Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Urbanmiracle
Brooklyn the planet...
I'm having mixed thoughts about this. Right now, my brain is telling me it's over between me and my gf. She thinks she can go out find someone else then fine. But what about us men who want families and have that woman who would be his queen? Are we relegated to just dealing with these selfish creatures? Is there no hope for the traditional family? I always pictured myself having a wife and kids. Now I dunno. All here is gloom and doom about today's woman. Me me me me is today's woman. I dunno man. It's just depressing at times to think about it.
Such is life, better to be solo than tied to a chick and watching it hit the iceberg.
Finally sitting down and ready to share my story brehs.
Was having a great relationship with gf then pregnancy happened and things went left. I got shook up, being fresh outta school and the job prospects were looking bad out here. We fell out and after a few months I got on my feet enough to provide the way I felt I needed to.
Start going over to he crib to watch my child while she partied or worked. She's constantly moving and/or switching jobs, but she's in a good money-making field. I'm content just co parenting and doing me (now splitting time between watching my kid between my spot and hers).
Then I start hearing about dudes that she's talking to, but more importantly - bringing over around my son. I throw her the "do your thing, but don't confuse my kid by having them hanging out". She say she understands but goes right ahead. Meanwhile she's in my ear talking about maybe getting back together and if marriage is still in the cards. Me still feeling guilty about being shaky during the pregnancy is kind of entertaining it, but I tell her to handle her affairs and get back at me. This was about a year ago and she still in those ways.
I'm ready to shut all that down officially without having to deal with any petty stuff. Anybody got experience here?
Was having a great relationship with gf then pregnancy happened and things went left. I got shook up, being fresh outta school and the job prospects were looking bad out here. We fell out and after a few months I got on my feet enough to provide the way I felt I needed to.
Start going over to he crib to watch my child while she partied or worked. She's constantly moving and/or switching jobs, but she's in a good money-making field. I'm content just co parenting and doing me (now splitting time between watching my kid between my spot and hers).
Then I start hearing about dudes that she's talking to, but more importantly - bringing over around my son. I throw her the "do your thing, but don't confuse my kid by having them hanging out". She say she understands but goes right ahead. Meanwhile she's in my ear talking about maybe getting back together and if marriage is still in the cards. Me still feeling guilty about being shaky during the pregnancy is kind of entertaining it, but I tell her to handle her affairs and get back at me. This was about a year ago and she still in those ways.
I'm ready to shut all that down officially without having to deal with any petty stuff. Anybody got experience here?
Yeah, but she's still the mother of my child and we've never stepped foot inside a courtroom. The thing keeping everything going has been personal "respect" and now I feel that's not fundentally there. I don't want to call her out on her bs and get that petty wrath or hear a big sob story. Seems kind of unavoidable. Even considered just giving an ultimatim, but even that seems generous. I really tried brehs to be an upstanding guy and do right but this childish stuff feels like a constant slap in the face.
I went out to a bar on Saturday on the solo tip. Figured why not. It was a local place where nothing but smuts dwell. I figured I'm not looking for anything serious so the clubs and bars is where I'd be.
However, I ended up meeting this bad Mexican mami. She was literally from Mexico, down here a few months, but was ready to dip out in 3 weeks as her Visa expired. Spoke little english and with my spanish being off, I was at a disadvantage. Anyways, I chopped it up with her sister in law (who spoke good english) and tried to weasel my way in with the bad one. I really didn't know how to approach this. Shorty only had a number from mexico and her sister in law was married. So I said fukk it, gave the sister in law my number and told her to hit me up if they ever want to kick it.
Man, ol'girl was BAD
AND, to top it off, her sister in law (where she was staying) lives litrally 5 minutes from me.
But I doubt I'd ever hear from them again
However, I ended up meeting this bad Mexican mami. She was literally from Mexico, down here a few months, but was ready to dip out in 3 weeks as her Visa expired. Spoke little english and with my spanish being off, I was at a disadvantage. Anyways, I chopped it up with her sister in law (who spoke good english) and tried to weasel my way in with the bad one. I really didn't know how to approach this. Shorty only had a number from mexico and her sister in law was married. So I said fukk it, gave the sister in law my number and told her to hit me up if they ever want to kick it.
Man, ol'girl was BAD
AND, to top it off, her sister in law (where she was staying) lives litrally 5 minutes from me.
