Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Think there's a lot there about validation and approval. Still kind of surprises me how many people look for so much of that, from their friends/ social circle/family.

if anyone ever made a list of 'red flags" or whatever, it would eliminate everyone. It's all contradictory, it's made for content. Like those books, Men Are From Mars Women From Venus

there's some basic guidelines about consideration, respect, whatever, but a lot of the that self help/IG/celebrity dating shyt is total nonsense, and would drive anyone insane, trying to play by those rules, myself included.
 

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its women out here who expect you to be perfect. you must:

follow up the day of to confirm the plans
dress well
be well groomed
pick a good restaurant
open the door for them
pay for the bill
pick them up / drop them off or call an uber accordingly
be funny
be witty
have great conversation etc

these same women wont even show up or be ready for the date on time but expect all of the above
when you realize how lopsided the shyt is, all you can do is laugh and deject to some degree
Women who demand a lot don’t really offer anything except for ran through box.

Don’t impress them. Don’t save them. Don’t roll out the red carpet for them. Most are liabilities.

Men need to have standards for themselves. Write down a list of red flags. Vet them. This will prevent dudes from getting played.
 

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Agree somewhat

But I think y’all underestimate the egos of women and how jaded or entitled they can be these days. Y’all act like it’s impossible for a girl or man’s mind to change on somebody due to things that transpired during a date.

A girl could be feeling you, but if she very much so does not enjoy the rain, she will not all of a sudden think it’s romantic and will be made you made her walk in the rain. Lets be logical here lol. All it takes is a girl going to get friend describing a date, and her friend saying…”what??? He made you walk home??? Dudes usually get me an Uber “ or get reading some meme on ig to make her think differently
nikkas be forgetting about “The ick” lol

 

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Women who demand a lot don’t really offer anything except for ran through box.

Don’t impress them. Don’t save them. Don’t roll out the red carpet for them. Most are liabilities.

Men need to have standards for themselves. Write down a list of red flags. Vet them. This will prevent dudes from getting played.
That would be an interesting sub thread in here
 

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Women who demand a lot don’t really offer anything except for ran through box.

Don’t impress them. Don’t save them. Don’t roll out the red carpet for them. Most are liabilities.

Men need to have standards for themselves. Write down a list of red flags. Vet them. This will prevent dudes from getting played.

It should be

Greenlight
Caution light
Red light

Now to be fair, we all have our own flaws and some mixtures of flaws can be managed while others are a code red alert...

That depends on the individual and their tolerance

I do agree with your point
 

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So brehs, I signed up for Hinge a few weeks ago.
I haven't had matches since like the first couple of days and I was thinking the app must be bugging.
Also the same accounts kept appearing.

Was going to start another account cause I suspected I was shadow-banned.
They suggested to do a hard reset on the app when I went to delete, did that this morning and low and behold I have likes coming in now.
Even a few of the likes I got wasn't showing up so I had to reinstall the app before they appeared.

So basically my account was invisible all this time :stopitslime:Buggy shyt :pacspit:
 

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So brehs, I signed up for Hinge a few weeks ago.
I haven't had matches since like the first couple of days and I was thinking the app must be bugging.
Also the same accounts kept appearing.

Was going to start another account cause I suspected I was shadow-banned.
They suggested to do a hard reset on the app when I went to delete, did that this morning and low and behold I have likes coming in now.
Even a few of the likes I got wasn't showing up so I had to reinstall the app before they appeared.

So basically my account was invisible all this time :stopitslime:Buggy shyt :pacspit:
I think thats by de$ign
 

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I have a question for the brehs. So I'm planning to marry this girl. Her family's great but her mom is an absolute bytch and narcissist. She's the typical Karen white lady. I see her mom bullying her dad (who's not white) all the time and bossing him around. My girl is extremely obedient and shares everything with her fam. I love my girl but her mom's getting on my nerves. My girl has basically everything going for her except for her mother. What should I do in this case?
 

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I have a question for the brehs. So I'm planning to marry this girl. Her family's great but her mom is an absolute bytch and narcissist. She's the typical Karen white lady. I see her mom bullying her dad (who's not white) all the time and bossing him around. My girl is extremely obedient and shares everything with her fam. I love my girl but her mom's getting on my nerves. My girl has basically everything going for her except for her mother. What should I do in this case?

how long have you been with this girl? Has she shown any behavioral switches during this time?

If she’s that crazy, I wouldn’t want my future kids around her
 
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I have a question for the brehs. So I'm planning to marry this girl. Her family's great but her mom is an absolute bytch and narcissist. She's the typical Karen white lady. I see her mom bullying her dad (who's not white) all the time and bossing him around. My girl is extremely obedient and shares everything with her fam. I love my girl but her mom's getting on my nerves. My girl has basically everything going for her except for her mother. What should I do in this case?

Is the dad Asian?
 
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