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Got cheated on a while ago lol by some girl from SA. Girl was begging me to be her bf, after a few months of avoiding, i was like ehh fukk it, it could be different she's "foreign"

:mjlol:

Boy i was wrong as fukk. Helping her out with everything, she was over at my place every weekend and in the end i was caught lacking. I admit, my lack of frame messed it up and should've set harder boundaries. Luckily, i didnt spend too much. But now at a place where im moving differently, spent a couple months focusing on myself, gym, grooming, changing some things up. Still on hinge lightly (it feels different today .. i think all of the women are feeling fatigue or they've gotten fukked everyone) but either way, im putting real life as more of priority. The canon event i never knew i needed lol. Between the last girl (30) basically trying to position me as a retirement account to this one cheating and trying to cover it up (22) (flowers, cheesecake). Then finding out i was her "everything" and she needed me to have access to happiness
:laff:meanwhile planned to meet dude on her educational trip, downloaded hinge to meet dudes to take her out and show her the city / dates & she fukked one dude and all it took as beer & a bike ride (i always have to remind myself that because it keeps me going). Kicked that bytch out and she was begging me for days / apologizing.

As im on IG, i look at all of the ppl i know getting married and now im turned off more than ever lol. Im gona just focus on being the best side guy i can be, maybe just fully align with being a passport bro in SA (carefully tho).

:yeshrug:

End of the day, you focus on you and she should be willing to join you in whatever you're doing. No more dates, just vibes and thats it. Its provider season, so its going to be a bit hard (but depending on what you're looking for) you should be able to filter those women out. Im not there and wont ever be there again.
 

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lol I hate I dwell on a broad when ish don’t go my way. I lost and I accept that and kept it moving. But I hate that there is period of a week or 2 when I think about them.
shyt it’s a month and a half for me
I was making out with another broad thinking about her lol
 

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I'd also add their emotions are all over the place. So theres really no point in taking them seriously. I rather just get their best energy as a side guy.

:mjlol:

You can do one thing and they'll forget. Unless you buy a Beyonce tickets (That grants you about 1 month)
 

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Got cheated on a while ago lol by some girl from SA. Girl was begging me to be her bf, after a few months of avoiding, i was like ehh fukk it, it could be different she's "foreign"

:mjlol:

Boy i was wrong as fukk. Helping her out with everything, she was over at my place every weekend and in the end i was caught lacking. I admit, my lack of frame messed it up and should've set harder boundaries. Luckily, i didnt spend too much. But now at a place where im moving differently, spent a couple months focusing on myself, gym, grooming, changing some things up. Still on hinge lightly (it feels different today .. i think all of the women are feeling fatigue or they've gotten fukked everyone) but either way, im putting real life as more of priority. The canon event i never knew i needed lol. Between the last girl (30) basically trying to position me as a retirement account to this one cheating and trying to cover it up (22) (flowers, cheesecake). Then finding out i was her "everything" and she needed me to have access to happiness
:laff:meanwhile planned to meet dude on her educational trip, downloaded hinge to meet dudes to take her out and show her the city / dates & she fukked one dude and all it took as beer & a bike ride (i always have to remind myself that because it keeps me going). Kicked that bytch out and she was begging me for days / apologizing.

As im on IG, i look at all of the ppl i know getting married and now im turned off more than ever lol. Im gona just focus on being the best side guy i can be, maybe just fully align with being a passport bro in SA (carefully tho).

:yeshrug:

End of the day, you focus on you and she should be willing to join you in whatever you're doing. No more dates, just vibes and thats it. Its provider season, so its going to be a bit hard (but depending on what you're looking for) you should be able to filter those women out. Im not there and wont ever be there again.
Lol was she xhosa? Them chicks just seem dangerous man. But they sexy as hell
 

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I'd also add their emotions are all over the place. So theres really no point in taking them seriously. I rather just get their best energy as a side guy.

:mjlol:

You can do one thing and they'll forget. Unless you buy a Beyonce tickets (That grants you about 1 month)
My brother put it like this,

“You can do everything for a woman. The second you don’t do something, in her mind youre not doing anything”
 
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Lol was she xhosa? Them chicks just seem dangerous man. But they sexy as hell
How did you know?

:laff:

yeah she was coloured too. Oh yeah, ass for days, i was having a great time. But she was an
Au Pair
which i know those types are thirsty for marriage / green card, but she made it seem like it wasnt a big deal. Like she just wanted to travel.
 

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How did you know?

:laff:

yeah she was coloured too. Oh yeah, ass for days, i was having a great time. But she was an
Au Pair
which i know those types are thirsty for marriage / green card, but she made it seem like it wasnt a big deal. Like she just wanted to travel.
I smashed one when i was out there. Sexy younger chick but i could just tell she was trouble by her demeanor and talking to her.
 

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How did you know?

:laff:

yeah she was coloured too. Oh yeah, ass for days, i was having a great time. But she was an
Au Pair
which i know those types are thirsty for marriage / green card, but she made it seem like it wasnt a big deal. Like she just wanted to travel.

