LeVraiPapi
Redemption is Coming
Very true.Having a family is a dream killer. Yes, I said it. As a man, you should always attempt to accomplish your personal dreams and individual goals before settling down, getting married and having a family. Because there's a very good chance that if you don't, then you never will. Some of yall have relationships as your goal. Nah, having a relationship as a goal should come well after you obtain a majority of your individual goals. Think about the things you wanna do. You wanna be a surgeon, lawyer, athlete, entertainer, politician, fashion designer, IT guru, wall street guy, whatever. These things require great focus, discipline and dedication. To be the best in anything you do requires this. Man, having a family will force you to make decisions that will compromise these things. Don't let people lie to you and tell you that you can balance them all, and that it's easier with a good woman by your side. No the heck it is not. It is easier when you have no one to be responsible for. You can take more risks to be successful because the only person that's impacted by your failures are you. I hear all the time people saying that they can't do the things they really want to do because they have a family to take care of. Sure, a woman can motivate you, but shyt gonna get real when your personal goals have consequences that can affect your family. Imagine your wife being ok with you quitting your stable job to start your music career. Not happening. Also, once you have family your goals change. Your goals now become "family" goals. You and your wife now have a joint agenda which is going to become a priority over any individual shyt you had going on. But this shouldn't be a problem if you've achieved your individual goals. That's next level goals right there. But you're going to feel resentment if you had to abandon your dream because your life situation changed. Living for someone else may sound romantic, but it's a really horrible feeling. So live for yourself before you invest into a relationship. Chase your dreams before you build a future with someone else.
#sophisticatedarrogance
Allow me to make some amendments to an extent. My boy married into money. Now, dude has 4 stores from her fam loans. He even has a diversified portfolio at 32 worth close to a mil. I know many couples that do very well. Just dont be a captain trynna better a girl life. Make sure she ready and she got money. Her own money. Then 2 incomes make things easier. Also watch out for relationships with family. If she cool with her fam, you good. You can have kids and your in laws will be happy to watch the kids and let you have weekends off and even weeks off to go on vacay. So, all those will also free up daycare costs. Just dont marry into drama and financial instability. No matter how cute she is, the trouble will never be worth it.






