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Way too much work for a p*ssy she won't let you smash when you fukked up the first Time


And stop giving her rides
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I'm throwing this chick to the bushes. So tonight I came home and I saw her in my house with my EX. My ex actually is staying at my house(on the 2nd floor sharing a bedroom with my Aunt) and shorty was there. Apparently she's sleeping over because her and my EX are going out of town with their Church tomorrow morning early. Anyway after I saw her I told her to come up to my room when she comes back because they were headed outside to go get something. When she came, she just stood in the room close to the door and then after a few minutes of small talk she says she's going to sleep. I tell her to sleep with me in my room and she like nah she can't that's not good. I ask why and she like "no it's too many people downstairs that will think stuff and plus I'm not your girlfriend." So I'm like ":youngsabo: Ight what if you become my girl?" on some sarcastic shyt and she like "nah and plus we can't go out anyway i already changed my mind and moved on."

I start walking out into the hallway lightly tugging her arm to come back because she's slowly walking towards the door to leave and I'm just telling her I'm just a little surprised at her being in my home this late so she should just give me a sec.

After of few minutes of me and her going back and forth saying the same old "Come on let's talk" and her replying "I gotta go to sleep" she just said she serious she don't want no man right now. She said " When we was supposed to go out the time passed so i moved on.." I asked her if she got someone already in line and she said no and that she rather stay single right now. It's funny because just a month ago she was chilling with me in my car and I was kissing her neck and feeling on her ass so she was into it but she was on her period so nothing went down. The situationss I spoke about earlier in this thread a few posts back happened between tonight and last month(29th of June on my bday).

I just told her :manny: and she was like ight and she said goodnight and then she went back downstairs. I'm not gonna lie when I said "Ight" my voice kind of cracked but I didn't cry or nothing. :to:


I went back in my room and lay awoke there for like 10 minutes in the dark and I felt like kind of ... cold. Rather than feeling sad or miserable, some sort of apathy overcame me and now I just deleted her number and really lost all desire to even give a fukk with these chicks and they words. Like... .:yeshrug: it is what it is. I'm not even gonna hit her up no more or ask for her. I know she gonna try and call me sooner or later talking but if she does I'm gonna tell her straight up to lose my number and stop talking to me because I can't be friends with a chick I was interested in. shyt that really fukks with me is when shyt like this happens I generally feel disinterested in talking to any other women in fear of getting into a situation like this. It's partly my fault because shorty was on my dikk heavy the past couple of years always hitting me up wanting to come over. I repeatedly didn't pursue her enough and I even had a point in time where I actively ignored her by not calling her or finding an excuse to get off the phone when she did call me.

I feel expressionless right now. :ld:
 

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:beli:

I'm throwing this chick to the bushes. So tonight I came home and I saw her in my house with my EX. My ex actually is staying at my house(on the 2nd floor sharing a bedroom with my Aunt) and shorty was there. Apparently she's sleeping over because her and my EX are going out of town with their Church tomorrow morning early. Anyway after I saw her I told her to come up to my room when she comes back because they were headed outside to go get something. When she came, she just stood in the room close to the door and then after a few minutes of small talk she says she's going to sleep. I tell her to sleep with me in my room and she like nah she can't that's not good. I ask why and she like "no it's too many people downstairs that will think stuff and plus I'm not your girlfriend." So I'm like ":youngsabo: Ight what if you become my girl?" on some sarcastic shyt and she like "nah and plus we can't go out anyway i already changed my mind and moved on."

I start walking out into the hallway lightly tugging her arm to come back because she's slowly walking towards the door to leave and I'm just telling her I'm just a little surprised at her being in my home this late so she should just give me a sec.

After of few minutes of me and her going back and forth saying the same old "Come on let's talk" and her replying "I gotta go to sleep" she just said she serious she don't want no man right now. She said " When we was supposed to go out the time passed so i moved on.." I asked her if she got someone already in line and she said no and that she rather stay single right now. It's funny because just a month ago she was chilling with me in my car and I was kissing her neck and feeling on her ass so she was into it but she was on her period so nothing went down. The situationss I spoke about earlier in this thread a few posts back happened between tonight and last month(29th of June on my bday).

