Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

Could you date a woman you have no physical attraction to?

She checks all the boxes: intelligent, financially responsible, comes from a stable family with a great relationship with her father. Last week, I called her out on something, and she immediately apologized, which I really respected. My only issue is that I feel absolutely no attraction toward her. On the other hand, I meet plenty of women I'm attracted to, but they usually end up being more trouble than they're worth.

to be honest this is the dilemma of most men. the good girls be boring or unattractive. the attractive girls be gassed up a$$holes

if attraction is important the lack of attraction will cause you to cheat, beat your meat, or resent her for not putting in the work to look good enough. thats why i said before, as a man youre better off waiting for the right girl to come along or stay single/free

soon as I dropped the girl who I was in a similar situation with I met a girl who I am very physically attracted to and she is coming with the right vibe. Met her on Wednesday and we going out tonight


one question i have though is how attractive are you in the eyes of women? and how does her personality weigh into how attractive or unattractive she is. is she confident? stylish? for instance

 

[The ADD]

Well it's actually the opposite, my ex made my life hell to the point I don't want to date. This "new" chick came at me.

Well I had hope because I met her at a run club meet-up. She did the whole can you train me and help me with my running. She texted me what she had for dinner one day and I accidentally replied and she sent me this message "I'm not ur skinny chic who eats salads nor I have any goals of being skinny. I love the way my body is. "

If she lost about 40-50 pounds I'd be OK with her. I've never really met a chick like her
She has all her shyt in order, house, good career, doesnt nag me about stupid shyt, but I can't get over not being attracted to her.


I had hope because I met her at a run club meet-up and she always talks to me about running. But running off 500 calaries is a wash when you just ate 2000.

Still in the same territory……coming out of a relationship and your interest is partially because she approached you. There is a lot there you probably aren’t sharing but just from the post:

• You aren’t attracted due to her weight and she hasn’t indicated she’s will to change to the level of dropping 40-50 pounds
• You listed a bunch of superlatives but how well do you really know her at this point?
• You talk about knowing you can build something but would need to cheat long term

If these sound like positive aspects of a long term relationship then someone correct me.

 

[Ohene]

Mostly weight, although I met her at a run club meet-up. She told me she is comfortable with her weight. I definitely prefer petite women. Only reason I gave her a shot is because she applied so much pressure. I just got out a relationship and she is the complete opposite of my ex. I know I cam build a decent life with her but I absolutely will have to cheat.

yea. dont do it
if she is comfortable with her weight, you will eventually resent her or try to motivate her to lose weight causing her to resent you. or youll cheat. next time

find a petite woman and dont even get to know a girl who doesnt meet the physical minimum. that way you avoid these dilemmas lol

Damn bro you don't think you can get her on the right track to lose the weight. Maybe introduce a "healthy lifestyle".

waste of time. every time i was at the gym i would think to myself, damn if only this chick I am seeing would go to the gym, her ass/thigh meat would be looking like these chicks.

but she doesnt have it in her and any time I brought it up I'd just come across like an overbearing a$$hole prolly. Homie got to keep it moving

 

[Ohene]

was she at the run club to lose weight or to find a man?

Depending on how much time you feel like wasting. You can straight up tell her, "I want to move this into something long term but you need to lose 40-50 pounds", She either going to cuss you out or she is going to lose the weight and it seems you're are willing to help her.

even if she lose the weight now...what happens once she gets a ring? what happens once she gets pregnant/has the child?

recipe for disaster. pun intended. keep it moving lol

 

[DA_LURKA]

I'm not going to screw her over

What that mean in the context of fwb?

 

[Abraxus]

Sigh. Yea this bytch ain’t gon make it

We talk for 45 minutes (I’m counting bc I really don’t want to be doing it), then as usual I’m the one to get tf off the phone. Her ‘omg, baby, why are you always leaving me’. Story of my life. Man I truly fukking hate talking on the phone

Had to leave a hoe alone for that. Kept telling her hey, I’m not no hang on phone all day type of dude. She kept wanting to talk. About nothingi said man I told your ass that’s not me! What the fukk we have to talk about for hours on end? bytch! Lose my mf number!

 

[Abraxus]

Matched this girl on Tuesday by Thursday setup a date for Saturday. Date was going great but halfway through she tells me she filed for divorced a year ago after being married for 3 years and she just turned 30. Her ex moved to another state.

End of the night we are holding hands, kiss, she’s grabbing on my arm cause it’s cold out. Says she had a great time thanked me for taking her out. I walk her to her car she ask me to drive her car to my car. Then we kiss and go our ways.

The next morning I text her at like 11 am. 10 pm she texts me says sorry for the delay. Her divorced was just finalized that day and her lawyer let her ex know. She told me she realizes she’s not emotionally available to date and that I’m great and it’s not me. I also said this to her on the date like is it too soon?

What y’all make of this? I try not to analyze a bytches actions because they are squirrelly but I’m trying to figure out what happen? Thoughts?

