillin’ with this joint I pulled a few weeks ago. Bad little joint with a ridiculous ass. She went to show me some pictures on her phone and I peeped her text message notifications. She had 52 unread texts! That right there let me know exactly the kind of woman I was dealing with. We need to pay attention to what these women are telling us. Not overtly, but covertly. All these dudes sitting by waiting on a text when I just call her up like “I’m off early tonight, let’s link up.” I don’t even hit her up when I’m working or have shyt to do. She tried to hit me with the “you don’t really like me” bs. Nah shorty I’m doing EXACTLY what I need to do.

lol it makes no difference man. maybe yall are older heads but more times a shorty you just meet is either gonna ignore all calls from unsaved numbers or will find it weird that you called. not only have i experienced it but i've had girls tell me this

like homie said...if a girl is interested she will respond.

 

[Mike809]

Some girls are too nice to turn dudes down in person. If they liked you they would respond.

The harshest rejection ive gotten so far , was one girl telling me she has a boyfriend after talking for like 10 minutes. still got her instagram , dm her but she only responded once.
Most of the time i get some kind of contact info , but it never leads to anything

 

[Mastamimd]

I got a gang of long distance interests and nothing anywhere near me. It's hilarious because I almost feel as if I'm just mad self-conscious about going after the girls in the city. Ones out of town are fly, maybe it's just the fact that I'm a stubborn idiot that can't break a lot of things that nag the fukk out of me. I don't know for real. I'm 35 years old. Fam says get into a relationship. I'm like I want to date like a madman. I also was into something with one girl long distance but she's got kids. Nothing against the little ones but I don't see her as anything too much anymore. I don't know, got to get out of my head on a lot of this shyt.

 

[eufemism]

I go out with this chick from work twice thinking she's into me



We make out


Today we end up going to the same party and she gives her number out to a guy she just met after 5 minutes of convo right in front of me



Meanwhile she's telling me we can't fukk because we work together




I'm an idiot brehs. I keep taking these L' s. The pain in my soul is real brehs



I'm treating these hoes like shyt. Idgaf I'm cutting them off if they're flaky even once

 

[ViShawn]

It's either fukk yes or no with these girls. No in between.