Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Apollo Creed]

its important to compartmentalize/separate the two. where many men (including myself at times) get fukked up is by projecting a potential long term relationship with somebody who clearly doesnt have to tools/mindset conducive to be in one - just cause of "chemistry" and attraction etc.

a lot of men as Ive said in the past are just as delusional if not worse than women. Dudes will 1 second talk like they want a FWB and don't care but in same mix be talking boyfriend problems with a chick who is "just on the roster".

A lot of men can't get past their instinct to want to protect and provide for women which drives dudes crazy when they see a woman doing whatever especially if she is ruining her chances of commitment lol. Men gotta shift their mindset to self preservation, if a women isn't proving that she is worth commitment (if commitment is what you want) then just enjoy the ride and move on when it ends, this is why I always say men gotta have a life.

When you have a life then women can accompany for moment in that life but whether she is there or not life goes on.

The issue is dudes have no life and are seeking women to create their life (my prior example of dudes having just a cycle of work and sleep and wanting to add a women to this cycle to add a spark to it).

Women latch on to the winners so in reality if you doing cool shyt you enjoy a woman is hype to be on that journey, but when you don't do shyt in life then now you see "shorty wants to go on a trip" as a burden, its not like dudes are saying "Im on my way to Miami, and this chick saying can we go to LA" its usually I`m just in the crib posting on the coli 24/7 and watching anime and this chick is talking about lets go out to eat, hell nah you crazy"

 

[Ohene]

thinking of booking two trips before the end of the year. Might try to group 2 african countries into one trip. Any suggestions anyone?
maybe ill go to Uganda and Kenya or sumn

@MikelArteta are you in Kampala?

 

[cyndaquil]

a lot of men as Ive said in the past are just as delusional if not worse than women. Dudes will 1 second talk like they want a FWB and don't care but in same mix be talking boyfriend problems with a chick who is "just on the roster".

A lot of men can't get past their instinct to want to protect and provide for women which drives dudes crazy when they see a woman doing whatever especially if she is ruining her chances of commitment lol. Men gotta shift their mindset to self preservation, if a women isn't proving that she is worth commitment (if commitment is what you want) then just enjoy the ride and move on when it ends, this is why I always say men gotta have a life.

When you have a life then women can accompany for moment in that life but whether she is there or not life goes on.

The issue is dudes have no life and are seeking women to create their life (my prior example of dudes having just a cycle of work and sleep and wanting to add a women to this cycle to add a spark to it).

Women latch on to the winners so in reality if you doing cool shyt you enjoy a woman is hype to be on that journey, but when you don't do shyt in life then now you see "shorty wants to go on a trip" as a burden, its not like dudes are saying "Im on my way to Miami, and this chick saying can we go to LA" its usually I`m just in the crib posting on the coli 24/7 and watching anime and this chick is talking about lets go out to eat, hell nah you crazy"

But thats part of the problem. You're telling men who are content and happy with going to work, chilling at the house, and watching anime to go do things they dont care or enjoy doing for the sake of adding a woman. There very attractive women who are also homebodies who don't "have lives" just be at home watching TV outside of work.

I agree with having a life outside of women and not looking for that to become your life. But cmon now we really aint adding women for a spark we adding women cuz we get the biological urge to fukk and it's an itch we cant scratch by ourselves. Sure we can beat our meat but that just intensifies it later. The desperation is primarily a scarcity issue rather than an issue with dudes not having a life.

Even if I was going on a trip to Miami like in your example, I wouldn't want to bring a woman just because she's 9/10 times gonna make the trip cost more and be more of a hassle for me. And it is a definitely is a burden because a woman is usually never gonna just want to go on a trip everytime you feel like going.
If your life is video games and anime and beating yo dikk to anime porn the crazy part is there's mfers who got women and even rosters of women off that lifestyle. But they aren't scarcity minded they'll holla at a chick when they see one they want then go home, invite her over to beat cheeks. The issue is these dudes dont have shyt. No car, crib, job, self esteem, fitness, no discipline. And the just want a woman just cuz it would feel good. Unhappy mfers chasing women who are a net negative on their happiness cuz lets be honest when you not chillin with them it takes work keeping shyt going with a chick let alone a whole roster. If you not getting any p*ssy at all then it can be terrible for your mindset success with women is all about momentum.

