Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Life is so much more relaxing when you deal with women from the perspective of 'invitation-only' as compared to 'by any means necessary.' The former philosophy goes, "I'd love for you to be here, but if I'm not for you or you aren't adding to the peace in my life, then I wish you well in getting to where you need to be." The latter philosophy is along the lines of, "I need to have a woman in my life by any means necessary and I am willing to do anything to have her here, even if she adds drama to my life."
 

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When it comes down to it, i can't even really be mad at women. They are merely pawns in the much bigger society picture. They were reared in a society of white knights and feminism. They were raised in a society that never held them and still doesn't holds them accountable for their actions and pretty women received ceaseless praise from white knights and their dad. If men were raised in a similar fashion, we'd be the same way. Look at how men act in the Middle East. We're sort of a reverse Middle East. Women can punch and hit men and men are supposed to take it and if a man strikes back, the simp army rushes the guy. On the View, a group of women were laughing at a guy getting his member cut off and thrown in a garbage disposal. I can go on and on.

Now, imagine if you were reared up and every day your parents called you, "Little King", and everywhere you went, you had a hoard of women constantly giving you praise and justifying your wrong actions. You would start to develop a mindset that any and everything you do is alright and you would come to the conclusion that women are disposable since you would have your pick of them and they are all eagerly seeking your attention. The woman that would probably interest you would be the one that ISN'T paying you attention since she is the only one different for the rest. What would happen if you had 20 women all vying for your attention who praised and texted you everyday? You probably wouldn't pay them much attention. You'd hit them up at your leisure and exit their company at your leisure. instead, you'd be focused on wanting a 'challenge' in a woman. Under these circumstances, it's no surprise that women start to develop the attitude that they do.
 

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When it comes down to it, i can't even really be mad at women. They are merely pawns in the much bigger society picture. They were reared in a society of white knights and feminism. They were raised in a society that never held them and still doesn't holds them accountable for their actions and pretty women received ceaseless praise from white knights and their dad. If men were raised in a similar fashion, we'd be the same way. Look at how men act in the Middle East. We're sort of a reverse Middle East. Women can punch and hit men and men are supposed to take it and if a man strikes back, the simp army rushes the guy. On the View, a group of women were laughing at a guy getting his member cut off and thrown in a garbage disposal. I can go on and on.

Now, imagine if you were reared up and every day your parents called you, "Little King", and everywhere you went, you had a hoard of women constantly giving you praise and justifying your wrong actions. You would start to develop a mindset that any and everything you do is alright and you would come to the conclusion that women are disposable since you would have your pick of them and they are all eagerly seeking your attention. The woman that would probably interest you would be the one that ISN'T paying you attention since she is the only one different for the rest. What would happen if you had 20 women all vying for your attention who praised and texted you everyday? You probably wouldn't pay them much attention. You'd hit them up at your leisure and exit their company at your leisure. instead, you'd be focused on wanting a 'challenge' in a woman. Under these circumstances, it's no surprise that women start to develop the attitude that they do.

its fukked up bruh. I doubt the cycle will ever be broken. The way society and the media has fukked things up :damn:People can't think or be themselves no more. They all go with the flow or follow what others or society deems is cool/correct. Nowadays, everyone gotta have twitter/instagram and a whole host of other shyt. For what? :dahell:and they take that shyt serious too. You have broads talking about following/unfollowing people and how many likes they can get and shyt. And dudes gettin sensitive about people unfollowing or not following them back. Da fukk? :why:

I swear to gawd...i feel like i'm the last of a dying breed and i'll be damned if i change myself to suit others or society itself.:pacspit:
 

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its fukked up bruh. I doubt the cycle will ever be broken. The way society and the media has fukked things up :damn:People can't think or be themselves no more. They all go with the flow or follow what others or society deems is cool/correct. Nowadays, everyone gotta have twitter/instagram and a whole host of other shyt. For what? :dahell:and they take that shyt serious too. You have broads talking about following/unfollowing people and how many likes they can get and shyt. And dudes gettin sensitive about people unfollowing or not following them back. Da fukk? :why:

I swear to gawd...i feel like i'm the last of a dying breed and i'll be damned if i change myself to suit others or society itself.:pacspit:

Exactly. you have to have standards bigger than society and you have to know how to withdraw yourself from society so that you aren't stuck in the societal box that is drawn for you. If you really think about it, the information being fed and reinforced to females is sick and it's no wonder they act the way they do. If you look on the cover of these magazines like Cosmo or whatever, they have topics like "How to get whatever you want out of your man. 30 ways to get that wedding ring." They actually have a book out talking about how to train your man like a dog. Then, all through society, women are told to 'follow their feelings' and are constantly given praise no matter if they mess up. Their moms rear them up telling them to 'get a man with money and that will take care of you." They aren't told, be a woman of high standard, and find a high moraled man that you can build with.

