Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Tres Leches]

A life filled with random women is too much and a life with the same woman is boring. This is my current conundrum.

That is our eternal battle

 

[young3000]

A life filled with random women is too much and a life with the same woman is boring. This is my current conundrum.

Story of my life. Had to dap

 

[AJtheOne]

i'm more conservative in my judgements meaning i try to assume a chick is not feeling me until the proof is overwhelming.

yeah I'm the same way, but sometimes I just go wit my gut feeling that the chick is feeling me and I'm usually right

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

One thing we as men have to realize is that we've been programmed 'in this matrix' as well. We've had the social programming and conditioning so as to where we no longer really know how to really do what men do. One of the lies we were told is that women want a 50/50 man. Wrong answer. They want a man that is BETTER than them. They want a man they can look up to, and they want this man so bad that they are willing to flock around a few of these top notch men.

Something every one of you have to realize is that you will always get way further in a relationship with a woman if she deems you 'better' than her. Just about everything is contingent on that principle. If a woman likes you and feel you are above her, she will be sweet as sugar. On the other hand, when she feels equal to you or feels like she is overpowering you, she will start to act out and eventually discard you. You having to be better than her is what gives you the right to demand things of her in return. It's not easy being a man who always keeps his emotions under control and doesn't show weakness in front of his woman. That's why you can demand she cook and clean for you.

The minute you start coming weak and buying into 50/50 is the minute you will start having serious problems with women. it will start off cool at first, but she will always start to distance herself from you. Women want a man that they perceive as strong and who they cannot control or manipulate. This is why 'bad boys' get a lot of women. They have the physical strength and most of them don't bend to the mental manipulations of a woman. They aren't afraid to 'take control' either. Their leadership isn't particularly great, but they hit on those points enough to garner the attention of women.

This is why it is important to have strong standards and principles. If you don't have righteous principles you adhere to, you can be bent every direction by various manipulations. A woman can play with your mind all day. Your standards allow you to be bigger than a woman only if you choose not to sacrifice, aka sell your standards out.

gospel, i keep getting gems from you

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

we need to learn how to calibrate the way we observe. Certain chick could be grinding their ass on your crotch and it doesn't mean anything. others could lightly touch your hand and you already know she wants the dikk. this depends on her values, upbringing, temperament, environment you interact with her, etc. so if you want to be able to read the signs more don't just look at her actions but learn to put those actions in the proper perspective. no need to obsess over this shyt but personally i'm more conservative in my judgements meaning i try to assume a chick is not feeling me until the proof is overwhelming.

in a nutshell, just because some chick who was feeling you flipped her hair while looking at you, doesn't mean when every chick flips their hair they are feeling you.

i'm the same, often its hurt me a lot more than its helped me, but you just hope to get better with every future rep. but when the proof is overwhleming

 

[Atlrocafella]

One thing we as men have to realize is that we've been programmed 'in this matrix' as well. We've had the social programming and conditioning so as to where we no longer really know how to really do what men do. One of the lies we were told is that women want a 50/50 man. Wrong answer. They want a man that is BETTER than them. They want a man they can look up to, and they want this man so bad that they are willing to flock around a few of these top notch men.

Something every one of you have to realize is that you will always get way further in a relationship with a woman if she deems you 'better' than her. Just about everything is contingent on that principle. If a woman likes you and feel you are above her, she will be sweet as sugar. On the other hand, when she feels equal to you or feels like she is overpowering you, she will start to act out and eventually discard you. You having to be better than her is what gives you the right to demand things of her in return. It's not easy being a man who always keeps his emotions under control and doesn't show weakness in front of his woman. That's why you can demand she cook and clean for you.

The minute you start coming weak and buying into 50/50 is the minute you will start having serious problems with women. it will start off cool at first, but she will always start to distance herself from you. Women want a man that they perceive as strong and who they cannot control or manipulate. This is why 'bad boys' get a lot of women. They have the physical strength and most of them don't bend to the mental manipulations of a woman. They aren't afraid to 'take control' either. Their leadership isn't particularly great, but they hit on those points enough to garner the attention of women.

This is why it is important to have strong standards and principles. If you don't have righteous principles you adhere to, you can be bent every direction by various manipulations. A woman can play with your mind all day. Your standards allow you to be bigger than a woman only if you choose not to sacrifice, aka sell your standards out.

the continuous learning In this thread

 

[Atlrocafella]

Glad I drastically changed my mindset and put my self worth above anyone else.

