Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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So neutral is pretty much ignoring?
I try not yo hit her up sometimes but i keep thinking about her when I don't.
I feel like a bytch.

Neutral as in just behave how you normally would. She'll either tell you she needs space or she'll open up to you even more. I had the same dilemma when my ex's cousin died and she wanted me around even more whilst she was grieving. Took her to and from the funeral and all sorts.
 

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Neutral as in just behave how you normally would. She'll either tell you she needs space or she'll open up to you even more. I had the same dilemma when my ex's cousin died and she wanted me around even more whilst she was grieving. Took her to and from the funeral and all sorts.

She did say she wanted her space.
But I be wanting to hit her up when days go by and we ain't talked.
Its been damn near a month and we only spoke like 4 times.
*last night too*
 

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She did say she wanted her space.
But I be wanting to hit her up when days go by and we ain't talked.
Its been damn near a month and we only spoke like 4 times.
*last night too*

I would have said hit her up once a week just so she knows you're still around so 4 times in a month isn't too bad. If it extends much longer than that then I would start getting concerned. But as the wiser guys in this thread have said to me, it's best not to force the issue with girls. Let them come to their own conclusions.
 

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I would have said hit her up once a week just so she knows you're still around so 4 times in a month isn't too bad. If it extends much longer than that then I would start getting concerned. But as the wiser guys in this thread have said to me, it's best not to force the issue with girls. Let them come to their own conclusions.

I feel you breh.
Idk if you read my spoiler but she's emo.
You know they act all too emotional
 

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I'd advise AGAINST going out of your way to solve your woman's problems. That'll get you put into the friend zone. If you see it's really affecting her, you can ask her, "What's up with you" and let her vent, but if you try to fix all her problems it just turns women off. I don't know why, but it does.
 

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Crazy story my co-worker told me about this chick he's been seeing on and off, trying to make her his "main chick".

-Asks her out to the movies the other day, she tells him "she's busy"

-So he goes to the movies by himself cause he wanted to check out the flick anyway. Guess who's there, with another dude and they're seeing the same movie :mindblown: He pays no attention to them but inside he's :wtf::upsetfavre:

-Fast forward to Saturday @ work when he tells me about it. The bytch is around in his department looking for him but he keeps dodging her.

I tell him to throw her in the bushes if she can't make up her mind. One moment she tells him she wants to take a break from dating only to be seen fukking around with other dudes.

These bytches man :wow:
 

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We be telling cats what's up when a woman says she's busy or she mysteriously disappears. None of these broads are that busy. They use it as an excuse when they don't really want to see a dude. If they want a dude, they'll drop just about everything to get to him.
 

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Crazy story my co-worker told me about this chick he's been seeing on and off, trying to make her his "main chick".

-Asks her out to the movies the other day, she tells him "she's busy"

-So he goes to the movies by himself cause he wanted to check out the flick anyway. Guess who's there, with another dude and they're seeing the same movie :mindblown: He pays no attention to them but inside he's :wtf::upsetfavre:

-Fast forward to Saturday @ work when he tells me about it. The bytch is around in his department looking for him but he keeps dodging her.

I tell him to throw her in the bushes if she can't make up her mind. One moment she tells him she wants to take a break from dating only to be seen fukking around with other dudes.

These bytches man :wow:

LOL....back in the 80s Biz Markie said don't listen to a girl who says she just has a friend....there should be an updated version that says don't listen to a girl who says "she's busy". There was another song with LL Cool J where he spoke about going to the movies to get his girl off his mind only to see her kissing another man at the same showing.

We're all "busy", so what? You think Obama could get away with saying he's the President of the US, therefore he has no personal time for Michelle and the girls?

It ain't no thing....she's just one out of millions of chicks who like to keep several guys on deck for an ego boost. Nothing more. He could make a passing comment about seeing her there to make her squirm, but personally I don't think he should even bother.
 

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how to deal with girls that have been previously married?

my intentions are only to fukk and keep it strictly fwb. I think she's look to "date".. she brought up the word herself. how do i deal with this?

lmao i had to figure out that she doesn't have any kids. I don't want to waste my time with the bs.
the way to deal with them is to not compromise. what she says could be real just like it could be posturing. you need to make your intentions clear. she'll try to shame you, guilt trip you, etc. don't compromise. at some point she will either leave or bend. if she leaves do not chase after her. her leaving might be game. she may come back, she may not. either way, out of sight, out of mind.
 

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I'd advise AGAINST going out of your way to solve your woman's problems. That'll get you put into the friend zone. If you see it's really affecting her, you can ask her, "What's up with you" and let her vent, but if you try to fix all her problems it just turns women off. I don't know why, but it does.
it's because you become her servant/lackey,
 

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remember 80% of women end marriages so be wary of dealing with women who were married before they will give you the sob story how their husband was horrible etc. when its likely not the case
 
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