Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The ADD]

my cousin said that he had a talk with her about how she fell out with a guy and was asking him to hook her up with someone new.

apparently his older brother mentioned my name in the convo & she said she found me attractive then told them to text me for her. idk if it’s worth it fr or she was coerced into feeling like she needed to do it but she’s attractive though

You sound lukewarm and only interested because shes’s attractive. If you aren’t really interested then probably best to KIM.

 

[MikelArteta]

https://www.thecoli.com/threads/ig-fitness-model-and-mother-of-6-and-her-date-killed-by-her-husband-in-cali.1088833/

Reminder to always do your due diligence there are tons of crazy azz men out there. If she mentions a crazy ex, abusive ex, was stalked etc. run


One thing im glad about is that at a young age I got royally screwed by women and dealt massive heartbreak. Yeah it made me angry and upset and hurt for a while but I got over it to now even when women I cared about deeply in life dropped dem thangs on me I was just like aii and moved on.

 

[skyrunner1]

how would y’all go about having a family friend who likes you?

she had recently reunited with us and asked my cousin about me and gave me her number to text. i like vaguely remember the last time we saw each other before reuniting we were probably like 8-9 years old lol

i don’t wanna make it awkward seeing her with the family after if anything goes bad from this

i dont have the skill points required for this mission lol

This is how people used to meet back in day, funny it seems weird now but this is totally normal or atleast used to be in this tech driven world now. Might be a great opportunity for you, just play it cool and see where it goes. In a situation like this they might make it easy for you as they already stated they are attracted to you, so its low pressure.

I wouldnt worry too much about if things go bad as long as you go into it with positive intentions.

 

[DJSmooth]

my cousin said that he had a talk with her about how she fell out with a guy and was asking him to hook her up with someone new.

apparently his older brother mentioned my name in the convo & she said she found me attractive then told them to text me for her. idk if it’s worth it fr or she was coerced into feeling like she needed to do it but she’s attractive though

Rather meet a woman through family and friends then hook up with a random. The girl is more likely to behave and not act a fool since they have more eyes on them.

 

[Ohene]

how would y’all go about having a family friend who likes you?

she had recently reunited with us and asked my cousin about me and gave me her number to text. i like vaguely remember the last time we saw each other before reuniting we were probably like 8-9 years old lol

i don’t wanna make it awkward seeing her with the family after if anything goes bad from this

i dont have the skill points required for this mission lol

if i was attracted i would be almost all in

family is important when it comes to relationships. if your family knows her/her family and there is respect/rapport then that will make a lot of things easier. plus it will add an extra layer of accountability to you and her so yall will get the best result possible

 

[cyndaquil]

8 women again...

3 women now...

And one is talking bout android vs iPhone and she in her mid 30s...

Might be bushes status soon

 

[Amo Husserl]

dikk discipline will make it all make sense, but you gotta have dikk discipline.
It's not simply just dikk discipline, but a state and mind that does not prioritize juice box.

-Abstinence Practitioner Proverb

 

[WIA20XX]

*reads between lines*

Chick leaves DC for Arkansas WITH HER FIANCEE.
Dude doesn't find a job, but is comfortable in the burbs.

She bounces because she missed the city.....

right

I moved with my fiancé from DC to Arkansas to save money. It was actually more expensive there, and 5 months later, we broke up.

Tyler Donohue and her fiancé moved to Bentonville, AR, with dreams of a larger space and cheaper cost of living. The illusion cracked quickly.

www.businessinsider.com

 

[YOGEBEAR09]

Miss a couple days and miss this exchange on attachment.. Definitely an important discussion for brehs and probably needs to be fleshed out. I am usually someone who sidesteps as mostly woowoo type stuff but when I actually looked into it a couple years back, it was paradigm shifting to me, could see how it affected multiple relationships. I actually think "game" is just packaged Avoidant behavior lol.. I know I have said multiple times that when I became exposed to "game" online, it felt like home and fit like a glove for me. Would also be confused why past behavior would have girls chasing even more when they say they want the opposite. Getting understanding on attachment theory answered why I felt that way. Brehs definitely dont underestimate this stuff, its atleast a pillar in helping you understand what you are dealing with or looking at yourself in mirror.

