Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Apollo Creed]

Fam. Almost everything you post in here is toxic AF. You need to see a therapist who can objectively show you where you are fukking up imo. Your response to everything that the girl does is "I'm going to cheat on her".

You are acting extremely insecure which is going to push away even the most down chicks, and you are reacting to things like a child. You clearly are not ready for a relationship and are a borderline alcoholic based on the amount of drunken posts you have on TheColi.

My guess is you have unresolved abandonment issues which causes you to be clingy with women and then lash out when your feelings aren't reciprocated. All of this corny shyt you are doing is pushing women away from you. Why are you even acting like you want a monogamous relationship with this women who isn't giving you the energy you want? Everyone in this thread has been in a situation where they felt like they weren't appreciated by a woman and knows what that feels like. It takes confidence and maturity to end things when that happens and know that you can find someone better.

Man up and end things with this chick if you feel like things are trash. Don't bytch about her in every other post or tell us how you're gonna cheat on her. If she aint giving you what you want, then let her go and find someone else.

Spoiler

Also, realize that until you fix all this toxic shyt, you might be able to get a woman, but you'll always have a lot of trouble keeping her.

I Cant tell if dude is trolling, young, or mentally disabled. I'm not even trying to diss him or be funny. Dude claims he is 25 or something but posts like a 14 year old so I assume he is on the autism spectrum or something.

 

[DaRealness]

Nah more like call out the blue to disturb the peace, to confirm I'm doing xyz, when it was settled through text.

So it's like if you had another broad wit you, you'd be exposed.

Oh OK.

Nah, but when I'm out with somebody my phone is on silent anyway so I don't get disturbed.

 

[Apollo Creed]

I aint gon lie, women legit feel some type of way when you checking out a hotel room with them.

i`m real picky about my personal space so having randoms in my crib (yeah yeah you shouldn't be 'dealing' with 'randoms' but at the end of the day everyone aint gonna be your damn wife) is iffy for numerous reasons (bad energy, safety, etc). I assume first encounter you can make a reason for why you are using a hotel, and then from there decide if its worth letting that person in your personal space.

 

[Guvnor]

Alright brehs I got two scenarios I need advice on..

1.So me and this chick met on a dating app. We were talking and before I even met her she was sending me naked pics and stuff like that without me even asking or speaking to her sexually like that or even a phone call really. To me that was a red flag out the gate and a clear sign to never ever wife her but moving past that we met up and on the first date we went out for food then to a bar and I smashed it at a hotel. Second meeting she rented out a bnb and I smashed it again, I forgot my lunch there and she brought it to me. Third meeting we just chilled but during our conversation she told me when she was in college playing rugby she used to make out with girls whole drunk and she even has a close female friend she has sex with from time to time but when in a relationship with a man that stops. She was honest and told me this. When I brought up a threesome she denied it at first and was hesitant claiming she was self fish but said she would consider it for my birthday.

Is the women into women thing a red flag for y’all? When it is not?

Either way I’m thinking about keeping this one around for awhile cause she super nasty but doubt I’ll ever get serious with her. Just don’t think it’ll be wise lol.

2.This chick I’m talking too, the one I spoke about before who saw me as different is now being distant and I think she is going through some things emotionally. Her game from what I can figure is she wants me to blow past her telling me she isn’t in a talking mood so that I would call her and make sure she is alright, basically she wants more of my attention and I found this out by her own admission during a phone call. We usually see each other once a week but this month she has meetings she has to attend for this group she is in so we only saw each other once so far for the month. So Yesterday she said she had a bad attitude and didn’t wanna speak much via text and today she send a text asking if we have beef.

How would I respond? It’s been a few hours.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Alright brehs I got two scenarios I need advice on..

1.So me and this chick met on a dating app. We were talking and before I even met her she was sending me naked pics and stuff like that without me even asking or speaking to her sexually like that or even a phone call really. To me that was a red flag out the gate and a clear sign to never ever wife her but moving past that we met up and on the first date we went out for food then to a bar and I smashed it at a hotel. Second meeting she rented out a bnb and I smashed it again, I forgot my lunch there and she brought it to me. Third meeting we just chilled but during our conversation she told me when she was in college playing rugby she used to make out with girls whole drunk and she even has a close female friend she has sex with from time to time but when in a relationship with a man that stops. She was honest and told me this. When I brought up a threesome she denied it at first and was hesitant claiming she was self fish but said she would consider it for my birthday.

