Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Max.]

It's one thing but I think us being at a distance kinda made this situation difficult. She lives in Cali, I live on the East coast.

Yeah thats it tbh

 

[RealAssanova]

It's so interesting because it's so abrupt. I think we as men would totally take it better if women just said hey, this ain't working for me but that doesn't happen. One minute you're making plans, next minute you literally can't have a conversation with her. It's jarring. I'm 35 so I've been through it enough times to see it for what it is. Relationships can go sour at any point. Just gotta put energy into yourself and move on.

Its tough to grasp and digest just how cutthroat woman can be when it comes to dating/relationships/marriages..but its something that i’ve come to understand the more i’ve gotten older.

Men can be forgiving when it comes to things such as personal flaws and weaknesses so long as it isn’t extreme or to the detriment of the relationship/other person’s well-being. Women on the other hand cannot. On any level.

Which is why i feel sorry for the dudes that haven’t reached this place of understanding and acceptance and still think women are these innocent, fragile and tender beings.

 

[Silkk]

When you feel it in your body you found somebody who......

 

[VertigoKnight]

It's so interesting because it's so abrupt. I think we as men would totally take it better if women just said hey, this ain't working for me but that doesn't happen. One minute you're making plans, next minute you literally can't have a conversation with her. It's jarring. I'm 35 so I've been through it enough times to see it for what it is. Relationships can go sour at any point. Just gotta put energy into yourself and move on.

The disturbing thing is it's never abrupt for them, a lot of time and consideration has gone into her deciding she's kinda done with you.

When you sit back ad think about it

Its

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

The disturbing thing is it's never abrupt for them, a lot of time and consideration has gone into her deciding she's kinda done with you.

When you sit back ad think about it

Its

Honestly it's what scares me about marriage.

Because you can go into it thinking, I'm in it forever with this woman and she 5-10 years into it she could just abruptly leave, hiding the fact that she's been unhappy for years.

The deeper you get involved the worse it is because you're investing time and parts of yourself. You can't get that back.....but you also invest money, time, effort. It's a lot and when it doesn't work it's tough to keep getting up and doing it again and again. I realized I'm genuinely a happy guy on my own but sometimes a relationship failing can throw me a bit and I'm not sure if it's worth it to get so deep at times.

 

[DapMeUp!]

Had been dating a girl for months and she suddenly just stopped talking to me.

Doesn't call or text at all. Last few times I texted her, I got super short responses.

I messed up somewhere a long the lines and I've accepted it.

You date enough women and you get used to it. Just gotta move on.

Sucks because I really liked her. Feels like we were making plans of building a life together all year and now who knows if I ever talk to her again.

Why do you think you messed up?

Sometimes with women, the reason they go cold is actually nothing to do with you.

Edit:- Just seen it was a long distance type of thing. She most likely met someone local.

 

[DapMeUp!]

So this PAWG I was supposed to meet up with a few months ago saw me DJing a couple of places on the weekend.

She hasn't contacted me since she said she would get back to me about when she was free.
First message "My friend is having a rooftop party on Friday, are you able to DJ there?"

The pure audacity of some of these hoes. Told her I'm busy.

 

[MikelArteta]

Had been dating a girl for months and she suddenly just stopped talking to me.

Doesn't call or text at all. Last few times I texted her, I got super short responses.

I messed up somewhere a long the lines and I've accepted it.

You date enough women and you get used to it. Just gotta move on.

Sucks because I really liked her. Feels like we were making plans of building a life together all year and now who knows if I ever talk to her again.

Sorry breh, but that's how it is nowadays.

It's like a job be there for 20 years and one day get called into a meeting and your services are no longer needed.

And that's how "cold" women can be one day you're the world the next day you're nothing. When you go from talking to someone every day and just like that they can stop. Like I always say when they cuddling, kissing you saying this and that how much they care about you they are slowly detaching so when they drop them thangs on you they make a clean break.

Thing is you didn't mess up, there is nothing you could have done differently. There is no magic formula at all. At the end of the day she just wasn't feeling you like that. A chick will break up with you for a reason she will give a guy she really wants to be with 1000 of passes if he did the same thing.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yeah thats it tbh

nah
I'm telling you if a woman really wants to be with you nothing will stop her, not age, distance, how much money you have, how many times you cheated, if you abused her etc.

I've seen it in my own life, I was canoodling and cavorting with a chick in vancouver back like in 2014 we'd fly back and forth then got that long distance ish. Guess what her next relationship was with a guy in NYC even farther than toronto, a totally different country and she ended up moving there.

Women will wait for their man rotting in prison to come out they can wait it out anything if they feel strongly for you.

i'm sure we all dated women and heard sob stories of how their ex did this and that to them but if you ask them how long were they together and you hear like years.

You're with her for 4 months and you cook her a steak medium well instead of medium rare and you don't understand her and she's breaking up

 

[MikelArteta]

Right now think of chicks that are into you messaging you all day and all that, there is a guy whose into that same girl who was in your position but is now getting the one word text messages now and replies 5 hours later.

Always remember you're not special its just your turn and your turn can end at any moment

 

[Apollo Creed]

Sorry breh, but that's how it is nowadays.

