Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Redwood]

I find the hardest thing about dating as a man is that you have to be so superior to a woman (I.e money, status, height, power, etc.) for her to even be attracted to you that often times you'll find yourself dating someone so inferior to you that you shouldn't even be in the same room as them. I spend my time creating statistical models in R to simulate NBA & NFL games to beat the betting markets & have literally been on dates with women who don't know the difference between "accept" & "except".

Since most men don't have that many options and some even have to put in extreme effort and energy just for the few options they do have, they kinda have to take what they can get......meaning they settle with someone they don't really like, they use a woman as a placeholder to get what they want and avoid being lonely or they just stay single. I've mostly chosen to stay single...........

It's dawned on me recently, how many chicks I've fukked or dated that I didn't even like, they were just women who made themselves available to me and typically they were beneath me in some way, shape or form. I'm not saying that to be cocky, just speaking the truth. These women were not in my league and I recognized that immediately and put them in the category of women I just want to have casual sex and fun with.......but no one ever truly talks about the dangers of when you see a woman one way and she's seeing you in a completely different manner as a potential husband or baby father.


Back when I was 32, I was fukking some jawn I didn't really like and she begged me to take the condom off. I paused, and said what we gonna do if you get pregnant. She said, there’s gonna be some freckle faced babies running around. I legit heard a record scratch sound like in the movies, I got up and left my own crib. I didn’t come back for like a half hour……and it fukked me up cause, I was broke, working at Roc Nation (which surprisingly felt like a dead end job), unhappy with my life and this woman who I knew wouldn’t even be my girlfriend let alone a wife was talking about having my kids. She didn’t have jack shyt, I didn’t have jack shyt…..I was still living in my mom’s crib and she hit me with this crazy shyt. She even asked me, would you make me have an abortion at my age and I said YES. And it started to hit me that she saw me as a husband, while for me, she was just a jump off and just fukking with her was dangerous because she’d legit try to trap me or change my mind………but ever since then I’ve been different. It's legit ruined casual sex forever....and it's totally changed the way I engage with women at all.

I really only want to date or fukk women I like and women who are actually on my level. While I prefer black women, I'm actually at point where I can totally see myself with white woman for various reasons.

they'll do the same thing in a different way

 

[The ADD]

I find the hardest thing about dating as a man is that you have to be so superior to a woman (I.e money, status, height, power, etc.) for her to even be attracted to you that often times you'll find yourself dating someone so inferior to you that you shouldn't even be in the same room as them. I spend my time creating statistical models in R to simulate NBA & NFL games to beat the betting markets & have literally been on dates with women who don't know the difference between "accept" & "except".

Since most men don't have that many options and some even have to put in extreme effort and energy just for the few options they do have, they kinda have to take what they can get......meaning they settle with someone they don't really like, they use a woman as a placeholder to get what they want and avoid being lonely or they just stay single. I've mostly chosen to stay single...........

It's dawned on me recently, how many chicks I've fukked or dated that I didn't even like, they were just women who made themselves available to me and typically they were beneath me in some way, shape or form. I'm not saying that to be cocky, just speaking the truth. These women were not in my league and I recognized that immediately and put them in the category of women I just want to have casual sex and fun with.......but no one ever truly talks about the dangers of when you see a woman one way and she's seeing you in a completely different manner as a potential husband or baby father.


Back when I was 32, I was fukking some jawn I didn't really like and she begged me to take the condom off. I paused, and said what we gonna do if you get pregnant. She said, there’s gonna be some freckle faced babies running around. I legit heard a record scratch sound like in the movies, I got up and left my own crib. I didn’t come back for like a half hour……and it fukked me up cause, I was broke, working at Roc Nation (which surprisingly felt like a dead end job), unhappy with my life and this woman who I knew wouldn’t even be my girlfriend let alone a wife was talking about having my kids. She didn’t have jack shyt, I didn’t have jack shyt…..I was still living in my mom’s crib and she hit me with this crazy shyt. She even asked me, would you make me have an abortion at my age and I said YES. And it started to hit me that she saw me as a husband, while for me, she was just a jump off and just fukking with her was dangerous because she’d legit try to trap me or change my mind………but ever since then I’ve been different. It's legit ruined casual sex forever....and it's totally changed the way I engage with women at all.

