the words you use with your woman are very important. One thing i'd like to clarify when i speak of "checking your girl" when she's acting foul. I don't mean telling her what to do/not do. Matter of fact, you should never tell your chick "you're not allowed to _______." never directly try to restrain a chick from doing something. Respect her freedom at all times.
If you love your woman and want to keep her because of the love and support she provides, you must provide structure and consistency. how do you reconcile those two concepts (structure and freedom)?. By never telling her directly "you're not allowed to do this." but at the same time she should always know what to expect if she disrespects. She should be aware of the possibility that she may get thrown in the bushes if she doesn't respect your boundaries. Throwing her in the bushes for not respecting your boundaries is not disrespectful. Telling her she is not allowed to do XYZ is disrespectful. As long as she knows where you stand and as long as you are consistent with the consequences she is expecting, you should be ok. You should only give her orders if she hands over the control to you willingly. Only then should you allow or forbid her of doing stuff. the minute you feel resistance you need to fall back and let her step out of your cypher. We don't hold prisoners.
If you truly love your woman, have the decency to make it clear to her what is disrespect and what are the consequences for it without telling her what she is not allowed to do. All that allowing/forbidding shyt is all ego when you think about it. Check yourself and your language when you speak to your woman because if she loves you and submits to you, it will contribute to setting the guidlines on how she will lead her life as long as she is with you. Re-read the last sentence and realize how heavy this responsibility is. Again, if you love your woman, don't take this lightly. Your word is your bond. She's submitting to you because she believes it's in her best interest. If you want to build something solid with her, do not abuse the power but do not be scared of it either. You must use it when necessary or give it back...