I read a great quote the other day:
"If you make someone else's happiness your mission in life, you give them the power to make your life a failure."- Wayne Self..

 

[Atlrocafella]

So what's the stance on females who always want to "link up" but never intiate the activity? If the interest is there, the effort should be equal on both sides, correct?

 

[kevm3]

Nah, as a man you have to initiate most of the times. IF you wait on females to try and initiate, you will be waiting for a very long time. Don't fall into the 50/50 social imperative. "Aren't we supposed to be equal, so why don't women initiate?"

What you do is do what a man does and 'hunt'. Initiate, but just as you aren't allowing yourself to fall into androgynous programming, you have to demand she does what a woman is supposed to do. You aren't a 50/50 man, so you won't let her be a 50/50 woman.

 

[Atlrocafella]

Nah, as a man you have to initiate most of the times. IF you wait on females to try and initiate, you will be waiting for a very long time. Don't fall into the 50/50 social imperative. "Aren't we supposed to be equal, so why don't women initiate?"

What you do is do what a man does and 'hunt'. Initiate, but just as you aren't allowing yourself to fall into androgynous programming, you have to demand she does what a woman is supposed to do. You aren't a 50/50 man, so you won't let her be a 50/50 woman.

But how do you make sure you aren't falling into simp status?

Women won't turn down free shyt, so if he has to intiate the event(dinners,movies, etc,) how can he really tell the chick is interested or just using him for the free shyt?

 

[MikelArteta]

A life filled with random women is too much and a life with the same woman is boring. This is my current conundrum.

bachelor life

 

[kevm3]

But how do you make sure you aren't falling into simp status?

Women won't turn down free shyt, so if he has to intiate the event(dinners,movies, etc,) how can he really tell the chick is interested or just using him for the free shyt?

I originally thought you were talking about whether a man should initiate when first dealing with a woman, like being the first to ask her out. On that case, yeah, i think a man has to go and get at the woman if he wants to make something happen, whether it be dating or whatever.

You're talking about you've been dealing with her for a while and you always have to initiate everything. My view on that is if you aren't feeling it, then don't do it. Find a woman that takes a more proactive role while in the midst of a relationship.

 

[MikelArteta]

Nobody wants to treat somebody else’s whore like a princess. If a store is giving away free milk to every one else, and then tries to charge you full price, would you pay it? Could you walk to your car after purchasing milk, and see all the people who got free milk smirking at you for being a sucker because they got the same enjoyment out of the same milk for free? Simply put, a girl puts a price on her vagina, why outbid it? You wouldn’t pay above sticker price for a new car, would you?

 

[kevm3]

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[CASHAPP]

At the Pathmark job, I got a call at my register telling me to close up at 4:45, so i told the next lady in line she was my last customer while i was still cashing out the other guy. Finished up with him and that same lady actually showed respect and was easy to deal with and actually a pleasant person unlike these miserable sea whales emasculating their husbands and spazzing out on cashiers. anyway when i was almost done with her this woman and her son get on line with 2 sodas, and I tell her "Miss I'm closed" with no attitude or anything....

This broad asks me can't I just check her out with an attitude and how "i only have 2 things...she(the cashier next to me) is closed, your closed,etc", I don't say anything and she stays on line...so then check yourself out or go on a line that is open. the thing annoying is that she saw my light was off...

anyway about 2 minutes go by i see the woman is still there because she must think i was actually gonna butter her up and condone her bad behavior "just to deal with it".... That is what the old Black Reign would have done....repeated "Miss I'm closed" to that woman, and she kissed her teeth and said something to her son and they left both sodas on the conveyor belt and left....

The lady at my register was still talking to me since the beginning just making regular conversation and after she left we both gave each other a look like "this bytch serious?"....she started talking about how she does not know how we put up with customers like those..and said i'm paraphrasing "such a bad influence on her son....acting like that around your son"

^^Yall saw what I just bolded right? The son by the way was alot taller than me but would not be surprised if he was younger than me...whatever his age is what she said is right.

But @kevm3 I just wanted to say it feels good to stand up for yourself as a man. and not be that "nice guy". I probably was the first person in years to keep her in check