I just told her :manny: and she was like ight and she said goodnight and then she went back downstairs. I'm not gonna lie when I said "Ight" my voice kind of cracked but I didn't cry or nothing. :to:


I went back in my room and lay awoke there for like 10 minutes in the dark and I felt like kind of ... cold. Rather than feeling sad or miserable, some sort of apathy overcame me and now I just deleted her number and really lost all desire to even give a fukk with these chicks and they words. Like... .:yeshrug: it is what it is. I'm not even gonna hit her up no more or ask for her. I know she gonna try and call me sooner or later talking but if she does I'm gonna tell her straight up to lose my number and stop talking to me because I can't be friends with a chick I was interested in. shyt that really fukks with me is when shyt like this happens I generally feel disinterested in talking to any other women in fear of getting into a situation like this. It's partly my fault because shorty was on my dikk heavy the past couple of years always hitting me up wanting to come over. I repeatedly didn't pursue her enough and I even had a point in time where I actively ignored her by not calling her or finding an excuse to get off the phone when she did call me.

I feel expressionless right now. :ld:
This is why nikkas should have options and a roster
 

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I dunno brehs. I feel a certain way. It's not a I wanna get back with her, I want to get back at her. She says she stopped feeling for me last summer. Why didn't she just end it there? Also her mother died. Death is deep thing. I remember when she found out. I was right there when she cried out. I dragged my father to the funeral. I was there helping her all the way through. I guess my question is:

That didn't mean shyt to her? I remember when she didn't have money for her cable bill and have no food. I came through with DVDs and food and I cooked. Then the next day I paid the bill. Those gestures don't mean shyt? I also helped her with her taxes. She said she wanna figure things out on her own. If she would have done her own taxes, she would have owed $600. I took her to my friend, and she got back $900. She don't see how I've helped?


I was her first bf. Before that guys who would fukk her and discard like used gum wrapper. Then me the nice guys comes along, do all this and then she runs back to the life she once had. Why are females like that? Why do they complain about it but then run back to their lifestyle
 

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You are finding out exactly what we're talking about first-hand. Dudes be thinking we're joking or 'bitter' when we point that out, but you are experiencing what we're talking about.

Women don't appreciate what you 'do' for them. You could have been with them in their darkest hour when everyone else abandoned them and they'll still leave you. She could have been extremely obese and you were the one who sat back and gave her the chance, helped her lose weight, and she'll reward you by using her newfound looks to get with another dude.

The only thing most women care for is her 'feelings', especially in a day and age where they are told to 'follow their feelings' and to 'discover themselves' all over television and these books. More times than not, a new, 'mysterious' dude will give her feelings that you cant since familiarity diminishes feelings. Any time a woman talks about needing to discover herself or needing to take a break or some such nonsense, 8 times out of 10 she's bored and is ready for another dude if she hasn't already been dealing with him. Think about the story of Adam and Eve. Eve had access to EVERY tree except the one she was told not to eat, and yet that's the one she went for.

Honestly man, don't waste time 'getting revenge' on her. Focus that energy on improving your life. That will be the best revenge when she sees you doing better than ever. That also brings up another point. You can't save them. If a broad has a history of returning to screwed up situations, she is addicted to the drama. They'll keep the nice and stable guy around as a 'rest haven', aka a guy they can use for resources and emotional rejuvenation until they can eventually go RIGHT back to their messed up situation...

This is why I tell negroes to stop falling for that 'i can't find a decent man' rhetoric broads start to kick when they hit 30. This so called-nice dude doesn't become their type. They're essentially saying I need a provider to pay my bills and to give me emotional recuperation before I eventually go back to my bad boys.
 