 

[cyndaquil]

its important to compartmentalize/separate the two. where many men (including myself at times) get fukked up is by projecting a potential long term relationship with somebody who clearly doesnt have to tools/mindset conducive to be in one - just cause of "chemistry" and attraction etc.

Very savvy women will do what they can to make you forget that if they see that in you for themselves. If a woman has decided you will be her husband watch out. The manipulation is off the charts

 

[Apollo Creed]

But thats part of the problem. You're telling men who are content and happy with going to work, chilling at the house, and watching anime to go do things they dont care or enjoy doing for the sake of adding a woman. There very attractive women who are also homebodies who don't "have lives" just be at home watching TV outside of work.

I agree with having a life outside of women and not looking for that to become your life. But cmon now we really aint adding women for a spark we adding women cuz we get the biological urge to fukk and it's an itch we cant scratch by ourselves. Sure we can beat our meat but that just intensifies it later. The desperation is primarily a scarcity issue rather than an issue with dudes not having a life.

Even if I was going on a trip to Miami like in your example, I wouldn't want to bring a woman just because she's 9/10 times gonna make the trip cost more and be more of a hassle for me. And it is a definitely is a burden because a woman is usually never gonna just want to go on a trip everytime you feel like going.
If your life is video games and anime and beating yo dikk to anime porn the crazy part is there's mfers who got women and even rosters of women off that lifestyle. But they aren't scarcity minded they'll holla at a chick when they see one they want then go home, invite her over to beat cheeks. The issue is these dudes dont have shyt. No car, crib, job, self esteem, fitness, no discipline. And the just want a woman just cuz it would feel good. Unhappy mfers chasing women who are a net negative on their happiness cuz lets be honest when you not chillin with them it takes work keeping shyt going with a chick let alone a whole roster. If you not getting any p*ssy at all then it can be terrible for your mindset success with women is all about momentum.

If you are content with the endless cycle of Work and Sleep that is fine, but if that is true you wouldn't be seeking to introduce someone into that cycle. Those same so called attractive women doing the same thing wouldn't be looking to bring a man into that. What you are trying to fancy is people are lonely as fukk in this cycle they fake call themselves being content with. Because if it were true you would just continue that cycle.

The Scarcity comes form not being satisfied with the above thus when you find someone who brings that missing spark you hold on to all dear life even when it clearly isn't going to work because you are afraid to returning to the above cycle you claim you enjoy.

 

[cyndaquil]

If you are content with the endless cycle of Work and Sleep that is fine, but if that is true you wouldn't be seeking to introduce someone into that cycle. Those same so called attractive women doing the same thing wouldn't be looking to bring a man into that. What you are trying to fancy is people are lonely as fukk in this cycle they fake call themselves being content with. Because if it were true you would just continue that cycle.

The Scarcity comes form not being satisfied with the above thus when you find someone who brings that missing spark you hold on to all dear life even when it clearly isn't going to work because you are afraid to returning to the above cycle you claim you enjoy.

do people not watch TV shows on the couch together and order takeout?
The same could be said about going on trips. You can go on a trip by yourself but most people are afraid that's why people act surprised when they hear you tell them if you solo traveled somewhere. You're putting prerequisites on inviting someone into your life. Everybody isn't wired the same. By your same logic if you are content with traveling and going to club every weekend then you should be content and not invite someone into that cycle as well.
And scarcity doesn't come from not being content with your own life without women it comes from believing that either this woman you're talking to is the only woman for you or that you can't pull another woman. Both are limiting beliefs.

 

[Apollo Creed]

do people not watch TV shows on the couch together and order takeout?
The same could be said about going on trips. You can go on a trip by yourself but most people are afraid that's why people act surprised when they hear you tell them if you solo traveled somewhere. You're putting prerequisites on inviting someone into your life. Everybody isn't wired the same. By your same logic if you are content with traveling and going to club every weekend then you should be content and not invite someone into that cycle as well.
And scarcity doesn't come from not being content with your own life without women it comes from believing that either this woman you're talking to is the only woman for you or that you can't pull another woman. Both are limiting beliefs.

