Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

Next broad you bag, have her go through her dating app and her matches.

Take a good look at your competition, but also who she thinks looks good.

Lots of guys have bad photo game BUT there are a ton of guys, especially younger cats, that have grown up on line and go all out when it comes to taking selfies, action shots, photos, etc. And the volume of dudes trying to get in these chicks - even if it's only 20% of guys with good photos - that's like 200 people in her feed of a 1,000.

They got props, exotic locales, etc.

Then they back it up with video and a great online presence.

If cats is serious about "dating apps" - it's way more than half an hour of trying to find natural light and good framing of the face.

I can only speak on what I've seen from the sidelines.

And photos is just the 1st part of it, she's still gotta meet up with you, vibe right, and then you gotta kick your lyrics to her face to face.

Exactly lol
Its always a bad investment regardless; the offs are always slim. I have great photos and get decent matches but that doesnt mean:

- women wont ghost
- women wont flake
- women wont put in minimal effort
- women wont be talking to 25 other dudes

There are basic women I know…7s with 100s of matches. They cant even get through the first 20 before being exhausted and you might be #50 in the queue lol. Its all trash.

Then even if you do meet a girl, yall can have a good vibe, yall can be attracted to each other and all that only for you to give her the ick and get ghosted. This is how it really is.

 

[cyndaquil]

Exactly lol
Its always a bad investment regardless; the offs are always slim. I have great photos and get decent matches but that doesnt mean:

- women wont ghost
- women wont flake
- women wont put in minimal effort
- women wont be talking to 25 other dudes

There are basic women I know…7s with 100s of matches. They cant even get through the first 20 before being exhausted and you might be #50 in the queue lol. Its all trash.

Then even if you do meet a girl, yall can have a good vibe, yall can be attracted to each other and all that only for you to give her the ick and get ghosted. This is how it really is.

I lowkey wanna remake my shyt and just brand myself as the most hood mfer ever and see what kinda matches I get now

Damn I'd need like a burner phone or something to do it huh?

 

[skyrunner1]

Next broad you bag, have her go through her dating app and her matches.

Take a good look at your competition, but also who she thinks looks good.

Lots of guys have bad photo game BUT there are a ton of guys, especially younger cats, that have grown up on line and go all out when it comes to taking selfies, action shots, photos, etc. And the volume of dudes trying to get in these chicks - even if it's only 20% of guys with good photos - that's like 200 people in her feed of a 1,000.

They got props, exotic locales, etc.

Then they back it up with video and a great online presence.

If cats is serious about "dating apps" - it's way more than half an hour of trying to find natural light and good framing of the face.

I can only speak on what I've seen from the sidelines.

And photos is just the 1st part of it, she's still gotta meet up with you, vibe right, and then you gotta kick your lyrics to her face to face.

I actually was supposed to add that my young fam have that part of the game on lock and their IG is on point. One of the young fam is a photographer and he is always with them to get shots when they go out and do shyt, so its like in house marketing. I mentioned it before in multiple post that the youngins got great understanding of it, so you are 100% right on that. But they got a certain mindset also, so its hard for brehs to maybe relate. But definitely peep the behaviors.

 

[skyrunner1]

Exactly lol
Its always a bad investment regardless; the offs are always slim. I have great photos and get decent matches but that doesnt mean:

- women wont ghost
- women wont flake
- women wont put in minimal effort
- women wont be talking to 25 other dudes

There are basic women I know…7s with 100s of matches. They cant even get through the first 20 before being exhausted and you might be #50 in the queue lol. Its all trash.

Then even if you do meet a girl, yall can have a good vibe, yall can be attracted to each other and all that only for you to give her the ick and get ghosted. This is how it really is.

The paradox of choice is real. I think every breh has to experience atleast for brief time to understand how it really make you be on some pointy elbows type shyt. You have soo many options that you basically short circuit and cant decide.

I lowkey wanna remake my shyt and just brand myself as the most hood mfer ever and see what kinda matches I get now

Damn I'd need like a burner phone or something to do it huh?

Run it breh. Doesnt hurt to test things out and see response.

Actually you added examples after the fact. Thats a little too extreme, you gonna attract unwanted attention and have wolves at your door, I gave that warning to fam and a week later they had them boys running up in house.. Luckily they survived. Just tone it down a lil but you can still signal wat is needed. lol..

 

[cyndaquil]

The paradox of choice is real. I think every breh has to experience atleast for brief time to understand how it really make you be on some pointy elbows type shyt. You have soo many options that you basically short circuit and cant decide.



