Life is so much more relaxing when you deal with women from the perspective of 'invitation-only' as compared to 'by any means necessary.' The former philosophy goes, "I'd love for you to be here, but if I'm not for you or you aren't adding to the peace in my life, then I wish you well in getting to where you need to be." The latter philosophy is along the lines of, "I need to have a woman in my life by any means necessary and I am willing to do anything to have her here, even if she adds drama to my life."