Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[EA]

This is gonna sound like a @yo moms post but it's serious.

My girl of 5 years just broke up with me, I got terrible student loan debt problems, my mental health is bad, I'm 136lbs at 6'2," and I may have to go live with my grandma in the near future cuz Sallie Mae is trying to bankrupt me.

Can I seriously get a girl in my state of affairs? When I was 165lbs I'd say I was an 8 (no brag). Now with these health problems and being 136lbs, I dunno what I'm at now. A 6 maybe?

How the fukk am I gonna get a girl with so much going against me? Suggestions brehs?

I've been out of the dating game for so long, I dunno even where to start. Also, I can't drink cuz of meds I'm on. So bars and clubs are kinda out of the question I guess

I wouldn't even think about dating right now if I were you. Coming out of a long term relationship like that is gonna require some alone time so you can adjust and gather a sense of self. Whilst you're doing that, focus on your health and getting your finances in order because getting with another girl is just gonna add unnecessary stress to your life.

 

[Ciggavelli]

Describes me to a tee....

Fam get ya shyt together 1st bruh...you got some real issues

I still want that companionship. I'm 31. I running out of time. Maybe there's a girl out there that will like me for me

Who am I kidding? I'm fukked.

I won't be out of my financial situation for at least 10 years, my mental problems are lifelong and my physical health I dunno. The docs don't know what is wrong with me or why I lost 30 lbs in a year. I could be dying. Who the fukk knows.

I don't wanna be alone for a decade and be 40 and stuck with some fat ugly bytch that is infertile cuz she's too old.

I need to find somebody in the next few years. I dunno if that's possible though....

 

[The ADD]

This is gonna sound like a @yo moms post but it's serious.

My girl of 5 years just broke up with me, I got terrible student loan debt problems, my mental health is bad, I'm 136lbs at 6'2," and I may have to go live with my grandma in the near future cuz Sallie Mae is trying to bankrupt me.

Can I seriously get a girl in my state of affairs? When I was 165lbs I'd say I was an 8 (no brag). Now with these health problems and being 136lbs, I dunno what I'm at now. A 6 maybe?

How the fukk am I gonna get a girl with so much going against me? Suggestions brehs?

I've been out of the dating game for so long, I dunno even where to start. Also, I can't drink cuz of meds I'm on. So bars and clubs are kinda out of the question I guess

Sounds like getting a chick is the least of your problems.

Man focus on coming out of the break up, your health and getting your finances back in order.

Put the shoe on the other foot. Would you deal with a chick with the same issues.....?

 

[Youseenmywork]

This is gonna sound like a @yo moms post but it's serious.

My girl of 5 years just broke up with me, I got terrible student loan debt problems, my mental health is bad, I'm 136lbs at 6'2," and I may have to go live with my grandma in the near future cuz Sallie Mae is trying to bankrupt me.

Can I seriously get a girl in my state of affairs? When I was 165lbs I'd say I was an 8 (no brag). Now with these health problems and being 136lbs, I dunno what I'm at now. A 6 maybe?

How the fukk am I gonna get a girl with so much going against me? Suggestions brehs?

I've been out of the dating game for so long, I dunno even where to start. Also, I can't drink cuz of meds I'm on. So bars and clubs are kinda out of the question I guess

Take time out to sort out your life forget women . Your health mentally and physically are way more important. Lets also not forget spiritually if you subscribe to any religion. You were with a women for 5 yrs its going to take some time to get her out of your system. Most people make the mistake of hopping back in a relationship to show up the last girl they was with. There is no need to do that. Get out and enjoy life and find other things in life to enjoy besides women if women is all you enjoy in life ...YOU HAVE NO LIFE!!. Also delete all contact info fron you ex. Here is the challenge DO NOT talk to her at all for 60 days(some other guys in this thread would say forever im no against that either) No social media ...no nothing. Fill the new void in your life with self improvement of yourself . Do not go get a girl just to rebound with cause yes thats pathetic. Take that new wierd energy in your life right now and go be productive ...lift weights ...talk noise on xbox...go see a movie ..etc. And as always GOD speed

 

[360dagod]

I still want that companionship. I'm 31. I running out of time. Maybe there's a girl out there that will like me for me

Who am I kidding? I'm fukked.

