Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The Frozen One]

let it out breh it out
yes heartbreak sucks, i was once engaged , and ha dmy heart ripped out, stomped on, set on fire, thrown on cliff, i know how it is.

and ah the ol, new attention, chicks forget who were there for them in their dark days now that they are shining bright, and again playing the victim role but i have baggage no one will want me


the best thing you can do now is NOTHING, i've been where you have been, you'll prob feel like sending a text tom or something, but DONT DO IT, trust me knowing women she will crack whether its a week or 2 or a month, the second you contact her first she will know she still has you

no man, i let it out to her, i poured my heart out .. i acted like a straight up simp .. pleading and begging for another chance. i told her i would do anything to get her back, even meeting her kid and be part of both their lives. She denied me. She kept saying i'll think about it and shoot me a text asking how i'm doing then the conversation would turn it well have you made a decision, oh no not yet, i'm still not sure.. then we would argue cause i would simp her... this went on every couple of days for the last 3 weeks. She's like i need to make sure you won't bail on me again and won't disrespect me. She would tell me, oh me and the guy at work are getting closer but only friends, he's not interested in me and i'm not interested in him. but she's out there getting rides from him and talking about personal conversation. I was like .. this is the same girl who told me that she doesn't believe in guys and girls being friends. She would laugh at me cause i told her i got friends that are girls.. and i would still like to hang out with them and she would give me the look.

she's finally like look ok you can meet the kid but i'm still not sure. i want to know how you gonna act and not run away. i told her there's no way i'm meeting the kid with no intentions of just being friends with you. why the fukk would i wanna do that? basically it was just back and forth arguing, and i'm in the middle of finals. I can't sleep. I keep thinking about her. So i told her fukk this shyt. i'm done ... she can go fukk the guy and live happily ever after, but i'm not sticking around to find out. Then she's like oh you still wanna meet the kid?

 

[The Mad Titan]

no man, i let it out to her, i poured my heart out .. i acted like a straight up simp .. pleading and begging for another chance. i told her i would do anything to get her back, even meeting her kid and be part of both their lives. She denied me. She kept saying i'll think about it and shoot me a text asking how i'm doing then the conversation would turn it well have you made a decision, oh no not yet, i'm still not sure.. then we would argue cause i would simp her... this went on every couple of days for the last 3 weeks. She's like i need to make sure you won't bail on me again and won't disrespect me. She would tell me, oh me and the guy at work are getting closer but only friends, he's not interested in me and i'm not interested in him. but she's out there getting rides from him and talking about personal conversation. I was like .. this is the same girl who told me that she doesn't believe in guys and girls being friends. She would laugh at me cause i told her i got friends that are girls.. and i would still like to hang out with them and she would give me the look.

she's finally like look ok you can meet the kid but i'm still not sure. i want to know how you gonna act and not run away. i told her there's no way i'm meeting the kid with no intentions of just being friends with you. why the fukk would i wanna do that? basically it was just back and forth arguing, and i'm in the middle of finals. I can't sleep. I keep thinking about her. So i told her fukk this shyt. i'm done ... she can go fukk the guy and live happily ever after, but i'm not sticking around to find out. Then she's like oh you still wanna meet the kid?

Parts of that sound all to familiar.

 

[The Frozen One]

Parts of that sound all to familiar.

did she tell you she still loved you and kept thinking about you .

fukking bytch was sending mad contradicting signals.. like if i ignored her for a few days she would crawl back .. but i wasn't gonna do the friends thing. She wanted to keep tabs on me. She pleaded and begged not to block her on fb and ig.. talking about how you gonna erase someone like they don't exist. I said simple. Once i don't have to think about you, you're erased and completely gone.

But right now i'm talking to this chick from my work. She seems interested. I told her i wanna take her out and she agreed but she was like isn't your gf gonna get mad? i said what gf. lol... i told my ex that i already got someone lined up, this got her attention real quick. But whatever.. i'm moving on. fukk this bullshyt ..

 

[The Mad Titan]

did she tell you she still loved you and kept thinking about you .

fukking bytch was sending mad contradicting signals.. like if i ignored her for a few days she would crawl back .. but i wasn't gonna do the friends thing. She wanted to keep tabs on me. She pleaded and begged not to block her on fb and ig.. talking about how you gonna erase someone like they don't exist. I said simple. Once i don't have to think about you, you're erased and completely gone.

But right now i'm talking to this chick from my work. She seems interested. I told her i wanna take her out and she agreed but she was like isn't your gf gonna get mad? i said what gf. lol... i told my ex that i already got someone lined up, this got her attention real quick. But whatever.. i'm moving on. fukk this bullshyt ..

