Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The Jewnited States]

lol sound like you work at Whole Foods. That was a real slutty environment when I worked there

Our store is like the hawaii version of whole foods. We sell a lot of the same types of foods and cater to a similar clientele. Funny you say that shyt, I was thinking about transferring to whole foods because someone at my job said it's easier over there and they pay more. You say it's a real slutty environment?

 

[Armchair Militant]

Post-nut clarity is powerful. Sometimes I gotta rub one out before pressing send.

 

[2Quik4UHoes]

Our store is like the hawaii version of whole foods. We sell a lot of the same types of foods and cater to a similar clientele. Funny you say that shyt, I was thinking about transferring to whole foods because someone at my job said it's easier over there and they pay more. You say it's a real slutty environment?

lol all ima say is when I worked at WF it was a lot like the store you work at now. Customers, co workers, shyt was a free for all

 

[The Jewnited States]

lol all ima say is when I worked at WF it was a lot like the store you work at now. Customers, co workers, shyt was a free for all

Submitting my application today

 

[Space Cowboy]

Thoughts on this situation?

Few months back I dm'd a girl that was just my type - black, Christian, thin, feminine, girly, dresses modestly, 12 years younger than me (30's and she's mid-20's). I hit her with the most bold shyt I could come up with: "I'm going to make you a mom." She liked it, and we been hitting it off. She's real shy, which is good because I'm real bold and know how to escalate. This allows me to lead the relationship with ease and makes her instant submissive.

Today friends of opposite sex came up and I told her point blank that if she's with me she's not allowed to have male friends and if she does the two of us are done.She asked why and I told her why. She told me she understood perfectly and reflected on her past dealings with male "friends" and said I was right and would cut them off. Then she brought up how a man that orbits and tries to be her "friend"is completely different than how I handled things and told her my intentions ASAP. She said,"I said to myself this is a real man and I want him."

Now fellas, thoughts on "real man"? I don't know why but hearing that put alarm bells in my head. Maybe it's because I've heard the female "if you were a real man..." guilt trip from single mothers.

Am I bugging? I bet she's blowing smoke up my ass. I didn't even say thank you to that shyt.

 

[skyrunner1]

Thoughts on this situation?

Few months back I dm'd a girl that was just my type - black, Christian, thin, feminine, girly, dresses modestly, 12 years younger than me (30's and she's mid-20's). I hit her with the most bold shyt I could come up with: "I'm going to make you a mom." She liked it, and we been hitting it off. She's real shy, which is good because I'm real bold and know how to escalate. This allows me to lead the relationship with ease and makes her instant submissive.

Today friends of opposite sex came up and I told her point blank that if she's with me she's not allowed to have male friends and if she does the two of us are done.She asked why and I told her why. She told me she understood perfectly and reflected on her past dealings with male "friends" and said I was right and would cut them off. Then she brought up how a man that orbits and tries to be her "friend"is completely different than how I handled things and told her my intentions ASAP. She said,"I said to myself this is a real man and I want him."

Now fellas, thoughts on "real man"? I don't know why but hearing that put alarm bells in my head. Maybe it's because I've heard the female "if you were a real man..." guilt trip from single mothers.

Am I bugging? I bet she's blowing smoke up my ass. I didn't even say thank you to that shyt.

From just the "real man" comment? I would say so.. I think I have heard that from every women I come across if you around them long enough, from family, friends to women have interest in. Its used as "tool/weapon" to manipulate behavior or shame or gas up someone or whatever but thats what they do in my eyes, no biggie.. Maybe others see different but it fluctuates to their needs in moment

 

[Babymama Magnet]

Opinions from the men who are married or in long-term relationship (5+ years)

How did you come to the point of knowing that the girl you were with was the one you wanted to commit to?

I ask as been with my girl coming up to 5 years, both in our 30s. As much as we have good moments and she genuinely cares for me and tries to be supportive (she sees a future of us being a family with kids in 3 years) there is a niggling doubt in the back of my mind that questions whether i'll be happy with her in the long run (10, 20 years down the line).