I know @Ohene talked about getting them to expose early than later but thats the thing, avoidants know how to do the beginning of dating stage REALLLLY well .. Like I said "game". They not even doing it consciously, it just happens that way. It reveals itself month down the line when vibes cant carry the relationship anymore and the other party wonders where this is going. Thats when its like hold on, I got commitment issues or some shyt comes up .. Then the chase begins and it triggers an outdated coping mechanism. Dont let it be an anxious type, they are drawn like moths to a flame.. Had to sit my ass down and build self back up brick by brick. Lets see how that plays out. Even if miss discussion good stuff and needed for other brehs. Its life changing because most of that stuff is subconscious and just coping behavior that while might have been adequate at younger age is outdated and outlived use in adulthood.

Damn, sound just like me, I definitely realized im Avoidant and got commitment issues

 

[RaspberryFitted]

how would y’all go about having a family friend who likes you?

she had recently reunited with us and asked my cousin about me and gave me her number to text. i like vaguely remember the last time we saw each other before reuniting we were probably like 8-9 years old lol

i don’t wanna make it awkward seeing her with the family after if anything goes bad from this

i dont have the skill points required for this mission lol

I get it, but I dislike how your mindset is with this

 

[WIA20XX]

Women who hate men: a comparative analysis across extremist Reddit communities​

Women who hate men: a comparative analysis across extremist Reddit communities - Scientific Reports

In the present online social landscape, while misogyny is a well-established issue, misandry remains significantly underexplored. In an effort to rectify this discrepancy and better understand the phenomenon of gendered hate speech, we analyze four openly declared misogynistic and misandric...

www.nature.com

The performed analyses reveal that no systematic differences can be devised across the misogynistic and misandric communities. This suggests that, in addressing the phenomenon of online gendered hate speech, both male-to-female and female-to-male perspectives should be taken into account, thus recognizing equal importance to both misandry and misogyny.

This is for cats that think that men are worse than women, when in actuality there's an equality of hate.

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

Women who hate men: a comparative analysis across extremist Reddit communities​

Women who hate men: a comparative analysis across extremist Reddit communities - Scientific Reports

In the present online social landscape, while misogyny is a well-established issue, misandry remains significantly underexplored. In an effort to rectify this discrepancy and better understand the phenomenon of gendered hate speech, we analyze four openly declared misogynistic and misandric...

www.nature.com

This is for cats that think that men are worse than women, when in actuality there's an equality of hate.

I hesitate to make the broad generalized statement "Most level headed people can attach to every male complaining about hate from a woman, a woman doing the same to the extent that anecdotally they balance each other." I say "hesitate" because these echo chambers we are in definitely magnify the chosen side you're on and that stuff does leak into "offline" life. From friends using certain "talking points" to overhearing regurgitated rhetoric. shyt becomes a self fulfilling prophecy sometimes.................just a thought, really no direction I have when making this...

 

[WIA20XX]

I hesitate to make the broad generalized statement "Most level headed people can attach to every male complaining about hate from a woman, a woman doing the same to the extent that anecdotally they balance each other." I say "hesitate" because these echo chambers we are in definitely magnify the chosen side you're on and that stuff does leak into "offline" life. From friends using certain "talking points" to overhearing regurgitated rhetoric. shyt becomes a self fulfilling prophecy sometimes.................just a thought, really no direction I have when making this...

It's hard for me to get my head around the study - but my sense is that a lot of people - black/white/rich/poor whoever - really think that things were "cool" between the genders back in the 90s, and that a lot of these folks need to just touch gr(ass).

But

Things were not cool back then.
Things haven't been cool for generations.

The vitriol and violence from man to woman is well documented and legislated against.

but

The vitriol and violence from woman to man is still disregarded.

This might be the first study I've seen lately, that even takes a shot at the mainstream idea.

They're still tiptoeing around female/male inequity, but at the same time talking about the crisis with men, and men don't want to date anymore...

I can give individuals micro solutions for their micro problems - but when you have tens of thousands (millions..) - there are problems that are popping up.

Less marriages
Less families

Etc.

Which has implications for the nation/society as a whole.

 

[africngiant]

I get it, but I dislike how your mindset is with this

that’s true, im gonna take that leap of faith. im used to thinking of negative outcomes in my life cause from various events causing self loathing smh.

the convo seems to be flowing rn though she got her bach in biochem now she’s starting work in philly next month hoping to get her masters & phd through the job, i offered to help her move her stuff in. we’ll see how it goes

 

[DeuceZ]

Honestly I've seen things brehs, I've gone out with chicks with sickle cell and they still had tons and tons of brehs slurping them up.

Even remember talking to this girl on hinge who was paralyzed and in a wheelchair and even her yes even her had a Rolodex of men

I'm curious as to the sickle cell comment. Are people with SC (male or female) supposed to have lower standards or fewer options