Split the dinner bill, ask out the guy/set up the date and restaurantIf I really like and am attracted to the guy I usually wait to build an emotional connection first. What do you mean by split or take initiative?
Some guys are fine with that
But personally, if I still have to pay the bill, set up the restaurant.... and it's been multiple dates with no sex... then how am I not being used?

It's easy to "build an emotional connection" when some dude is depending money and you're not. And if the connection isn't there? You just got at least 3 free dinner dates. You gained from the transaction, while I'm losing money being strung along. Plus, some chicks do this while fukking other dudes on the side on some "we're not official" time

Im not accusing you of doing this and hey if that'd what you want then do what you want, (because some dudes don't mind) but I ain't gonna play that game personally