Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[m@jestic]

nikkas ignoring my cry for help in my previous post like I'm not out here skressed and making rookie mistakes cuz I been waiting so long to hook up with this broad

@twan83 gave you all the gems you need for now breh,

If the situation escalates then post what the deal is.

 

[Fellatio]

 

[EA]

all contributors ITT. Y'all opened up my eyes.

My girl (well, ex now I suppose) has been trying to contact me saying that even though she doesn't want to be with me, she still wants be a part of my life whether I like it or not. Saying things like "I'm important to her" and that she's always thinking about me. Honestly, I've been giving her the cold shoulder but I couldn't avoid speaking to her earlier on this week. She asked me to tell her all the things she did wrong so "she can improve" . I kept it light and told her that she's incapable of letting me disagree with her and feels that she always needs explain things until you agree with her and does she do? Try to explain herself

I was getting annoyed so I had to wrap up the phonecall.

I'm not looking forward to the Christmas holidays because I'm home alone for 3 weeks and I know she's gonna try to reach out to me like I'm some loner in need of affection.

 

[m@jestic]

all contributors ITT. Y'all opened up my eyes.

My girl (well, ex now I suppose) has been trying to contact me saying that even though she doesn't want to be with me, she still wants be a part of my life whether I like it or not. Saying things like "I'm important to her" and that she's always thinking about me. Honestly, I've been giving her the cold shoulder but I couldn't avoid speaking to her earlier on this week. She asked me to tell her all the things she did wrong so "she can improve" . I kept it light and told her that she's incapable of letting me disagree with her and feels that she always needs explain things until you agree with her and does she do? Try to explain herself

I was getting annoyed so I had to wrap up the phonecall.

I'm not looking forward to the Christmas holidays because I'm home alone for 3 weeks and I know she's gonna try to reach out to me like I'm some loner in need of affection.

Stay strong breh and keep it moving.

The amount of single ladies looking for some holiday love is high, you've got a big market to hit.

Breakups have to be looked at as a new beginning and a chance to improve yourself.

Keep busy over the holiday period man, Hit the gym when it's open if your into that, go for walks, Hit up coffee shops read and better yourself.

If all else fails you got your Coli fam to rely on for support.

 

[EA]

Stay strong breh and keep it moving.

The amount of single ladies looking for some holiday love is high, you've got a big market to hit.

Breakups have to be looked at as a new beginning and a chance to improve yourself.

Keep busy over the holiday period man, Hit the gym when it's open if your into that, go for walks, Hit up coffee shops read and better yourself.

If all else fails you got your Coli fam to rely on for support.

I've been in the gym 5 times a week for a month now and I feel great and I don't even feel bad about the breakup because it was imminent. I already spoke on it in here before but from the time she said that if I wouldn't give her a baby, she would find someone else who would, I knew it was curtains.

I cheekily messaged a girl I used to mess around with for a confidence boost and it worked. I know it probably won't lead to any action but it was cool to talk to girl that doesn't bytch and moan all the time.

 

[Virtuous_Brotha]

so annoying when chicks make such little effort to keep the convo going i find it arrogant as fuk how chicks can reply back with texts as short as three words and still expect us to entertain them and turn around and make it seem like were the boring ones if we dont.
Always the most attractive ones that do this, shyt is to much work for me brehs
i want to be on her mind but ive run out of shyt to say

 

[Rich Spirit]

so annoying when chicks make such little effort to keep the convo going i find it arrogant as fuk how chicks can reply back with texts as short as three words and still expect us to entertain them and turn around and make it seem like were the boring ones if we dont.
Always the most attractive ones that do this, shyt is to much work for me brehs
i want to be on her mind but ive run out of shyt to say

face 2 face conversations > texting

some women just don't like texting period, so you can't really get mad at that. Now if she's giving you short lil replies in during face to face conversations, then yea that's a big problem there.

 

[Virtuous_Brotha]

face 2 face conversations > texting

some women just don't like texting period, so you can't really get mad at that. Now if she's giving you short lil replies in during face to face conversations, then yea that's a big problem there.

Most love texting in fact thats the problem these days they just want to whatsapp or kik you to death without taking it the step further.
we have had some great convos via text but its mainly me making them flow.she said she will let me know when she free but that was two weeks ago now lol but i dont wanna keep asking or it will come off like i have no other options. so i got no choice but to text or throw some real potential in the bushes running out of things to say though

 

[Turbulent]

i've made chess analogies before but you really gotta play it like chess.

what i've learned about chess in the last few years is to keep your eyes open for the potential checkmate but don't chase after the checkmate. you can never predict what the other side will do so there really is no point in pushing too hard on a SPECIFIC checkmate. doing that you will lose the game everytime the otherside doesn't do exactly what you planned. keep your game fluid, it's cliché but it's what bruce lee said about water and all that. give the other side options and let it choose. once you stop chasing the checkmate you'll start to realize the checkmate will draw itself. all you need to do is train your eye to recognize the opportunity and seize it. doesn't matter if it doesn't work cause you're still setting up the game to increase the odds of an eventual checkmate in your favor.