My thoughts is she need some hotdog in her lips and her p*ssy but at no point should she be considered a viable choice to date. She got too much shyt to effectively concentrate on you. Let her do counseling first but as always see if you can fukk her brains out. That’ll add a little more trauma and give you some leeway to bounce. If you can’t fukk her then let her leave. But you know the motto! If she comes back she gone have to suck a whooooooooooooole lotta dikk!

 

[The ADD]

Sigh. Yea this bytch ain’t gon make it

We talk for 45 minutes (I’m counting bc I really don’t want to be doing it), then as usual I’m the one to get tf off the phone. Her ‘omg, baby, why are you always leaving me’. Story of my life. Man I truly fukking hate talking on the phone

Less Christmas presents to buy

 

[Abraxus]

bytch asked me could I do her a solid and pay her phone bill. Eh? We just met lady. She told me it’ll be worth my while if I did. I said how the fukk you figure? How much is it anyway? (Me trolling) she said it’s only $98 dollars. I said IDGAF if it was 98 cents! I said let’s get to point. You ready to suck some dikk for this bill? She said sir I don’t know you like that to just be sucking your dikk. I said ok. Say that again? Sir, I don’t know you well enough to suck your dikk.

I said ma’am you and I understand one another because I don’t know your broke ass well enough to pay your fukking phone bill you retarded motherfukker.

 

[Abraxus]

Yup. Right now is bottom of the barrel / Clearance Sale women. Everyone can eat.

They’re desperate to invite you to holiday parties, friend gatherings and spending your money on Christmas/new years / Valentine’s Day

Yup. Most of em on BLK are “open to anything “ ignore their asses until after February. Hoes desperate for some attention and gifts.

 

[97Pac]

even if she lose the weight now...what happens once she gets a ring? what happens once she gets pregnant/has the child?

recipe for disaster. pun intended. keep it moving lol

Yea, I have to agree.

 

[The True HD]

bytch asked me could I do her a solid and pay her phone bill. Eh? We just met lady. She told me it’ll be worth my while if I did. I said how the fukk you figure? How much is it anyway? (Me trolling) she said it’s only $98 dollars. I said IDGAF if it was 98 cents! I said let’s get to point. You ready to suck some dikk for this bill? She said sir I don’t know you like that to just be sucking your dikk. I said ok. Say that again? Sir, I don’t know you well enough to suck your dikk.

I said ma’am you and I understand one another because I don’t know your broke ass well enough to pay your fukking phone bill you retarded motherfukker.

That IG post funny as hell, "The Bills have Eyes"

 

[Guvnor]

Waste of time. For the most part women don't improve themselves, what you get is what you get.

That's a fact but he met her in a run club so I figured he could nudge her back in that direction but I don't think so.

Well it's actually the opposite, my ex made my life hell to the point I don't want to date. This "new" chick came at me.

Well I had hope because I met her at a run club meet-up. She did the whole can you train me and help me with my running. She texted me what she had for dinner one day and I accidentally replied and she sent me this message "I'm not ur skinny chic who eats salads nor I have any goals of being skinny. I love the way my body is. "

If she lost about 40-50 pounds I'd be OK with her. I've never really met a chick like her
She has all her shyt in order, house, good career, doesnt nag me about stupid shyt, but I can't get over not being attracted to her.


I had hope because I met her at a run club meet-up and she always talks to me about running. But running off 500 calaries is a wash when you just ate 2000.

shyt in that case you have to cut if off, if you know being with her you'll wanna cheat and you don't like her physically don't waste your time. She may have great qualities but she just not the one, keep going till you find something better. No one is perfect but you should never have that thought of having too cheat.

If I was you I'd even let her know that it's because she isn't taking her health serious. She is running but it defeats the purpose to run and eat poorly and that's a deal breaker. I would say I take care of my health and it's important my partner does too. It's your call though.

 

[twan83]

yeah dude ripped the band aid off, so no amount of bullshyt therapy or convos will fix it, it will always be dwelling in the back of his mind and deteriorate his mental and or physical health. It will also lead to him likely staying in the relationship and getting his "revenge", getting caught and the world treating him as the bad guy and everything she did is justified (because you know people will always/usually side with women).

I didn't read his thread to see how recent the marriage was, but if its been under a year get that annulment and keep it moving especially since it seems the financial blow will be minimum.

it def aint like these folks were high school sweet hearts and shyt, dude was a straight lick for this chick and moment someone she lusts for comes along she gonna dump dude and have him looking goofy and hit him with a divorce on some "I`m not happy" shyt if the dude she lusts for decides to commit.

Annulment depends on what state he is each state varies to a couple weeks or months so he has to keep that in mind

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

crazy how different people can be in person vs text. texted for like two weeks because we had to reschedule the first date in first week. through texting she's nice and sweet. in person you find out the real personalty and how jaded and crazy they are because there mom had them at 17 and all men are trash . bytch was dead inside for sure.