I really only want to date or fukk women I like and women who are actually on my level. While I prefer black women, I'm actually at point where I can totally see myself with white woman for various reasons.

Interesting edit

If you see yourself more with white women you gotta do what makes you happy.

 

[WIA20XX]

I find the hardest thing about dating as a man is that you have to be so superior to a woman (I.e money, status, height, power, etc.) for her to even be attracted to you that often times you'll find yourself dating someone so inferior to you that you shouldn't even be in the same room as them. I spend my time creating statistical models in R to simulate NBA & NFL games to beat the betting markets & have literally been on dates with women who don't know the difference between "accept" & "except".

Since most men don't have that many options and some even have to put in extreme effort and energy just for the few options they do have, they kinda have to take what they can get......meaning they settle with someone they don't really like, they use a woman as a placeholder to get what they want and avoid being lonely or they just stay single. I've mostly chosen to stay single...........

It's dawned on me recently, how many chicks I've fukked or dated that I didn't even like, they were just women who made themselves available to me and typically they were beneath me in some way, shape or form. I'm not saying that to be cocky, just speaking the truth. These women were not in my league and I recognized that immediately and put them in the category of women I just want to have casual sex and fun with.......but no one ever truly talks about the dangers of when you see a woman one way and she's seeing you in a completely different manner as a potential husband or baby father.


Back when I was 32, I was fukking some jawn I didn't really like and she begged me to take the condom off. I paused, and said what we gonna do if you get pregnant. She said, there’s gonna be some freckle faced babies running around. I legit heard a record scratch sound like in the movies, I got up and left my own crib. I didn’t come back for like a half hour……and it fukked me up cause, I was broke, working at Roc Nation (which surprisingly felt like a dead end job), unhappy with my life and this woman who I knew wouldn’t even be my girlfriend let alone a wife was talking about having my kids. She didn’t have jack shyt, I didn’t have jack shyt…..I was still living in my mom’s crib and she hit me with this crazy shyt. She even asked me, would you make me have an abortion at my age and I said YES. And it started to hit me that she saw me as a husband, while for me, she was just a jump off and just fukking with her was dangerous because she’d legit try to trap me or change my mind………but ever since then I’ve been different. It's legit ruined casual sex forever....and it's totally changed the way I engage with women at all.

I really only want to date or fukk women I like and women who are actually on my level. While I prefer black women, I'm actually at point where I can totally see myself with white woman for various reasons.

There's so much in this post.

So at first you say

I find the hardest thing about dating as a man is that you have to be so superior to a woman (I.e money, status, height, power, etc.) for her to even be attracted to you that often times you'll find yourself dating someone so inferior to you that you shouldn't even be in the same room as them.

But then you say

I really only want to date or fukk women I like and women who are actually on my level.

How do you date a woman where - you're superior, but she's also on your level?

Paragraph 1 don't jive with Paragraph 4.

Then you go on to say

Back when I was 32,

^This little phrase speaks volumes. BACK when you was 32!!!

But out of sequence, your words

you'll find yourself dating someone so inferior to you that you shouldn't even be in the same room as them.
It's dawned on me recently, how many chicks I've fukked or dated that I didn't even like
I was fukking some jawn I didn't really like and she begged me to take the condom off

Your post really sounds like YOU'RE trying to work some stuff out for yourself.

It sounds like you have some life stats that make you feel superior, but your actions towards these broads show that you are not in fact superior.

As for your solution

I really only want to date or fukk women I like and women who are actually on my level. While I prefer black women, I'm actually at point where I can totally see myself with white woman for various reasons.

You shoulda been done dating women that 1) you like 2) are on your level - well before 32.

You gotta to come to grips with the time you've wasted just hitting broads that are "beneath" you.

Heal thyself.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Sure about that potna?

But being serious for a minute

1. What do you want out of life?
2. What are your life goals?
3. What are your family goals?

Then the question is how does she help/support YOUR goals?

Does she have goals of her own?
She thinking about going back to school?

You make enough so that her little 350K don't mean anything? Might as well stay at home, raise and home school?