I'm saying this as.. to be blunt, I've had a good single life and before i met her I had more time on my hands to do things, more freedom to do want i wanted, i could be spontaneous and do things on a whim without having to think or consult others, i had more disposable income (dating a woman is like having an additional bill to pay) and the big one... i was having much more sex (and better).

I'm looking at all the things i had back when i was single and now the lack of it whilst being in a relationship and questioning what exactly am i gaining from this apart from someone that cares for me, cooks me food and is generally pleasant to be around.

What was the tipping point that pushed you to commit to your spouse and do you lack certain things now that you're in a relationship, and if so how did you overcome it?

 

[LiveFromLondon]

@Space Cowboy prolly a throwaway comment, dont overthink it

 

[The ADD]

Thoughts on this situation?

Few months back I dm'd a girl that was just my type - black, Christian, thin, feminine, girly, dresses modestly, 12 years younger than me (30's and she's mid-20's). I hit her with the most bold shyt I could come up with: "I'm going to make you a mom." She liked it, and we been hitting it off. She's real shy, which is good because I'm real bold and know how to escalate. This allows me to lead the relationship with ease and makes her instant submissive.

Today friends of opposite sex came up and I told her point blank that if she's with me she's not allowed to have male friends and if she does the two of us are done.She asked why and I told her why. She told me she understood perfectly and reflected on her past dealings with male "friends" and said I was right and would cut them off. Then she brought up how a man that orbits and tries to be her "friend"is completely different than how I handled things and told her my intentions ASAP. She said,"I said to myself this is a real man and I want him."

Now fellas, thoughts on "real man"? I don't know why but hearing that put alarm bells in my head. Maybe it's because I've heard the female "if you were a real man..." guilt trip from single mothers.

Am I bugging? I bet she's blowing smoke up my ass. I didn't even say thank you to that shyt.

Yes

 

[The ADD]

Opinions from the men who are married or in long-term relationship (5+ years)

How did you come to the point of knowing that the girl you were with was the one you wanted to commit to?

I ask as been with my girl coming up to 5 years, both in our 30s. As much as we have good moments and she genuinely cares for me and tries to be supportive (she sees a future of us being a family with kids in 3 years) there is a niggling doubt in the back of my mind that questions whether i'll be happy with her in the long run (10, 20 years down the line).

I'm saying this as.. to be blunt, I've had a good single life and before i met her I had more time on my hands to do things, more freedom to do want i wanted, i could be spontaneous and do things on a whim without having to think or consult others, i had more disposable income (dating a woman is like having an additional bill to pay) and the big one... i was having much more sex (and better).

I'm looking at all the things i had back when i was single and now the lack of it whilst being in a relationship and questioning what exactly am i gaining from this apart from someone that cares for me, cooks me food and is generally pleasant to be around.

What was the tipping point that pushed you to commit to your spouse and do you lack certain things now that you're in a relationship, and if so how did you overcome it?

Sounds like it’s more about not wanting the responsibilities of a relationship than it being her. You would encounter this with any woman outside of the sex part. If those are all things you want you can’t be blamed and maybe a long term relationship isn’t your thing.

Me, myself, personally I realized I wasn’t likely to find a better person that was committed to making a relationship work than her.

 

[skyrunner1]

Opinions from the men who are married or in long-term relationship (5+ years)

How did you come to the point of knowing that the girl you were with was the one you wanted to commit to?

I ask as been with my girl coming up to 5 years, both in our 30s. As much as we have good moments and she genuinely cares for me and tries to be supportive (she sees a future of us being a family with kids in 3 years) there is a niggling doubt in the back of my mind that questions whether i'll be happy with her in the long run (10, 20 years down the line).

I'm saying this as.. to be blunt, I've had a good single life and before i met her I had more time on my hands to do things, more freedom to do want i wanted, i could be spontaneous and do things on a whim without having to think or consult others, i had more disposable income (dating a woman is like having an additional bill to pay) and the big one... i was having much more sex (and better).

