Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

Yo I need your advice

I matched with my old coworker on hinge last month, we used to work together before Covid for like 2 years. She was in relationship back then but definitely showed signs that she liked me. Anyways, we matched and after few catch ups on how we been, I told her let’s grab something to eat and catch up in person.

Ended up meeting up and grabbing a dinner together, then chilled in the park afterwards. Continued to text afterwards for 2 days, I mentioned we should go eat again somewhere, and she said sounds like a plan. Anyways after talking for 2 days after meeting up, she suddenly didn’t reply. I hit her up again 2 days later and she apologized, said she was very busy and tired. She works as a nurse at urgent care. We continue to talk for like 2 days and then again she went quiet. The last text I sent didn’t really need a reply, but I thought she would still say something next day or start new convo. It’s been a week and a half since we spoke, and I’m not sure what to do. I don’t mind hitting her up again but at the same time I feel like she would’ve texted me if she was really interested or is she waiting for me to make the move?

Not sure how to proceed, when we met up she looked like she was interested in me, plus she came down to the city to meet up, I feel like a person that’s not interested wouldn’t do that since she lives more than an hour away.

lowe her. if you need closure, throw a hail mary and invite her over on some "hey what are you up to this wknd? (then if she free)...come through xyz day, we havent hung out in a while"

we gotta stop spending resources on women who cant even make it easy for us. sometimes these women need to feel like they will lose our attn/an opportunity with us if they arent reciprocating or investing anything themselves. let someone else be her meal ticket

 

[Ohene]

Met in the gym. She approached me. We instantly hit it off. Made it known I’m looking for a relationship. She said she was looking for the same thing. We talked for 2 weeks and then i smashed last Saturday twice. Since then its just felt off and I’m about to shut it down. It is what it is.

did you pipe her down well enough?

 

[WIA20XX]

"I just directed my very first movie, Creed III, but right after that, I went through my very first public breakup," he said during his monologue on the NBC show. "Now, most people after a breakup are like, 'I'm going to get in better shape.' But I was already in Creed shape. So I had to be like, 'Alright, I guess I'll learn a new language.' Anyway, estoy en Raya."

 

[Ohene]

"I just directed my very first movie, Creed III, but right after that, I went through my very first public breakup," he said during his monologue on the NBC show. "Now, most people after a breakup are like, 'I'm going to get in better shape.' But I was already in Creed shape. So I had to be like, 'Alright, I guess I'll learn a new language.' Anyway, estoy en Raya."

maybe its an advertisement
if a nikka like MBJ is using a dating app, men really are pathetic nowadays

 

[jay83]

Met in the gym. She approached me. We instantly hit it off. Made it known I’m looking for a relationship. She said she was looking for the same thing. We talked for 2 weeks and then i smashed last Saturday twice. Since then its just felt off and I’m about to shut it down. It is what it is.

Sounds like the sex wasn’t great for her. She prob wanted a relationship but really wanted good sex and prob decided to move on. If you’re tired or no you don’t got the energy better to make her wait longer than give a bad first impression.

 

[WIA20XX]

maybe its an advertisement
if a nikka like MBJ is using a dating app, men really are pathetic nowadays

I think a cat can be the ABSOLUTE BEST, and even then, if a chick ain't feeling you - she ain't feeling you.

So a lot of the idea about "self improvement" or learning "game" - falls flat - when you can't keep the one you want.

Cats need to take the stress off themselves.

You feeling her, haven't smashed yet, or you have smashed - she just might not be feeling it.

Nothing's wrong with you or how you move.

 

[Ohene]

I think a cat can be the ABSOLUTE BEST, and even then, if a chick ain't feeling you - she ain't feeling you.

So a lot of the idea about "self improvement" or learning "game" - falls flat - when you can't keep the one you want.

Cats need to take the stress off themselves.

You feeling her, haven't smashed yet, or you have smashed - she just might not be feeling it.

Nothing's wrong with you or how you move.

for sure. thing is if youre that dude, you shouldnt even care
like i dont care how attractive lori harvey is. theres tons of attractive women
but were human

 

[jay83]

maybe its an advertisement
if a nikka like MBJ is using a dating app, men really are pathetic nowadays

Seen on a few podcast a bunch of mid looking women say he’s a “take home to mom type of guy but not an exciting guy.”
One of the most successful, richest, popular actors is a “take home to mom” type of guy?

 

[Astroslik]

Oh.... everybody with a modicum of intelligence knows what he is trying to do........ the mere thought of an individual being able to express life experiences in a coherent, sophisticated way that are outside of the narrow idea this individual has about "blackness", is too much for him to process.....