Is the women into women thing a red flag for y’all? When it is not?

Either way I’m thinking about keeping this one around for awhile cause she super nasty but doubt I’ll ever get serious with her. Just don’t think it’ll be wise lol.

2.This chick I’m talking too, the one I spoke about before who saw me as different is now being distant and I think she is going through some things emotionally. Her game from what I can figure is she wants me to blow past her telling me she isn’t in a talking mood so that I would call her and make sure she is alright, basically she wants more of my attention and I found this out by her own admission during a phone call. We usually see each other once a week but this month she has meetings she has to attend for this group she is in so we only saw each other once so far for the month. So Yesterday she said she had a bad attitude and didn’t wanna speak much via text and today she send a text asking if we have beef.

How would I respond? It’s been a few hours.

1.yes its a red flag, but you aren't trying to wife so I would just beeped her blocked out from your personal life as much as you can.
2. if someone gets distant to you move on. No need to hurt your head for someone that isn't your committed woman. Let them figure out whatever it is they got going on, if they want your help they will come to you.

 

[Silkk]

2.This chick I’m talking too, the one I spoke about before who saw me as different is now being distant and I think she is going through some things emotionally. Her game from what I can figure is she wants me to blow past her telling me she isn’t in a talking mood so that I would call her and make sure she is alright, basically she wants more of my attention and I found this out by her own admission during a phone call. We usually see each other once a week but this month she has meetings she has to attend for this group she is in so we only saw each other once so far for the month. So Yesterday she said she had a bad attitude and didn’t wanna speak much via text and today she send a text asking if we have beef.

How would I respond? It’s been a few hours.

You know damn well she fukking somebody else right now. Leave that bytch alone.

 

[Vinny Lupton]

is this real?

yes, there have been articles about it. if you wanna be seen by the top broads first, you have to be 1) swiped on yes by other girls on their level/ranking , 2) be swiping more no than yes

 

[Vinny Lupton]

yall ever have women randomly blow up your phone, to check to see if you out with another woman.

Like I can't fully explain it, but I be out and about, be getting calls from this one chick, after I already told I'm having lunch with someone or meeting up with some friends.

keep phone on silent and don't answer.. and alot of modern phones let you snooze any phone number that calls too much

 

[Serious]

Alright brehs I got two scenarios I need advice on..

1.So me and this chick met on a dating app. We were talking and before I even met her she was sending me naked pics and stuff like that without me even asking or speaking to her sexually like that or even a phone call really. To me that was a red flag out the gate and a clear sign to never ever wife her but moving past that we met up and on the first date we went out for food then to a bar and I smashed it at a hotel. Second meeting she rented out a bnb and I smashed it again, I forgot my lunch there and she brought it to me. Third meeting we just chilled but during our conversation she told me when she was in college playing rugby she used to make out with girls whole drunk and she even has a close female friend she has sex with from time to time but when in a relationship with a man that stops. She was honest and told me this. When I brought up a threesome she denied it at first and was hesitant claiming she was self fish but said she would consider it for my birthday.

Is the women into women thing a red flag for y’all? When it is not?

Either way I’m thinking about keeping this one around for awhile cause she super nasty but doubt I’ll ever get serious with her. Just don’t think it’ll be wise lol.

2.This chick I’m talking too, the one I spoke about before who saw me as different is now being distant and I think she is going through some things emotionally. Her game from what I can figure is she wants me to blow past her telling me she isn’t in a talking mood so that I would call her and make sure she is alright, basically she wants more of my attention and I found this out by her own admission during a phone call. We usually see each other once a week but this month she has meetings she has to attend for this group she is in so we only saw each other once so far for the month. So Yesterday she said she had a bad attitude and didn’t wanna speak much via text and today she send a text asking if we have beef.

How would I respond? It’s been a few hours.

Both are red flags....

I don't even have to tell you about number 1.....


But two is a red flag because if chick is trying see you, she'll make time. at once a week.

