Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Some men have the cleveland cavs syndrome, and I'm not hating because I had that syndrome for a long time.
now what is the cleveland cavs syndrome? I'll explain.
You get soemone everyone wants lebron james, you do everything you can to keep them. Spend money, pay the luxury tax, give up assets,
wine and dine their friends, families, you think it will be a lifelong committment and then the carpet is pulled from under you. They leave,
righ away go elsewhere, your a distant memory in their mind. Because of all the joys and love you share you get angry say things about them, but deep down you want them back.
You hold out hope, and you hear that even though they are in bed with someone else (the heat), that maybe just maybe they will come back one day.
You hear them talking about, that you have a nice core, your improving and how they still come back around your area, your still holding out hope.
But we all know that hope dies last and there is no way lebron is going back to cleveland.
I had this syndrome before, I pinned for an ex for years, hoping that I would get another chance, even though her committment was to someone else :snoop:,
it took me years to cut the cord, sever all ties, kill the hope and rebuild my life to greatness :blessed:, if she didn't want to build with greatness through the rough and tough times then
:pacspit: I say :pacspit:
 

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This chic i was messing with play me good last night. The most mess up thing is that i knew she was but i let things come to fruition because I had to know for sure. I wasn't even mad that she did, i really just didn't give a fukk anymore. She wasn't even worth a emotional outburst. I told her that i hope next dude makes her happy and bounce. No chic is that special to have u in loops for het feelings and needs.
 

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This chic i was messing with play me good last night. The most mess up thing is that i knew she was but i let things come to fruition because I had to know for sure. I wasn't even mad that she did, i really just didn't give a fukk anymore. She wasn't even worth a emotional outburst. I told her that i hope next dude makes her happy and bounce. No chic is that special to have u in loops for het feelings and needs.
So you just going to leave out what she did :leostare:
 

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Some men have the cleveland cavs syndrome, and I'm not hating because I had that syndrome for a long time.
now what is the cleveland cavs syndrome? I'll explain.
You get soemone everyone wants lebron james, you do everything you can to keep them. Spend money, pay the luxury tax, give up assets,
wine and dine their friends, families, you think it will be a lifelong committment and then the carpet is pulled from under you. They leave,
righ away go elsewhere, your a distant memory in their mind. Because of all the joys and love you share you get angry say things about them, but deep down you want them back.
You hold out hope, and you hear that even though they are in bed with someone else (the heat), that maybe just maybe they will come back one day.
You hear them talking about, that you have a nice core, your improving and how they still come back around your area, your still holding out hope.
But we all know that hope dies last and there is no way lebron is going back to cleveland.
I had this syndrome before, I pinned for an ex for years, hoping that I would get another chance, even though her committment was to someone else :snoop:,
it took me years to cut the cord, sever all ties, kill the hope and rebuild my life to greatness :blessed:, if she didn't want to build with greatness through the rough and tough times then
:pacspit: I say :pacspit:

In my opinion, once it's over, it's over. Trying to hold out hope about getting back together, etc., is a waste of time. Maybe you'll get back together, it'll be cool for a week before she goes back to her distant ways and peels off. Once she gets into distant mode, it's a wrap. No need to get emotional, no need to try to take it back to 'where it was'. Just get ready for her to go. Only time those break-ups work is when it's some drama type situation... but if she's bored and distant, chalk her up.
 

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So you just going to leave out what she did :leostare:
To make a long story short, she been having issues at her job and couldnt pay a bill. I let her have 60 so that she can pay it. We was going to hook up last night to chill then i get a text stating that she not coming, i'm a loser and that she seeing someone else who can provide for her. We had a issue while back where she needed some cash and i didnt have it and she got pissed. She was just fukking with me for money but she got scraps anyway so i dont care.
 