You can't know what you aren't taught unless you discover it yourself, and it's so hard to find anything decent in this society because the negative is constantly being reaffirmed. You even have all of these relationship coaches who reaffirm everything a woman does and shifts the blame onto the man. "Yeah ladies, you can't find a man because they can't appreciate you and all the men out there are gay, in prison and just not right for you. You are indeed a princess. Buy my book for $9.99 and come to my seminar to learn to catch that rare man of your dreams." Money has really obfuscated the truth.

The biggest problem are these simps and male feminists who attack anyone who tries to give women a better perspective. These are guys who are weak in character who are like lapdogs of women thinking that their deference will be rewarded with female affection. A huge problem we as men have to face is that we have to deprogram so many of these women and give them knowledge just so they can get back to what they were by default in our parents and older generations.

The only way to do this is to not fall into the pattern of the world and to never compromise your standards... and to demand a woman that deals with you actually bring what a female should to the table.
 

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One thing we as men have to realize is that we've been programmed 'in this matrix' as well. We've had the social programming and conditioning so as to where we no longer really know how to really do what men do. One of the lies we were told is that women want a 50/50 man. Wrong answer. They want a man that is BETTER than them. They want a man they can look up to, and they want this man so bad that they are willing to flock around a few of these top notch men.

Something every one of you have to realize is that you will always get way further in a relationship with a woman if she deems you 'better' than her. Just about everything is contingent on that principle. If a woman likes you and feel you are above her, she will be sweet as sugar. On the other hand, when she feels equal to you or feels like she is overpowering you, she will start to act out and eventually discard you. You having to be better than her is what gives you the right to demand things of her in return. It's not easy being a man who always keeps his emotions under control and doesn't show weakness in front of his woman. That's why you can demand she cook and clean for you.

The minute you start coming weak and buying into 50/50 is the minute you will start having serious problems with women. it will start off cool at first, but she will always start to distance herself from you. Women want a man that they perceive as strong and who they cannot control or manipulate. This is why 'bad boys' get a lot of women. They have the physical strength and most of them don't bend to the mental manipulations of a woman. They aren't afraid to 'take control' either. Their leadership isn't particularly great, but they hit on those points enough to garner the attention of women.

This is why it is important to have strong standards and principles. If you don't have righteous principles you adhere to, you can be bent every direction by various manipulations. A woman can play with your mind all day. Your standards allow you to be bigger than a woman only if you choose not to sacrifice, aka sell your standards out.
 

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One thing we as men have to realize is that we've been programmed 'in this matrix' as well. We've had the social programming and conditioning so as to where we no longer really know how to really do what men do. One of the lies we were told is that women want a 50/50 man. Wrong answer. They want a man that is BETTER than them. They want a man they can look up to, and they want this man so bad that they are willing to flock around a few of these top notch men.

Something every one of you have to realize is that you will always get way further in a relationship with a woman if she deems you 'better' than her. Just about everything is contingent on that principle. If a woman likes you and feel you are above her, she will be sweet as sugar. On the other hand, when she feels equal to you or feels like she is overpowering you, she will start to act out and eventually discard you. You having to be better than her is what gives you the right to demand things of her in return. It's not easy being a man who always keeps his emotions under control and doesn't show weakness in front of his woman. That's why you can demand she cook and clean for you.

The minute you start coming weak and buying into 50/50 is the minute you will start having serious problems with women. it will start off cool at first, but she will always start to distance herself from you. Women want a man that they perceive as strong and who they cannot control or manipulate. This is why 'bad boys' get a lot of women. They have the physical strength and most of them don't bend to the mental manipulations of a woman. They aren't afraid to 'take control' either. Their leadership isn't particularly great, but they hit on those points enough to garner the attention of women.

This is why it is important to have strong standards and principles. If you don't have righteous principles you adhere to, you can be bent every direction by various manipulations. A woman can play with your mind all day. Your standards allow you to be bigger than a woman only if you choose not to sacrifice, aka sell your standards out.

:blessed:
 

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brehs... im a little sad. The honeymoon period is over with my new chick. I'm already planning an exit strategy

I've realized that I don't really feel like dealing with the emotions of a female, even though I like to have them in my life. I'm starting to really ponder a future without a wife and kids. The saddest part is that the new girl had so much potential.. and don't get me wrong, she's a great girl but not the one for me. Im starting to get worn out from finding out a chick's flaws months into the process. Even the finest girls with no visible red flags eventually make me lose interest. now i gotta deal with another heartbroken girl

:wow:


That's pretty much where I'm at since I've been single for 2 years. I'm not even sure I want to have kids anymore because of all the work it takes and the fact I'll probably end up tired of their mother after a certain amount of time. Having married women hit on me doesn't do much for my confidence in it anymore either.

