The reason men have trouble dating in 2017 is because they don't know their lane

[Swirv]

A lot of what people call "chemistry" is really just physical attraction. If she's physically attracted to you, then all you have to do is not say something stupid or disrespectful and the "chemistry" will be there. If she's not attracted to you, she'll either mentally block you from connecting with her, or put you in a "friend" type vibe.

Nah it's more than that. The way you two interact, level of comfort, playfulness, flirtiness, the feeling you get being together etc. it's more than physical.

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

Whatever expectations you have in the opposite sex- MAKE SURE YOU HAVE THEM YOURSELF. You want them to have a degree- make sure you have yours. You want your partner to have a job or make great money- make sure you do the same. Have a nice body- Make sure you're in the gym.

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Ok...

I just came back from the public pool. Of course men, women & kids are there. Do you know how many grown women were there? Probably like 60...Do you know how many of them had a nice body? Like...3. Plus the ones that did seemed like they was in their early 20s...It's a lot of women out there looking nice & tight it but it damn sure ain't the majority. The question is do you as a man have those endearing qualities these chicks gravitate to? Maybe if I moved to Atl or Mia the ratio would have been better lol

breh, u got a whiff of those cottage cheese thighs and saggin spaced out t*ts hanging low like watermelons

 

[Larry Lambo]

Nah it's more than that. The way you two interact, level of comfort, playfulness, flirtiness, the feeling you get being together etc. it's more than physical.

You're talking about real chemistry.

When these chicks say "There was no chemistry", they aren't allowing that to even come into place because of a lack of attraction.

 

[TheGreatMTB]

"men don't know their lane"

That lack of confidence is gonna screw you over. Women don't have a sense of "let me stay in my lane" when they reject dudes while expecting a dude with the money and social standing of Michael B Jordan to swoop in to save them.

There are no assigned lanes in the game. Women always have exceptions to what they want.

"He has to be this tall...unless he has money"
"He can't be younger than me, he has to be at least 5 years older...except they were swooning over Diggy and Chris Brown when they were barely 18"

You feel me? Just because you're staying in your lane and being yourself doesn't mean you can't convince someone to merge into yours. If you like a certain type of chick "average looking, nice personality" that's great. Go for that type. But if you're just settling because you don't think you can get something better you gotta work on your confidence.

 

[daboywonder2002]

We all want to be the fly guy, the handsome guy, the Mack, the baller, the comedian but in reality were not and can't. We all can't be ghost from power.

Men need to find their lane and stop trying to be the HNIC boss type. Women aren't stupid and can see through it. Plus by now I'm sure they have to be tired of the fronting. I know I am. When I meet a bro that's clearly fronting I just want to Pat him on shoulder and say it ok breh, just be you.

U need to embrace being yourself. it's 2017 we don't have to front anymore. It's no longer necessary.Nothing is wrong with being you.

Men need to stop chasing women that they're not suppose to have. Everything is about energy. If you're a good dude why the fukk are u chasing a bytch that want to be on the scene? She have selfish energy and will meet her selfish spouse.

You gotta get with the female equivalent of you and stop being delusional.

Like if you're a fat nikka. This isn't to insult you but I'm using it as an example. Get with a fat chick that actually appreciate you. Stop embarrassing yourself on IG leaving comments on these chicks profiles . "Oh baby I wanna drink your bath water" That ho reading that shyt laughing. Have some dignity and atleast curse her out if u wanna say anything.

I digress. Yeah man we all gotta find our lane. Like me I know what I want. I just have to work on myself to get her. I have negative energy but I want somebody positive and upbeat. somebody to nurture me and tuck me in at night. Kiss me on the forehead and tell me that I'm doing a good job.

Men need to find their lane. Stop chasing hoes. Y'all ignore all the other women that would actually make good wives.

Black people in particular don't have room to play around. We need to get off this unicorn shyt. All of us have flaws. You'll have some delusional black woman talking about "he gotta make over 75k and be over 6ft tall. " Shut up bytch and just take that guy down the street that works hard and want to be a husband and father.

Black people like to go against the grain. Instead of living traditional boring lives we want to live these fantasy lifestyles that only exist in our heads.

Their is a reason why our grand parents would get married to someone from the neighborhood. We destroy our foundation in our youth by bucking against the rules and grow old and alone for trying to do our own thing.