Great post. Sometimes I do wonder what type of woman they are after you smash on second date but we had good chemistry off the rip.

You right I gotta figure out what I want and see if she’s a good fit.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

How do you know she wants a relationship?

Enjoy the meals and attachment free sex. If something deeper develops so be it, so be it

She’s been asking me questions like are you healed from your ex, when do you know you want a relationship, when do you know you want a relationship with a certain girl. I don’t usually have the what are we conversation unless they initiate it. I’m never asking if you want to be my girl.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

@<<TheStandard>> I think the trick is to date a woman below you but not too below you. Considering the circles you run in you might run into a lot of not shyt bytches but gotta be some solid ones too. You might have your guard up a little. You don’t want someone on your level then she won’t respect you

 

[skyrunner1]

I find the hardest thing about dating as a man is that you have to be so superior to a woman (I.e money, status, height, power, etc.) for her to even be attracted to you that often times you'll find yourself dating someone so inferior to you that you shouldn't even be in the same room as them. I spend my time creating statistical models in R to simulate NBA & NFL games to beat the betting markets & have literally been on dates with women who don't know the difference between "accept" & "except".

Since most men don't have that many options and some even have to put in extreme effort and energy just for the few options they do have, they kinda have to take what they can get......meaning they settle with someone they don't really like, they use a woman as a placeholder to get what they want and avoid being lonely or they just stay single. I've mostly chosen to stay single...........

It's dawned on me recently, how many chicks I've fukked or dated that I didn't even like, they were just women who made themselves available to me and typically they were beneath me in some way, shape or form. I'm not saying that to be cocky, just speaking the truth. These women were not in my league and I recognized that immediately and put them in the category of women I just want to have casual sex and fun with.......but no one ever truly talks about the dangers of when you see a woman one way and she's seeing you in a completely different manner as a potential husband or baby father.


Back when I was 32, I was fukking some jawn I didn't really like and she begged me to take the condom off. I paused, and said what we gonna do if you get pregnant. She said, there’s gonna be some freckle faced babies running around. I legit heard a record scratch sound like in the movies, I got up and left my own crib. I didn’t come back for like a half hour……and it fukked me up cause, I was broke, working at Roc Nation (which surprisingly felt like a dead end job), unhappy with my life and this woman who I knew wouldn’t even be my girlfriend let alone a wife was talking about having my kids. She didn’t have jack shyt, I didn’t have jack shyt…..I was still living in my mom’s crib and she hit me with this crazy shyt. She even asked me, would you make me have an abortion at my age and I said YES. And it started to hit me that she saw me as a husband, while for me, she was just a jump off and just fukking with her was dangerous because she’d legit try to trap me or change my mind………but ever since then I’ve been different. It's legit ruined casual sex forever....and it's totally changed the way I engage with women at all.

I really only want to date or fukk women I like and women who are actually on my level. While I prefer black women, I'm actually at point where I can totally see myself with white woman for various reasons.

This sounds like Patrice a lil bit in other words..

 

[Ohene]

I find the hardest thing about dating as a man is that you have to be so superior to a woman (I.e money, status, height, power, etc.) for her to even be attracted to you that often times you'll find yourself dating someone so inferior to you that you shouldn't even be in the same room as them. I spend my time creating statistical models in R to simulate NBA & NFL games to beat the betting markets & have literally been on dates with women who don't know the difference between "accept" & "except".

Since most men don't have that many options and some even have to put in extreme effort and energy just for the few options they do have, they kinda have to take what they can get......meaning they settle with someone they don't really like, they use a woman as a placeholder to get what they want and avoid being lonely or they just stay single. I've mostly chosen to stay single...........

It's dawned on me recently, how many chicks I've fukked or dated that I didn't even like, they were just women who made themselves available to me and typically they were beneath me in some way, shape or form. I'm not saying that to be cocky, just speaking the truth. These women were not in my league and I recognized that immediately and put them in the category of women I just want to have casual sex and fun with.......but no one ever truly talks about the dangers of when you see a woman one way and she's seeing you in a completely different manner as a potential husband or baby father.