I have a few women I see and half the time my phone is on silent because I really don't feel like dealing with them. I pretty much see them when I want and have never led any of them on. They all know I don't want a GF and still deal with me anyway all while they friend zone other guys that like them. Who knows maybe I'll meet a woman I truly want to be with and let her meet my family but for now I'm just kind of cold on relationships when I can get 95% of what most women offer without any commitment.
 

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brehs... im a little sad. The honeymoon period is over with my new chick. I'm already planning an exit strategy

I've realized that I don't really feel like dealing with the emotions of a female, even though I like to have them in my life. I'm starting to really ponder a future without a wife and kids. The saddest part is that the new girl had so much potential.. and don't get me wrong, she's a great girl but not the one for me. Im starting to get worn out from finding out a chick's flaws months into the process. Even the finest girls with no visible red flags eventually make me lose interest. now i gotta deal with another heartbroken girl

:wow:



Man I'm in the same boat kinda, after being a serious relationship for 5 years..... Every chick i meet now I just don't want to put up with, after the honeymoon stage starts to wear off. I go from:ohhh: to:patrice:

So I'm in this weird middle ground where I don't even want to waste my time and energy on getting to know each other, and getting close because I just don't think I'm ready to go through all the BS of dealing with most of these emotional needy chicks.... and even if they aren't I don't really want to add extra folks into my life that arent needed.


So when I go out, I don't even attempt to link up with chicks anymore... I'm not into hooking up for one nighters. (I will but its just not as enjoyable for me personally)


With all that said I do want to get ready to settle down, I guess I'm just lazy. I don't want to go through that whole mess getting to know a chick and adding that baggage.

:manny:
 
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See a chick will do whatever she thinks will work on you to get things in her favor. And that's normal. We all do it. What you need to do is set things up so that the only options she has that are in her advantage is to act right or fukk with someone else.

When it comes down to it, i can't even really be mad at women. They are merely pawns in the much bigger society picture. They were reared in a society of white knights and feminism. They were raised in a society that never held them and still doesn't holds them accountable for their actions and pretty women received ceaseless praise from white knights and their dad. If men were raised in a similar fashion, we'd be the same way. Look at how men act in the Middle East. We're sort of a reverse Middle East. Women can punch and hit men and men are supposed to take it and if a man strikes back, the simp army rushes the guy. On the View, a group of women were laughing at a guy getting his member cut off and thrown in a garbage disposal. I can go on and on.

Now, imagine if you were reared up and every day your parents called you, "Little King", and everywhere you went, you had a hoard of women constantly giving you praise and justifying your wrong actions. You would start to develop a mindset that any and everything you do is alright and you would come to the conclusion that women are disposable since you would have your pick of them and they are all eagerly seeking your attention. The woman that would probably interest you would be the one that ISN'T paying you attention since she is the only one different for the rest. What would happen if you had 20 women all vying for your attention who praised and texted you everyday? You probably wouldn't pay them much attention. You'd hit them up at your leisure and exit their company at your leisure. instead, you'd be focused on wanting a 'challenge' in a woman. Under these circumstances, it's no surprise that women start to develop the attitude that they do.

Both of these posts should be stapled to every nikkas door so they can read it before they leave the crib. Once i realized they don't think like us all the problems i once had stopped completely
 

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in the span of an hour, got hit with "why are you on ya period" "that's real cute" "you're being a bytch" "you're panties are in a bunch" via text. just kept that joe budden calm brehs, one word responses or none at all:smugdraper:.

these women put your manhood on the table the second their status quo isn't being embraced :heh:
 

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we need to learn how to calibrate the way we observe. Certain chick could be grinding their ass on your crotch and it doesn't mean anything. others could lightly touch your hand and you already know she wants the dikk. this depends on her values, upbringing, temperament, environment you interact with her, etc. so if you want to be able to read the signs more don't just look at her actions but learn to put those actions in the proper perspective. no need to obsess over this shyt but personally i'm more conservative in my judgements meaning i try to assume a chick is not feeling me until the proof is overwhelming.

in a nutshell, just because some chick who was feeling you flipped her hair while looking at you, doesn't mean when every chick flips their hair they are feeling you.
 

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in the span of an hour, got hit with "why are you on ya period" "that's real cute" "you're being a bytch" "you're panties are in a bunch" via text. just kept that joe budden calm brehs, one word responses or none at all:smugdraper:.

these women put your manhood on the table the second their status quo isn't being embraced :heh:
shaming tacticts. because you're not acting like she wants you to act, something must be wrong with you.
 

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So yesterday at work...

had a customer that i'd helped before ask for help again. long story short she's about 5'1 130-140 and that ass is :banderas:

she said she's going through a divorce. I said come find me when all that gets sorted out. She has an 11 yr old son that lives in New Mexico with his pops. she mentioned how she was in school and shyt, i'd guess she's no older than maybe 37 or so. nice chocolate ass....:banderas: she said all she do is chill @ home and shyt. :shaq:

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