If Life = Sleep and Work you deserve everything that happens



You would be better off admitting "I have no life and I am lonely" then trying to legitimize being a hermit.

 

[cyndaquil]

If Life = Sleep and Work you deserve everything that happens



You would be better off admitting "I have no life and I am lonely" then trying to legitimize being a hermit.

Now it's jokes and reductionism. You know damn well nobody is willingly just doing sleeping and working. They might watch the game, eat at a restaurant, go shopping, go chill at a park, or whatever. Regular degular shyt. From your post it sounds like you equate a bunch of social interaction with "having a life" and if somebody doesn't then that makes them unfit to date even if they are happy with their life as is. Wouldn't they just find someone who is compatible with them? If they dont wanna go out and do all that stuff then they'd just pass and find someone else no? I just dont see why we're pushing people to conform and do shyt they dont see any value in for the sake of being more appealing to women who wont be compatible with them. Isn't that the opposite of being content with yourself?

 

[Apollo Creed]

Now it's jokes and reductionism. You know damn well nobody is willingly just doing sleeping and working. They might watch the game, eat at a restaurant, go shopping, go chill at a park, or whatever. Regular degular shyt. From your post it sounds like you equate a bunch of social interaction with "having a life" and if somebody doesn't then that makes them unfit to date even if they are happy with their life as is. Wouldn't they just find someone who is compatible with them? If they dont wanna go out and do all that stuff then they'd just pass and find someone else no? I just dont see why we're pushing people to conform and do shyt they dont see any value in for the sake of being more appealing to women who wont be compatible with them. Isn't that the opposite of being content with yourself?

you're moving goal post. I have pages of me saying meet people while doing shyt you enjoy vs hunting for people. You are trying to remix "I don't do what Apollo Creed gave an example of so I don't have a life", this is an insecurity of not having a life. If you do "regular shyt" whatever the fukk that is then are you not in the cycle of "sleep and work"? One second you bring up "Well what's wrong with being a homebody we can watch Netflix" now to move goal post.

At this point what are you even arguing?

 

[WIA20XX]

 

[cyndaquil]

you're moving goal post. I have pages of me saying meet people while doing shyt you enjoy vs hunting for people. You are trying to remix "I don't do what Apollo Creed gave an example of so I don't have a life", this is an insecurity of not having a life. If you do "regular shyt" whatever the fukk that is then are you not in the cycle of "sleep and work"? One second you bring up "Well what's wrong with being a homebody we can watch Netflix" now to move goal post.

At this point what are you even arguing?

I'm not moving goal posts. The post didnt even exist breh. Who just works and sleeps? . Your advice there just didnt make sense to me there. Basically saying folks just work and sleep cycle and dudes are lonely and want a spark and bring women into it then get desperate and wont let go. My point is typically "having a life" means having a life that is considered acceptable by societal standards. But having a life isn't gonna stop you from being desperate, it isn't gonna give you an abundance mindset. The only thing that will do that is self confidence and a positive optimistic mind-set. And "having a life" might provide that depending on how you live it but it might not. You can have no life and pull women who are compatible and "have a life" and pull no one. It's important to note the difference otherwise brehs will go through the motions and not understand why even though they are out enjoying themselves they can't pull anybody worth a damn of quality that's compatible with them.

 

[Ohene]

hmmm need to see the math on this
ive always spent less while in a relationship

 

[Givethanks]

As I get older, something about going on dates in the fall just hits right. The way my girl got me Into the fall

I don't believe in zodiac signs, but I didn't realize how important seasonally comparability is — if I can even call it that. Not catching me outside in winter or the spring tbh, but summer and fall

 

[Mike809]

how am I doing better with women 10 years younger than me , than with women my age?

 

[skyrunner1]

how am I doing better than women 10 years younger than me , than with women my age?

Hypergamy working in your favor