Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Brandsdale]

One hour, nikka if I can’t see her with 20-30 minutes that’s a problem. I’m not wasting one hour to see a chick unless we’re like 100% compatible.

keyword: "within" lol

In Toronto, mind you, getting from one city to another is roughly 20-45 min driving/bus. Back when i used to live in brampton, my girl lived over an hour away by bus but its also a 22 min drive

If I dated a chic in Scarborough or North York, dare I even say Pickering , this is where that 1-hour time buffer comes in handy

 

[Brandsdale]

Wow

mother nature is a heartless bytch out here in the North man

this is the shyt im bout to be on soon just to keep myself out there

 

[Leao2005]

Never ever ask a woman to be exclusive quickest way to see her run for the hills. The woman should always be more into you and she should push for exclusivity. You'll know when a woman is really into you vs mildly tolerating you.

Speaking from the way I tend to move, I usually go for a kiss on a first date if I've laid the groundwork and it feels right. For me it lets her know I want this to be sexual and puts the ball in her court as to what happens next.

So how do you ask someone that you talking to that you want to be in a relationship. I thought the man was suppose to offer the relationship

 

[360dagod]

So how do you ask someone that you talking to that you want to be in a relationship. I thought the man was suppose to offer the relationship

Nah bruh...

That's her job...

You show up and make her "feel" you..

There gotta be a rollercoaster of emotions she must feel and then the relationship shyt talk comes...

She has to feel like she is fighting for exclusivity...

 

[Leao2005]

Nah bruh...

That's her job...

You show up and make her "feel" you..

There gotta be a rollercoaster of emotions she must feel and then the relationship shyt talk comes...

She has to feel like she is fighting for exclusivity...

Let’s say she already hit you with the what are we. And you say something like more than friends or something like that. Isn’t it in my court to now elevate it?

 

[360dagod]

Let’s say she already hit you with the what are we. And you say something like more than friends or something like that. Isn’t it in my court to now elevate it?

That's something different...

But she gotta bring all that shyt up

 

[Leao2005]

That's something different...

But she gotta bring all that shyt up

Is there a difference between telling a joint you want to be official and telling her you want to be exclusive. Or same old same old

 

[Apollo Creed]

Breh y’all been together a year and seen each other once every two months

Sound like breh was sending money/buying gifts to make up for the distance lol

she was probably smashing anothwr dude the whole time and finally got to a point where another dude thats local will commit to her.

imo long distance should only be for FWB

 

[MikelArteta]

keyword: "within" lol

In Toronto, mind you, getting from one city to another is roughly 20-45 min driving/bus. Back when i used to live in brampton, my girl lived over an hour away by bus but its also a 22 min drive

If I dated a chic in Scarborough or North York, dare I even say Pickering , this is where that 1-hour time buffer comes in handy

my first relationship my girl lived in Mississauga and i lived in thornhill. It took 2.5 hrs to reach by bus as I did not drive back then

 

[MikelArteta]

it is currently snowing and -4 in Toronto

nikkas still gotta jog in a freezer

im getting almost depressed over here
snowing
lockdown
rotting at home

 

[MikelArteta]

OGs, I realized that I move relatively slow in relationships or talking. The last girl that had we fell apart for various reasons, but believe on my end me not progressing quickly "sexually" may have contributed as well. I can contribute this my conservative Pentecostal background in my parent household.

My question is what is the best way to not move slowly? I realized that when you move slowly, especially in this dating climate, girls lose interest quick. So, on the first date I should always go for a first kiss? and by what date/time period should I ask a girl to be exclusive? There's probably more to this but I can't think of any more question so y'all expound of yall think about it.

It's because most women are talking to a bunch of different men etc. , you're taking her out on friday night, sat night shes going out with another breh.

However go at your own pace , the same how you see women always run back to the cheating bf/ abusive ex if a woman really wants you in your life she will.

I've gone out with dates with chicks and have never heard from them again, i've gone out on dates and before I get home i'm getting a text to schedule to the next one.

 

[MikelArteta]

Ldrs suck if she's not close or one of you are planning to move close to each other wash your hands. It's a losing situation 99.9% of the time

 

[MikelArteta]

I feel you breh. Ive been there too


But next time u just gotta remember that women are going to look out for their best interest first, so it would behoove you to do the same.

I used to get in my feelings when ive been broken up with. Nowadays when ppl do this, i just delete the number, dont respond and move on immediately

I remember those days begging for another chance, asking why, saying i'll do better, feeling the knot in my stomach, losing my appetite and all that ish.

Like you now its like , I remember the last girl who broke up with me I was like , did what you did deleted the number didn't respond to her text and I was on hinge a few hours later and on dates the next week. No knot in my belly, no begging, no feeling down.

I'll only mourn and feel if it's my wife and she dies

beside that

 

[phcitywarrior]

So how do you ask someone that you talking to that you want to be in a relationship. I thought the man was suppose to offer the relationship

So you’ll hear different things depending on where people are at as far as relationships and where they are in age.

Generally, I’ve found for younger girls, especially here stateside, unless they are feeling you like and you get that “what are we" comment, you almost gotta just go with the flow. Get her to like your presence then she'll want to fight for that exclusivity.

However, for slightly older women I've found they're more receptive and actually prefer being upfront in earlier on. Obviously mother time has to do with it as well.

I prefer knowing where I stand with a chick instead of just "going with the flow". At least if you guys are in a committed, exclusive relationship, then there are boundaries and expectations etc. The whole "going with the flow/let's see where this ends up" is one of the reasons I think people are out here frustrated in the dating market.

On the bolded, I think you mentioned having immigrant parents earlier in this thread. I'll assume West / Sub-Sahran Africa or West Indian. In those societies, the end goal of a relationship is usually marriage hence men "offering the relationship" so to speak, that's the first step towards marriage. Over here things are a bit different obviously.

I'll just say this. Stay true to who you are and what you want in the dating game.

 

[Leao2005]

So you’ll hear different things depending on where people are at as far as relationships and where they are in age.

Generally, I’ve found for younger girls, especially here stateside, unless they are feeling you like and you get that “what are we" comment, you almost gotta just go with the flow. Get her to like your presence then she'll want to fight for that exclusivity.

However, for slightly older women I've found they're more receptive and actually prefer being upfront in earlier on. Obviously mother time has to do with it as well.

I prefer knowing where I stand with a chick instead of just "going with the flow". At least if you guys are in a committed, exclusive relationship, then there are boundaries and expectations etc. The whole "going with the flow/let's see where this ends up" is one of the reasons I think people are out here frustrated in the dating market.

On the bolded, I think you mentioned having immigrant parents earlier in this thread. I'll assume West / Sub-Sahran Africa or West Indian. In those societies, the end goal of a relationship is usually marriage hence men "offering the relationship" so to speak, that's the first step towards marriage. Over here things are a bit different obviously.

I'll just say this. Stay true to who you are and what you want in the dating game.

Cool. my pops is West African (muslim uprbringing but hes christian now) but my mom is straight Bible Belt Pentecostal ADOS (VA). They are both around 60 and I am 24....so you see the disconnect lol.