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what do yall think about dudes who play games with their ex? i know this girl who broke up w/ her bf because he cheated on her multiple times, yet she still texts him, still is connected on social media, etc. she posts little subliminal relationship-oriented inspirational quotes on instagram like "one day i will wake up next to the love of my life" and "never give up on what you can't live without" and these sad-ass selfies like "frustrated today", "struggling", etc. And its almost like her ex is trolling her because ALL of the photos he "likes" are the struggle and relationship pics. :snoop:

i'll be honest shyt's frustrated the hell out of me yet i know this is birdbrain behavior on her part. like dude said above there's that adolescent part of me that thinks "oh only if she gave herself a chance to be treated right by a stand up dude she'd snap out of it" yet i know shyt doesn't work that way. :pacspit:

and i know in 2 years when this chick hits 29 she'll probably snap out of it for other reasons, but i dont want anything to do with that or any bytches that come to jesus when they hear 30 knocking.

at this point I'm not sure what I despise more really, her stupidity, or the fakkit ass ex who keeps toying w/ her. they're not even the same state so i know it's not just about the p*ssy (though she does take trips out there and he probably smashes every few months).

and yeah im mad but this is my place to vent :birdman:

whered all the non-retarded women go?
 

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what do yall think about dudes who play games with their ex? i know this girl who broke up w/ her bf because he cheated on her multiple times, yet she still texts him, still is connected on social media, etc. she posts little subliminal relationship-oriented inspirational quotes on instagram like "one day i will wake up next to the love of my life" and "never give up on what you can't live without" and these sad-ass selfies like "frustrated today", "struggling", etc. And its almost like her ex is trolling her because ALL of the photos he "likes" are the struggle and relationship pics. :snoop:

i'll be honest shyt's frustrated the hell out of me yet i know this is birdbrain behavior on her part. like dude said above there's that adolescent part of me that thinks "oh only if she gave herself a chance to be treated right by a stand up dude she'd snap out of it" yet i know shyt doesn't work that way. :pacspit:

and i know in 2 years when this chick hits 29 she'll probably snap out of it for other reasons, but i dont want anything to do with that or any bytches that come to jesus when they hear 30 knocking.

at this point I'm not sure what I despise more really, her stupidity, or the fakkit ass ex who keeps toying w/ her. they're not even the same state so i know it's not just about the p*ssy (though she does take trips out there and he probably smashes every few months).

and yeah im mad but this is my place to vent :birdman:

whered all the non-retarded women go?

people like this should just be left alone, i know a chick just like that my godsons mom who i finally cut off, her child is 4 and every year for the past 6 her baby dad has cheated on her, hit her, called her names etc. then they break up shes done with him, she'll date soemone new then poof he comes back in teh picture next thing there back together :heh:, last i heard she was ghoing to marry her baby dad now but she still keeping the backup bf shes dating around just in case :heh:

to me women like this enjoy the drama and the trials of relationships, I say don't even waste a second a minute a millisecond of your day worrying or thinking about broads like this dont even hate the guy, people allow themselves to be treated the way they are.

And yep when there 28, 29, 30, 31 , 32 they will be on a dating site sick of the "games" and "losers" and looking ofr a nice guy to settle down with.

The only thing that got me upset somewhat in the past when seein gwomen and males like this, is like i treat women with respect care and play no games yet i get played, and these dudes don't but :ehh:
 

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the second girl i ever loved life is in the gutter at the moment, its her birthday toda and i almost sent a text then im like :childplease:, this is teh main reason you should always treat people with respect and be appreciated of the things they do for you, now you have no friends and no one who truly cares about you but thast the life you chose
 

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btw i dont even get women, ive just been with my girl for a few weeks, and she drops the queston to me today she notices im not family orientated and im like year, minus weddings or funeral i don't do family dinners, birthdays etc.

then she did the whole, i dunno where thats going to leave us, family is important to me

:childplease:

like gosh damn stop worrying about the future, im not thinking about next year, 5 years from now, marriage, kids and all that, i can die tomorrow, and my girl worrying about me attending family birthdays and dinners when i haven't even met her family yet and we aint even that serious as of yet

stuff like this reminds me sometimes why i hate relationships. like GOsh damn i haven't cheated, cursed, i sacrifice my time in seeing you etc. and you on this crap
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what do yall think about dudes who play games with their ex? i know this girl who broke up w/ her bf because he cheated on her multiple times, yet she still texts him, still is connected on social media, etc. she posts little subliminal relationship-oriented inspirational quotes on instagram like "one day i will wake up next to the love of my life" and "never give up on what you can't live without" and these sad-ass selfies like "frustrated today", "struggling", etc. And its almost like her ex is trolling her because ALL of the photos he "likes" are the struggle and relationship pics. :snoop:

i'll be honest shyt's frustrated the hell out of me yet i know this is birdbrain behavior on her part. like dude said above there's that adolescent part of me that thinks "oh only if she gave herself a chance to be treated right by a stand up dude she'd snap out of it" yet i know shyt doesn't work that way. :pacspit:

and i know in 2 years when this chick hits 29 she'll probably snap out of it for other reasons, but i dont want anything to do with that or any bytches that come to jesus when they hear 30 knocking.