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To make a long story short, she been having issues at her job and couldnt pay a bill. I let her have 60 so that she can pay it. We was going to hook up last night to chill then i get a text stating that she not coming, i'm a loser and that she seeing someone else who can provide for her. We had a issue while back where she needed some cash and i didnt have it and she got pissed. She was just fukking with me for money but she got scraps anyway so i dont care.
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To make a long story short, she been having issues at her job and couldnt pay a bill. I let her have 60 so that she can pay it. We was going to hook up last night to chill then i get a text stating that she not coming, i'm a loser and that she seeing someone else who can provide for her. We had a issue while back where she needed some cash and i didnt have it and she got pissed. She was just fukking with me for money but she got scraps anyway so i dont care.

man, fukk that bytch, non loyal ass hoe. u should be so happy she's gone. she aint gonna be around u for some hard times. only thing on her mind is money as she clearly stated so let some other sucker deal with that.
 

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To make a long story short, she been having issues at her job and couldnt pay a bill. I let her have 60 so that she can pay it. We was going to hook up last night to chill then i get a text stating that she not coming, i'm a loser and that she seeing someone else who can provide for her. We had a issue while back where she needed some cash and i didnt have it and she got pissed. She was just fukking with me for money but she got scraps anyway so i dont care.

Damn man, she's brazen to throw stuff like that in your face, but you know what, she did you a favour cos she's obviously a lowlife not worth dealing with. She sounds like a loser who only drags people down anyway.

I'm sure I don't need to tell you this, but NEVER take her back under any circumstances.
 

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I've learned hard lessons in life never lend money to women or help them out.

Literally they have a lost of dudes to ask you say no they will find a simp who does.



To make a long story short, she been having issues at her job and couldnt pay a bill. I let her have 60 so that she can pay it. We was going to hook up last night to chill then i get a text stating that she not coming, i'm a loser and that she seeing someone else who can provide for her. We had a issue while back where she needed some cash and i didnt have it and she got pissed. She was just fukking with me for money but she got scraps anyway so i dont care.
 

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Its hypergamy 101, finances and infidelity are the top two reasons for divorce. If you lose your job give it awhile will she stay? :lupe:

Even now women want to know what you do for a living, if you live at home if you have a car etc. Etc.
 

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I've learned hard lessons in life never lend money to women or help them out.

Literally they have a lost of dudes to ask you say no they will find a simp who does.
She is used to guys kissing her ass so they can have her. She is only loyal to money and at the end of the day, i pay $60 to find out this chic aint shyt. Save me more headaches and funds for me in the future.
 

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wow..there HAD to be some signs that she was just a lowlife type of person, I can see an unreturned text, or a flaky weekend or something, but that? I'd like to think my judge of character is strong enough to not even allow a person like that close to me….but I could be wrong.
 

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Y'all probably wondering where i've been...


In a boring ass relationship


While the girl is cool (or was), has her own place, whip, paralegal job, etc....


she's starting to become possessive and jelly all the time. And the sex is becoming really really ho-hum (i do all the work, she's a thicker girl
so you know how that is - but don't get it twisted, she's fit and active, runs marathons and does yoga/x-fit).


Any who, the past couple months, everything just feels like groundhog day. She's great as a person, even better as a friend (and with her maternal
qualities and faithfulness... the mother of my chul'rens).


But i'm not ready to tie the knot and have kids... and i still feel like i need excitement in relationships (or just dating someone else for the sake of it cuz
i'm bored of her).


*sighs*


I just don't know how to break it to her cuz she says i'm the best thing that's ever happened to her. I feel bad, breaghs.


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wow..there HAD to be some signs that she was just a lowlife type of person, I can see an unreturned text, or a flaky weekend or something, but that? I'd like to think my judge of character is strong enough to not even allow a person like that close to me….but I could be wrong.
There were signs when i started to get to know her. She has a high sense of entitlement and doesn't want to be accountable for her issues in her life. I wasn't look for anything serious with her, i just wanted some companionship from time to time. It all cool at the end of the day because i didn't give a damn about the money. I just know not to deal with her type again. I have no ill will towards her or anything. I have much deeper shyt to deal with right now (finding another job-getting layoff in late May). Dealing with hurt people is just going to hurt me in the long run.
 
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