Run it breh. Doesnt hurt to test things out and see response.

Hell nah I was joking
But I think it goes to show how crazy it is you can be whoever you wanna be on the internet tho

 

[Brandsdale]

for me, it was learning my body type and what angles work for me. I avoid selfies and just take photos of me out and about (one at a wedding, one Downtown, and one at a picnic)

You made a good point about attracting the certain kind of women you like. I take a lot of business professional photos due to work and realized not many women (at least for me) responded well to them or cared for them.

Good point. Think I’ll just try to be more proactive in taking pics when I’m out. I’ve gotten rid of IG and all that 2 years ago so pics hasn’t been something I have an abundance of on my phone

I’m a fairly bigger and muscular dude (230 lbs) so I’ve always felt like anything that’s ain’t a peace sign and smile was gonna look weird. I got 2 selfies (1 with my cat) and didn’t realize those kinda pics are red flags, even deleting em now

 

[The ADD]

Good point. Think I’ll just try to be more proactive in taking pics when I’m out. I’ve gotten rid of IG and all that 2 years ago so pics hasn’t been something I have an abundance of on my phone

I’m a fairly bigger and muscular dude (230 lbs) so I’ve always felt like anything that’s ain’t a peace sign and smile was gonna look weird. I got 2 selfies (1 with my cat) and didn’t realize those kinda pics are red flags, even deleting em now

 

[WIA20XX]

What I've gathered from the ether about how females judge profiles. (I'm mostly joking here)

NBA/Wemby height = -1
Normal height = -1

"ideal height" = +1

Listed as 5'11" or less = -5

Ideal height plus professional athlete muscles = +3

Sleeper build = 0

"he looks like works out" = +2

Magazine cover Bodybuilder = -1 (really depends on the chick though)

Designer logos = +2
Designer no logos/bespoke = 0
Business casual/Casual = -2

Handsome face = +5

Big truck - +1
Big truck on rims - +2

This year's Luxury Sedan - +1
Last year's Luxury Sedan - = 0

Muscle car that's not a Charger/Challenger
= -1

Sports car that's not a Ferrari/ Lambo = -1
Ferrari/Lambo = 0

Rice rocket bike - 0
Harley = -1

Expensive watch = 0
Expensive looking watch = +0.5
Diamond stud earrings = +1

Timbs, Camouflage, Jordans, =


Pics with women - +1- -1 depending on the females in the pic.

Pics with the homies -> what's your friends name?

Pics with kids and/or pets - 0 - (-1) - too much "good catch energy ".

Hunting, guns, outdoors, fishing - zero to minus 1

Instagram locations - +1
Actually exotic places - 0

 

[cyndaquil]

What I've gathered from the ether about how females judge profiles. (I'm mostly joking here)

NBA/Wemby height = -1
Normal height = -1

"ideal height" = +1

Listed as 5'11" or less = -5

Ideal height plus professional athlete muscles = +3

Sleeper build = 0

"he looks like works out" = +2

Magazine cover Bodybuilder = -1 (really depends on the chick though)

Designer logos = +2
Designer no logos/bespoke = 0
Business casual/Casual = -2

Handsome face = +5

Big truck - +1
Big truck on rims - +2

This year's Luxury Sedan - +1
Last year's Luxury Sedan - = 0

Muscle car that's not a Charger/Challenger
= -1

Sports car that's not a Ferrari/ Lambo = -1
Ferrari/Lambo = 0

Rice rocket bike - 0
Harley = -1

Expensive watch = 0
Expensive looking watch = +0.5
Diamond stud earrings = +1

Timbs, Camouflage, Jordans, =


Pics with women - +1- -1 depending on the females in the pic.

Pics with the homies -> what's your friends name?

Pics with kids and/or pets - 0 - (-1) - too much "good catch energy ".

Hunting, guns, outdoors, fishing - zero to minus 1

Instagram locations - +1
Actually exotic places - 0

Anime -5
Reading +1
Reading comics -5
dikk print +2
Small dikk print -5
Shirtless selfie -5
Shirtless selfie but you're swole and shredded +3
Pics playing with dogs +3
Selfie with dog -2

 

[Brandsdale]

Genuinely didn’t know a selfie or pet pic was deemed inflammatory

Smh now I’m thinking I should just delete this shyt

 

[cyndaquil]

Genuinely didn’t know a selfie or pet pic was deemed inflammatory

Smh now I’m thinking I should just delete this shyt

The answer is you should. We should all delete but there is very easy low hanging fruit on the apps lol

Just redo it and make a video of you and your cat playing then post a frame from it. Easy matches

 

[WIA20XX]

Anime -5
Reading +1
Reading comics -5
dikk print +2
Small dikk print -5
Shirtless selfie -5
Shirtless selfie but you're swole and shredded +3
Pics playing with dogs +3
Selfie with dog -2

I be behind enemy lines on a regular basis, I.e I lurk at LSA.

