Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I had drunk long convo with one of my boy's last night at a bar, who I don't really hang with often but good friend nonthe-less…and we both been in long serious relationships and did the couples night things a few times. He admitted to me that he still think about those 2 past exes…I'm the same, I still do think about mines also but not in a way that it consumes my life or anything. But more in a good way and thinking about the good times. Do y'all also?

Also we spoke about still having things from those relationships…..Sheeeit, I still have relationship memorabilia in garbage bags in my hallway closet. I don't look at them, but can't bring myself to throw them out. My girl never bothered asking whats in the bags. Do y'll keep shyt from y'all past serious relationships around till this day?

This also made me think of my parents and if they still thought about people they've dealt with before meeting each other. It was like an epiphany. It's something how we go thru life in various relationships and all the memories we keep in capsules in our mind, but never speak of to the person that we are currently with. Thru good and bad, I've honestly can say I've enjoyed the experiences overall. :manny:
 

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I had drunk long convo with one of my boy's last night at a bar, who I don't really hang with often but good friend nonthe-less…and we both been in long serious relationships and did the couples night things a few times. He admitted to me that he still think about those 2 past exes…I'm the same, I still do think about mines also but not in a way that it consumes my life or anything. But more in a good way and thinking about the good times. Do y'all also?

Also we spoke about still having things from those relationships…..Sheeeit, I still have relationship memorabilia in garbage bags in my hallway closet. I don't look at them, but can't bring myself to throw them out. My girl never bothered asking whats in the bags. Do y'll keep shyt from y'all past serious relationships around till this day?

This also made me think of my parents and if they still thought about people they've dealt with before meeting each other. It was like an epiphany. It's something how we go thru life in various relationships and all the memories we keep in capsules in our mind, but never speak of to the person that we are currently with. Thru good and bad, I've honestly can say I've enjoyed the experiences overall. :manny:

everyone thinks about exes, especially men. A man who falls for a woman and falls in love with her, falls harder than a woman does for that same man.

I've only loved two women in my life and I still think of them every single day, although the feelings aren't as strong or the love I still think of them. I think as the years go on you forget about the bad times and just think of the good times sort of like if someone dies they may have owed you money, or treated you horribly but you remember teh fun times etc.

in terms of keeping stuff, everything ive received i gave away or thrown away, i have a portable hd up in a box in a closet with photos/videos/ of my previous ex but i dont take it out to look at it.
 

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nothing wrong with keeping the old stuff because it reminds you that you are human. You may not have ended on the best terms with some of your exes, but you still had the feelings and memories. Society tell us that we, as men, should be emotionless, but that's simply not true. As men, we have to keep our emotions under control, but if you turn emotionless, you are a step away from being a psychopath.
 

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everyone thinks about exes, especially men. A man who falls for a woman and falls in love with her, falls harder than a woman does for that same man.

I've only loved two women in my life and I still think of them every single day, although the feelings aren't as strong or the love I still think of them. I think as the years go on you forget about the bad times and just think of the good times sort of like if someone dies they may have owed you money, or treated you horribly but you remember teh fun times etc.

in terms of keeping stuff, everything ive received i gave away or thrown away, i have a portable hd up in a box in a closet with photos/videos/ of my previous ex but i dont take it out to look at it.

That's the same thing me and boy talked about despite us both being in relationships. Good to know this is usual :ehh:
 

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everyone thinks about exes, especially men. A man who falls for a woman and falls in love with her, falls harder than a woman does for that same man.

I've only loved two women in my life and I still think of them every single day, although the feelings aren't as strong or the love I still think of them. I think as the years go on you forget about the bad times and just think of the good times sort of like if someone dies they may have owed you money, or treated you horribly but you remember teh fun times etc.

in terms of keeping stuff, everything ive received i gave away or thrown away, i have a portable hd up in a box in a closet with photos/videos/ of my previous ex but i dont take it out to look at it.


haha i never think about the good times when it comes to my exes, I think about all the negative things and why I should have broken up with them sooner, anything that reminds me of my exes when I look at the item (something with sentimental value) or throw away or I give back. All cards and pictures are tossed. The only thing I keep are clothes and like watches because when I look at them it never brings me back to my relationships.

