Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Weird how closely related the job market and dating are nowadays and I didn’t even notice it until recently

I’ve seen so many sub reddits and YouTube videos talking about people applying to 500+ jobs in months and getting no where, the same way folks be on apps swiping everyday and getting no matches.

Kinda makes you think of the alternative in the job hunt (networking, cold calling etc.) just like the alternative in dating (meet through friend of a friend, meet at work, cold approaching etc.)
 
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Apollo Creed said:
I would say because the USA is multicultural we tend to blur the lines on a lot of shyt which cause confusion because everyone comes to the table with experiences that are different thus create different expectation compared to "old world" societies where things are more on Tribal or Ethnic lines where you are raised into your role of the tribe or ethnic social contract.

What I`m saying is in these old world societies if you don't want to play by the social contract of that group you just simply date outside of it, in USA there is no agreed upon universal social contract thus we get a lot of confusion because everyone wants some unique thing thus people have the debate on "What am I willing to give up" as nobody will ever meet 100% of what you want.

So for example DINK is perfect for people who don't want to start a family hence the Partnership concept (because Partnership implies both people keep who they re and bring equal to the table), while Most Family Structures are ROLE based thus when ever someone uses Partnership and Family in the same sentence it is usually a red flag.

This is why you hav e some people who feel Marriage should be reserved for people creating families because it is role based (we assign titles of husband and wife which are roles) and anyone who isn't on that can do Civil unions. The fact people who want partnership still want "marriage" do it because they are still trying to fit in what they feel society deems as "acceptable", because in reality going to a court house does not mean you love someone.
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The problem is biological wiring has stamina and most people want kids at some point. Also the US is still very Old World. The power structure that runs it is White Evangelical and the mix of cultures that melt in our pot come from places that are just more upfront with the tribal/Old World mentality.
 
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International Playa said:
Met my queen when I was 36.

Never gave up, was going on many dates with different women trying to meet my person.
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Yup I met my wife at 37 (turned 38 a few weeks later) and now turning 40 in a few weeks.

Also went on hundreds of dates, mad relationships . When you least expect it
 
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