Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Told this broad how "you'll make time for someone you care about" and she wasn't putting enough effort in. Didn't buy the bullshyt that she was busy. Haven't heard a response from her since Sunday evening. I'm talking to other chicks who go out their way for me, but she on my mind. :wow:

I hate going through that shyt.
 

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while you're right logically, what was your purpose in telling her? what did you want to happen once you told her that and what was the end game you were expecting? keep it real with yourself.

i was salty...expecting her to improve her efforts:snoop: chalk this as a complete L?
 
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Told this broad how "you'll make time for someone you care about" and she wasn't putting enough effort in. Didn't buy the bullshyt that she was busy. Haven't heard a response from her since Sunday evening. I'm talking to other chicks who go out their way for me, but she on my mind. :wow:

while you're right logically, what was your purpose in telling her? what did you want to happen once you told her that and what was the end game you were expecting? keep it real with yourself.

i was salty...expecting her to improve her efforts:snoop: chalk this as a complete L?


I think it's fair to give a chick an alert when she is slipping, but ultimately the gems shared here are really for your own personal growth. A lot of people will read a few quotes on here, feel empowered for a day, and then go spit it back to the lady who's giving them trouble like it's some magical shyt. Ultimately, you gotta absorb the good knowledge and use it to inform your own moves.

Her actions will always let you know what's up - it's kind of difficult to imagine that she's just gonna change and be super attentive to you unless she's just self-absorbed and needed to be called out real quick. If her attention wavers because she's dealing with other dudes, nothing can really be done. These chicks choose everyday, let em.
 

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Told this broad how "you'll make time for someone you care about" and she wasn't putting enough effort in. Didn't buy the bullshyt that she was busy. Haven't heard a response from her since Sunday evening. I'm talking to other chicks who go out their way for me, but she on my mind. :wow:
That situation stinks but like breh said its something you gotta internalize... Cant force em to put effort in (im sure you know that) and seeing as you told her and havent heard from her in a few days proves it. Toss her and fukk with the hoes thats fukking with you.
 

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what was this dude trying to accomplish? :snoop:

http://www.palmbeachpost.com/news/n...of-stalking-ex-calling-her-145-times-i/ndZ8d/

Pompano Beach man accused of stalking ex, calling her 145 times in 11 hours, even telling Boca Raton police: ‘I am not scared of the cops’


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After Kirk Trim called his ex-girlfriend more than 100 times, a Boca Raton Police officer answered the phone, but that still didn’t stop him from making threats and continuing to call, according to an arrest report.

“I am not scared of the cops, I will give you my address,” he told the officer.

Trim, 36, of Pompano Beach, faces charges of aggravated stalking. He bailed out of the Palm Beach County Jail on Saturday. The ex-girlfriend has a restraining order against him since November, according to the report.

Trim called his ex-girlfriend 145 times during a period of 11 hours on Friday, and that does not include the dozens of calls placed to her workplace, The Florence Fuller Child Development Centers, off Glades Road and Federal Highway in Boca Raton.

Even as officers interviewed officials at the center, he continued to call the woman.

Center officials and the ex-girlfriend all played voice messages left by Trim for the police. Some are described as aggressive and ask for money that he says she owes him, others threaten to “blow up the school” unless he can talk to his ex-girlfriend, according to the report.

“You will have to call the SWAT team on me,” he said.

In another message he said he was “from the islands and will come and do whatever he needs to do and then get on the next plane out.”

When he called the school again while the officer was there, he said he was outside and “did not care what happened to him,” according to the report. The school was put on lockdown for precaution and officers arrested him outside.
 

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There's no perfect answer in this situation. I don't think women really understand the importance of finances. She should understand sometimes she gotta hide that pride and deal with a job to make and have some money from, when necessary.


they understand it. they understand it perfectly. but when having a p*ssy means that they can come up, or get a potential safety net in a man, the importance of balancing their own money falls to the wayside because theyre invested in getting a sponsor. what those types of women do is focus on the importance of getting a mans money instead of what they can get and maintain on their own. the worst ones arent even concerned with their mans needs, its all about their money reserves, aka what they get from you. this shyt comes natural for many women. for them its not about them having the best job they can get, or doing the best that they can for themselves, theyre looking to cash out on a man whos doing better than her. your potential as her mate depends on how much higher you are than her. and once thats gone, or your wallet is closed, then so is she.
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those women are the biggest liars out there. they manage to give a lot of women a bad name. they always say one thing, but it really means another. when you break it down, for them it looks like ... does he make enough money (ie more than me)? they say to themselves and their friends, can I respect him (does he have a career/ job position higher than me)? is he strong enough for me (can he put me in my place because I dont like to be accountable for my poor behavior)? does he love me ( will he do what I say)? is he selfish or not (will he take care of me and buy me lots of things)? women who demand to have their ways paid for by a man and use their companionship as a tool of leverage, are really some of the biggest leeches out there.