But I doubt I'd ever hear from them again
Man you see where the majority of these cats in this thread are coming from. People were calling us bitter, misogynistic, this and that, but most of us are a collection of guys that want a different type of woman than the kind that are prevalent out there. Are there those rare gems out there? Absolutely... but the overall American culture is so poisonous to the cultivation of families. You very well might have to go to a country where the family atmosphere is still embraced or keep on looking through the pile hoping to find that one woman who still cherishes traditional values. You simply cannot wife a woman who constantly has it in her mind that she wants to 'explore' and is always playing the game with one foot in the door and one out the door.
Like I've said before, you might have to find a woman who has submitted themselves to God, and not the superficial Sunday only Christian women. Ones that have already made a decision to stop sinning for her own good, an not to please any men.
Just skip over any recent single mothers.
Just skip over any recent single mothers.
As tempting as it seems. leave it alone. I could tell you about all the obvious drama that comes with those kind of the situations such as the boyfriend wanting to fight you or even shoot you. But I'm just going to tell you to do the right thing as a man. You know how much pain comes from seeing someone you love being reduced to a jump-off by someone else. You don't want to give that pain to another. As Jesus says, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." There are plenty of single women out there, so there's no point in smashing another man's We can't ever have a successful culture where real relationships thrive if we're all jumping on an opportunity to dive into temptation with another man's girl.
Exactly. If you find a real Christian woman who believes in the family and in submitting to her man, you have the basis for something long-term there.
But what about us men hwho want families and want a woman who will be his queen
Remember what the bible says "who can find a virtuous women, for she is more precious than rubies"
If you have no morals, no code, only care about beauty then it's easy to find a broad nowadays.
The sad thing in life is this is usually how the story goes, your a man that wants a family and kids, your a man that's faithful.
You look around and you see all the dudes unemployed, all the dudes in jail, all the dudes you know are players and cheaters and yet
they have broads on their arm, yet they get loyalty. They cheat, abuse, lie but they still get loyalty. While you on the otherhand is faithful, is loving,
cherishes and treat women with respect and you get played, cheated on, dumped. You still hold out hope because you keep thinking there is no way the majority of women
are like that, but sadly you get to the point of realization.
Just look at the dating game out there, I want no part of it. Look at dating sites, you basically have to fight with hundreds of different of other guys just for maybe a reply back to a message,
open up your wallet and hope you are chosen as she has hundred of other guys whimpering for her attention. I don't even mean to be rude but it's literally a pack of dogs fighting over garbage.
The sad thing is for men who want families and one woman to be his queen, you'll more than likely be stuck with a single mom who had her fun and wants to settle down, or a woman who is past her prime.
Women love attention and none really want to give it up for one man, it's why even in relationships they are still on instagram, or texting 10 different guys daily, it's just your turn on the rollercoaster.
The best thing you can do as a man, and I have repeated before is get your passport and travel, there are women and cultures out there that have not been as poisoned as the ones in north america. Where women still appreciate a good man are loyal and submissive.
Remember what the bible says "who can find a virtuous women, for she is more precious than rubies"
If you have no morals, no code, only care about beauty then it's easy to find a broad nowadays.
The sad thing in life is this is usually how the story goes, your a man that wants a family and kids, your a man that's faithful.
You look around and you see all the dudes unemployed, all the dudes in jail, all the dudes you know are players and cheaters and yet
they have broads on their arm, yet they get loyalty. They cheat, abuse, lie but they still get loyalty. While you on the otherhand is faithful, is loving,
cherishes and treat women with respect and you get played, cheated on, dumped. You still hold out hope because you keep thinking there is no way the majority of women
are like that, but sadly you get to the point of realization.
Just look at the dating game out there, I want no part of it. Look at dating sites, you basically have to fight with hundreds of different of other guys just for maybe a reply back to a message,
open up your wallet and hope you are chosen as she has hundred of other guys whimpering for her attention. I don't even mean to be rude but it's literally a pack of dogs fighting over garbage.
The sad thing is for men who want families and one woman to be his queen, you'll more than likely be stuck with a single mom who had her fun and wants to settle down, or a woman who is past her prime.
Women love attention and none really want to give it up for one man, it's why even in relationships they are still on instagram, or texting 10 different guys daily, it's just your turn on the rollercoaster.
The best thing you can do as a man, and I have repeated before is get your passport and travel, there are women and cultures out there that have not been as poisoned as the ones in north america. Where women still appreciate a good man are loyal and submissive.
Went out to movies and sports bar with my chick...I paid for the movies...she paid for dinner and drinks. I trust this woman..something I'm normally not able to do. I love the fact she wears little to no makeup..she has natural beauty
this the 9th date? 
c'mon breh