at this point I'm not sure what I despise more really, her stupidity, or the fakkit ass ex who keeps toying w/ her. they're not even the same state so i know it's not just about the p*ssy (though she does take trips out there and he probably smashes every few months).

and yeah im mad but this is my place to vent :birdman:

whered all the non-retarded women go?

Man, I don't feel sorry for her at all. She was lucky to escape that loser guy the first time and now she wants seconds? Nah, she sounds like a glutton for punishment. Unfortunately some of these women equate love to struggle and pain and all that nonsense. A relationship ain't real if there isn't a Keyshia Cole song that fits it. These women love posting those lonely pics on IG and yelling and texting back and forth on the phone. I bet anything the "backup bf" that she's with is a nice guy too, or at least an upgrade from the ex, but notice how now that the ex is in the picture, she's just keeping him around. And you being a nice guy feels for her.. Cut it out breh, these women choose fukked up situations everyday
 

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btw i dont even get women, ive just been with my girl for a few weeks, and she drops the queston to me today she notices im not family orientated and im like year, minus weddings or funeral i don't do family dinners, birthdays etc.

then she did the whole, i dunno where thats going to leave us, family is important to me

:childplease:

like gosh damn stop worrying about the future, im not thinking about next year, 5 years from now, marriage, kids and all that, i can die tomorrow, and my girl worrying about me attending family birthdays and dinners when i haven't even met her family yet and we aint even that serious as of yet

stuff like this reminds me sometimes why i hate relationships. like GOsh damn i haven't cheated, cursed, i sacrifice my time in seeing you etc. and you on this crap
:snoop:
i think that's a fair enough question, though. ill timed a few weeks in, but fair.

then again women just like to bullshyt and have discord.
 

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i think that's a fair enough question, though. ill timed a few weeks in, but fair.

then again women just like to bullshyt and have discord.

man everything was going great, i spent the weekend with her and now shes on this bs

shes like im so happy with you, but it bnothers me alot that something important to me (family functions, faminly dinners and crap) you have no interest in taking part of.
Like gosh damn you finally meet a good faithful guy with his ish in order and your already thinking of us married and me saying im not going to your mothers house or ish


i already told her im not changing who I am, I didnd't even attend my sisters birthday party and she lives 5 minutes away, so no im not going to go to some stupid family dinner that ain't even my flesh and blood whenever that is.

it may be the end brehs adn well shrugs, shes a good great girl and has the qualities i like but im not changing who i've been for 28 long damn years over something i have no interest in.
 

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I never keep in contact with my ex.
Once it's done, it's done. They always try to keep in contact with me though on some how are you shyt. That's that I hate that shyt.
 

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man everything was going great, i spent the weekend with her and now shes on this bs

shes like im so happy with you, but it bnothers me alot that something important to me (family functions, faminly dinners and crap) you have no interest in taking part of.
Like gosh damn you finally meet a good faithful guy with his ish in order and your already thinking of us married and me saying im not going to your mothers house or ish


i already told her im not changing who I am, I didnd't even attend my sisters birthday party and she lives 5 minutes away, so no im not going to go to some stupid family dinner that ain't even my flesh and blood whenever that is.

it may be the end brehs adn well shrugs, shes a good great girl and has the qualities i like but im not changing who i've been for 28 long damn years over something i have no interest in.

That's what's a trip to me. relationships never can just be something smooth with a man and woman coming together to build something positive drama-free. it's like a lot of women intentionally induce conflict in order to keep themselves from being bored. Every single bill could be paid off, there is no want for anything, but she'll still complain in order to get some reaction out of you.

If you give in and change up, all of a sudden she'll see you as 'weak' and will look at this as a situation to try to change you more. If you allow her to do it again, then you start turning into one of those henpecked boyfriends/husbands who is constantly getting yelled at and dominated by his woman. On the other hand, you tell her you won't change and you'll have to hear some sort of bickering about how you need to change and yada yada. it's like no matter what, a woman will try to introduce some kind of problem. The only way to handle it really is to tell her you know what you got into when you dealt with me and I'm letting you know this is how I am and I'm not changing... She can either accept it or roll on.
 

