Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Lately it seems like I'm attracting women that I have no interest in. These women aren't ugly but they have too many red flags or character flaws for me to even consider dating them.

i feel like these kind of people will always be there, you might just be noticing more.

it looks like you wont have any trouble, but a lot of men and women cave in these situations
 

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The less you care the more attention you get, the more loyal they will be become if you act like they are disposable. Which they are. If you act like, "At anytime I can replace you" they will find ways to become irreplaceable. Never argue with a woman. If she wants to talk about something, you make it on your terms. Don't entertain the bullshyt or the crying. Your time is always more important than hers. But make sure if she has put in the time to make her feel special only on certain holidays and her birthday. Always tell her the truth. If you don't love her, tell her. If you are cheating on her, tell her. Be upfront about it. Never shy or cower from speaking on what you are doing. "Why are you so quiet?" "I just don't feel like talking to you right now". And end that with, it's not personal, I'll tell you why later.

Oh and if you really want to know how to deal with a woman....get a cat.
i agree with this philosophy. I only caution for people not to get cocky with it, A lot of people will apply this but as a "tactic" rather than a mindset. they start seeing results and let their ego take over. It becomes a big power trip. they seek to hurt the other person with their truth and then claim "I'm just keeping it real :yeshrug:" but it's not real cause it's not genuine. So they're still lying in their "keeping it real".

a chick's way to gain control over you is to submit to you. to give herself to you. She tries her hardest to convince you you own her. Seems counter-intuitive but peep game. Once you think you own her you can lose her. You can't lose something you don't own. And she controls what she gives you and can drop you at anytime. So again, once you think you own her, who really is in control?

Don't fall for the trick. She's selling you a dream of ownership over her p*ssy and soul. If she figures out you want it, she'll give you the feeling of ownership and then take it away and have you chasing. you can't want as long as you don't need. It's like a paradox, she will only give you power over her if you don't need it. Let her be free and she will want to be under your wing. try to restrict her too much and she will want to fly away.
 

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Never put somebody that you are dating on a pedestal. If you do, they will look down on you from that point forward.
 

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Brehs I'm trying to wait til marriage but resisting these demonic urges is hard :noah:

Being in college and seeing all these fine sistas and latinas with these perfect asses and cute faces it's hard not to holla :noah:. Even some of these white girls out here are.. :noah:

Sometimes I catch myself making faces all like :shaq::demonic: but then I have to stop myself like :whoa::to:

@His_Excellence_Reincar I know you aren't a virgin but I hear you're celibate so how are you staying clean after that my breh?

I know the idea that waiting sounds hard for some of you but I'm doing this for religious/spiritual reasons. If you don't believe in that that's your choice but try to be understanding of where I'm coming from
 

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Brehs I'm trying to wait til marriage but resisting these demonic urges is hard :noah:

Being in college and seeing all these fine sistas and latinas with these perfect asses and cute faces it's hard not to holla :noah:. Even some of these white girls out here are.. :noah:

Sometimes I catch myself making faces all like :shaq::demonic: but then I have to stop myself like :whoa::to:

@His_Excellence_Reincar I know you aren't a virgin but I hear you're celibate so how are you staying clean after that my breh?

I know the idea that waiting sounds hard for some of you but I'm doing this for religious/spiritual reasons. If you don't believe in that that's your choice but try to be understanding of where I'm coming from

its hard breh, temptation abounds , especially considering the majority of women today have no morals and will just give up easily. Because I've already been there its hard for me, as like a addict i can relapse easily. The key imo is stay away from whorish women, there are still a segment of righteous women out there who are practising celibacy themselves. One thing I've known is that don't giv eup what you believe in for a quick nut, and be careful, what ive learned since I took this path is many women are uncomfortable with it even to getting upset.
 

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Cute 4'11 chick was flirting heavy............:takedat:

Wish i could bag her but im got so much shyt going on in my life to deal with any women.....................
:wow:

So i just try to avoid her at work for now on.....................
:whew:
 

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the words you use with your woman are very important. One thing i'd like to clarify when i speak of "checking your girl" when she's acting foul. I don't mean telling her what to do/not do. Matter of fact, you should never tell your chick "you're not allowed to _______." never directly try to restrain a chick from doing something. Respect her freedom at all times.

If you love your woman and want to keep her because of the love and support she provides, you must provide structure and consistency. how do you reconcile those two concepts (structure and freedom)?. By never telling her directly "you're not allowed to do this." but at the same time she should always know what to expect if she disrespects. She should be aware of the possibility that she may get thrown in the bushes if she doesn't respect your boundaries. Throwing her in the bushes for not respecting your boundaries is not disrespectful. Telling her she is not allowed to do XYZ is disrespectful. As long as she knows where you stand and as long as you are consistent with the consequences she is expecting, you should be ok. You should only give her orders if she hands over the control to you willingly. Only then should you allow or forbid her of doing stuff. the minute you feel resistance you need to fall back and let her step out of your cypher. We don't hold prisoners.

If you truly love your woman, have the decency to make it clear to her what is disrespect and what are the consequences for it without telling her what she is not allowed to do. All that allowing/forbidding shyt is all ego when you think about it. Check yourself and your language when you speak to your woman because if she loves you and submits to you, it will contribute to setting the guidlines on how she will lead her life as long as she is with you. Re-read the last sentence and realize how heavy this responsibility is. Again, if you love your woman, don't take this lightly. Your word is your bond. She's submitting to you because she believes it's in her best interest. If you want to build something solid with her, do not abuse the power but do not be scared of it either. You must use it when necessary or give it back...
 
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Brehs I'm trying to wait til marriage but resisting these demonic urges is hard :noah:

Being in college and seeing all these fine sistas and latinas with these perfect asses and cute faces it's hard not to holla :noah:. Even some of these white girls out here are.. :noah:

Sometimes I catch myself making faces all like :shaq::demonic: but then I have to stop myself like :whoa::to:

@His_Excellence_Reincar I know you aren't a virgin but I hear you're celibate so how are you staying clean after that my breh?

I know the idea that waiting sounds hard for some of you but I'm doing this for religious/spiritual reasons. If you don't believe in that that's your choice but try to be understanding of where I'm coming from

Reincar told you right. Think about the long-term and not the short-term. All those women look great, but are they great for you? Most likely not. All you will do is potentially impregnate one of them or catch an std or merely have a memory. The worst thing you can do is give your future to a woman who is not fit for it.
 

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Gotta stop thinking so hard with these women.9 times out of 10 they know what they are doing.If a woman doesnt respect you she doesnt Like your or in some cases love you.Beware of the cupcake season women,they will be obedient during Nov-March but once warm weather in April comes around they will ditch.

most women like to test you to see what they can get away with. its part them being out on a pedestal for most of their lives/part gut check on their man. they feel like, if they can walk over you, then anyone else can too. it just is what it is - and you have to not be surprised when a women does that, no matter where she comes from or what kind of background she has. I think its hardwired in them to see if who theyre with will put up with bullshyt or not
 
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