Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[karim]

haven't visited this thread to talk to a minute but,

i was dating this girl for a couple months then she broke it off with me cause 'it wasn't there anymore' and suggested to be friends. i learned enough to know that i wasn't going to be just friends with her but i would still go talk to her in school and shyt and linger until she was like 'okay i have things to do', that was last semester. and i also tried to ask her go out again and she said no. during this time i also met this other girl and was dating her.

fast forward to this semester, when I would run into her I would just say hey or w/e really quick and keep it moving, this time I did NOT linger, I had places to go. as a result from this she would text first, vying to get my attention I guess. one time I walked by her and she said something like wow you're talking fast. just shyt like this. so the other day I was talking to this other girl in the hallway and I know for a fact she saw me. she texted me like 30 minutes later asking some random shyt again.

point is, I'm gonna ask if she wants to go out, like ice skating or some shyt. and if she says no then i'm not even going to talk to her again. don't be talking to me and texting me shyt if you don't want to hang out with me (i will tell her this but not that rude since she is a genuine nice girl). does this sound like a good route to yall that I'm gonna take.

don't do it. She's wondering why she doesn't command your attention anymore. As soon as she does she will put you back in the friendzone. If anything wait until she throws herself at you and then treat her like jumpoff.

 

[DaRealness]

haven't visited this thread to talk to a minute but,

i was dating this girl for a couple months then she broke it off with me cause 'it wasn't there anymore' and suggested to be friends. i learned enough to know that i wasn't going to be just friends with her but i would still go talk to her in school and shyt and linger until she was like 'okay i have things to do', that was last semester. and i also tried to ask her go out again and she said no. during this time i also met this other girl and was dating her.

fast forward to this semester, when I would run into her I would just say hey or w/e really quick and keep it moving, this time I did NOT linger, I had places to go. as a result from this she would text first, vying to get my attention I guess. one time I walked by her and she said something like wow you're talking fast. just shyt like this. so the other day I was talking to this other girl in the hallway and I know for a fact she saw me. she texted me like 30 minutes later asking some random shyt again.

point is, I'm gonna ask if she wants to go out, like ice skating or some shyt. and if she says no then i'm not even going to talk to her again. don't be talking to me and texting me shyt if you don't want to hang out with me (i will tell her this but not that rude since she is a genuine nice girl). does this sound like a good route to yall that I'm gonna take.

She's playing silly games so personally I wouldn't even bother with her at all.

 

[Atlrocafella]

So what's the verdict on females with too many close male "BFF's"

 

[Rocket Scientist]

@ Turbelent can you get more into,women beng able to read vibes.I heard this or lets says they call it their "women's intuition".I jokingly use to say women can smell fear like a shark smells blood.Ths is why I say if a woman knows a man's pattern she has him figured out.This is how they get away with the stuff they do.

 

[twan83]

So what's the verdict on females with too many close male "BFF's"

they gonna wanna beat ur ass
gonna cock block and say shyt too fukk things up with u and oh girl

if she bout u she won't really talk too them anymore or drastically keep talks too a minimum

i honestly prefer not too date those cuz my mind is IM TRULY SHARING THAT GIRL cuz I've been that bff and they wanted too smash while they in a relationship

 

[George Gooney]

Brehs I'm trying to wait til marriage but resisting these demonic urges is hard

Being in college and seeing all these fine sistas and latinas with these perfect asses and cute faces it's hard not to holla . Even some of these white girls out here are..

Sometimes I catch myself making faces all like but then I have to stop myself like

@His_Excellence_Reincar I know you aren't a virgin but I hear you're celibate so how are you staying clean after that my breh?

Spoiler

I know the idea that waiting sounds hard for some of you but I'm doing this for religious/spiritual reasons. If you don't believe in that that's your choice but try to be understanding of where I'm coming from

It's funny you bring this up. I've been celibate for the past 3-4 years. I no longer see the point. Especially seeing as my number count isn't that high to begin with(single digits). It's always baffled chicks minds because I'm legit a handsome attractive dude. I'm tired of dating women and it ends badly and I have nothing to show for it. Then she finds a new dude who is smashing that box out the frame. I got a bunch of new prospects that been trynna get at your boy so I'm going in. fukk it God forgives.