I won't be out of my financial situation for at least 10 years, my mental problems are lifelong and my physical health I dunno. The docs don't know what is wrong with me or why I lost 30 lbs in a year. I could be dying. Who the fukk knows.

I don't wanna be alone for a decade and be 40 and stuck with some fat ugly bytch that is infertile cuz she's too old.

I need to find somebody in the next few years. I dunno if that's possible though....

nikka....Take 1 day at a time....

Your a 31 year old male,,,what exactly are you running out of time for?

Jeter is almost 40 and he has no kids...

And as far as your financial situation, what does that have to do with a broad?

build yourself up slowly...

Fam...you don't need any female near you right now..

your all fukked up

 

[Turbulent]

This is gonna sound like a @yo moms post but it's serious.

My girl of 5 years just broke up with me, I got terrible student loan debt problems, my mental health is bad, I'm 136lbs at 6'2," and I may have to go live with my grandma in the near future cuz Sallie Mae is trying to bankrupt me.

Can I seriously get a girl in my state of affairs? When I was 165lbs I'd say I was an 8 (no brag). Now with these health problems and being 136lbs, I dunno what I'm at now. A 6 maybe?

How the fukk am I gonna get a girl with so much going against me? Suggestions brehs?

I've been out of the dating game for so long, I dunno even where to start. Also, I can't drink cuz of meds I'm on. So bars and clubs are kinda out of the question I guess

Take care of yourself first before getting a girl. why would you want the responsibility of taking care of a girl at this point when you're not doing ok right now?

focus on your health first, then money. do what you need to do to get out of debt. if moving in with your grandma is your best option, then move in with your grandma. If that's the best thing you can do at this point, don't be ashamed of it either. it is what it is. make sure it's becomes a momentary setback and not a permanent one. When you move in with your grandmother, make sure you're doing stuff to help her out (money wise, helping around the house, etc). don't just take. contribute as well. make a plan on how to get out of debt with actions you will take and a timeframe. respect the plan. with everything i named, you'll be too busy to actively look for a girl and that's ok. if a girl finds you and chooses you, cool. if not, keep the focus on yourself for now. your health and your money. the better you get, the more girls will choose. I know it's easy to say but you need to stop dwelling so much on the past, your girl, what's not going right, etc. You don't always choose what thoughts pop in your mind but you do choose what you focus on and what you dwell on. choose other thoughts. choose to work towards happiness instead of wallowing in sadness. I don't know what your health issues are exactly but eat more, exercise more. sleep enough. decide on measurable goals in all aspects on your life and work towards them. the fact that you will choose the goals and take actions will instill power in you regarding your life.
If you believe in God, pray to have the strength to follow through on these actions towards your goals. If you don't believe in God, just focus on the fact that the past is the past, no one can change it so no need to dwell on it but you have control over your present choice. focus on that power.


Keep your head up breh, good luck.

 

[Ciggavelli]

nikka....Take 1 day at a time....

Your a 31 year old male,,,what exactly are you running out of time for?

Jeter is almost 40 and he has no kids...

And as far as your financial situation, what does that have to do with a broad?

build yourself up slowly...

Fam...you don't need any female near you right now..

your all fukked up

You're probably right. I'm all fukked up right now. I'm not thinking straight.

 

[Ciggavelli]

Take care of yourself first before getting a girl. why would you want the responsibility of taking care of a girl at this point when you're not doing ok right now?

focus on your health first, then money. do what you need to do to get out of debt. if moving in with your grandma is your best option, then move in with your grandma. If that's the best thing you can do at this point, don't be ashamed of it either. it is what it is. make sure it's becomes a momentary setback and not a permanent one. When you move in with your grandmother, make sure you're doing stuff to help her out (money wise, helping around the house, etc). don't just take. contribute as well. make a plan on how to get out of debt with actions you will take and a timeframe. respect the plan. with everything i named, you'll be too busy to actively look for a girl and that's ok. if a girl finds you and chooses you, cool. if not, keep the focus on yourself for now. your health and your money. the better you get, the more girls will choose. I know it's easy to say but you need to stop dwelling so much on the past, your girl, what's not going right, etc. You don't always choose what thoughts pop in your mind but you do choose what you focus on and what you dwell on. choose other thoughts. choose to work towards happiness instead of wallowing in sadness. I don't know what your health issues are exactly but eat more, exercise more. sleep enough. decide on measurable goals in all aspects on your life and work towards them. the fact that you will choose the goals and take actions will instill power in you regarding your life.
If you believe in God, pray to have the strength to follow through on these actions towards your goals. If you don't believe in God, just focus on the fact that the past is the past, no one can change it so no need to dwell on it but you have control over your present choice. focus on that power.