Also when women are going through shyt emotionally, that's usually when they want to "talk" be around you the most.

Best course of action brush her out the rotation.

 

[Serious]

keep phone on silent and don't answer.. and alot of modern phones let you snooze any phone number that calls too much

See I keep my shyt on vibrate because I have tendency to lose it otherwise.

 

[Guvnor]

You know damn well she fukking somebody else right now. Leave that bytch alone.

That’s how it seems to me but the thing is I don’t really care lol. As long as she know what time it is the next time we link and no more kissing in the mouth lol. I just wonder how I should play this situation cause I wanna smash again and she does spend money on me.

1.yes its a red flag, but you aren't trying to wife so I would just beeped her blocked out from your personal life as much as you can.
2. if someone gets distant to you move on. No need to hurt your head for someone that isn't your committed woman. Let them figure out whatever it is they got going on, if they want your help they will come to you.

Appreciate the advice breh. Thing is I’m not really worried or hurting my head cause she isn’t my only option but I’m trying to see if I can use the situation to my advantage and still smash a few more times scum bagish I know but she playing games too so we gonna play lol.

 

[Guvnor]

Both are red flags....

I don't even have to tell you about number 1.....


But two is a red flag because if chick is trying see you, she'll make time. at once a week.

Also when women are going through shyt emotionally, that's usually when they want to "talk" be around you the most.

Best course of action brush her out the rotation.

Well why is a woman into women a red flag in general breh. I guess that’s more so my question.

As for her the second situation she told me she wants me to call and to be on her even more when she is like that but I just choose not to play into that shyt. If you wanna talk to me then talk but you ain’t gonna say I don’t wanna talk so I can talk to you more lol. It’s kinda like the way women say I’m fine when shyt really is wrong but they want you to dig deeper and try to fix the situation. @Lumumba this is how the situation is breh.

also what’s wrong with seeing a woman once a week? That’s usually how I do shyt lol.

 

[Canon]

See I keep my shyt on vibrate because I have tendency to lose it otherwise.

I do this as well

the Apple Watch has a feature that will let you ping your phone if you lose it.which I do all the time.

 

[Apollo Creed]

That’s how it seems to me but the thing is I don’t really care lol. As long as she know what time it is the next time we link and no more kissing in the mouth lol. I just wonder how I should play this situation cause I wanna smash again and she does spend money on me.



Appreciate the advice breh. Thing is I’m not really worried or hurting my head cause she isn’t my only option but I’m trying to see if I can use the situation to my advantage and still smash a few more times scum bagish I know but she playing games too so we gonna play lol.

You're referring to number 1?

IMO in general you need to keep a personal barrier for your private life. Only women who should gain entry is an official committed girl friend. This is for your sanity and safety. Unless you are in a committed relationship ALWAYS have options (whether it means having a social circle of women, or other productive things to keep you busy). You NEVER want to be in a position where you are so invested in someone that you become other than yourself to keep them entertained/feed their attention needs because modern women are literally energy vampires. Always be honest with yourself. We are humans, emotions is normal so dont try to act like you are boss player number 1 but you falling in love with someone. Nothing wrong with falling in love but be focused on what your goals are + if this person is worth committing to (spending time with people can tend to make you grow close to them even if they aren't best for you long term). If that person isn't worth committing to then pull back respectfully for the sake of you and that person.

 

[Guvnor]

You're referring to number 1?

IMO in general you need to keep a personal barrier for your private life. Only women who should gain entry is an official committed girl friend. This is for your sanity and safety. Unless you are in a committed relationship ALWAYS have options (whether it means having a social circle of women, or other productive things to keep you busy). You NEVER want to be in a position where you are so invested in someone that you become other than yourself to keep them entertained/feed their attention needs because modern women are literally energy vampires. Always be honest with yourself. We are humans, emotions is normal so dont try to act like you are boss player number 1 but you falling in love with someone. Nothing wrong with falling in love but be focused on what your goals are + if this person is worth committing to (spending time with people can tend to make you grow close to them even if they aren't best for you long term). If that person isn't worth committing to then pull back respectfully for the sake of you and that person.

Nah that was about number 2 should have been more clear.