Say man, when I tell you she would tell me she loves me, turn around and end a call and talk to who I know is her current boyfriend and then not speak to me until drama started with them again... and go into some of that "I don't know whats wrong with me" " thank you for always being here for me" "you the only guy in the world that treats me so well" " I love you so much you don't even understand" " You one of a kind" " I wish we could be together" it would go on and on.... then her and her boyfriend who is a jobless loser that talks to her bad bad makes up and it's radio silence.


So I tried to treat her like a friend... I was actually cool with it, I fooled around and told her that there was some bad chick in line front of me that kept turning around making sex faces and she flipped out. " I don't want to hear that!" blah blah... I'm like I thought we was just gonna be friends....


But yeah at 1st a few ignore calls or text and she would blow me up, it fades though. Pretty much the 1st person to hook up with someone else stops with the back and forth BS....


Granted I know I was a simp... but like I said, earlier. She is the only chick i have loved unconditionally and hard... engaged and all. So yeah I spent the better half of 10 months back and forth playing games. She still keeps in contact and it messes with my head now, but the simping is done and done.


I waited way to long to dead it though.

 

[The Frozen One]

Say man, when I tell you she would tell me she loves me, turn around and end a call and talk to who I know is her current boyfriend and then not speak to me until drama started with them again... and go into some of that "I don't know whats wrong with me" " thank you for always being here for me" "you the only guy in the world that treats me so well" " I love you so much you don't even understand" " You one of a kind" " I wish we could be together" it would go on and on.... then her and her boyfriend who is a jobless loser that talks to her bad bad makes up and it's radio silence.


So I tried to treat her like a friend... I was actually cool with it, I fooled around and told her that there was some bad chick in line front of me that kept turning around making sex faces and she flipped out. " I don't want to hear that!" blah blah... I'm like I thought we was just gonna be friends....


But yeah at 1st a few ignore calls or text and she would blow me up, it fades though. Pretty much the 1st person to hook up with someone else stops with the back and forth BS....


Granted I know I was a simp... but like I said, earlier. She is the only chick i have loved unconditionally and hard... engaged and all. So yeah I spent the better half of 10 months back and forth playing games. She still keeps in contact and it messes with my head now, but the simping is done and done.


I waited way to long to dead it though.

that's rough breh.

no man should go through that period. Ya we can simp but at some point we gotta keep our dignity. But you know what though, my future is a lot bright. I'm about to graduate. I'm hoping to get a career job by summer. I'm gonna hit the gym as soon as my finals are over and i'm ready to completely go on a cleansing diet and transform myself. i shouldn't need other people to make me happy. I'm the only person that will make me happy.

Her on the other hand is struggling with a shyt job, gets paid min. wage and has no education past high school. I tried to get her to go back to school but she wouldn't do it. Then she tells me oh the guy at work tells me how come i don't go back to school to make something of myself. I was like that's something you decided on your own even when i pushed you to go back to school. I would have been the one stuck with paying her debts and shyt.

So i should be happy i'm out of this relationship. I shouldn't have to deal with someone with baggage with little future. I would have had to break my back just to support her.

 

[360dagod]

no man, i let it out to her, i poured my heart out .. i acted like a straight up simp .. pleading and begging for another chance. i told her i would do anything to get her back, even meeting her kid and be part of both their lives. She denied me. She kept saying i'll think about it and shoot me a text asking how i'm doing then the conversation would turn it well have you made a decision, oh no not yet, i'm still not sure.. then we would argue cause i would simp her... this went on every couple of days for the last 3 weeks. She's like i need to make sure you won't bail on me again and won't disrespect me. She would tell me, oh me and the guy at work are getting closer but only friends, he's not interested in me and i'm not interested in him. but she's out there getting rides from him and talking about personal conversation. I was like .. this is the same girl who told me that she doesn't believe in guys and girls being friends. She would laugh at me cause i told her i got friends that are girls.. and i would still like to hang out with them and she would give me the look.

she's finally like look ok you can meet the kid but i'm still not sure. i want to know how you gonna act and not run away. i told her there's no way i'm meeting the kid with no intentions of just being friends with you. why the fukk would i wanna do that? basically it was just back and forth arguing, and i'm in the middle of finals. I can't sleep. I keep thinking about her. So i told her fukk this shyt. i'm done ... she can go fukk the guy and live happily ever after, but i'm not sticking around to find out. Then she's like oh you still wanna meet the kid?

.............The L you could have taken would have been heartbreaking

 

[360dagod]

Take her back and be a dad to the Baster. Is she is a good woman and love you for who you are she is a keeper.

 

[MikelArteta]

I don't think its dumping you do those things because you love her.

The things I did for my love not because of sex, not expecting anything in return I just wanted the best for them and sacrificed in return .

 

[kevm3]

Man never go about paying for a woman's schooling, hair and nails and all of that. It always ends up bad from what I see. One negro investing in her education, while she is giving knowledge to another. Taking a woman who has been loyal to you out to dinner or getting her something is one thing, but paying off her big debts is a no no.