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thats why then the heat is on them they will try to use their p*ssy credit card for rewards. like ol girl tried with you. some women say they want equality and fair treatment in relationships, but really just they want you to pay. when we fail to see that manipulation only works when we give into it, we can get fooled. shaming tactics, threats, and desperation can make a man think that he has to rescue someone else. but the truth is, you cant fall for that bullshyt, especially when a person is ultimately all about themselves. real companionship shouldnt be bought, but yet its apparently it has a price tag for many women. we always have to keep that in mind to keep from being fooled. thats why its better to just let them pass in that case. we can always get a new one. its all a game for them, so you cant forget the rules theyre going by, or assume that theyre not aware of their actions.
 

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Not an L, a W. She hasn't hit you up since, which pretty much confirms her feelings about you. You don't typically want to say to a woman directly, "If you were feeling me you'd make time", but if that thought starts resounding in your head when thinking about a woman, it tells you 9 times out of 10 it's time to get going.
 

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what was this dude trying to accomplish? :snoop:

http://www.palmbeachpost.com/news/n...of-stalking-ex-calling-her-145-times-i/ndZ8d/

Pompano Beach man accused of stalking ex, calling her 145 times in 11 hours, even telling Boca Raton police: ‘I am not scared of the cops’
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damn :wow:

crazy people do desperate things. whats messed up is that a person like that puts all of their faith and ability to be happy on another person. he made himself crazy by not accepting a loss, or because he allowed a women to be his everything. you see what happens. women come and go. now this guy is looking thirsty, wreckless and stupid because he wouldnt go out and just get himself another woman. as a matter of fact, he needs to get himself straight before even doing that. like come on bruh, find some genuine, self respect. thats why you have to be more about getting yourself up, and building that solid foundation. you wont get turned upside down that way. he turned a rejection into a bid and a psychic evaluation.


I think it's fair to give a chick an alert when she is slipping, but ultimately the gems shared here are really for your own personal growth. A lot of people will read a few quotes on here, feel empowered for a day, and then go spit it back to the lady who's giving them trouble like it's some magical shyt. Ultimately, you gotta absorb the good knowledge and use it to inform your own moves.


not too long ago I had this new chick with me, and I straight let her know what I think about modern relationships when the subject came up. she was a little taken aback at first, but respected it because I laid it out. it really isnt told in order to lead it into some type of argument, its more about letting them know what I will accept and wont. they can take it or leave it. at the same time not everybody has to know your every thought. it can create extra drama if you try to argue against every idea out in the world that you dont agree with. instead, just concern yourself mostly with whats happening with you. youre right though, as most of this is really more of a blueprint more than anything. its not the building, so to speak. you have to use the tools thats available to make it all into something. I recommend people to act on their beliefs moreso than putting yourself on an open platform all of the time. these arent just concepts, theyre useful pieces of information. dont worry about explaining the finer points of your lifestyle choices to everybody. just do what you have to. and actions are more respected than words anyways.
 
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i was salty...expecting her to improve her efforts:snoop: chalk this as a complete L?
forget Ls or Ws breh. It's an L in the sense that you didn't get the result you wanted but it's a W in the sense that you got rid of a chick who's not bringing anything to the table so you have more energy to spend on the one who will. You can take it either way.

the main reason why i asked you what your purpose was is because i sensed that you did it to curve her behavior. A chick will do what she wants. In general, a chick will follow your lead and follow your instructions if she is attracted to you. Once a chick gives me the "I'm busy" shtick, i usually don't even bother because she's clearly not feeling me and there's no way to logically convince a chick to feel me. I'm just trying to show you that telling her that was never gonna lead to her giving you more play. It sucks and it's very frustrating. but the reason it doesn't work is because even if she sees the logic in it, she'll resent you for trying to make her feel bad for not making time for you and will avoid you more. If it was me, i would have let her be without saying anything and do me. if she comes back and asks me why i'm distant with her, then i would tell her what you said about her being busy so i'm letting her take care of her stuff. but i never say it unless they ask why. actions speak louder.
 

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i was salty...expecting her to improve her efforts:snoop: chalk this as a complete L?

its not an L breh, its a W. She played her cards and her actions spoke on her behalf. Delete her number and don't bother with her ever again. I mean, yea she cud've said something back that would've soothed your worries...but really, all that would've been meant for is a slow-down mechanism to keep you around.

Always remember this...

actions speak louder then words. If she said something, let her back it up..otherwise, she is just chatting shyt.
 

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great advice, looking back at my past relationship im seeing things with more clarity, I gave those chicks too much leniency, new chick im dating so far is doing real good, havent seen any red flags yet, and this relationship is def. starting off better than my past 3 relationships. However,. Im not going to let that get me too high
 
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