Watching them tear apart pictures of people that they supposedly like, is a good way to get a feel for their cruelty. Even though there might be very extreme takes on something, there is usually a nugget of Truth in what they say, which is why they think it's so funny..

The swole guy is both attractive, and also overcompensating.

Jonathan Majors is a perfect example of The duality of women. Before he was Exposed as a PAWG lover, they were split on his overall attractiveness, because his above average physique compensated for what many would call his below average face.

Although I will totally submit to the court that having a wide African nose is a positive generally speaking, and a lot of these women that will claim that you are color struck are in fact color struck themselves, or feature struck. I divest..

Game is rigged so that you cannot ever win. Unless you win, in which case you win everything.

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

Miss a couple days and miss this exchange on attachment.. Definitely an important discussion for brehs and probably needs to be fleshed out. I am usually someone who sidesteps as mostly woowoo type stuff but when I actually looked into it a couple years back, it was paradigm shifting to me, could see how it affected multiple relationships. I actually think "game" is just packaged Avoidant behavior lol.. I know I have said multiple times that when I became exposed to "game" online, it felt like home and fit like a glove for me. Would also be confused why past behavior would have girls chasing even more when they say they want the opposite. Getting understanding on attachment theory answered why I felt that way. Brehs definitely dont underestimate this stuff, its atleast a pillar in helping you understand what you are dealing with or looking at yourself in mirror.

I know @Ohene talked about getting them to expose early than later but thats the thing, avoidants know how to do the beginning of dating stage REALLLLY well .. Like I said "game". They not even doing it consciously, it just happens that way. It reveals itself month down the line when vibes cant carry the relationship anymore and the other party wonders where this is going. Thats when its like hold on, I got commitment issues or some shyt comes up .. Then the chase begins and it triggers an outdated coping mechanism. Dont let it be an anxious type, they are drawn like moths to a flame.. Had to sit my ass down and build self back up brick by brick. Lets see how that plays out. Even if miss discussion good stuff and needed for other brehs. Its life changing because most of that stuff is subconscious and just coping behavior that while might have been adequate at younger age is outdated and outlived use in adulthood.

Damn...you framimg it in terms of "game" just set a light bulb off in my head. I never classified myself as the avoidant type, but it aligns with how I move with chicks. I often self deprecate and say "I'm only sticking around for the honeymoon stage" , once it's over, it's time to give them the "I'm not up to the standard of man you deserve" speech. But I always do this and it is because I am a self admitted "commitment-phobe".

The boy got some reflection and reconciling to do with the concept of "deeper love" when it comes to romamtic partners and if I can find a peace with it....

 

[cyndaquil]

I be behind enemy lines on a regular basis, I.e I lurk at LSA.

Watching them tear apart pictures of people that they supposedly like, is a good way to get a feel for their cruelty. Even though there might be very extreme takes on something, there is usually a nugget of Truth in what they say, which is why they think it's so funny..

The swole guy is both attractive, and also overcompensating.

Jonathan Majors is a perfect example of The duality of women. Before he was Exposed as a PAWG lover, they were split on his overall attractiveness, because his above average physique compensated for what many would call his below average face.

Although I will totally submit to the court that having a wide African nose is a positive generally speaking, and a lot of these women that will claim that you are color struck are in fact color struck themselves, or feature struck. I divest..

Game is rigged so that you cannot ever win. Unless you win, in which case you win everything.

Idk what they saying all i know is once I am super shredded when I finish this cut. I am going full conceited mode. They can eat a dikk
Everybody got something to say. Some of the ugliest men alive post here and still be tryna critique the most beautiful women. At the end of the day you not gonna be everyone's type but there is a formula to maximize your results without compromising your own personality and who you are

 

[Brandsdale]

The answer is you should. We should all delete but there is very easy low hanging fruit on the apps lol

Just redo it and make a video of you and your cat playing then post a frame from it. Easy matches

Yeah it would prob make more sense to do an overhaul or at least test a bunch of pics

think I’m fighting an uphill battle if I’m not showing how fun I can be