i agree with this one. This one nerd chick I posted about here seems to be withdrawing from me. I saw her yesterday and didnt touch her at all, soon after she wanted to leave and I started regretting not doing anything
. I am not used to hitting on nerdy women cause they soft spoken and confuse me. Im used to rachet agressive hoe who I tongue down with the quickness because I can read their body language more easily
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In my very humble opinion breh...
The best way to touch nerdy low-key chicks is usually by way of identifying and questioning the little things they've got that are unique to them, physically.
For instance easiest chicks to touch are tattooed/pierced chicks.
1st step - Get within touching range, it has to be a range in which your motion to touch isn't too awkward. Like an arms distance. This is also why you must always be wary of communicating at a distance with chicks you're interested in.
2nd step - Compliment the tattoo, or the nails, or the hair,
3rd step - As you're performing step two, here's the trick for step three:
1. With ratchet chicks your facial expression must show defiance, arrogance, 'idgaf' and just straight up finesse features. You gotta look them in the eye as you make a move.
2. With shy/soft-spoken/nerdy chicks your facial expression must show curiosity and like you're only paying attention to the feature you're complimenting AS your hand moves to inspect that specific body part. Don't look at them in the eyes as you make a move!
And as you're touching them you are asking reasonable and mildly-deep questions: "Is that an X tattoo? Damn this looks dope, first time I see one up close! It honestly looks a lot cuter/badass in person (this is where you look into her eyes)" "Looking at your hair, I thought those were highlights at first, but that's your real natural hair isn't it? It even feels nice. (this is where you look into her eyes)" "Do you always paint your nails with such details? I'm not much into nails but I can tell you enjoy having perfectly manicured hands and honestly that's kind of attractive (this is where you look into her eyes)".
With those types of chicks you need to use curiosity to get away with touching them, because it's the best way to disarm their thoughts about you just wanting to cross boundaries and touch their bodies. Whereas hood chicks want a dude who isn't afraid to cross boundaries.
4th step - As you're touching, be mindful that your touch is soft, gentle and that you touch a wide area of that body part. But DO NOT let your hand linger for too long. In fact if you can touch, let go and then touch again, that would be optimal. 10 seconds for a first touch is TOO MUCH! Stick to 5 seconds and let go, but stay close (hopefully you're smelling great so she definitely won't mind).
5th step - If you feel like it's getting uncomfortable give her distance. Find interest in something else, or go to the bathroom, or pretend that you just noticed the time and you gotta take her somewhere else.
Next time you touch her, compliment something physical (girls with dimples I usually touch the dimples and say "shyt, I really am a sucker for these." as I shake my head and do a little chuckle).
ALL OF THE ABOVE STEPS MUST BE PERFORMED AT A SECLUDED SPOT, OR A SPOT WHERE PEOPLE AREN'T ALL LOOKING AT YOU BOTH. ESPECIALLY STEPS 4 AND 5. STEPS 1 TO 3 CAN BE DONE IN PUBLIC, BUT YOU GOTTA FLOW AS NATURAL AS POSSIBLE.
It stands to be said that to follow this approach you already gotta present yourself as the kind of guy that pays attention to detail. Mentioning little things that you notice throughout the date so that when you finally get to touching them in their heads you're just being "attention to detail" guy.
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There's of course a small chance that as you execute step 2 and 3 the other side either flinches away or straight up asks you what you're doing! I say small because if she accepted the date then even at a subconscious level she wants to get touched. To feel the heat of your skin against her.
In these cases you don't jerk your hand back, you freeze it. Mention that you wanted to see the spot you were reaching for and ask her "can I?" all in once sentence. With the most natural look you can muster, as if it makes perfect sense that you would do that.
She now has two choices:
1. She let's you do it.
2. She says something along the lines of "I'd rather you don't".
If the second happens then you finally pull your hand back and apologize like this:
"Oh I'm sorry/my bad, my attention to boundaries takes the back seat when I get overly curious.
" (use the "I'm so silly" laugh)or...
"Oh I'm sorry/my bad, I'm honestly kind of bad with boundaries with people I'm actually interested in.
" (use the "I'm so silly" laugh)AND FINALLY START THINKING OF WAYS TO EXIT THIS BULLshyt ASS DATE.
TL;DR: Curiosity and just being natural about it is the key to touching non-ratchet chicks.
Edit: Spelling!!
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with my woman too but extra friendly to me. 