Keep your head up breh, good luck.

Good advice. Thanks breh

 

[Ciggavelli]

My ex is still texting me. It's good advice to delete her from my phone. I don't need that in my life. I'm just gonna focus in on me.

Thanks brehs

 

[Youseenmywork]

Good advice. Thanks breh

This needs to be said as well DONT go to the club looking please dont . You dont wanna be like the older..older men there tryin to holla at everything...you remember Jerome from martin ...yeah dont be that guy .

 

[360dagod]

My ex is still texting me. It's good advice to delete her from my phone. I don't need that in my life. I'm just gonna focus in on me.

Thanks brehs

delete and block

 

[Ciggavelli]

This needs to be said as well DONT go to the club looking please dont . You dont wanna be like the older..older men there tryin to holla at everything...you remember Jerome from martin ...yeah dont be that guy .

Oh, I know about that. I don't even drink, so luckily there won't be any temptation there.

 

[MikelArteta]

My girl of 5 years just broke up with me, I got terrible student loan debt problems, my mental health is bad, I'm 136lbs at 6'2," and I may have to go live with my grandma in the near future cuz Sallie Mae is trying to bankrupt me.

5 years is a long time, the best steps to take at this moment is delete her number, don't contact her talk to her, you'll think about her every day, what she is doing she will be on your mind constantly but every day you stay away it'll get easier and easier and soon it won't hurt anymore and she'll just be a memory.

It's tough being in debt, all you have to do is don't get yourself in more debt, if living wiht your grandma will help relieve your debt situation then do it, who cares what others says, dont mean to be harsh but in life only a few people will truly care about you, everyone else can , in terms of your weight thats tied to the stress, if you can afford it start buying ensure plus or walmarts brand and drinking two a day, you'll be back to your weight in no time

Can I seriously get a girl in my state of affairs? When I was 165lbs I'd say I was an 8 (no brag). Now with these health problems and being 136lbs, I dunno what I'm at now. A 6 maybe?

why would you even want a girl at this point?: number 1 you just got out of a 5 year relationship, hoping back in the dating game shoul dbe the last thing on your mind, breh single women are not going anywhere, when you get back on your feet there will be millions and millions of single women out there for you there is no rush.

ow the fukk am I gonna get a girl with so much going against me? Suggestions brehs?

again why do you need a girl?: a girl should not make you happy it should add to your happiness already, i know after a breakup you think your going to be alone for ever etc. but trust me you won't.

I've been out of the dating game for so long, I dunno even where to start. Also, I can't drink cuz of meds I'm on. So bars and clubs are kinda out of the question I guess

I've posted above, i dont go to bars or clubs, i don't drink, I dont even mess with online dating etc., when your ready things will happen.


Trust me life has a way of working out, ive been in debt, ive had a ulcer and constant palpitations, and i was heart broken at the time and skinny as a twig, not to mention people it hought who were my closest friends basically in my face, and i clawed my way out of it

if i can you can breh

 

[MikelArteta]

My ex is still texting me. It's good advice to delete her from my phone. I don't need that in my life. I'm just gonna focus in on me.

Thanks brehs

the longer you talk to your ex, the longer it will take for you to recover.

 

[MikelArteta]

I still want that companionship. I'm 31. I running out of time. Maybe there's a girl out there that will like me for me

Who am I kidding? I'm fukked.

I won't be out of my financial situation for at least 10 years, my mental problems are lifelong and my physical health I dunno. The docs don't know what is wrong with me or why I lost 30 lbs in a year. I could be dying. Who the fukk knows.

I don't wanna be alone for a decade and be 40 and stuck with some fat ugly bytch that is infertile cuz she's too old.

I need to find somebody in the next few years. I dunno if that's possible though....

sounds like you struggling with co dependency, lol at running out of time your 31 breh 31.


You're physical health is probably tied to your mental problems, work on those and you'll be set on solid ground.

Breh you just got out of a 5 year relationship, lol you won't be "alone" for ever, look there are some guys out there in their 30s, 40s who are still virgins, who have never had a relationship, and you had a 5 year relationship snap out of it breh