Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Dude is leading as a trick.

Im not bashing dude but he doesnt even realize it which means he isnt ready for a real relationship, even the use of the term “baddie” = this bytch better than me.

I’ll never call a women no fukking baddie kr a dime, all that shyt reeks of “im so blessed you giving me time”.

When you used to something or something is normal you dont add these descriptors that imply something is out of the ordinary for you (Baddie implies higher level than normal).

I'm not leading as a trick at all and I don't think anyone is better than me. I have way too much to offer for that to be the case.
 

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Until you ruin that market or find out the uber driver dropping chick off is her boyfriend and you funding their life.
My friend told me a story about some dude he knows who used to mess with a girl in Ghana whenever he visited in a rather transactional way. He knew she had a man but the man was broke and couldn’t do shyt about it i guess. One day the shorty asks him for something while he was in Ghana and he was unwilling to provide for whatever reason. Man woke up later that night or wk to a dude with a knife in his face. He was murdered

Dudes be thinking shyt sweet overseas lol

Even when i meet African women who moved to Canada a lot of them be loose. They be in boarding schools when they 14 and shyt with a ton of freedom. Dudes think they got a gem but she been getting ran through since her teenage years
 

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The way I see it, upbringing is more important than culture or location. A woman raised in a two parent household in a neighborhood where that is the norm is going to see relationships far more differently than a woman raised by a single mom in a hood where all her classmates and peers are in similar perdicaments.

The former prolly had a better upbringing and has enough family support to where she can actually get to know a man in a healthy, somewhat platonic manner. She will also have witnessed certain kinds of male/female dynamics or interactions at home and within her community. All that shyt will be normalized to her. Compare that to a woman raised by a single mom who is teaching her not to rely on men and how she can do it all by herself. That woman far more likely to be in survival mode and look at any man she comes across in a transactional "what can you do for me?" manner. She not gonna trust or understand what it means to cooperate with a dude either. Problem within the black community is even if one chick has a solid upbringing, she is probably surrounded by friends and media who promote the bullshyt anyways.

Thats why even if you go to some of these foreign countries, get to talking to these women after you leave and they gonna come at you asking for some bread. Dudes be thinking women on these dating apps abroad are looking for dudes. Nah. A lot are just lookin for a Nigerian trick to sponsor them haha. It's the same shyt everywhere
 

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My friend told me a story about some dude he knows who used to mess with a girl in Ghana whenever he visited in a rather transactional way. He knew she had a man but the man was broke and couldn’t do shyt about it i guess. One day the shorty asks him for something while he was in Ghana and he was unwilling to provide for whatever reason. Man woke up later that night or wk to a dude with a knife in his face. He was murdered

Dudes be thinking shyt sweet overseas lol

Even when i meet African women who moved to Canada a lot of them be loose. They be in boarding schools when they 14 and shyt with a ton of freedom. Dudes think they got a gem but she been getting ran through since her teenage years

African women in the west be the biggedt feminist cause they got no shame over their head. Dudes dont realize american style dating in Africa is 90% a red flag lol so i say have your fun but dont think shyt sweet. Every country has a Kevins Samuels type movement going on in their major cities, and avg ddue is NOT about that village life and not gamed up enough yo avoid the villags/rural scams either
 

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I'm not leading as a trick at all and I don't think anyone is better than me. I have way too much to offer for that to be the case.

Women don't do transaction request unless they smell a trick. You may not think you are doing it, but thats the vibe you are giving off and it speaks to the type of women you are giving time to.
 

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Women don't do transaction request unless they smell a trick. You may not think you are doing it, but thats the vibe you are giving off and it speaks to the type of women you are giving time to.

Like I said before, I'm extremely selective of the women I give time to these days.

The only point I was trying to make was that I'm only dating women who I'm actually into since the OP mentioned that he wasn't dating women he was halfway interested anymore.
 
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African women in the west be the biggedt feminist cause they got no shame over their head. Dudes dont realize american style dating in Africa is 90% a red flag lol so i say have your fun but dont think shyt sweet. Every country has a Kevins Samuels type movement going on in their major cities, and avg ddue is NOT about that village life and not gamed up enough yo avoid the villags/rural scams either
Expound on this......:jbhmm:
 

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This girl has giving me no reason to not pursue anything further with her and I hate it :pachaha: lol. She is not materialistic, doesn't care I am not religious, and is very chill and laid back. She is pretty tall. I am trying to find fault but can't yet. I am so afraid of a relationship at the moment but I can't find fault.