Enclosing: reality is the key to our salvation and mixed in with a little idealism. We all cant keep living these fantasy lifestyles because it stops progress and ultimately destroying the community. It might seem innocent but in actuality it's genocide. It's that dark when u peel back all the layers and visualize the ending

Uh that's your mom's job.

 

[Deus]

Do you not see the irony in creating this thread. The one person on the coli that needs to stay in his lane who has no girlfriend/wife commenting about men dating and needing to stay in his lane.

We'd still be under Jim crow if we stayed in our lane.

 

[seabreeze80]

Everything isn't about looks or money. A woman can be unattractive, overweight, and can have all the qualities you dislike in a woman yet she will still reject you if she doesn't like your personality or there is no chemistry.

 

[AngryBaby]

I actually have been told i'd do better in dating if I raised my standards lol

I'm actually seen as the "good looking" guy, and I'm also in the fitness industry, work at a popular bar at night. but I never date girls who are like that, i tend to date girls who are more shy/nerdy type, and it ends horribly lmao.

recently had a brazillian model chick come into my place of work, (my fitness job), but then go on about how I should go into modeling and she gave me her agency contact in the city, and then I thought to myself "man she was fine as shyt....can I like....get that?" lol

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

I find women are more delusional when its comes to lanes..nothing wrong with a little ambition

word... got these big ugly women talking bout they know they cute, trying to hit up morris chesnut looking nikkas and shyt

men don't have a problem knowing where they stand... they have a problem pretending to be in another lane, long enough to get some p*ssy, before revealing their true selves

 

[AtomicUse]

Brehs gonna be down to hit regardless, so where's their motivation?

ATL and MIA got a higher % of women that look good, but how many are chasing ballers? You can still eat, tho. Slim cute women with understated bodies do not get a lot of attention in those places, so if you have your stuff together you will have "options"

The options thing is double sided. There's the attention side and the thirst side. Men know women will do anything to get some attention and women know men will sleep with just about anything too out of thirst, but I think as a society, in part due to social media, we've finally reached a point where women know that a mans propensity to sleep with anything greatly outweighs the amount of effort they need to expend to get attention. Which is why it kills me when guys in this forum act like women over 30 or single mothers are no good. They don't have to be attractive, young, paid, or even a good person, some man will commit to her, cuff her, and sleep with her, and odds are he'll probably be a decent looking well paid man because the women on his level are all sharing the upper echelon guy.

After thinking about it "finding your lane" may not be a woman that is similar to you, but a woman that values your strengths.

A 5'7" corporate breh making $100K in Charlotte may not be highly valued by a similar chick, but would be highly valued by a call center chick making $30K in Augusta, GA.

Sometimes you have go out of your circle, to meet people that don't take what you have going for yourself for granted. I learned that in college when I was smashing fine ass local chicks, but had to settle for average when it came to my schoolmates. Fine local chicks were impressed by me, fine college brauds weren't.

A 5'7 guy is getting overlooked regardless of where he is unless the woman is desperate or knows he's got stacks and will trick off. I rarely ever see short dudes with good looking women. But if they do have one, the guy is GQ'd from head to toe, in top shape, top of his game/field, funny/witty/popular, everything, and I've still had their women chase me and when I ask about thier man they tell me "yeah i'm with him and hes nice but he's just too short" Them little nikkas can conquer the world but can't overcome that challenge.
If you're short, like under 5'8, then you really have no lane, you need to take what you can get, come to grips with the fact you're going to share that from time to time, and get out of the game.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

The options thing is double sided. There's the attention side and the thirst side. Men know women will do anything to get some attention and women know men will sleep with just about anything too out of thirst, but I think as a society, in part due to social media, we've finally reached a point where women know that a mans propensity to sleep with anything greatly outweighs the amount of effort they need to expend to get attention. Which is why it kills me when guys in this forum act like women over 30 or single mothers are no good. They don't have to be attractive, young, paid, or even a good person, some man will commit to her, cuff her, and sleep with her, and odds are he'll probably be a decent looking well paid man because the women on his level are all sharing the upper echelon guy.

A 5'7 guy is getting overlooked regardless of where he is unless the woman is desperate or knows he's got stacks and will trick off. I rarely ever see short dudes with good looking women. But if they do have one, the guy is GQ'd from head to toe, in top shape, top of his game/field, funny/witty/popular, everything, and I've still had their women chase me and when I ask about thier man they tell me "yeah i'm with him and hes nice but he's just too short" Them little nikkas can conquer the world but can't overcome that challenge.
If you're short, like under 5'8, then you really have no lane, you need to take what you can get, come to grips with the fact you're going to share that from time to time, and get out of the game.