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I dunno brehs. I feel a certain way. It's not a I wanna get back with her, I want to get back at her. She says she stopped feeling for me last summer. Why didn't she just end it there? Also her mother died. Death is deep thing. I remember when she found out. I was right there when she cried out. I dragged my father to the funeral. I was there helping her all the way through. I guess my question is:

That didn't mean shyt to her? I remember when she didn't have money for her cable bill and have no food. I came through with DVDs and food and I cooked. Then the next day I paid the bill. Those gestures don't mean shyt? I also helped her with her taxes. She said she wanna figure things out on her own. If she would have done her own taxes, she would have owed $600. I took her to my friend, and she got back $900. She don't see how I've helped?


I was her first bf. Before that guys who would fukk her and discard like used gum wrapper. Then me the nice guys comes along, do all this and then she runs back to the life she once had. Why are females like that? Why do they complain about it but then run back to their lifestyle
:what: jesus you sound like an emotional ass female in this post nikka, typed out some ole "she dont appreciate me :sadbron:" soundin shyt, then you had to nerve to say "i want to get back at her :birdman:" soundin like a woman scorned :smhcraig:

you're an adult, get over it and move the fukk on :camby: billions of bytches walkin around in you in here cryin over ONE


just remembered why i dont visit this thread that often anymore :mjlol: if a bytch aint tryna be with you, then aint gon happen, no amount of "good gestures" are gonna get her for you, thinking otherwise is delusional and childish :heh:
 

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Very deep sir. Especially the Adam and Eve part. Shows the carelessness in these women. Also with the advent of modern social media women feel they don't have give up their vain and shallow ways because they are getting likes on Instagram. This applies to us men to. I remember back before all this social media crap, people were forced to grow up. It wasn't about I got all the jordans. It wasn't about ooh look at my pics y'all, my life is soo great because I post pic of every meal and drink I have. See? Look! I'm at the different club or event every weekend! Aren't I cool?

People were more impressed if you had a job. If you had your own place. If you got promoted at your job. That you graduated. That you made something of yourself.

Today we value the whole "do me" selfish as rude attitude. It's promoted to be about yourself and be selfish. It's a terrible terrible age if you believe in the traditions that your parents or grand parents lived through where you find someone you believe you can give a part of yourself for and build something. These whores don't want to build anything. They just want to live and be wild and free. I'm honestly thinking I won't be able to give my father grand kids. Because I've tried over and over and it's more of the same, you're nice but I wanna chase this lifestyle of fun and pretend ima be young forever
 

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:what: jesus you sound like an emotional ass female in this post nikka, typed out some ole "she dont appreciate me :sadbron:" soundin shyt, then you had to nerve to say "i want to get back at her :birdman:" soundin like a woman scorned :smhcraig:

you're an adult, get over it and move the fukk on :camby: billions of bytches walkin around in you in here cryin over ONE


just remembered why i dont visit this thread that often anymore :mjlol: if a bytch aint tryna be with you, then aint gon happen, no amount of "good gestures" are gonna get her for you, thinking otherwise is delusional and childish :heh:


You know it's fun to be on the outside looking in and laughing at someone else's pain and such. Maybe you have discovered that these women ain't shyt at an earlier age and I'm just learning.


Plus emotions don't make you less of a man. That's the problem with the world today.
 

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Very deep sir. Especially the Adam and Eve part. Shows the carelessness in these women. Also with the advent of modern social media women feel they don't have give up their vain and shallow ways because they are getting likes on Instagram. This applies to us men to. I remember back before all this social media crap, people were forced to grow up. It wasn't about I got all the jordans. It wasn't about ooh look at my pics y'all, my life is soo great because I post pic of every meal and drink I have. See? Look! I'm at the different club or event every weekend! Aren't I cool?

People were more impressed if you had a job. If you had your own place. If you got promoted at your job. That you graduated. That you made something of yourself.