 

[MikelArteta]

I've said this before you can rescue a man from a burning building and he will be indebted for you for life, a woman nope.

A man can be cheated on in ten straight relationships finally find a faithful woman and I guarantee he won't mess it up

A woman will think yawn this is boring whyisnt he cheating can't he find someone, I'm scared I've never had a guy treat me this well and she will think even though she's never had one guy treat her well she finally found a guy who treats her well that suddenly guys like that are easy to come by.

I've dated a girl who was absed, used for sex, beaten so bad she had to go to a woman's shelter and Herr I was the decent dependable guy who treated her with respect she cheated on me with her abusive ex bf . Got knocked up by a grocery clerk and now has twins living in her moms basement.

I didn't understand it I treated her great, even her mom was crying one day how she's so happy her daughter found someone good.

And that's one thing as a man that bothers you, you would give a kidney for this girl, would treat her like your queen, always faithful, accept her for who she is as a person but she is so dumb she doesn't see it and some dude who treats her like a piece of meat just using her for sex, calling her names, doesn't give a San about her she's treating him with more respect than she ever did you.

You know your better than him, everyone knows your better than him but because you don't give her "tingles" or "sparks" she doesn't Carr.

And as a man its frustrating to say the least.

Like the second girl I ever loved, I'd do anything for her I loved her more than any woman ever in my life. But now she's just getting pumped and dumped, depressed , clubbing and drinking all the time and random men in and out of her life, but so be it they think they can do better you just have to get to the point of realizing maybe its for the best, you want someone to be with you through the thick and thin the good times and bad who will respect you and be grateful you are in their life.

that's rough breh.

no man should go through that period. Ya we can simp but at some point we gotta keep our dignity. But you know what though, my future is a lot bright. I'm about to graduate. I'm hoping to get a career job by summer. I'm gonna hit the gym as soon as my finals are over and i'm ready to completely go on a cleansing diet and transform myself. i shouldn't need other people to make me happy. I'm the only person that will make me happy.

Her on the other hand is struggling with a shyt job, gets paid min. wage and has no education past high school. I tried to get her to go back to school but she wouldn't do it. Then she tells me oh the guy at work tells me how come i don't go back to school to make something of myself. I was like that's something you decided on your own even when i pushed you to go back to school. I would have been the one stuck with paying her debts and shyt.

So i should be happy i'm out of this relationship. I shouldn't have to deal with someone with baggage with little future. I would have had to break my back just to support her.

 

[Mr210]

Man never go about paying for a woman's schooling, hair and nails and all of that. It always ends up bad from what I see. One negro investing in her education, while she is giving knowledge to another. Taking a woman who has been loyal to you out to dinner or getting her something is one thing, but paying off her big debts is a no no.

I have never paid for a chicks, education, nails or hair and only did bills twice (they were cellphone bills and I had been with the chick for almost 2 yrs by that point)

 

[CASHAPP]

When you work out, don't try to rush the results. Just learn to love the process of lifting weights and being in the gym and the results will come on their own time. Consistency is the key when it comes to working out.

thanks man.

its okay to use motivation as a fuel but i don't wanna make myself looking like some angry behemoth and try to force results to happen right away..

Don't worry if your job is small, / And your rewards are few. / Remember that the mighty oak, / Was once a nut like you.

 

[kevm3]

https://www.facebook.com/NojmaReflects

This is one of the few women who actually gets it:

Nojma Reflects

For those that have an issue with submission... you do realize that when you lie down with a man you're submitting to him right? It appears that we love "lying down" in submission, but we rise in rebellion. Maybe you(we)should think about the "various leaderships" we've been UNDER.

I am learning that some of us as women say we want a man but what we really want is a CHILD. We want a man that will do what WE tell him, to do, when WE tell him to do it, how WE tell him to do it. what to eat, how to dress....then complain about this grown a** man that ACTS like a little boy.

Well what the HELL did you expect? The only male that I have control of is my SON, and even I know that is for a limited time. I don't know why we have it twisted. Women don't DOMINATE men. I Tim. 2:11-12, “She shall have no dominion over a man.“

Its the same for Women that boast of having their man "trained"....you train a DOG, not a Man.

So the next time you complain about that doggish, trifling, immature, no good negro in your house...see if YOU were his Woman....His TRAINER....or doubling as his MAMA!

 

[CASHAPP]

https://www.facebook.com/NojmaReflects

This is one of the few women who actually gets it:

i know you dont usually bring up race but thank god this is a Black woman saying this for once...

we don't realize how much the actions are destroying our community

scared to "view more comments" under her postings because of the predictable criticisms..

 

[sixsixtwo]

http://thoughtcatalog.com/natalie-platt/2012/10/an-open-letter-to-nice-guys/