I'm looking at all the things i had back when i was single and now the lack of it whilst being in a relationship and questioning what exactly am i gaining from this apart from someone that cares for me, cooks me food and is generally pleasant to be around.

What was the tipping point that pushed you to commit to your spouse and do you lack certain things now that you're in a relationship, and if so how did you overcome it?

Question, do you have kids already? That has major impact on my response. Also what is your ultimate goal, like what did YOU always want?

 

[Babymama Magnet]

Question, do you have kids already? That has major impact on my response. Also what is your ultimate goal, like what did YOU always want?

No i have no kids yet. It's why i'm thinking this hard about the relationship as i know that once (or if) we do have kids there is no going back and im locked in.

It's funny, when i was single i got bored of the single life and meaningless sex/lack of focus etc and i was looking back at my life at 30 asking myself what i had achieved/what could i show of my progress in life. I decided that i wanted to settle down with that one person and have a serious serious relationship (marriage, kids, the whole 9 yard etc) plus i knew that i was getting bored of the casual sex/life.

Now that i'm in a relationship by mind constantly drifts towards being single as i'm seeing the perks. What i really want is to Grow and meet the person i believe i can be but in terms of relationship i do want to settle down and have children in the future (not right now).

What's really bugging me is the lack of sex as this is what i feed off on (brings me happiness) and i know how easy it would be for me to get it if i became single.

 

[Apollo Creed]

No i have no kids yet. It's why i'm thinking this hard about the relationship as i know that once (or if) we do have kids there is no going back and im locked in.

It's funny, when i was single i got bored of the single life and meaningless sex/lack of focus etc and i was looking back at my life at 30 asking myself what i had achieved/what could i show of my progress in life. I decided that i wanted to settle down with that one person and have a serious serious relationship (marriage, kids, the whole 9 yard etc) plus i knew that i was getting bored of the casual sex/life.

Now that i'm in a relationship by mind constantly drifts towards being single as i'm seeing the perks. What i really want is to Grow and meet the person i believe i can be but in terms of relationship i do want to settle down and have children in the future (not right now).

What's really bugging me is the lack of sex as this is what i feed off on (brings me happiness) and i know how easy it would be for me to get it if i became single.

if you aren't focused on producing competitive kids and legacy Marriage makes zero sense. Dudes use Marriage to lock in sex and not be lonely but then get married and end up sexless and lonely but now with the bill of a nagging woman and kids you won't have custody off when she divorces your lol

 

[Space Cowboy]

Thank y'all.

 

[re'up]

No i have no kids yet. It's why i'm thinking this hard about the relationship as i know that once (or if) we do have kids there is no going back and im locked in.

It's funny, when i was single i got bored of the single life and meaningless sex/lack of focus etc and i was looking back at my life at 30 asking myself what i had achieved/what could i show of my progress in life. I decided that i wanted to settle down with that one person and have a serious serious relationship (marriage, kids, the whole 9 yard etc) plus i knew that i was getting bored of the casual sex/life.

Now that i'm in a relationship by mind constantly drifts towards being single as i'm seeing the perks. What i really want is to Grow and meet the person i believe i can be but in terms of relationship i do want to settle down and have children in the future (not right now).

What's really bugging me is the lack of sex as this is what i feed off on (brings me happiness) and i know how easy it would be for me to get it if i became single.

Two things, our brains are wired to 'come down' from the pleasure we experience. We have to come down, so we can go back up. It's the idea that our brains are always trying to go back to neutral. So, whether you are single, or in a relationship, the highs of both things will come down, eventually. You get used to the highs of love, sex, lust, it doesn't go away, but it lessens. Our brains adapt and adjust to any situation.

The second thing is you can work on the sex. Not easy for a lot of people to talk about. But, both parties have to be open/willing. You can go from a 7 to a ten with some pretty basic communication. Lots of people don't really actively work on, or think about their sex life, they are so happy to just be having it, or having it available.