Today we value the whole "do me" selfish as rude attitude. It's promoted to be about yourself and be selfish. It's a terrible terrible age if you believe in the traditions that your parents or grand parents lived through where you find someone you believe you can give a part of yourself for and build something. These whores don't want to build anything. They just want to live and be wild and free. I'm honestly thinking I won't be able to give my father grand kids. Because I've tried over and over and it's more of the same, you're nice but I wanna chase this lifestyle of fun and pretend ima be young forever

That's pretty much the crux of the matter. Women keep saying they can't find a decent dude to marry because all black men are gay, in prison or aren't making enough money, but for some odd reason we're not having a population crisis. Some how, some way these women are ending up pregnant still. So what does that tell you? Either they are lying about not behing able to find 'decent dudes', or they are allowing low-lifes and losers to impregnate them.

You ever notice how it is always at the age of 30 that these women want to find this decent dude to settle down with, which is the age where their fertility starts to decline, their looks start to fade, and they probably already have 2 or 3 kids?

Here's a secret man. The more you give a woman what she says she wants, the less happy she gets. I mean we've given women their so-called equal rights and more freedom and they are actually LESS happy.

When it comes to human decency, don't ever let some broad rob you of yours. Just be very skeptical of your dealings with them... and this is exactly why you never toss your real homies to the side over some broad. There's a lot of dudes that toss their potnas aside once they got them a lil woman, and as soon as that woman does them wrong, they try to come back. Real talk, it's difficult to raise a family... which is why you may have to end up leaving this country to find a more suitable culture. This culture is poisonous towards family-rearing.
 

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Yea I'm start traveling a lot more. Hitting up London later this year. I wanna see Europe and Rome and see some historical sights. Explore this planet some more. Also you were right about talking about more ways of us being better human beings. It's not all about the women. We gotta better ourselves and then better things in life will open up to us
 

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I dunno brehs. I feel a certain way. It's not a I wanna get back with her, I want to get back at her. She says she stopped feeling for me last summer. Why didn't she just end it there? Also her mother died. Death is deep thing. I remember when she found out. I was right there when she cried out. I dragged my father to the funeral. I was there helping her all the way through. I guess my question is:

That didn't mean shyt to her? I remember when she didn't have money for her cable bill and have no food. I came through with DVDs and food and I cooked. Then the next day I paid the bill. Those gestures don't mean shyt? I also helped her with her taxes. She said she wanna figure things out on her own. If she would have done her own taxes, she would have owed $600. I took her to my friend, and she got back $900. She don't see how I've helped?


I was her first bf. Before that guys who would fukk her and discard like used gum wrapper. Then me the nice guys comes along, do all this and then she runs back to the life she once had. Why are females like that? Why do they complain about it but then run back to their lifestyle

You have to ask yourself why you did all that. If it was to gain favor then it was the wrong thing. If you were doing it because you cared then it doesn't devalue the gesture regardless of how the relationship ended up.

I would kill referring to yourself as a nice guy as well.
 

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I dunno brehs. I feel a certain way. It's not a I wanna get back with her, I want to get back at her. She says she stopped feeling for me last summer. Why didn't she just end it there? Also her mother died. Death is deep thing. I remember when she found out. I was right there when she cried out. I dragged my father to the funeral. I was there helping her all the way through. I guess my question is:

That didn't mean shyt to her? I remember when she didn't have money for her cable bill and have no food. I came through with DVDs and food and I cooked. Then the next day I paid the bill. Those gestures don't mean shyt? I also helped her with her taxes. She said she wanna figure things out on her own. If she would have done her own taxes, she would have owed $600. I took her to my friend, and she got back $900. She don't see how I've helped?


I was her first bf. Before that guys who would fukk her and discard like used gum wrapper. Then me the nice guys comes along, do all this and then she runs back to the life she once had. Why are females like that? Why do they complain about it but then run back to their lifestyle
breh...

she needed you at the time cause she didn't want to be alone so she stayed. right now she doesn't need you as much (either things are more in order for her or she found a "better" option) so now she needs to figure out life for herself. i know it's hard to hear but you just need to charge it to the game. never do something for someone else expecting gratitude. never expect future gratitude or loyalty. just do it if you feel like doing it.

let her discover life on her own. let her compare how it is without you. to tell you the truth, it's not like in the movies. she might turn out ok and live happily ever after. or she might crash and burn. either way, she made a choice and you might feel like she used you but it's in the past now. don't worry about her anymore. don't be her "friend". just cut her off.
 