 

[twan83]

It's funny you bring this up. I've been celibate for the past 3-4 years. I no longer see the point. Especially seeing as my number count isn't that high to begin with(single digits). It's always baffled chicks minds because I'm legit a handsome attractive dude. I'm tired of dating women and it ends badly and I have nothing to show for it. Then she finds a new dude who is smashing that box out the frame. I got a bunch of new prospects that been trynna get at your boy so I'm going in. fukk it God forgives.

i was like fukk if I'm single and having fun i gives no fukk just get it out my system so when I'm ready too be serious with a female them urges or temptations won't be nearly as bad too where i would fukk up and do something stupid

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

hard to say but one thing i know. Anything that deals with customer service, it kinda comes with the territory. Only thing you can control is your own actions. One questions though. Outside of your job, are you happy? The reason i ask is that you may be giving off a bad vibe. People like to have power over you. If they see you being miserable, people will react differently. Some will view it as an opportunity to bully someone who's already down. Some will look at you with disdain and try to finish with you as fast as possible. Some will use passive aggressiveness to see if they can get you even more miserable, etc. This is people in general but you may notice it even more in women because they are used to reading and communicating in "vibes". Women are taught all their lives to get approbation, to be a lady, etc. They are brought up to deal in the "indirect" and perceptions. That's why they are very sensitive to vibes.And yeah, some of them are @ssholes.

The solution is to figure out a way to be happy and to not give them the power to affect that happiness. As i always say, it's something you can't fake. And it has to be for you, not just so they can stop being bytches. Happiness is a choice. Be happy at your job and outside of it. Plan your happiness strategically. Don't leave it up to chance. Don't let it depend on if you get a cool customer or not. See there is no way to make sure you don't get any jerks at your station. All you can do is control the vibe you give off. This will in turn reduce the odds of people trying to mess with your mindstate. Don't focus on the bytch, her mother, the weak father, your boss, etc. Chances are they are passive aggressive with you because they are cowards and because they see it affects you. Makes them feel powerful.

yeah honestly its tough but if you can frame your attitude to not depend on interactions with customers affecting your happiness at work, you'll be better for it

i'm not saying tap dance for jerks, but maybe give em a good hard look in the eye and smile. i'm not saying there wont be a$$holes (cause there always will be) but most people feel some type of shame when a person continues to interact positively in the face of disrespect


and at the worst, you let em know it aint affect you one bit

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

haven't visited this thread to talk to a minute but,

i was dating this girl for a couple months then she broke it off with me cause 'it wasn't there anymore' and suggested to be friends. i learned enough to know that i wasn't going to be just friends with her but i would still go talk to her in school and shyt and linger until she was like 'okay i have things to do', that was last semester. and i also tried to ask her go out again and she said no. during this time i also met this other girl and was dating her.

fast forward to this semester, when I would run into her I would just say hey or w/e really quick and keep it moving, this time I did NOT linger, I had places to go. as a result from this she would text first, vying to get my attention I guess. one time I walked by her and she said something like wow you're talking fast. just shyt like this. so the other day I was talking to this other girl in the hallway and I know for a fact she saw me. she texted me like 30 minutes later asking some random shyt again.

point is, I'm gonna ask if she wants to go out, like ice skating or some shyt. and if she says no then i'm not even going to talk to her again. don't be talking to me and texting me shyt if you don't want to hang out with me (i will tell her this but not that rude since she is a genuine nice girl). does this sound like a good route to yall that I'm gonna take.

this has happened to me as well as friends of mine, i think they are really just attention seeking or they miss something about you but once they get it back they'll be the same way again


do what you got to, but if there are more positive interesting females in your life go that route instead brother, but i also like the idea of just asking her whats shes bout texting you all the time. if the answer is unsatisfactory

 

[Turbulent]

@ Turbelent can you get more into,women beng able to read vibes.I heard this or lets says they call it their "women's intuition".I jokingly use to say women can smell fear like a shark smells blood.Ths is why I say if a woman knows a man's pattern she has him figured out.This is how they get away with the stuff they do.

my theory is that women are not taught to be direct with eachother. they are taught to politic early, be indirect, fart quietly, be friends with everyone, be graceful, tactful, etc (of course these are generalities). So the way they express violence towards others is often passive agressive or just snarky towards one another. it's deep within the culture. So they have to learn at a young age to detect when someone is going at them. this is why we often hear our girls interpret shyt that seems irrelevant to us to be the end of the world to them especially when they complain about their female friends.