She understands the concept of living below her means
Has no issues going 50/50 with a man because she doesn't believe a man should pay everything in this economy
Hates debt
She is Jehovah Witness , doesn't care that I am not religious and won't ask me to to go to church
great t*ts :pachaha:

Does give a shyt about major holidays, birthdays etc. due to her religion
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The issue is I am not Christian but if I have kids I will want them to celebrate their birthdays or give them christmas gifts or even celebrate thanksgiving up until a certain age.
 
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This girl has giving me no reason to not pursue anything further with her and I hate it :pachaha: lol. She is not materialistic, doesn't care I am not religious, and is very chill and laid back. She is pretty tall. I am trying to find fault but can't yet. I am so afraid of a relationship at the moment but I can't find fault.

She understands the concept of living below her means
Has no issues going 50/50 with a man because she doesn't believe a man should pay everything in this economy
Hates debt
She is Jehovah Witness , doesn't care that I am not religious and won't ask me to to go to church
great t*ts :pachaha:

Does give a shyt about major holidays, birthdays etc. due to her religion
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The issue is I am not Christian but if I have kids I will want them to celebrate their birthdays or give them christmas gifts or even celebrate thanksgiving up until a certain age.

why are you playing boyfriend if you don't want a relationship?
 

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why are you playing boyfriend if you don't want a relationship?

I just met her at a party and just kept talking. We would go out here and there, then work would get in a way since I use to travel a lot for work and we still kept in touch to the point I can tell she is falling for me :hubie:. She has giving me no reason to run.
 

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I just met her at a party and just kept talking. We would go out here and there, then work would get in a way since I use to travel a lot for work and we still kept in touch to the point I can tell she is falling for me :hubie:. She has giving me no reason to run.

Why are you searching for faults vs just enjoying the ride? Or did I read the post wrong?
 

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This girl has giving me no reason to not pursue anything further with her and I hate it :pachaha: lol. She is not materialistic, doesn't care I am not religious, and is very chill and laid back. She is pretty tall. I am trying to find fault but can't yet. I am so afraid of a relationship at the moment but I can't find fault.

She understands the concept of living below her means
Has no issues going 50/50 with a man because she doesn't believe a man should pay everything in this economy
Hates debt
She is Jehovah Witness , doesn't care that I am not religious and won't ask me to to go to church
great t*ts :pachaha:

Does give a shyt about major holidays, birthdays etc. due to her religion
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The issue is I am not Christian but if I have kids I will want them to celebrate their birthdays or give them christmas gifts or even celebrate thanksgiving up until a certain age.

You want it to be one way…but it’s the other way. It ain’t gonna get better because it’s too many foundational conflicts.
 

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I'll add.......I'm not in my 20s anymore. It's one thing to be 25 and just kicking it with a jawn and having fun knowing that it could end there if I don't see her as wifey material. It's another thing being 39 and knowing that just about every single women I kick it with is probably looking for something real. In my 20s, I could just tell a jawn come to crib to fukk. Now, the same chick regardless of how I personally feel about her wants a legit date, she's probably going to want a relationship, she's going to want trips, gifts and all kinds of perks so from my POV, I have to get what I want to even entertain a chick because why am I spending money, taking time away from focusing on my career, my hobbies, the gym, resting to hang out with her if she can't even give me what I'm looking for???

I can guarantee you most of the men in here have fukked a chick and had her immediately start handing them bills. I've had chicks I thought were wack do this.

I've never felt like I was punching above my weight class but I've definitely punched well below my weight class and now that I'm older, have more to lose, possibly looking for something long term or just someone genuine I enjoy spending time with, I see no reason to continue to deal with a certain caliber of women. I just don't.
I've never had this happen to me. If a chick immediately starts handing you bills after fukking that means you're a trick and she sees y'all as nothing more than a transactional relationship. Date women that are actually into you sexually or have their own situation stabilized and you won't encounter this problem Lol
 

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I've never had this happen to me. If a chick immediately starts handing you bills after fukking that means you're a trick and she sees y'all as nothing more than a transactional relationship. Date women that are actually into you sexually or have their own situation stabilized and you won't encounter this problem Lol

yeah like I know its easy to shyt on how trash a good bit of women are but nikkas be leaving so much out the story lmfao. Dudes be like how amazing they are yet dealing with scumbag chicks it doesn't make sense.
 
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