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Brehs, is it safe to say that if you're messaging a broad and she has no type of conversation skills--that means you should only try to fucc?
Maybe she's not used to having to talk and is used to instead dudes just hitting her up for a fucc session.

I always assume this haha
 

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btw i dont even get women, ive just been with my girl for a few weeks, and she drops the queston to me today she notices im not family orientated and im like year, minus weddings or funeral i don't do family dinners, birthdays etc.

then she did the whole, i dunno where thats going to leave us, family is important to me

:childplease:

like gosh damn stop worrying about the future, im not thinking about next year, 5 years from now, marriage, kids and all that, i can die tomorrow, and my girl worrying about me attending family birthdays and dinners when i haven't even met her family yet and we aint even that serious as of yet

stuff like this reminds me sometimes why i hate relationships. like GOsh damn i haven't cheated, cursed, i sacrifice my time in seeing you etc. and you on this crap
:snoop:


Don't you think she has a point tho?.....If Family is important to her and it's not important to you (and you're unwilling to compromise) that makes you two incompatible.

Relationships at this point of the game involves sharing your life together.......at the end of the day you gotta be into the same shyt or it probably won't work. It would suck for her to get attached and then 3 years down the line you don't wanna attend thanksgiving dinner at her mom's house because you're gambling on the Lions vs Packers. :russ: Not that there's anything wrong with that but it's better to work some things out from the door. From what I've seen from you on here, you're similar to me (although a lot more extreme) you probably need a chick who's gonna let you do your own thing & give you your space. I don't have much family either. It's just my mom dukes and my uncle so I was never really big on family aside from spending time with my moms, you just gotta know that many women, especially black women are really big on family.
 

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man everything was going great, i spent the weekend with her and now shes on this bs

shes like im so happy with you, but it bnothers me alot that something important to me (family functions, faminly dinners and crap) you have no interest in taking part of.
Like gosh damn you finally meet a good faithful guy with his ish in order and your already thinking of us married and me saying im not going to your mothers house or ish


i already told her im not changing who I am, I didnd't even attend my sisters birthday party and she lives 5 minutes away, so no im not going to go to some stupid family dinner that ain't even my flesh and blood whenever that is.

it may be the end brehs adn well shrugs, shes a good great girl and has the qualities i like but im not changing who i've been for 28 long damn years over something i have no interest in.
Don't you think she has a point tho?.....If Family is important to her and it's not important to you (and you're unwilling to compromise) that makes you two incompatible.

Relationships at this point of the game involves sharing your life together.......at the end of the day you gotta be into the same shyt or it probably won't work. It would suck for her to get attached and then 3 years down the line you don't wanna attend thanksgiving dinner at her mom's house because you're gambling on the Lions vs Packers. :russ: Not that there's anything wrong with that but it's better to work some things out from the door. From what I've seen from you on here, you're similar to me (although a lot more extreme) you probably need a chick who's gonna let you do your own thing & give you your space. I don't have much family either. It's just my mom dukes and my uncle so I was never really big on family aside from spending time with my moms, you just gotta know that many women, especially black women are really big on family.
Yeah. I didn't wanna hop on the soapbox myself, but c/s pretty much. Gotta agree w/ this.
 

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Don't you think she has a point tho?.....If Family is important to her and it's not important to you (and you're unwilling to compromise) that makes you two incompatible.

Relationships at this point of the game involves sharing your life together.......at the end of the day you gotta be into the same shyt or it probably won't work. It would suck for her to get attached and then 3 years down the line you don't wanna attend thanksgiving dinner at her mom's house because you're gambling on the Lions vs Packers. :russ: Not that there's anything wrong with that but it's better to work some things out from the door. From what I've seen from you on here, you're similar to me (although a lot more extreme) you probably need a chick who's gonna let you do your own thing & give you your space. I don't have much family either. It's just my mom dukes and my uncle so I was never really big on family aside from spending time with my moms, you just gotta know that many women, especially black women are really big on family.

it's crazy, but honestly, sometimes the only way a relationship work is if a man and woman are 'incompatible' in some areas and the man absolutely refuses to compromise. If he gives in to the family thing, she'll start viewing him as 'weak' in a way for changing up. If he was 'everything she wanted', including the family gathering loving type of dude, she'll start to say 'he's too perfect' in her mind and either get insecure or she'll think he's boring and cheat. It's like women always need some point of contention. It's better to be 'imperfect' than perfect and boring.
 
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