 

[MikelArteta]

all contributors ITT. Y'all opened up my eyes.

My girl (well, ex now I suppose) has been trying to contact me saying that even though she doesn't want to be with me, she still wants be a part of my life whether I like it or not. Saying things like "I'm important to her" and that she's always thinking about me. Honestly, I've been giving her the cold shoulder but I couldn't avoid speaking to her earlier on this week. She asked me to tell her all the things she did wrong so "she can improve" . I kept it light and told her that she's incapable of letting me disagree with her and feels that she always needs explain things until you agree with her and does she do? Try to explain herself

I was getting annoyed so I had to wrap up the phonecall.

I'm not looking forward to the Christmas holidays because I'm home alone for 3 weeks and I know she's gonna try to reach out to me like I'm some loner in need of affection.

its because you are a good decent guy, she wants to mess with other guys but keep you around aka getting her cake and also having a nice guy incase she needs you around.

once a relationship is over you have nothing to keep you talking to her.

women love to do that

 

[MikelArteta]

STOP.....SAVING.....THESE....HOES....MAN!

http://www.dailystar.co.uk/just-jane/353216/Devastated-by-user-girlfriend

Spoiler

I RESCUED my girlfriend when she was in the gutter.

She'd been thrown out by her cruel ex and had nothing to her name.

I put a roof over her head and gave her a car, cash and free holidays.

Now she's announced she's marrying someone else.

Apparently she's met a bloke on the internet and it's true love. They're planning a Caribbean wedding with all the trimmings.

I'm devastated. I thought we had an understanding and that she was going to spend the rest of her life with me.

She's still living in my house, although we're no longer having sex. The other night I sat her down and begged her to stop being so heartless and cruel.

I explained that I need her by my side, that she's my soulmate, and I want us to try again. She all but laughed in my face.

She accused me of being deluded and getting the wrong end of the stick. She said that she was very grateful to me for saving her when she was down, but it was never her plan to be my long-term partner.

Then she delivered the killer blow when she demanded to know what made a bloke like me think that I could be with a woman like her.

Now I'm in pieces. Clearly I got it all wrong. I'm the first to admit that I'm not good looking or fit, but I'm generous and I've got a good heart.

When we first met, we used to have wonderful sex. I thought we had something special. She was really experimental and was happy to try anything risque.

It breaks my heart to think that she might have been using me all along. She wouldn't do that, would she?

This is worse than the previous one I posted.

this cant be real

 

[Ohene]

i've spent too much time away from this thread; been feeling myself too much lately lol

 

[twan83]

u want a guy too treat u right but then u shyt on the guy who treats u right and go too the guy who is an a$$hole and get heartbroken and then proceed too go back too the guy who treated u right but that guy became a a$$hole because you treated him like shyt and u get heartbroken again and then say there aint no good men when in return u started a new cycle of a$$hole men cuz u shytted on the good guy cuz he treated u right and now he is an a$$hole due too heartbreak

let that sink in your mind for a min when u say aint not good guys out there

 

[twan83]

no matter what u do or say too urself u will never be completely prepared for that heartbreak when she drop the news she is leaving you or cheating on you

u can have all the walls u want protecting your heart and be ice cold and not give a fukk in the world but once she drop that news on you it will break ur heart into pieces no matter what u say as long as those feelings were strong for her

the preparation helps but not as much as u would of thought or liked too

how do u move past it

u dont u accept it u let it hurt as much as possible first let it all out and after the crying and hurting u take the steps too move forward with your life and learn from ur mistakes and u be surprised that u didnt see the signs coming when it happened too

u dont need another woman too heal ur heart cuz she can't only u can with time and happiness from yourself by bettering yourself in the process

u will eventually date again but remember that nothing u can do prevent from heartbreak but be wiser with it

we men hurt more when it happens imo cuz were the one's that take longer too heal and some never really recover from it and stay scarred from it

this isn't some advice I'm giving u I'm just telling u that there is no true prevention from heartbreak no matter how hard of an a$$hole u may be. but dont let that possible heartbreak not let u live ur life is all I'm saying

 

[Oye]

Going out with her isn't going to kill you. You're planning all these awkward situations when you don't even know if you can enjoy a 1-on-1 conversation with her yet.

Just do it.

Going out with her could end a good friendship I have with her exs brothers. I know she and I can hold convos because we have in the past. She's not an unknown for me we met 5 years ago and I have been around her enough to know she's a good person. She's pretty much a sure thing knowing what I know of her and how we get a long.


I'll give her a few months even though she's going to be at my nephews birthday party this weekend.