Im a forward type of guy, so my exes are like never on my mind except for usually when I know their bday is around the corner. I actually think more about their family, because I always hit it off with the family
 

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Do yall fukk with older women? Like nearly a decade older?


majority of the women I date are either 3-4 yrs older than me or the same age as me, I was with a woman 9 yrs older than me for about 18 months but I was way more mature than she ever was. She was way too bratty and spoiled for her age (mind you she had never been married and had no kids) but her mom treated her and her brother like they were still 12. Quite annoying
 

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The biggest thing I've learned with women is to stop trying. Stop trying to project an image and relax and be comfortable in who you are. That natural confidence is really what's attractive to women.
 

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I'm practically on chill mode right now, can't really get serious with a chick right now because of my current situation (living with parents). Trying to pay off some debt and save enough to move out hopefully in the mid-year. It sucks when you meet someone and you wanna do some thangs but you don't have a place to take them to. Spending money to get a room is a waste to me and it gets old quick and the females that do have their own spot sometimes be tripping about you wanting to come over. I can't deal with that so I've pretty much shut myself out from getting serious with someone till I have my shyt together.
 

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Another thing about having stuff to do to keep yourself occupied....check out sites like groupon and amazon local. You get major discounts up to 95% on everything from IT courses to get those certs (lol) to sporting activities, trips abroad, self improvement courses, you name it. I've seen courses on things that would usually run in the hundreds cost less than £50/$70.

I'm gonna do a helicopter and plane flying lesson this summer and shyt lol.
 

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Brehs, is this flirting?

Basically, I chill with 2 of female my co-workers on a weekly basis. We trained together but we don't work on the same floor nor do we share the same schedule so we rarely see each other other than after work hours.

Anyways, 1 co-worker (let's call her "L") and I seemed to share some pretty good chemistry. Nothing has happened besides me giving her an occasional bear hug with 2 arms opposed the homie 1 handed hug.

So yesterday we all meet up for drinks at the local TGIFs, just us 3. As we wait for the other girl (we'll call her B), L and I are chillin at the table. All of sudden B shows up and L tells B that her (L) and I were making out prior to B arriving. I heard it but I wanted L to repeat. She didn't so we proceeded with the night. Later on she repeats it, "I was telling B that you and I were making out prior to B walking in". I didn't really know what to say. I'm normally quick witted with responses but I just kind of froze.

Is that her welcome mat? I've been looking for my lane to get in but was never sure if we had it like that. I mean, a mofo is fly :mjpls: but it's been a while and I've been off of my game.
 

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@DaRealness I need some real hardcore concrete advice...the best you can give...

In terms of the customer service situation I am at my absolute wits end...without getting into long stories I still continue to be tried from women of all ages from 20 to 70...and it isn't necessarily in your face agression or disrespect....its passive and on the sly which pisses me off even more...

For example this one lady at least FOUR separate times including today she has thrown her keys on the conveyer belt without greetingme(not that it would make a difference) then each of the times I don't look for her key...and she will ask me if I put in the card...and when I tell her "miss I don't know which is ur card" with a smile she picks it up and then gives it to me...one part of me would say the first time it happened I did a good job holding my ground...

But what am I doing wrong? ITS like they wanna get disrespected and have their spots blown up....because each time she finds the card and gives it back with a smile on her face.....she is an older lady but there is no way in hell she continues to forget like that....its like she is daring me to give in one day...

We mentioned earlier that its because of these naive older gentleman who put these women who are now 50+ on pedastals and raised their daughters the same way and those daughters will end up the same in 2054

I cannot comprehend the sheer disrespect and condescending....this is exactly why I understand why a lot of them get their asses beat...not that I'm condoning domesticviolence but I understand....

And it isn't just this lady....its numerous other ladies...

I mean I look young formy age and get the feeling they want to take their attitudes and anger out onpeople they think are younger than they are....but this is out of control...

Like I said if you have some real concrete advice for me let me know
 
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