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I dunno brehs. I feel a certain way. It's not a I wanna get back with her, I want to get back at her. She says she stopped feeling for me last summer. Why didn't she just end it there? Also her mother died. Death is deep thing. I remember when she found out. I was right there when she cried out. I dragged my father to the funeral. I was there helping her all the way through. I guess my question is:

That didn't mean shyt to her? I remember when she didn't have money for her cable bill and have no food. I came through with DVDs and food and I cooked. Thn the next day I paid the bill. Those gestures don't mean shyt? I also helped her with her taxes. She said she wanna figure things out on her own. If she would have done her own taxes, she would have owed $600. I took her to my friend, and she got back $900. She don't see how I've helped?


I was her first bf. Before that guys who would fukk her and discard like used gum wrapper. Then me the nice guys comes along, do all this and then she runs back to the life she once had. Why are females like that? Why do they complain about it but then run back to their lifestyle
we've all been through this with a girl breh. Some low level some high level. The best advice is to just cut her off.

block her number if necessary
 
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we've all been through this with a girl breh. Some low level some high level. The best advice is to just cut her off.

block her number if necessary

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like i said before, cut her off for 3 months no phone calls, text, checking facebook, instagram etc. and you will be amazed how far you've come.

RIght now i know you sitting in your room all sappy and ish, thinking what she's doing none stop, its like giving up a drug you were on for years, gotta go cold turkey cut it off in the end you will be :blessed:

3 months is the KEY
 

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I dunno brehs. I feel a certain way. It's not a I wanna get back with her, I want to get back at her. She says she stopped feeling for me last summer. Why didn't she just end it there? Also her mother died. Death is deep thing. I remember when she found out. I was right there when she cried out. I dragged my father to the funeral. I was there helping her all the way through. I guess my question is:

That didn't mean shyt to her? I remember when she didn't have money for her cable bill and have no food. I came through with DVDs and food and I cooked. Then the next day I paid the bill. Those gestures don't mean shyt? I also helped her with her taxes. She said she wanna figure things out on her own. If she would have done her own taxes, she would have owed $600. I took her to my friend, and she got back $900. She don't see how I've helped?


I was her first bf. Before that guys who would fukk her and discard like used gum wrapper. Then me the nice guys comes along, do all this and then she runs back to the life she once had. Why are females like that? Why do they complain about it but then run back to their lifestyle


how many times have I said on here that women emotionally detach?

they never just wake up and feel different and end it with you, its a week, months, sometimes years process where they slowly detach little by little, talk to their moms, talk to their friends and then when they finally drop the hammer on you is when they are ready to fully walk away and not come back.

As a man if you are not wise to the game or its your first time you are like :mindblown:, its why wome who end relationships rarely ever ever come back, the plan was in motion for so long.


And nope it doesn't mean anything to her, it doesn't matter what you do for a woman, breh in my life i've literally saved a broad from homelessness twice, a abusive home, a abusive boyfriend, from being evicted, from suicide attempts and never even got a friggin thanks. THe quicker you realize this the better off you will be, I learned quite early to not be that "fixer upper" , that patented white knight who finds a old abandoned car rusting and rotting, and spends months, years fixing it up only for the old owner to swoop in and say hey thanks.

Just take a life lesson in this stop throwing your pearls before swine, you did all this ish for a broad and where is she now? prob chatting and laughing and telling a new nukka she never felt this way before and that dude hasn't done 0.00000000000000001% that you have done.

Like i said cut her off dont even look back, dont even feel sympathy if you hear that she's going to be evicted or her appendix burst, or life's hard for you, stay focused on you, travel NEVER LOOK BACK,, DONT CHECK HER SOCIAL MEDIA, you will think of her non stop for awhile then it will fade and you'll be thankful you got out when you did.
 
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