The reason men have trouble dating in 2017 is because they don't know their lane

[Larry Lambo]

Men definitely stay in their lane more as compared to women. Hence why they're always complaining about dudes not being on their level and about how they're single and can't find a husband. They're hypergamous by nature. Most nikkas deal with any chick that likes them and take what they can get.

True, but the same cats are more likely to step out. It's much easier to "settle" when you don't have intentions on being loyal anyways.

 

[Scott Larock]

We all want to be the fly guy, the handsome guy, the Mack, the baller, the comedian but in reality were not and can't. We all can't be ghost from power.

Men need to find their lane and stop trying to be the HNIC boss type. Women aren't stupid and can see through it. Plus by now I'm sure they have to be tired of the fronting. I know I am. When I meet a bro that's clearly fronting I just want to Pat him on shoulder and say it ok breh, just be you.

U need to embrace being yourself. it's 2017 we don't have to front anymore. It's no longer necessary.Nothing is wrong with being you.

Men need to stop chasing women that they're not suppose to have. Everything is about energy. If you're a good dude why the fukk are u chasing a bytch that want to be on the scene? She have selfish energy and will meet her selfish spouse.

You gotta get with the female equivalent of you and stop being delusional.

Like if you're a fat nikka. This isn't to insult you but I'm using it as an example. Get with a fat chick that actually appreciate you. Stop embarrassing yourself on IG leaving comments on these chicks profiles . "Oh baby I wanna drink your bath water" That ho reading that shyt laughing. Have some dignity and atleast curse her out if u wanna say anything.

I digress. Yeah man we all gotta find our lane. Like me I know what I want. I just have to work on myself to get her. I have negative energy but I want somebody positive and upbeat. somebody to nurture me and tuck me in at night. Kiss me on the forehead and tell me that I'm doing a good job.

Men need to find their lane. Stop chasing hoes. Y'all ignore all the other women that would actually make good wives.

Black people in particular don't have room to play around. We need to get off this unicorn shyt. All of us have flaws. You'll have some delusional black woman talking about "he gotta make over 75k and be over 6ft tall. " Shut up bytch and just take that guy down the street that works hard and want to be a husband and father.

Black people like to go against the grain. Instead of living traditional boring lives we want to live these fantasy lifestyles that only exist in our heads.

Their is a reason why our grand parents would get married to someone from the neighborhood. We destroy our foundation in our youth by bucking against the rules and grow old and alone for trying to do our own thing.

Enclosing: reality is the key to our salvation and mixed in with a little idealism. We all cant keep living these fantasy lifestyles because it stops progress and ultimately destroying the community. It might seem innocent but in actuality it's genocide. It's that dark when u peel back all the layers and visualize the ending

real talk but women tend to jump out of lane more than men do especially black women.

but yes overall you're right, no reason to be single for years if you're a black man, you just messing with girls who don't want you like that.

gotta adapt and get real, get someone real and call it a day, if you old, you ain't getting no young dime unless you tricking on her.

but don't settle for nothing you don't want either.

You in buffalo though to be real, you should have a women, ain't shyt to do up ther which is actually better since the women tend to be more conservative and less demanding.

Like a pretty bytch living in alabama or something, she shooting herself in the foot staying, she needs to hit LA to get a rich dude.

and a broke nikka shouldn't be in la like that if you struggle that bad consider relocating. go where you're wanted, live according to your income.

 

[DjBhaled]

At least you honest tho. It's a lotta frustrated mofos w/o an ounce of self-reflection wondering why they can't find anybody but refuse to look at how they move themselves.

I prefer to stay in my own label vs what other people want me to have relationships don't bring me the same level of satisfaction as it used too

 

[SirReginald]

We ain't friends.

I open with people I need to be and want to be open with.

You were just calling me a dumbass and think I'm suppose to open up to you. You sleep.

Anything going forward, ignored.

 

[Lo-Co]

At least you honest tho. It's a lotta frustrated mofos w/o an ounce of self-reflection wondering why they can't find anybody but refuse to look at how they move themselves.

Honestly I back then I was on some shallow shyt. I felt like I could do better than the women that wanted me. The only thing i thought was missing was becoming more attractive. But I was too lazy to make changes to myself and wanted to stay in the same spot.