 

[George Gooney]

i was like fukk if I'm single and having fun i gives no fukk just get it out my system so when I'm ready too be serious with a female them urges or temptations won't be nearly as bad too where i would fukk up and do something stupid

Breh I feel you. I'm about to go in! This "roster" I've accumulated is crazy! I never in my wildest dreams imagined I had it in me. I gotta live my life breh. I don't know when is the next time I'll have a lineup so strong. I usually treat every girl I talk to like I'm trynna build a relationship with them. I think that's where a lot of brehs go wrong. For the first time in my life I'm glad that I'm single. It's a beautiful feeling not having to worry about another person's emotions and not having to walk on egg shells for one ungrateful ass chick. I'MA F**K THE SH*T OUT OF THESE BEAUTIFUL CLASSY SISTERS I'M TALKING TO AND NOT FEEL ONE BIT BAD ABOUT IT.

 

[twan83]

Breh I feel you. I'm about to go in! This "roster" I've accumulated is crazy! I never in my wildest dreams imagined I had it in me. I gotta live my life breh. I don't know when is the next time I'll have a lineup so strong. I usually treat every girl I talk to like I'm trynna build a relationship with them. I think that's where a lot of brehs go wrong. For the first time in my life I'm glad that I'm single. It's a beautiful feeling not having to worry about another person's emotions and not having to walk on egg shells for one ungrateful ass chick. I'MA F**K THE SH*T OUT OF THESE BEAUTIFUL CLASSY SISTERS I'M TALKING TO AND NOT FEEL ONE BIT BAD ABOUT IT.

i mean thats what i did the first thing i said is hey i aint your man u aint my girl u do u i do me so i dont wanna hear shyt bout u saw me or heard me with so and so with that shyt. if I'm feeling u enough i will spend more time with u and as it progresses then i'll make it exclusive until I'm just out here having fun enjoy myself and ur part of that fun

saying all that covers my bases so if she say any other shyt i be like go kick rocks i already told u whats up

 

[CASHAPP]

@ Turbelent can you get more into,women beng able to read vibes.I heard this or lets says they call it their "women's intuition".I jokingly use to say women can smell fear like a shark smells blood.Ths is why I say if a woman knows a man's pattern she has him figured out.This is how they get away with the stuff they do.

Scary thing is that is true...back to my situation.....lets say if your new at a Cashier job(im cool now but lets say a month ago when i was new and they don't teach you anything) if your struggling and lets say your register line is full......lets say there is another register open right next to you with only 2 people on it...the women will still go on your line because they get a thrill out of it...even if they sound/seem angry ....its strange as hell....just like you said like sharks they love it man

their day could be going bad so they try to go into a chaotic situation to get entertained subconsciously while feigning that they are "angry"

 

[T-K-G]

@ Turbelent can you get more into,women beng able to read vibes.I heard this or lets says they call it their "women's intuition".I jokingly use to say women can smell fear like a shark smells blood.Ths is why I say if a woman knows a man's pattern she has him figured out.This is how they get away with the stuff they do.

breh are you serious? there's no way you've been dealing with women at a somewhat consistent rate and you never picked that up . there's nothing to elaborate on when you just said exactly what it was, is this nikka turbulent supposed to have some secret science on the matter that nobody else caught on to yet ?

 

[Rocket Scientist]

my theory is that women are not taught to be direct with eachother. they are taught to politic early, be indirect, fart quietly, be friends with everyone, be graceful, tactful, etc (of course these are generalities). So the way they express violence towards others is often passive agressive or just snarky towards one another. it's deep within the culture. So they have to learn at a young age to detect when someone is going at them. this is why we often hear our girls interpret shyt that seems irrelevant to us to be the end of the world to them especially when they complain about their female friends.

you might have broken down the science of women.