Yooooo :pachaha:

The current SA chick I’m messing with is also a coloured Au Pair, too. Phatty for days

These SA chicks are all au pairs in the US I swear
 

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Got cheated on a while ago lol by some girl from SA. Girl was begging me to be her bf, after a few months of avoiding, i was like ehh fukk it, it could be different she's "foreign"

:mjlol:

Boy i was wrong as fukk. Helping her out with everything, she was over at my place every weekend and in the end i was caught lacking. I admit, my lack of frame messed it up and should've set harder boundaries. Luckily, i didnt spend too much. But now at a place where im moving differently, spent a couple months focusing on myself, gym, grooming, changing some things up. Still on hinge lightly (it feels different today .. i think all of the women are feeling fatigue or they've gotten fukked everyone) but either way, im putting real life as more of priority. The canon event i never knew i needed lol. Between the last girl (30) basically trying to position me as a retirement account to this one cheating and trying to cover it up (22) (flowers, cheesecake). Then finding out i was her "everything" and she needed me to have access to happiness
:laff:meanwhile planned to meet dude on her educational trip, downloaded hinge to meet dudes to take her out and show her the city / dates & she fukked one dude and all it took as beer & a bike ride (i always have to remind myself that because it keeps me going). Kicked that bytch out and she was begging me for days / apologizing.

As im on IG, i look at all of the ppl i know getting married and now im turned off more than ever lol. Im gona just focus on being the best side guy i can be, maybe just fully align with being a passport bro in SA (carefully tho).

:yeshrug:

End of the day, you focus on you and she should be willing to join you in whatever you're doing. No more dates, just vibes and thats it. Its provider season, so its going to be a bit hard (but depending on what you're looking for) you should be able to filter those women out. Im not there and wont ever be there again.
Man if a woman begs you to be her anything its red flag. If she a solid woman she'll take your avoidance and value her time and move on. It's the weak ass women that do that begging shyt for months. And if shorty has to beg you to be her bf and your reaction is "eh fukk it" not genuinr excitement or happiness then you not doing her nor yourself any favors by creating that relationship. You gotta be able to walk away when it aint for you too bro bro. Don't let this shyt make you jaded breh.
 

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Lol was she xhosa? Them chicks just seem dangerous man. But they sexy as hell

Them chicks money hungry from what everyone trlls me and SA is literally a western country lol. Lot of Africans dont even view it as “real” Africa

I find African chicks to be the most game goofy like worse than US/Canada/UK/etc. Asians and Latinas the ones who are more cold with their hustle
 

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Them chicks money hungry from what everyone trlls me and SA is literally a western country lol. Lot of Africans dont even view it as “real” Africa

I find African chicks to be the most game goofy like worse than US/Canada/UK/etc. Asians and Latinas the ones who are more cold with their hustle
Got it. Adding SA women to the "list".
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Got it. Adding SA women to the "list".
:russ:

add the whole world. women are all the same, only thing different is the laws of the land that allow certain things to be more rampant than others. Dudes turn their brain off because they tink someone is different and get hit with the same game.

African women tend to be gang goofy because they cosplay the American women they see on social media so they come off as awkward if that makes sense. Like Latinas have their own swag which yields their own game, African women aren't smooth with their hustle at all so usually dudes get got because they get extra goofy due to romanticizing Africa as the land of tradition not realizing in most of the world traditional women get married early to people of their tribe/social circle, so the women you see out and about are usually the women nobody wants. But depending on what you want, you can find a chick who is a hard worker and will contribute and even be on some 50/50 or 70/30 stuff she just won't be dolled up, just a regular natural cute chick.

Dolled up women in countries with shytty GDPs = Red Flag
 

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Them chicks money hungry from what everyone trlls me and SA is literally a western country lol. Lot of Africans dont even view it as “real” Africa

I find African chicks to be the most game goofy like worse than US/Canada/UK/etc. Asians and Latinas the ones who are more cold with their hustle
I agree whole heartedly

Lot of African descent//born women don’t even try to make you feel like you not tricking on them. They will outright ask you for money or to buy them shyt. It’s uncanny and a huge turn off

What they don’t realize is that if they were just solid/good women and they rolled with you they’d naturally benefit and be taken care of. Instead they make it feel so transactional
 

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I agree whole heartedly

Lot of African descent//born women don’t even try to make you feel like you not tricking on them. They will outright ask you for money or to buy them shyt. It’s uncanny and a huge turn off

What they don’t realize is that if they were just solid/good women and they rolled with you they’d naturally benefit and be taken care of. Instead they make it feel so transactional

Because Africa doesnt have a legit Prostitution culture because its shameful. In Latin America and Asia there are legit brothels so men will go there when they want easy fast sex thus when they are with a woman its actually some girlfriend or wife stuff where he “takes care of things”. USA we see goofy chicks but prostitution while illegal is glamorized so there is a whole infrastucture in looking like and moving like one. African countries dont have it hence the shytty wigs and bad make up in addition to being game goofy because its a shameful act
 
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