 

[re'up]

I think a lot of you miss what I believe are statistically backed truths about income rates/socioeconomic status and relationships, mostly people stay in their group, that's what accounts for all the girls in the lower income neighborhoods with lower income partners. Part of that explains generational poverty, and it's oppressive cousin of the other 19/1%, who tend to date, marry, and procreate in their same socioeconomic status. Now, to a degree, based on income levels, which is based on years of male dominated society, males tend to make more, which means on average, they tend to date, marry, procreate below slightly below their income range.

So, most people are already "staying in their lane" so to speak, which isn't always a great thing for anyone in terms of experiences and diversity. I look at it like when I was in high school there were three girls I loved, and at that time they were all I knew in terms of what I was attracted too. Now, 10 years plus later, I know there are many other kinds of women in terms of everything, from looks, to culture, to personality. Don't limit yourself.

 

[GPBear]

I thought this fukking website was for hip-hop and shyt.
Why is the only thing y'all ever talk about is women vs men, black vs white shyt?

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

Most of y'all done have abs, height, biceps, charisma, ass, bank or titties that stand...be nice to each other

 

[Mr. Jack Napier]

You cats still listening to this Drx cat

 

[Larry Lambo]

I think a lot of you miss what I believe are statistically backed truths about income rates/socioeconomic status and relationships, mostly people stay in their group, that's what accounts for all the girls in the lower income neighborhoods with lower income partners. Part of that explains generational poverty, and it's oppressive cousin of the other 19/1%, who tend to date, marry, and procreate in their same socioeconomic status. Now, to a degree, based on income levels, which is based on years of male dominated society, males tend to make more, which means on average, they tend to date, marry, procreate below slightly below their income range.

So, most people are already "staying in their lane" so to speak, which isn't always a great thing for anyone in terms of experiences and diversity. I look at it like when I was in high school there were three girls I loved, and at that time they were all I knew in terms of what I was attracted too. Now, 10 years plus later, I know there are many other kinds of women in terms of everything, from looks, to culture, to personality. Don't limit yourself.

If staying in your lane means dating someone similar to you, then you're right, it isn't always a great thing.

I've always dated women with different backgrounds than me and being "different" was part of my appeal. Unless your personality/style/swag is in a niche, it's hard to stand out to someone similar to you, as the woman probably has many male associates of the same ilk. It's when you're different than everybody she associates with, that you can stand out, and intrigue her by just being yourself.

That's why you see dudes go so extra to be interesting, is because they are spitting at chicks that don't find them that interesting at the core. Face it, chicks that are like you may not find you interesting. One of my former co-workers is dating a musician, even tho she's a typical professional type braud. That's what intrigued her. Sometimes, it's a different cultural background. It can be anything. Point is, seeing people like yourself as "your lane" is very limiting.

 

[BigMan]

DrX is right


Accept your lane

The only way to level up is to up the gains or buy them chains seen

 

[Pitfalls0117]

I live in LA and a nikka making 40-70 k (WITH NO KIDS) will eat out here..I guess on the coli every nikka getting money but I don't know a gang of nikkas making 40-70k y'all make it seem like that's average and from what I seen its a little bit above average..most nikkas work service jobs that don't make that much let's be honest with ourself coli

It actually might be the case that a lot of coli posters ARE making 40k+, because if you're posting on this joint all day you're either unemployed or a student, or working an office job

What you said is 100% correct though, if you're a young single person with no children making 40k+ you can live well and save some money, even if you're living in an expensive city

 

[Carlton Banks]

First Dr. X thread I don't dislike in a while

 

[Cynic]

Yeah but you can get a woman with as much to lose as you

Instead of a trophy

because women risk paying alimony.child support and losing children to men ?

 

[Swirv]

Women say that, but a lot of the time when the opportunity arises, they find other reason not to deal with a guy. "Oh, I just wasn't feeling him", "Oh, the chemistry wasn't there".

That's why I don't even front about what I want because there are some good women that I will turn down. I want a woman that I'm physically attracted to that I click with on a personality level as well. Being "good" is not enough for me.

It's true just being good isn't enough. You have to have chemistry