Back when I was 32, I was fukking some jawn I didn't really like and she begged me to take the condom off. I paused, and said what we gonna do if you get pregnant. She said, there’s gonna be some freckle faced babies running around. I legit heard a record scratch sound like in the movies, I got up and left my own crib. I didn’t come back for like a half hour……and it fukked me up cause, I was broke, working at Roc Nation (which surprisingly felt like a dead end job), unhappy with my life and this woman who I knew wouldn’t even be my girlfriend let alone a wife was talking about having my kids. She didn’t have jack shyt, I didn’t have jack shyt…..I was still living in my mom’s crib and she hit me with this crazy shyt. She even asked me, would you make me have an abortion at my age and I said YES. And it started to hit me that she saw me as a husband, while for me, she was just a jump off and just fukking with her was dangerous because she’d legit try to trap me or change my mind………but ever since then I’ve been different. It's legit ruined casual sex forever....and it's totally changed the way I engage with women at all.

I really only want to date or fukk women I like and women who are actually on my level. While I prefer black women, I'm actually at point where I can totally see myself with white woman for various reasons.

It is the fault of men because they value beauty and sex too much over character. It is even worse as a black man too

All a woman has to do is look good, and in many cases/modern society she dont even have to naturally look good to get put on a pedestal. Botox, fake t*ts and a fake ass. Is enough. Look at Jeff Bezos’ fiancee. Look at the various baby mamas, wives or concubines of celebs nowadays. Look at all the rich men divorcing their ride or die wives to get the young sexy woman.

All the above inherently teaches women is that their character is irrelevant, so why would they bother to invest in building it?

This is one thing I will squarely blame men on. I may touch on the black community specifically a bit later

 

[The ADD]

She’s been asking me questions like are you healed from your ex, when do you know you want a relationship, when do you know you want a relationship with a certain girl. I don’t usually have the what are we conversation unless they initiate it. I’m never asking if you want to be my girl.

Depends. She may be trying to make sure you aren’t a general problem (real or perceived) before going much further.

My $0.02 is to just let it play out. Of course you need to find out more about her but nobody wants to go through a job interview either. It’s also not all going to be sorted out at once. I’ve been out of the game for a little bit but it’s still steps in a relationship. Once my wife and I started only seeing each other there were still various steps along the way in terms where it was going.

 

[skyrunner1]

It is the fault of men because they value beauty and sex too much over character. It is even worse as a black man too

All a woman has to do is look good, and in many cases/modern society she dont even have to naturally look good to get put on a pedestal. Botox, fake t*ts and a fake ass. Is enough. Look at Jeff Bezos’ fiancee. Look at the various baby mamas, wives or concubines of celebs nowadays. Look at all the rich men divorcing their ride or die wives to get the young sexy woman.

All the above inherently teaches women is that their character is irrelevant, so why would they bother to invest in building it?

This is one thing I will squarely blame men on. I may touch on the black community specifically a bit later

Agreed overall. Bezos chick game must be incredible, she played the status game and seemed to have everyone enthralled. Gets millionaire athlete and has child, moves on to multi millionaire hollywood agent married with kids and then gets Bezos to leave his wife and marry her while having ex athlete vacay with them and such..

 

[Panther]

There's so much in this post.

So at first you say



But then you say



How do you date a woman where - you're superior, but she's also on your level?

Paragraph 1 don't jive with Paragraph 4.

Then you go on to say



^This little phrase speaks volumes. BACK when you was 32!!!

But out of sequence, your words


Your post really sounds like YOU'RE trying to work some stuff out for yourself.

It sounds like you have some life stats that make you feel superior, but your actions towards these broads show that you are not in fact superior.

As for your solution



You shoulda been done dating women that 1) you like 2) are on your level - well before 32.

You gotta to come to grips with the time you've wasted just hitting broads that are "beneath" you.

Heal thyself.

I thought the same thing but wasn't gonna type all that out

Let breh go date beckys in peace

 

[WIA20XX]

Great post. Sometimes I do wonder what type of woman they are after you smash on second date but we had good chemistry off the rip.

You right I gotta figure out what I want and see if she’s a good fit.

She might be a horrible fit, but if the sex is mind bending will you change what you want out of life? Lol

Player tip, but after a good session, always ask the broad when she knew she wanted to smash.