Short nikkas is fine

I only see this thinking on the internet

 

[-DMP-]

this aint ya speed young mayne, stay in ya lane, so I can come through doing a hunned and change

 

[BigMan]

The options thing is double sided. There's the attention side and the thirst side. Men know women will do anything to get some attention and women know men will sleep with just about anything too out of thirst, but I think as a society, in part due to social media, we've finally reached a point where women know that a mans propensity to sleep with anything greatly outweighs the amount of effort they need to expend to get attention. Which is why it kills me when guys in this forum act like women over 30 or single mothers are no good. They don't have to be attractive, young, paid, or even a good person, some man will commit to her, cuff her, and sleep with her, and odds are he'll probably be a decent looking well paid man because the women on his level are all sharing the upper echelon guy.

A 5'7 guy is getting overlooked regardless of where he is unless the woman is desperate or knows he's got stacks and will trick off. I rarely ever see short dudes with good looking women. But if they do have one, the guy is GQ'd from head to toe, in top shape, top of his game/field, funny/witty/popular, everything, and I've still had their women chase me and when I ask about thier man they tell me "yeah i'm with him and hes nice but he's just too short" Them little nikkas can conquer the world but can't overcome that challenge.
If you're short, like under 5'8, then you really have no lane, you need to take what you can get, come to grips with the fact you're going to share that from time to time, and get out of the game.

You right

Also relates to my ipiniont that a large amount of men get into relationships just to have steady sex

 

[Larry Lambo]

The options thing is double sided. There's the attention side and the thirst side. Men know women will do anything to get some attention and women know men will sleep with just about anything too out of thirst, but I think as a society, in part due to social media, we've finally reached a point where women know that a mans propensity to sleep with anything greatly outweighs the amount of effort they need to expend to get attention. Which is why it kills me when guys in this forum act like women over 30 or single mothers are no good. They don't have to be attractive, young, paid, or even a good person, some man will commit to her, cuff her, and sleep with her, and odds are he'll probably be a decent looking well paid man because the women on his level are all sharing the upper echelon guy.

A 5'7 guy is getting overlooked regardless of where he is unless the woman is desperate or knows he's got stacks and will trick off. I rarely ever see short dudes with good looking women. But if they do have one, the guy is GQ'd from head to toe, in top shape, top of his game/field, funny/witty/popular, everything, and I've still had their women chase me and when I ask about thier man they tell me "yeah i'm with him and hes nice but he's just too short" Them little nikkas can conquer the world but can't overcome that challenge.
If you're short, like under 5'8, then you really have no lane, you need to take what you can get, come to grips with the fact you're going to share that from time to time, and get out of the game.

Short brehs can do fine, but typically it's on some social circle type deal or they are high status cats.

It's back to "knowing your lane". Can a 5'5" dude come in the club and pull the baddest thot? Probably not.

Can he be a truly interesting person and pull a 8-9 chick from church/work/school? I seen it many times.

Some dudes have the juice and can bag in any situation, while others have appealing characteristics that are highlighted on a situational basis.

And maybe that short dude can go to a small town, and pull up to the club in a S-class and bag the bad one, even though if he tried that in the A, he'd get shut down.

Just depends on the situation.

 

[AtomicUse]

Short nikkas is fine

I only see this thinking on the internet

Where do you live? Major cities people can afford to be more superficial

Short brehs can do fine, but typically it's on some social circle type deal or they are high status cats.

It's back to "knowing your lane". Can a 5'5" dude come in the club and pull the baddest thot? Probably not.

Can he be a truly interesting person and pull a 8-9 chick from church/work/school? I seen it many times.

Some dudes have the juice and can bag in any situation, while others have appealing characteristics that are highlighted on a situational basis.

And maybe that short dude can go to a small town, and pull up to the club in a S-class and bag the bad one, even though if he tried that in the A, he'd get shut down.

Just depends on the situation.

I think it was
@bdizzle said he thought he was doing something when he went clubbing in the A, got shut down in the club, and when he left the club empty handed, he saw 3 breh's pull out in two rarris and a lambo with the same girls he tried to bag. It was too small for me but Atlanta is a special location, a lot of fine black women, but the black men that aren't gay got it on lock, height be damned. competition is next level.