At first I took this response from you a certain way but I thought about it last night
I should’ve held my ground a lil better, I definitely was being a fan
Idk shorty was just hittin all the check marks for what I look for personally. I got geeked a little too easily
How do I walk that line between being pleasant and not coming off like arrogant ass? Most girls get geeked the minute I tell them what I do for a living
The way to wield the weapon of arrogance requires a bit of trial and error.
First, u have to be calm. - this is probably the most important. I dont want to delve too deep into this because this is my trump card lol. What I will say is that in order to be as calm as I've become, u have to take a few months to 2 years just focusing on yourself and putting yourself in a good financial position. There's very, very, very few things in life which money cant fix. Once u know this, and you understand it, (like, really understand it) you'll be able to garner the testicular fortitude necessary to abandon every useless distraction in your life, in favor of hard work. Yes, that means foregoing a lot of social interactions.
The idea of being arrogant is knowing that when you go up to a girl, there's a good chance she will shut u down for a variety of reasons and you have to be willing to accept that, gracefully. You have to, through your mannerisms, exhibit signs that indicate you're not the type to be affected by a girl’s opinion of u.
So how does one exhibit those signs? Smile! Yes, you smile and you take your time letting the words you speak gently come out of your mouth. Everyone can smile. But there's a certain way you can smile and talk, that will instantly calm a woman's emotions or the ramblings of her mind.
If you suffer from nervousness or uncontrollable feelings of excitement when talking to females u fancy, try this tactic:
Always remember that you dont have to ask a girl for her number (or facebook or instagram or snapchat) the first time you meet. But but but but but what happens if you never see her again? That's actually ok. Like, yes. It really is OK. If this is a real concern you have, then, you have not reached your full potential.
When you approach a woman, be careful. Once you make it known that your trying to pick her up and she shuts u down, u essentially become a fan, whether or not you admit or not. She didn't approach u. You approached her. lol. So yes, you're a fan. We've all been guilty of this.
That isn't to say you shouldn't approach women. It's all about how you do it. When you go up to a girl, you must figure out how to structure your approach so that if she were to tell others about your encounter with her, she will not be able to truthfully say "oh yeah that guy? he tried hitting on me the other day? and i shut him down". Girls with low self-esteem do this. They pride themselves in shutting men down so they can brag to their friends about how many guys are hitting on them. If the girl you're thinking of approaching has this mentality, u dont wanna give her any ammunition to use against u. No unnecessary ego boosts.
So what do you say?
I'm not going to give step by step descriptions of the conversations Ive had with women because that's just pointless. But, something along the lines of the following works wonders:
"you know, something tells me you and i are gonna be great friends in the future". She might giggle and say "oh really? why's that?". "i guess we shall wait and see".
- if you have any kinda mack in you, and a girl responds to you with a giggle and a question, you can play this however you want.
Make sure whatever you wear looks good on you and is fitted (none of that baggy sh1t). If you've never had women comment on your style, or eyefucck u whenever you're out at a restaurant or bar, then, you need to fix that. Go shopping and buy clothes that look good on you. They dont have to be expensive either or be any popular namebrands. Just make sure they look nice on your physique. This is where brolic/muscular n1ggas prosper the most. They say clothes make the man. That is very, very true. When you look good (based on compliments from multiple people) and you smell good, u know it. U feel it. Each admiring glance u receive reaffirms the fact that you are the sh1t! And it translates into the way you walk, and even the thoughts you have and certainly how u talk. Suddenly u find urself being genuinely nonchalant. Some people fake nonchalance. But their facade is often easily cracked. Don’t fake it. Do the work as I laid out. The process of doing the work will transform u into the Man U need to become.
Now, let’s talk about arrogance. There are two types of arrogance. There's the malicious/negative type which is constructed upon the basis of "me being better than the next man. me being better than everyone else". That is NOT what you want to convey to others. It'll turn off a lot of women. When I speak of arrogance, I'm speaking of the second type. Some call it confidence but what it really is is you having a quiet agreement/understanding with yourself that you are well-equipped to handle anything life throws at you. You're prepared to do battle with the obstacles of life. For example, If your car's battery runs out, you dont panic. Nor do you complain. Why not? Because, you've got a portable charger to resolve the situation. Imagine this happening when you have a girl in the car. How you handle it will further cement her respect for you. Like "this n1gga thought of everything".
women love competition