It's like a job be there for 20 years and one day get called into a meeting and your services are no longer needed.

And that's how "cold" women can be one day you're the world the next day you're nothing. When you go from talking to someone every day and just like that they can stop. Like I always say when they cuddling, kissing you saying this and that how much they care about you they are slowly detaching so when they drop them thangs on you they make a clean break.

Thing is you didn't mess up, there is nothing you could have done differently. There is no magic formula at all. At the end of the day she just wasn't feeling you like that. A chick will break up with you for a reason she will give a guy she really wants to be with 1000 of passes if he did the same thing.

this the issue dudes putting other people over themselves hence the feeling of guilt they feel even though they are the victims of manipulation

 

[MikelArteta]

It's so interesting because it's so abrupt. I think we as men would totally take it better if women just said hey, this ain't working for me but that doesn't happen. One minute you're making plans, next minute you literally can't have a conversation with her. It's jarring. I'm 35 so I've been through it enough times to see it for what it is. Relationships can go sour at any point. Just gotta put energy into yourself and move on.

Because they would have to deal with heartbreak without you being there. The thing is women drop hints but most guys don't see it and stay around. Gotta go with your gut and put yourself first, look back at your former relationships when women ended it I'm sure you could see the signs, she's more busy than she was before, starting more fights etc.

Just like now even just when I talk to chicks if I notice short replies or I'm always the one making plans, texting, calling I just stop and I'm like steph curry at the free throw line rarely missing. Late last year to early this year I was talking to this chick we saw each other alot, talked alot etc. then i started noticing i'd message her and like 8 hrs later get a reply. I just stopped that was January it's now June and I haven't heard from her ONCE since then.

I'm 36 so just a little older than you and yeah we've all been through it, with years comes wisdom. I don't put anything past any women. I've been engaged adn seen one day excitement, tears, happiest day of her life to a few weeks later giving me back the ring and changing her mind and going on with her life.

Why you gotta put yourself first, enjoy your life being single, love your passions and hobbies because all you can rely on is YOU

 

[MikelArteta]

The minute a woman’s attraction for you fades away so does her level of respect and decency towards you. They go hand-in-hand as sad as that is to hear.

You could be the most perfect boyfriend/husband but the minute she loses attraction, you’re all of a sudden abusive, controlling, not affectionate enough, manipulative, etc.

Not only that, her mood becomes more irritable, she’s less affectionate and more colder towards you, more argumentative, more short and delayed in her responses, etc.

That is why its imperative you keep your emotions in check otherwise you’ll get chewed up nicely. You cannot negotiate or communicate attraction when it comes to women. In fact, doing those things will actually cause more harm then good and further reduce her level of attraction towards you even more. So the minute you start to see any of these signs, plot your exit. Doesn’t matter if you been talking or together for 2 weeks, 2 months or 2 years.......exit.

Women only communicate in “grey” just so they could create confusion because with confusion they gain the benefit of doubt. —@TradePascalSiakam

the prophet assanova

 

[Spades Of Aces]

Right now think of chicks that are into you messaging you all day and all that, there is a guy whose into that same girl who was in your position but is now getting the one word text messages now and replies 5 hours later.

Always remember you're not special its just your turn and your turn can end at any moment

Whew….this Sh!t right here

 

[RealAssanova]

Because they would have to deal with heartbreak without you being there. The thing is women drop hints but most guys don't see it and stay around. Gotta go with your gut and put yourself first, look back at your former relationships when women ended it I'm sure you could see the signs, she's more busy than she was before, starting more fights etc.

Just like now even just when I talk to chicks if I notice short replies or I'm always the one making plans, texting, calling I just stop and I'm like steph curry at the free throw line rarely missing. Late last year to early this year I was talking to this chick we saw each other alot, talked alot etc. then i started noticing i'd message her and like 8 hrs later get a reply. I just stopped that was January it's now June and I haven't heard from her ONCE since then.

I'm 36 so just a little older than you and yeah we've all been through it, with years comes wisdom. I don't put anything past any women. I've been engaged adn seen one day excitement, tears, happiest day of her life to a few weeks later giving me back the ring and changing her mind and going on with her life.

Why you gotta put yourself first, enjoy your life being single, love your passions and hobbies because all you can rely on is YOU

Men and women are fundamentally different.

As men, we’re more invested in maintaining families/relationships together, keeping things within the culture (ie. marrying women from your ethnic background), etc.

Women are the opposite. They only care about emotions and how they feel about you at the moment. No long-term planning/thinking, no accountability, no self-reflection, etc. None of that.

Initiating divorces not understanding the consequences of raising a child in a single parent household, moving onto another man rather than working on your current relationship, choosing bad boys rather than men that will care of you, etc. Do any of these actions sound like something a rational person would do? Nope.

This is the reality of dating women in 2021. Yes its sad, but the quicker men in here accept and understand this, the better off they’ll be.

So ALWAYS be ready to exit at any moment the relationship/situationship/marriage you’re in brehs. Doesn’t matter if its weeks, months or years. Enjoy the ride but when its come to a stop, hop off.