It may or may not be the factual truth, but it will give you insight into how thinks.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

She might be a horrible fit, but if the sex is mind bending will you change what you want out of life? Lol

Player tip, but after a good session, always ask the broad when she knew she wanted to smash.

It may or may not be the factual truth, but it will give you insight into how thinks.

Yea it’s like I don’t want to know her body count but her sexual history is important. I guess you can figure out these things in other ways. I’ve never straight up asked body count. Usually ask relationship history.

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

I find the hardest thing about dating as a man is that you have to be so superior to a woman (I.e money, status, height, power, etc.) for her to even be attracted to you that often times you'll find yourself dating someone so inferior to you that you shouldn't even be in the same room as them. I spend my time creating statistical models in R to simulate NBA & NFL games to beat the betting markets & have literally been on dates with women who don't know the difference between "accept" & "except".

Since most men don't have that many options and some even have to put in extreme effort and energy just for the few options they do have, they kinda have to take what they can get......meaning they settle with someone they don't really like, they use a woman as a placeholder to get what they want and avoid being lonely or they just stay single. I've mostly chosen to stay single...........

It's dawned on me recently, how many chicks I've fukked or dated that I didn't even like, they were just women who made themselves available to me and typically they were beneath me in some way, shape or form. I'm not saying that to be cocky, just speaking the truth. These women were not in my league and I recognized that immediately and put them in the category of women I just want to have casual sex and fun with.......but no one ever truly talks about the dangers of when you see a woman one way and she's seeing you in a completely different manner as a potential husband or baby father.


Back when I was 32, I was fukking some jawn I didn't really like and she begged me to take the condom off. I paused, and said what we gonna do if you get pregnant. She said, there’s gonna be some freckle faced babies running around. I legit heard a record scratch sound like in the movies, I got up and left my own crib. I didn’t come back for like a half hour……and it fukked me up cause, I was broke, working at Roc Nation (which surprisingly felt like a dead end job), unhappy with my life and this woman who I knew wouldn’t even be my girlfriend let alone a wife was talking about having my kids. She didn’t have jack shyt, I didn’t have jack shyt…..I was still living in my mom’s crib and she hit me with this crazy shyt. She even asked me, would you make me have an abortion at my age and I said YES. And it started to hit me that she saw me as a husband, while for me, she was just a jump off and just fukking with her was dangerous because she’d legit try to trap me or change my mind………but ever since then I’ve been different. It's legit ruined casual sex forever....and it's totally changed the way I engage with women at all.

I really only want to date or fukk women I like and women who are actually on my level. While I prefer black women, I'm actually at point where I can totally see myself with white woman for various reasons.

We gonna have to connect professionally wise homie.... I am doing and on the exact same trajectory as you except I do real football (soccer).... I use R and C++. You probably already know the field is very very sparse with brehs in the scene... So seeing one of my own doing this makes me content.


As for the females.... kinda in that space myself..... I'm apathetic. Maybe it's cause of my wild younger days and I'm jaded by all the trifling behaviour I saw or perhaps more realistically the rose tinted glasses are just off and I see it for what it is behind the smoke amd mirrors...

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

It is the fault of men because they value beauty and sex too much over character. It is even worse as a black man too

All a woman has to do is look good, and in many cases/modern society she dont even have to naturally look good to get put on a pedestal. Botox, fake t*ts and a fake ass. Is enough. Look at Jeff Bezos’ fiancee. Look at the various baby mamas, wives or concubines of celebs nowadays. Look at all the rich men divorcing their ride or die wives to get the young sexy woman.

All the above inherently teaches women is that their character is irrelevant, so why would they bother to invest in building it?

This is one thing I will squarely blame men on. I may touch on the black community specifically a bit later

Short synopsis, our situation is a mutation of what you mentioned due to the collection of destructive messages that have been planted and transmitted insidiously through the various mediums. of communication over generations. In generality we do know this, but that is how insidious and deep the messaging has penetrated. Even us who are well read enough and actually cognizant of what is happening still fall into the traps and "behaviours" from time to time.... I don't have a solution (well not one that wouldn't require generational adjustments and sacrifice by the initiators), but it is beyond alarming. watching it play out and be aware of it...