You thinking too deep into this breh

Take the tinfoil hat off


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Your commentary is thought out, well articulated, and not 3 sentences........ displaying higher intellect makes some folks uncomfortable.......

how triggered you are and the amount of dikkriding is insane... you keep doubling down on this idiotic take.. how you jumped to me asking him what his race is to conflating it with my thought process on (black) intellectualism is hilarious.

Ironically, I'm likely more educated than you (multiple degrees).

 

[Astroslik]

He wants to questions the man's credibility.

Ya'll really feel some type of way about this question

I like his takes but was just curious. I've even chatted with the dude privately and asked for recommendations to where to go out in his city (san diego). Ya'll taking this shyt wayyyy too far

 

[Astroslik]

and it doesn't have to be that deep..... what in any way whatsoever does his being black have to do with the commentary he has provided?



I really hope you not out here using dual accounts breh..... not you Lurka, but Malcom...

It's funny, cause on The Coli, it's a cost free way to assassinate someone's character.

It's not like Silky is gonna post his socials on here so we can verify if he's even qualified to ask the question.

Poisonous troll behavior.

Seriously, you nikkas might need to get some p*ssy, but i guess that's why you're in this thread. How you formulated this thought process and starting reaching for the stars off a simple question is telling.

Even accusing me of being @Malcolmxxx_23


Lots of built up testosterone and stress
I hope you both get that sorted.

 

[Astroslik]

did you pipe her down well enough?

Dudes really underestimate this point. The first smash is like auditioning for a movie role, you gotta put your A game down or you might not get looked at ever again.

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

You thinking too deep into this breh

Take the tinfoil hat off


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how triggered you are and the amount of dikkriding is insane... you keep doubling down on this idiotic take.. how you jumped to me asking him what his race is to conflating it with my thought process on (black) intellectualism is hilarious.

Ironically, I'm likely more educated than you (multiple degrees).

I'm in the mood........


Nobody mentioned black intellectualism.... what was mentioned was your parochial view of what constitutes "blackness" and you revealed this by having some sort of need to ask if he is black, which hilariously now brings me to point 2.

If you had shared personal messages with homie would it not have been fitting or revealing in said conversations what his background was? And if you did share such a "bond" where personal messages are sent, why would you not restrict the exchange to said space instead of this arbitrary attempt at being captious?

And now the fun in point 3......Every individual who holds post secondary degrees is highly cognizant of the fact of how little we know and as a result would in no way lead with a claim of "being smarter than you"....... especially as an ad hominem attack.........



ergo.............you revealed yourself without realizing you revealed yourself...

 

[jay83]

Dudes really underestimate this point. The first smash is like auditioning for a movie role, you gotta put your A game down or you might not get looked at ever again.

This is where getting to know each other does work. If you guys get to know each other and finally have sex later after establishing a relationship one bad night of sex isnt a big deal. But if it’s date 1-4? You got one shot to do well. Excuses won’t work with her. lol.

 

[Astroslik]

I'm in the mood........


Nobody mentioned black intellectualism.... what was mentioned was your parochial view of what constitutes "blackness" and you revealed this by having some sort of need to ask if he is black, which hilariously now brings me to point 2.

If you had shared personal messages with homie would it not have been fitting or revealing in said conversations what his background was? And if you did share such a "bond" where personal messages are sent, why would you not restrict the exchange to said space instead of this arbitrary attempt at being captious?

And now the fun in point 3......Every individual who holds post secondary degrees is highly cognizant of the fact of how little we know and as a result would in no way lead with a claim of "being smarter than you"....... especially as an ad hominem attack.........



ergo.............you revealed yourself without realizing you revealed yourself...

You are one weird ass dude man.. continue with your incel revenge of the nerds circle jerk with the other breh. Nobody has time to showcase your stupid ass logical leaps.

Instead of asking the "why" behind my question and waiting for my response, you went on a 5 reply emotional and irrational tangent. It's clear you have some unresolved trauma or were picked on in school for "sounding white" or being put into a box on some flat blackness shyt. Both archaic talking points i vehemently disagree with.

You clearly lack reading comprehension as well, never said I was smarter than anyone. You're the same guy attempting to puff his chest out on some "intellectual superiority" shyt by making ad hominem attacks about my so called inability to process the fact that black people can't possess certain verbiage and intellectual capabilities in fleshing out their thoughts that exist outside of stereotypes. You're a walking hypocrite.


I hope you seek help and get some p*ssy, breh. You operate in feminine energy and no woman would want to be around a dude with your behavior characteristics. I suggest you reread this thread starting on page 1. It may save your (dating) life.