What's your breaking point in a relationship/marriage?

[Poitier]

In addition to obvious deal breakers like infidelity and abuse...

-someone who doesn't have a passion to travel and experience new things. Basically someone who just wants to sit in their little town for the rest of their lives

- may sound petty but....Weight gain. I obviously would keep myself in shape or else I wouldn't ask it of my spouse. I really don't like fatness; to me it symbolizes laziness and/or lack of self control

I feel this. In addition to bad communication skills, my ex let herself go and wanted to work just to get a house at 30...no passion for anything else. I could forgive weight gain tbh but not when coupled with other BS.

 

[wickedsm]

I'm trying to think of what would be a deal breaker now, this far into my marriage...
Honestly it would really depend.
Outside baby? For that he gotta go.

 

[OfTheCross]

Obviously, yea, but I'm guessing you've never been cheated on. That shyt will ruin you, breh.

Correct. Never have.

And undoubtedly that must have hurt you badly. Especially when you don't expect it or it results in public shame.

In my case, I always expect it because I know I'm capable of it.

If I'm publicly embarrassed I'm more likely to end the relationship. Otherwise I don't see it as a big deal.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Correct. Never have.

And undoubtedly that must have hurt you badly. Especially when you don't expect it or it results in public shame.

In my case, I always expect it because I know I'm capable of it.

If I'm publicly embarrassed I'm more likely to end the relationship. Otherwise I don't see it as a big deal.

Eh, you might think you're prepared for it... but you're never really ready. I hope you don't have to experience that shyt, breh.

 

[Luck]

Honestly it's whenever I get sick of her. I already made that abundantly clear that I'm not going to be coming home to a place where I'm not comfortable at. It is what it is and the same applies for her

There's too many other people out here for both parties and life is short, I'm not about to stay in a bad situation just because when there's no real logical reason to

Which is why people need to keep themselves up regardless of relationship status. I'm cool where I'm at but I'm always ready to hit the market

 

[twan83]

Being selfish and not helpful
If I'm doing so much for u and I don't ask for much in return and u can't do some simple as shyt it tells me a lot about u
Should work together and help each other out sure there are gonna be times or where a person does more work but if help is needed help out I truly can't stand that at all it

 

[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

As someone who has been there, the only way out is to have that hard conversation... "Get with it or get out of the way." And then be prepared to follow through with your decision. I loved my girl dearly, but after waiting almost 5 years for her to put some effort into owning property, I just went and got my house on my own.

Yall wasn't married?

 

[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

Its ok darling, after you leave him, come holla at a playa with a bright savings account & we can buy this house on the hills together

 

[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

I'm trying to think of what would be a deal breaker now, this far into my marriage...
Honestly it would really depend.
Outside baby? For that he gotta go.

Amen to that

 

[The Nigerian]

If a woman raises my BP or causes me to raise my voice regularly she's status.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Yall wasn't married?

 

[Poitier]

Being selfish and not helpful
If I'm doing so much for u and I don't ask for much in return and u can't do some simple as shyt it tells me a lot about u
Should work together and help each other out sure there are gonna be times or where a person does more work but if help is needed help out I truly can't stand that at all it

I'm having flashbacks and its making me angry lol

When you feel like you are putting in more than the other person, let it go. Love can blind you but once you get over it you realize most of the time that type of person wasn't worth it

 

[twan83]

I'm having flashbacks and its making me angry lol

When you feel like you are putting in more than the other person, let it go. Love can blind you but once you get over it you realize most of the time that type of person wasn't worth it

shyt me and u both having them I was having them while writing this like and and cuz of relationships I've had this more than cheating has been the reason why I left or broke up with them

It's demoralizing too know u do and invest so much cuz it's naturally how u treat people u do a lot and all u ask is little in return and u can't even get that shyt hurts like hell

I see and understand the cheating part but everybody says they leave till they are in the situation especially if kids are involved that shyt is case by case basis not condoning it either but some people truly do forgive for that and they work it out or some say and u shall go
But yea cheating hurts a breh make u change as a person sometimes or ur outlook on the opposite sex also

 

[skeetsinternal]

lack of usable p*ssy. I say this if a chic p*ssy is always out of service either being medicated, mother nature or unable to take dikk without bleeding. Thats shyt be annoying.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Idk anymore. I thought it was black and white.