Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ahadi]

You could write a whole thing about on linguistics, and the shaping of words through social media. I commented a few times about that recently.

Intentional is one of those words that in it's current iteration, or one of them, is women talking like I only want a guy that treats me from the outset like he wants to marry me and take care of me. Like expensive spot, flowers, a gift. It's not getting to know you, it's proving yourself. it's also a bizarre way of closing yourself off from connection.

It's a testament to social media's warping of everyone's mind. Basically everything getting more extreme, and having to heighten their personal value and brand. People think they are being like wise and "traditional" but they are unintentionally mischaracterizing history. Courting and all that ritualistic shyt was when people had very very few options, both men and women. And women who weren't from wealthy families, or royalty, were essentially indigent.

I know women who talk like that, make Tik Toks about it. And some of them practice it. Esp. on a dating app. I take them them out to lavish dates, but it's on my terms.

bytches watching too much Bridgerton & picking parts of history to implement today.

Agreed. It should always be on your terms & they should be also proving themselves.

 

[Ahadi]

Spring / Summer coming



Date options below:

Spoiler: 1st link up

Coffee
Ice Cream / Frozen Yogurt / Vegan Ice Cream / Protein Shake
Happy Hour
Bottle of Wine in the park / pier
Outdoor concert (Jazz, R&B, etc)
Go for a Walk

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Spring / Summer coming



Date options below:

Spoiler: 1st link up

Coffee
Ice Cream / Frozen Yogurt / Vegan Ice Cream / Protein Shake
Happy Hour
Bottle of Wine in the park / pier
Outdoor concert (Jazz, R&B, etc)
Go for a Walk

thats not intentional enough tho.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

also I said to her what does that even mean and she unmatched me. I wasn't taking her out after her response but I was curious what she was gonna say back.

 

[Redwood]

also I said to her what does that even mean and she unmatched me. I wasn't taking her out after her response but I was curious what she was gonna say back.

Regardless of that, at least you don't have to worry about her anymore...





For now at least

 

[re'up]

The thing with dating apps is it has this overwhelming subtext of intent, like state your purpose, but you are shooting blind, or with carefully selected information.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Regardless of that, at least you don't have to worry about her anymore...





For now at least

too many men put up with bullshyt and try to date bytches that aren't interested or aren't cooperating. If she has an attitude or is making you jump through hoops it's bushes status.

 

[The ADD]

also I said to her what does that even mean and she unmatched me. I wasn't taking her out after her response but I was curious what she was gonna say back.

What happened with the other chick?

 

[Redwood]

too many men put up with bullshyt and try to date bytches that aren't interested or aren't cooperating. If she has an attitude or is making you jump through hoops it's bushes status.

Are you following your own advice here breh?

 

[Ohene]

Women dont like “intentional” men

Thats just code for how they want somebody whos willing to spend money on them without any expectations

Be serious /intentional for real and they will get scared away. Meanwhile the dude who is avoidant, keeps them guessing and is consistently inconsistent with her is the one who can’t peel her off.

 

[The ADD]

Women dont like “intentional” men

Thats just code for how they want somebody whos willing to spend money on them without any expectations

Be serious /intentional for real and they will get scared away. Meanwhile the dude who is avoidant, keeps them guessing and is consistently inconsistent with her is the one who can’t peel her off.

 

[RealAssanova]

Women dont like “intentional” men

Thats just code for how they want somebody whos willing to spend money on them without any expectations

Be serious /intentional for real and they will get scared away. Meanwhile the dude who is avoidant, keeps them guessing and is consistently inconsistent with her is the one who can’t peel her off.

Facts.

Never ever listen to what a woman says/writes.

 

[Ahadi]

The thing with dating apps is it has this overwhelming subtext of intent, like state your purpose, but you are shooting blind, or with carefully selected information.

I always tell women I don’t have intentions because I simply don’t know YOU yet. We could be friends, you could be a girlfriend, maybe a wife, maybe I never want to see you again, but. We need to spend time to figure it out.

 

[re'up]

I always tell women I don’t have intentions because I simply don’t know YOU yet. We could be friends, you could be a girlfriend, maybe a wife, maybe I never want to see you again, but. We need to spend time to figure it out.

Which again is interesting, because the idea that you would select your wife, or girlfriend, or whatever, based on HINGE prompts, to me, seems like mail order brides or arranged marriages. But, that's how we have been conditioned. You insert your data, and out comes your response. This very synthetic, sterile approach.

You leave no room for physical chemistry, or touch, or human connection (beyond messages), or the kind of closeness that COMES from things like physical intimacy, spending actual time together, but it cannot come before.

 

[re'up]

Had a pretty funny exchange with a girl yesterday, lives in my neighborhood, goes to law school. Saw her at a trendy taco spot by my house, then saw her the next day at a trendy bakery, then saw her again, walking in the area. I finally stopped her and said "Hey were you a the taco spot last night"

and we had a quick back and forth about that and whatever else, she's from LA. I was in a hurry and said I would talk to you longer, but lets have coffee tomorrow

She got that funny look, where she wasn't uncomfortable with me, but had like that Gen Z anxiety rambling. She says something like "well I have a situation....uhhh relationship...uhh I am kinda like in a situation.....and I don't want to mislead you..." and I was like don't worry about it, but what if we just get coffee? how many people do you even know in the city?

Somehow that turned into me saying, so if we meet up and hang out and talk, it's ok, but if we plan it, like exchange numbers, it's not? So, meet me without the texting. And she's like you're trying to find a loophole. And I was like you want to see me again, but we can't plan it. So I'll see you around. And the next day we ran into each other again, and we are both smiling and laughing.